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wah..pple sad here..u still rub salt sae no one will reply..Originally posted by jeramy:no one replies coz so hard to read too many words cramp together..
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dear thread-starter,
personally i dun feel it's R's fault..
think abt it..
u urself dun like R..but would u say bad things abt R to L behind her back?
even if R is acting like a biatch and does say those senseless,immature comments in front of L..
doesn't L have the intelligence to think for herself as to wad's right and wrong?
she can differentiate,can't she?
more feasibly and likely..it could be due to the problems between u and her..think of wad had transpired..
why not give urself and her some time to think over the relationship?
have faith in urself my fren..
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juz some friendly advice mah...Originally posted by yuko-ogura:wah..pple sad here..u still rub salt sae no one will reply.. -
Sorry bro the whole thing hit you so hard.Originally posted by leon_lai89:Dear Aunt Agony. I met L two years ago. We went into a relationship after that. We were such sweet back then. 3 mths ago, I started my major exam. L got a new best friend, R. I dont like R. She's a xia lan kao bei type of person. To deal with this kind of person. I have to be rude or else will step over you. I dont treat everyone rude. R hated me for that. During my exams, L spent more time wif R than me. We promised each other to put exams ahead of our relationship. Recently, she wanted a break up, she said she dont love me anymore. she wanted to be alone. i felt devastated. its not like her. she changed into a different person when she knew R. i dont know if R is talking behind me. R is single n likes being single. Now, L doesnt even sms me. I want her back, chase her back but i cant when the situatuation is like this. its hard. R now like flaming me. she claims that im disgusting that i visited her blog to know more about L. I admit i did. cause she didnt sms now. because i still love her i cared. why such big change in her? even im not perfect even i cant provide her much i know she's not a demanding person which is one of the reason i fell in love with her, even if im not good but i treated her like a princess. she's hot headed but i din care, she's rude sometimes but i din care. they say when u love someone u can only see how good she is. i'd never felt so heart broken in my life. not when my favourite grandfather passed away. not even anything. i can really feel my heart breaking. break le also break le, now she got her freedom. then i say nvm. im a man. i want to chase her back. now doesnt want to talk to me. as if i find another girl lidat or did smth bad. i loved her more than anything else even my family. she said what has happened in the past cant happen again. another blow to my heart. u all can say its puppy love but its like something special. a girl i chose out of a thousand million girls you've met. i really have no mood to do anything. and confused. hopes for the coming year dashed by this. its like somebody close to you passed away. i dont know what to do but to cry all day. men do cry. what to do? haiz. i just want her.
t.y. for reading my long post. just need someone to lend a ear cause i heart just ached again and again
BUT wake your idea lar learn that world is not so easy place to live in.
So what you treat her well? you think that she must be there always be with you, dream on lar bro, smell the air, you do not like R but you must not show it ma. Show it liao kena backstab by R for what?
You know what? the only silly mistake you ever make was making an enemy with R.
Learn this lesson well
NEVER EVER INSULT your gf friends as they are the ones who will bad stab you when they were not happy with you.
