he called me.... ( Lies........Part 2)
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guess wat......he called me.....finally apologized to me after so long......
and the reason..i finally got it....
he's using me to forget his ex-gf...and reason for leaving without a word? Cos he dunno how to tell me. ~sigh~
when i heard dat....my heart sunk. Real low...Why?? Why muz he do tis to me?
And why can he be so faithful and devoted to his ex of more den a yr ago...but not me?Not even giving us a chance to be together...
it's such a big impact on me......i realli dun dare to go into another relationship aleadi...for fear of being hurt again. Realli dun DARE to. ~sigh~
and guess wat? seems like as more days passed,the more fear in me instilled. -
though it sounds hurting to know a guy treat u as his ex..but then hor, get ur life lah... I have kanna this too & worse thing is, he can even say it in my face but still dun want to let me go...which one u prefer? =)
Well...1 lesson learnt lor..go slow to see if that guy suits u bo 1st lor... -
F***! i hate pple who take others as subsitue...
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But 1 thing I dun get is that...how can a person treat another new person as the old one ney?? (get wat I mean?) *funny ley*..the feeling will be the same meh?? Dunno how those ppl use their heart.
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I knew how u felt, I had frdz who's been thru a situation like yours. Tell u what, juz put all your concentration on your job/career first and hope time will heal your wounds, take it a step at a time, keep yourself occupied with work so u won't even have time to think abt the matter and u won't had so much fear for the days to come...Originally posted by snowball72:guess wat......he called me.....finally apologized to me after so long......
and the reason..i finally got it....
he's using me to forget his ex-gf...and reason for leaving without a word? Cos he dunno how to tell me. ~sigh~
when i heard dat....my heart sunk. Real low...Why?? Why muz he do tis to me?
And why can he be so faithful and devoted to his ex of more den a yr ago...but not me?Not even giving us a chance to be together...
it's such a big impact on me......i realli dun dare to go into another relationship aleadi...for fear of being hurt again. Realli dun DARE to. ~sigh~
and guess wat? seems like as more days passed,the more fear in me instilled.
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Hope to b your frd forever, Mike signing off -
oei........... relac leh.....Originally posted by CurlyHair:F***! i hate pple who take others as subsitue...
haiz.....
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H0|d Me,H0|d mE...NeVeR |eT Me g0 UnTi| U'vE To|d mE..t0|d Me...Wh@t | w@nT T0 kNoW @nd Th@n JuSt H0|d Me h0|d mE MaKe ME Te|| u I'm |N |0VE W|F Y0U -
.....my bf always take me as just a substitute also....he said in order to forget his ex, he needs a new relationship, and the target is me....but he never seems to forget his ex even though we had started the relationship....another lie....
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Even as a guy, I have to say that sometimes guys are reall bastards. Even if you need to forget an old relationship, rushing into a new one will not only hurt himself but also the other party.
Such an excuse is not valid. Using the other party as a substitute, you think what? the other party is not human and does not have feelings?
Snowball72: if he cannot get over it and then forget him, he doesn't deserve you. If he is so indecisive, he can hop back to his ex or any other gal anythime. Think about it. -
as a guy, my feeling is that.... i dun like to be lonely. maybe it sounds kinda selfish, but 1 of my main reasons for a gf is so i won't feel that lonely.
you may have frens, but there are somethings that only a gf can give you. that specific happiness is what we all want eventually.
to know that there is someone out there, that loves you and cares very much for u, is a very nice feeling.
maybe it won't be very fair to the ger, but the more she loves me, the more i'll love her back.
it is once said - "the person i am with now, isn't the person i love the most. but s/he is the one that loves me most, and that is enough." -
just a bit of advise for the girls:
if the guys treat you like a substitute - BREAKUP!
i don't get it with youth today. the message is simple:
1) LOVE SURFACES YOUR PAST HURTS
Yes, it is true that every single time you really love someone, your past hurts, anger, pain, regret, and all the repressed feelings you've kept inside WILL surface. Why? Simply because love creates a comfortable environment where you are not afraid to come face to face with your hurts. However, most couples treat this entire thing wrongly and end up quarelling. The solution is to tell what we counsellors call "the complete truth". If anyone wants to know more about this, you can reach me and I will be free to share more. It will help heal many relationships.
2) LOVE IS PATIENT, LOVE IS KIND
Let's face it. Love is really patient and kind, it certainly does not envy! So many teens I've spoken to tell me they envy their past relationship and even if this one can't match up, it's ok. They will remember the past and work out this one. Wrong, wrong, wrong! You only end up with deception.
