Can someone advise me or analyse this?

• laosu

  21 Dec 05, 03:09

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• FeowFeow

  21 Dec 05, 12:22

  
  
  I agree!!!
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  Originally posted by laosu:

  I read your post until my eyes crossed!!
  You already know your problem so what's the problem now?
  Don't keep looking at the problems and start thinking of the solution and don't think too long.
  
  Honestly, if I'm your gf, I would have left you long ago. One moment you ask her to treat your guy friend better just because he's your best friend and another moment you get jealous over it cause they become closer.

• ChengYong

  21 Dec 05, 16:38

  Originally posted by laosu:

  I read your post until my eyes crossed!!
  You already know your problem so what's the problem now?
  Don't keep looking at the problems and start thinking of the solution and don't think too long.
  
  Honestly, if I'm your gf, I would have left you long ago. One moment you ask her to treat your guy friend better just because he's your best friend and another moment you get jealous over it cause they become closer.

  oops. my typo error. to put it simpler the wad i mean is my gf used to tell him all our happenings and i felt weird so i told her not to. as he knows all our happenings and questions me too. and act as if he din know anything. but the guy was eager to know all bout us. hahas i din tell her to treat him better. jus told her i was angry when she told him things and she changed. but the guy did things that made me jealous. dat's the story. hahas
• cynic

  23 Dec 05, 00:31

  Your boyfriend has his reason to feel jealous and he feels like you are still "looking for options" while you already "having" him.
  
  What would you feel if your boy friend always go out with a girl, who you don't know or who has ex-relationship with him.
  
  Also, it may be true that you are faithful to him and you know what you are doing when go out with other guys, but, how do you know the guys that you going out with have no intention on you at all? This is a very big question mark.
  
  Put in this way, if a guy already has a girl friend, would this guy goes out with you alone? NO, right? This guy should have already enjoyed the companion of his own girl friend, so this guy will not bother so much to go out with you, right? Hence, it's Simple, that guy have an intention to "date" or "see if still got chance to court" you, though the guy knows you already got a boy friend.
  
  So, to be fair to your boy friend, stop going out alone with a another guy. If still want to go, go together with your boyfriend. If you "know what you are doing", you shouldn't afraid of letting your boy friend joining you and your guy friend.
  
  Feel very weird as your boy friend doesn't know that guy well??? In my opinion, as a girlfriend, you have the responsibility to introduce your friends (whether guys or girls) to your boy friend. If not, how are you going to spend the rest of your life with your boy friend. The same theory applies to your boy friend as well.
• laosu

  24 Dec 05, 05:33

  Originally posted by FeowFeow:

  
  
  I agree!!!
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  Hehe...think next time we should tell people to turn left when it really meant to turn right!!
• piggiemouse

  27 Dec 05, 16:12

  Thanks everyone for ur advise really appreciate them.
• changb57

  27 Dec 05, 16:33

  Originally posted by piggiemouse:

  hi all,
  
  I have some bfs last time and they always give me the freedom to go out with who i want even alone with other guys. But now my current bf, he allows but he really shows that he hate it and becomes sad. I have talked to him about it and even alone with guy friends really friends only that kind he also do not quite like. He says why go out with them alone when i have him. He say that its like i want to know them better but i have him already. I know that he loves me alot and wants to protect me. I would have long broke up with him if it were the last time me. But now i understand his intentions thus i'm trying to change for him. Dun know is this the right thing cos i have changed super alot for him. We are doing on well but its always this thing that makes us unhappy. Its because of my past and character that he's so afriad to lose me i think. But i dono sometimes i really think he is too possessive yet i know he just cares abt me.
  
  Any advise?

  Hi piggie,
  
  I do have the similar situation before, but now no more...not that i have break off with him but cos he scare of me ....hahaha...
  
  since he want you to go out with him only right, then be a super glue until he scare.....whenever i am free, he is not, i will call and disturb him ..until he said ok go and have your own activities...and it takes me about few months to make him understand that i cant always wait for him to be free then go out with me, and i want very much to have my own activities too...
  
  anyway, it is not good just to change yourself for him...cos you have your own freedom also right?? don you want it??
  
  btw, he is also very possessive....haha...now not so bad anymore