Your case is a very good example to all of us. Remember it well even if you hate your gf friends never ever show it. Cos in time you will be the one who will be suffering a heart pain becos your gf chose to trust her friends and breakup with you. -
not too sure about disgusting but u sure need to learn abt paragraphing... all i can say is forget about it... there many gals out there, and since u failed with your best attempt with letting her bcm 'princess', better move on and go for a gal who will treasure u more... cheers...Originally posted by leon_lai89:Dear Aunt Agony. I met L two years ago. We went into a relationship after that. We were such sweet back then. 3 mths ago, I started my major exam. L got a new best friend, R. I dont like R. She's a xia lan kao bei type of person. To deal with this kind of person. I have to be rude or else will step over you. I dont treat everyone rude. R hated me for that. During my exams, L spent more time wif R than me. We promised each other to put exams ahead of our relationship. Recently, she wanted a break up, she said she dont love me anymore. she wanted to be alone. i felt devastated. its not like her. she changed into a different person when she knew R. i dont know if R is talking behind me. R is single n likes being single. Now, L doesnt even sms me. I want her back, chase her back but i cant when the situatuation is like this. its hard. R now like flaming me. she claims that im disgusting that i visited her blog to know more about L. I admit i did. cause she didnt sms now. because i still love her i cared. why such big change in her? even im not perfect even i cant provide her much i know she's not a demanding person which is one of the reason i fell in love with her, even if im not good but i treated her like a princess. she's hot headed but i din care, she's rude sometimes but i din care. they say when u love someone u can only see how good she is. i'd never felt so heart broken in my life. not when my favourite grandfather passed away. not even anything. i can really feel my heart breaking. break le also break le, now she got her freedom. then i say nvm. im a man. i want to chase her back. now doesnt want to talk to me. as if i find another girl lidat or did smth bad. i loved her more than anything else even my family. she said what has happened in the past cant happen again. another blow to my heart. u all can say its puppy love but its like something special. a girl i chose out of a thousand million girls you've met. i really have no mood to do anything. and confused. hopes for the coming year dashed by this. its like somebody close to you passed away. i dont know what to do but to cry all day. men do cry. what to do? haiz. i just want her.
t.y. for reading my long post. just need someone to lend a ear cause i heart just ached again and again -
one dread thing bout r/s, if your crush's best friends dun like u, chance for both of u to be together is very slim. so the best thing is u must get her friends' good book too.
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U need a good book to read.
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then the fellow will have headachesOriginally posted by alexkusu:U need a good book to read. -
You have to learn how to controll some of your emotions.
You must understand, you must never cross your girlfriend's friends or, worse, good friends. If you've watched the show Hitch, you would know. A woman's best friend decides her wedding. If you want to savage the relationship,
First you must throw away whatever pride you have, and apologise to R. Try to get her on friendly terms. Then you can slowly turn back the tide.
Warning: As long as you're with L, you have to be friendly to R, unless she's no longer her good friend. That means you have to put on a mask and it can be physically and mentally stressful. -
Headaches can be cured. Helps him takes his mind of heart mattersOriginally posted by mistyblue:then the fellow will have headaches -
time will heal... what he is most pained about is not knowing why he was thrown aside and his feelings trampled .. he has no closure.
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leon_lai89, i feel for you. The comittement and trust between you and L is breached just like that. On what basis did you guys started off? 2 years of being together shouldn't just fall itself apart to the bad mouth of a 'new' friend.
Given the scenerio now,even if you were to have her back, things will NEVER be the same again. The silent moments you guys share will never be the same again. I'd say let her go. Be strong buddy. She has lost her opportunity, its her lost. Tell yourself, the BEST is yet to come. Whatever happens, it always does for the better.
There'll be a phrase of breakups you feel you'll never get over from, take this period of time to love yourself better, for where others have failed you, you will never fail yourself. Save your efforts for the one that is to come, not one that is of the past.
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dear guys, thank you for ur kind advices and replies. you all said i must get well with R. but L kept insisting our relationship is not decided by R and its her decision. but i always feel she's sort of influenced. R is so terrible that she has only 2 friends around her, L and somebody else. L and R quarrel a lot of times too. Haiz.
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read this book.
"when your lover leaves you" by Richard G. Whiteside. -
I didn't say anything about getting well with either of em. Going thru my post, i actually encourage you to leave em. Do not waste even one more minute of your life to even try to savage this situation. Its over, the best is yet to come, thus move on big boy.Originally posted by leon_lai89:dear guys, thank you for ur kind advices and replies. you all said i must get well with R. but L kept insisting our relationship is not decided by R and its her decision. but i always feel she's sort of influenced. R is so terrible that she has only 2 friends around her, L and somebody else. L and R quarrel a lot of times too. Haiz. -
hahahaOriginally posted by jeramy:no one replies coz so hard to read too many words cramp together..
try using line breaks -
very hard to see.. use paragraphing can?