Let me give you a real-world example: Those guys who are into pornography will end up with an IMAGE they set up in their minds about girls and this carries on into any girl they have a relationship with. The image of lust in their depraved minds then disguises itself as love. In the end, a breakup happens and everyone wonders what went wrong.
I'm trying to give a summary of what I need to say. It would probably take an hour to speak everything about relationship issues. Bottom line girls: If you're being treated as a substitute or anyone other than YOURSELF, it's not worth keeping unless the guy learns to get healed from his past (which you can help him do by the way as spoken of in point 1).
Have an awesome day!
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then go be lesbian or butch lor. LoLz.. don say don dare, just open ur eyes big big when u choose ur stead.... tot u have 6th sense?Originally posted by snowball72:guess wat......he called me.....finally apologized to me after so long......
and the reason..i finally got it....
he's using me to forget his ex-gf...and reason for leaving without a word? Cos he dunno how to tell me. ~sigh~
when i heard dat....my heart sunk. Real low...Why?? Why muz he do tis to me?
And why can he be so faithful and devoted to his ex of more den a yr ago...but not me?Not even giving us a chance to be together...
it's such a big impact on me......i realli dun dare to go into another relationship aleadi...for fear of being hurt again. Realli dun DARE to. ~sigh~
and guess wat? seems like as more days passed,the more fear in me instilled.
Where is it now? hahaha if u wanna find another relationship, hope u can really use your "6th sense" lor...
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snowball,dun be so sad lar...i had oso been through it b4 and i can understand hw u feel...at dat time,i was oso like u,dun dare to get into another relationship.Originally posted by snowball72:guess wat......he called me.....finally apologized to me after so long......
and the reason..i finally got it....
he's using me to forget his ex-gf...and reason for leaving without a word? Cos he dunno how to tell me. ~sigh~
when i heard dat....my heart sunk. Real low...Why?? Why muz he do tis to me?
And why can he be so faithful and devoted to his ex of more den a yr ago...but not me?Not even giving us a chance to be together...
it's such a big impact on me......i realli dun dare to go into another relationship aleadi...for fear of being hurt again. Realli dun DARE to. ~sigh~
and guess wat? seems like as more days passed,the more fear in me instilled.
Although there are choices,i juz duno dare to choose.it had been 2 yrs since dat thing happened to me...and im slowly recovering frm it.i do have a bf now,although i admit dat i dun love him as much as i loved my ex, im still happy coz im being loved.
Can say dat im quite lucky to find a nice bf who loves me...so my advice to u is dat,stop asking urself all those questions like: y muz he do all dis to u? Y cun he treat u like the way he treat his ex?
Everything is over...its time to move on...y not use the time to heal ur wounds? Its not the end of the world yet,ur true love will cum when the time is rite.
All the best to u...
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As LoNg As I SHaLL LiVe
I'LL HoLd U dEaR
AnD I wILL rEMiNiScE
Of OuR LoVe ALL ThRoUgH
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"Love on the Rebound" Haizz
Take it easy....It's not your fault!
Dun douse the flame of Love just b'cos of one 'LOSER'
Rgds
Xavier
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i realli wan to flame wat u said. Being lonely wil never be any reason why i'm get a bf..i dun tink i'll be lonely to dat stage. Dun tell me u dun even have 1 or 2 frens?? Being together wif someone shld be cos u love being wif dat person and u wan him/her to belong to u.Being able to care and do many things togther, cos u r an item.Originally posted by kof-guy:as a guy, my feeling is that.... i dun like to be lonely. maybe it sounds kinda selfish, but 1 of my main reasons for a gf is so i won't feel that lonely.
you may have frens, but there are somethings that only a gf can give you. that specific happiness is what we all want eventually.
to know that there is someone out there, that loves you and cares very much for u, is a very nice feeling.
maybe it won't be very fair to the ger, but the more she loves me, the more i'll love her back.
it is once said - "the person i am with now, isn't the person i love the most. but s/he is the one that loves me most, and that is enough."
i won't like some1 cos he likes me...if like dat..even when u r attached, u won't be able to stay faithful...keep changing b/gf...
once being wif someone, that person will be who i like most. There shldn't be anyone else in my mind dat occupies a larger portion in my heart.
to me, wat matters more is dat the person has loved me wif all he can, even if it's not yet all I expect. -
how could u have allowed urself into tis relationship!?!?! Once, I like a guy who happens to like me too...but I can sense and see he's still tinking abt his ex though he told me he will never patch wif her. Dat's why i never let my feelings make known and even advised him to patch wif his ex.True enuff, he did patch wif her...lucky I din believe wat he said.Originally posted by Celestine88:.....my bf always take me as just a substitute also....he said in order to forget his ex, he needs a new relationship, and the target is me....but he never seems to forget his ex even though we had started the relationship....another lie.... -
Hai (sigh) ....