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But it really is very difficult to read leh
FeowFeowOriginally posted by yuko-ogura:wah..pple sad here..u still rub salt sae no one will reply.. -
Originally posted by leon_lai89:Dear Aunt Agony. I met L two years ago. We went into a relationship after that. We were such sweet back then. 3 mths ago, I started my major exam. L got a new best friend, R. I dont like R. She's a xia lan kao bei type of person. To deal with this kind of person. I have to be rude or else will step over you. I dont treat everyone rude. R hated me for that. During my exams, L spent more time wif R than me. We promised each other to put exams ahead of our relationship. Recently, she wanted a break up, she said she dont love me anymore. she wanted to be alone. i felt devastated. its not like her. she changed into a different person when she knew R. i dont know if R is talking behind me. R is single n likes being single. Now, L doesnt even sms me. I want her back, chase her back but i cant when the situatuation is like this. its hard. R now like flaming me. she claims that im disgusting that i visited her blog to know more about L. I admit i did. cause she didnt sms now. because i still love her i cared. why such big change in her? even im not perfect even i cant provide her much i know she's not a demanding person which is one of the reason i fell in love with her, even if im not good but i treated her like a princess. she's hot headed but i din care, she's rude sometimes but i din care. they say when u love someone u can only see how good she is. i'd never felt so heart broken in my life. not when my favourite grandfather passed away. not even anything. i can really feel my heart breaking. break le also break le, now she got her freedom. then i say nvm. im a man. i want to chase her back. now doesnt want to talk to me. as if i find another girl lidat or did smth bad. i loved her more than anything else even my family. she said what has happened in the past cant happen again. another blow to my heart. u all can say its puppy love but its like something special. a girl i chose out of a thousand million girls you've met. i really have no mood to do anything. and confused. hopes for the coming year dashed by this. its like somebody close to you passed away. i dont know what to do but to cry all day. men do cry. what to do? haiz. i just want her.
t.y. for reading my long post. just need someone to lend a ear cause i heart just ached again and again ....
If you can let her friend influence her decision on the relationship, it's probably not strong enough... So what say you? -
I dun mean to be harsh on u.(But i really am harsh)
i believe tat most of us tat has reply to u has somewat rather similar experiences,well tat's part n parcel of growing up.tho it's one hell to go through.
i dun really agree to the point where some guys asking u to apologise to R or being nice to ur future gf friends.
i been tho a 4 yrs relationship breakup n trust me,get off ur gf's back for now.
girls never did like a WUSS,next time when u fall for someone,dun me a wuss no more man
quote taken from a magazine:
Most guys can't get over their need for instant
gratification.
The reality is that men and women have some key
differences when it comes to how they experience
ATTRACTION.
Men have an "On/Off" switch, and women have a
"Volume Knob".
Men want gratification NOW, and can't grasp the
concept that women have a more complex internal
"Attraction Mechanism" that needs to be turned up
gradually... and in specific ways.
You have internalized and "gotten" the idea
that teasing, leaning back, and not taking
advantage of offers from women lead to them
wanting you MORE... not less.
2) Most guys don't know how to spark ATTRACTION or
recognize sexual tension or "chemistry"... thus
the friend's comments of "she's not into you" and
him telling the girl that "he'd be nicer",
thinking she'd somehow like him for that.
The reality is that for most men, the concept
of ATTRACTION is a complete mystery.
They don't understand chemistry or sexual
tension, and they wouldn't recognize it in a
million years.
Further, whenever most guys feel ANY kind of
"tension" in a situation with a woman, they do
whatever they can to RELEASE the tension...
I always love it when I'm playing with a girl
and teasing her, and some guy says, "Oh, he
doesn't mean it". I always say, "Yeah I mean it"
in a serious, sarcastic tone.
Most men just don't get that women are not
attracted to ASS KISSING behavior.
Ever.
There is an important concept that you need to
understand when it comes to making women feel a
powerful ATTRACTION and AROUSAL...
That concept is called ANTICIPATION.
Most men don't like anticipation.
We want what we want NOW. Not later... NOW.
Women enjoy ANTICIPATION.
Women like to think about things happening and
imagine what they'd be like... and even sort of
"tease themselves" with ideas of what might
happen.
Women really enjoy the PROCESS of being teased,
when it's done in the right way.
Just my 2 cents -
2 cents?more like 5 dollars worth leh.Originally posted by Xicq:I dun mean to be harsh on u.(But i really am harsh)
i believe tat most of us tat has reply to u has somewat rather similar experiences,well tat's part n parcel of growing up.tho it's one hell to go through.
i dun really agree to the point where some guys asking u to apologise to R or being nice to ur future gf friends.
i been tho a 4 yrs relationship breakup n trust me,get off ur gf's back for now.
girls never did like a WUSS,next time when u fall for someone,dun me a wuss no more man
quote taken from a magazine:
Most guys can't get over their need for instant
gratification.
The reality is that men and women have some key
differences when it comes to how they experience
ATTRACTION.
Men have an "On/Off" switch, and women have a
"Volume Knob".
Men want gratification NOW, and can't grasp the
concept that women have a more complex internal
"Attraction Mechanism" that needs to be turned up
gradually... and in specific ways.
You have internalized and "gotten" the idea
that teasing, leaning back, and not taking
advantage of offers from women lead to them
wanting you MORE... not less.
2) Most guys don't know how to spark ATTRACTION or
recognize sexual tension or "chemistry"... thus
the friend's comments of "she's not into you" and
him telling the girl that "he'd be nicer",
thinking she'd somehow like him for that.
The reality is that for most men, the concept
of ATTRACTION is a complete mystery.
They don't understand chemistry or sexual
tension, and they wouldn't recognize it in a
million years.
Further, whenever most guys feel ANY kind of
"tension" in a situation with a woman, they do
whatever they can to RELEASE the tension...
I always love it when I'm playing with a girl
and teasing her, and some guy says, "Oh, he
doesn't mean it". I always say, "Yeah I mean it"
in a serious, sarcastic tone.
Most men just don't get that women are not
attracted to ASS KISSING behavior.
Ever.
There is an important concept that you need to
understand when it comes to making women feel a
powerful ATTRACTION and AROUSAL...
That concept is called ANTICIPATION.
Most men don't like anticipation.
We want what we want NOW. Not later... NOW.
Women enjoy ANTICIPATION.
Women like to think about things happening and
imagine what they'd be like... and even sort of
"tease themselves" with ideas of what might
happen.
Women really enjoy the PROCESS of being teased,
when it's done in the right way.
Just my 2 cents -
u said when L got to know R, she changed into a different type of person. one thing i want u to know is that, the friends u choose to be with can make u or break u. because in this society, people influences people. we have no choice, because we dun live alone. thus in this situation, L, like u said became different ever since she knew R, it's partly due to the fact that their friendship has some influences when they're together.Originally posted by leon_lai89:Dear Aunt Agony. I met L two years ago. We went into a relationship after that. We were such sweet back then. 3 mths ago, I started my major exam. L got a new best friend, R. I dont like R. She's a xia lan kao bei type of person. To deal with this kind of person. I have to be rude or else will step over you. I dont treat everyone rude. R hated me for that. During my exams, L spent more time wif R than me. We promised each other to put exams ahead of our relationship. Recently, she wanted a break up, she said she dont love me anymore. she wanted to be alone. i felt devastated. its not like her. she changed into a different person when she knew R. i dont know if R is talking behind me. R is single n likes being single. Now, L doesnt even sms me. I want her back, chase her back but i cant when the situatuation is like this. its hard. R now like flaming me. she claims that im disgusting that i visited her blog to know more about L. I admit i did. cause she didnt sms now. because i still love her i cared. why such big change in her? even im not perfect even i cant provide her much i know she's not a demanding person which is one of the reason i fell in love with her, even if im not good but i treated her like a princess. she's hot headed but i din care, she's rude sometimes but i din care. they say when u love someone u can only see how good she is. i'd never felt so heart broken in my life. not when my favourite grandfather passed away. not even anything. i can really feel my heart breaking. break le also break le, now she got her freedom. then i say nvm. im a man. i want to chase her back. now doesnt want to talk to me. as if i find another girl lidat or did smth bad. i loved her more than anything else even my family. she said what has happened in the past cant happen again. another blow to my heart. u all can say its puppy love but its like something special. a girl i chose out of a thousand million girls you've met. i really have no mood to do anything. and confused. hopes for the coming year dashed by this. its like somebody close to you passed away. i dont know what to do but to cry all day. men do cry. what to do? haiz. i just want her.
t.y. for reading my long post. just need someone to lend a ear cause i heart just ached again and again
one thing is that, u shouldn't have made enemy with R, as R is L's friend. even if u dun like her, do not ever show it out! even L is ur girlfriend, L will be watching u every step of your way. hence, NEVER get complacent and laid back once u've found a gf. always be on the alert. she may still be observing u and asking herself whether u r the right guy for her.
another thing is that, YES. it's a puppy love. u even mentioned it urself. and Yes, it is. definitely is. no offence, but i think u may need some time to grow up. girls are not as simple as u think they r okay. try learning more about them and their way of thinking, also, try to learn what attraction is all about, and how to trigger it. that, u may take several years.
all the best in ur journey moving on!
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hohohohoho! magazine?? looks like u've been reading david deangelo. that b@stard!Originally posted by Xicq:I dun mean to be harsh on u.(But i really am harsh)
i believe tat most of us tat has reply to u has somewat rather similar experiences,well tat's part n parcel of growing up.tho it's one hell to go through.
i dun really agree to the point where some guys asking u to apologise to R or being nice to ur future gf friends.
i been tho a 4 yrs relationship breakup n trust me,get off ur gf's back for now.
girls never did like a WUSS,next time when u fall for someone,dun me a wuss no more man
quote taken from a magazine:
Most guys can't get over their need for instant
gratification.
The reality is that men and women have some key
differences when it comes to how they experience
ATTRACTION.
Men have an "On/Off" switch, and women have a
"Volume Knob".
Men want gratification NOW, and can't grasp the
concept that women have a more complex internal
"Attraction Mechanism" that needs to be turned up
gradually... and in specific ways.
You have internalized and "gotten" the idea
that teasing, leaning back, and not taking
advantage of offers from women lead to them
wanting you MORE... not less.
2) Most guys don't know how to spark ATTRACTION or
recognize sexual tension or "chemistry"... thus
the friend's comments of "she's not into you" and
him telling the girl that "he'd be nicer",
thinking she'd somehow like him for that.
The reality is that for most men, the concept
of ATTRACTION is a complete mystery.
They don't understand chemistry or sexual
tension, and they wouldn't recognize it in a
million years.
Further, whenever most guys feel ANY kind of
"tension" in a situation with a woman, they do
whatever they can to RELEASE the tension...
I always love it when I'm playing with a girl
and teasing her, and some guy says, "Oh, he
doesn't mean it". I always say, "Yeah I mean it"
in a serious, sarcastic tone.
Most men just don't get that women are not
attracted to ASS KISSING behavior.
Ever.
There is an important concept that you need to
understand when it comes to making women feel a
powerful ATTRACTION and AROUSAL...
That concept is called ANTICIPATION.
Most men don't like anticipation.
We want what we want NOW. Not later... NOW.
Women enjoy ANTICIPATION.
Women like to think about things happening and
imagine what they'd be like... and even sort of
"tease themselves" with ideas of what might
happen.
Women really enjoy the PROCESS of being teased,
when it's done in the right way.
Just my 2 cents