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Celestine may b still too young to understd all this lor, hmmm.Originally posted by snowball72:how could u have allowed urself into tis relationship!?!?! Once, I like a guy who happens to like me too...but I can sense and see he's still tinking abt his ex though he told me he will never patch wif her. Dat's why i never let my feelings make known and even advised him to patch wif his ex.True enuff, he did patch wif her...lucky I din believe wat he said.
Celestine, "During tt time, what matters most to u is the guy u like is always bside u, supporting and encouraging u. U r not wrong to luv a person, but u shd realise tt luv is selfish, if u can't keep his heart, no pt. keeping his person with u lor. It's not entirely your fault though, it's partly the guy's fault too, he shouldn't even had this feeling to find a substitute, he ruining the girls' youth and toying with her feelings to be exact. U r definitely very innocent and naive, can't blame u though, u r the victim, juz feels unfair for u...
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Haizzz... all these BGR is quite a dread at times. Was counselling 2 girls the other night and they were both depressed, both of them broke up with their respective bf.Originally posted by mikegk_76:Celestine may b still too young to understd all this lor, hmmm.
Celestine, "During tt time, what matters most to u is the guy u like is always bside u, supporting and encouraging u. U r not wrong to luv a person, but u shd realise tt luv is selfish, if u can't keep his heart, no pt. keeping his person with u lor. It's not entirely your fault though, it's partly the guy's fault too, he shouldn't even had this feeling to find a substitute, he ruining the girls' youth and toying with her feelings to be exact. U r definitely very innocent and naive, can't blame u though, u r the victim, juz feels unfair for u...
Worst, one of their bf is my good friend. The other I don't know but he's kind of an abusive guy. Don't know why they stick to guys like that. I do know that girls don't forget guys especially if they are their first love... it takes time... sometimes a few months, often a few years.
Still they need to stand up for themselves and having real self-confidence is different from pining for a guy. Know that somewhere out there is the right person for you, don't settle for anything less. You deserve that person....
As an afternote, most (with emphasis, not all) guys are always looking for something fresh, sowing their wild oats and all that. Like someone advised earlier, remember to open eyes BiG BIG!!! And what the Guiness Stout uncle say, Fall down, must learn to climb up, Got Good Stout must share with everyone.... ;P -
Well, that's why they say: "You give love, a bad name."
A stumble is a stumble. No matter how fast u have climbed up, the fact remains that u have stumbled and this thought would linger in your head. But u still move on, keeping the stumble in mind and cautious of your next step.
snowball72:
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INTRODUCE THEM TO ME!!! WAHAHaha.....Originally posted by Klactovak:Haizzz... all these BGR is quite a dread at times. Was counselling 2 girls the other night and they were both depressed, both of them broke up with their respective bf.
Worst, one of their bf is my good friend. The other I don't know but he's kind of an abusive guy. Don't know why they stick to guys like that. I do know that girls don't forget guys especially if they are their first love... it takes time... sometimes a few months, often a few years.
Still they need to stand up for themselves and having real self-confidence is different from pining for a guy. Know that somewhere out there is the right person for you, don't settle for anything less. You deserve that person....
As an afternote, most (with emphasis, not all) guys are always looking for something fresh, sowing their wild oats and all that. Like someone advised earlier, remember to open eyes BiG BIG!!! And what the Guiness Stout uncle say, Fall down, must learn to climb up, Got Good Stout must share with everyone.... ;P
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Anyway, I juz speaking up for celestine, she's still young, that's why she made a mistake, she's too innocent lor...Originally posted by mikegk_76:Celestine may b still too young to understd all this lor, hmmm.
Celestine, "During tt time, what matters most to u is the guy u like is always bside u, supporting and encouraging u. U r not wrong to luv a person, but u shd realise tt luv is selfish, if u can't keep his heart, no pt. keeping his person with u lor. It's not entirely your fault though, it's partly the guy's fault too, he shouldn't even had this feeling to find a substitute, he ruining the girls' youth and toying with her feelings to be exact. U r definitely very innocent and naive, can't blame u though, u r the victim, juz feels unfair for u...
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Hope to b your frd forever, Mike signing off -
sigh.. worse for me. my ex used me as a temp bf. once she found a better guy with a car... zoom! off she went. 1 year 3 months.. fantastic...
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Tamade!!
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wah..1yr plus..no feelings one meh?? Jus go off lidat?? My ex and me...1 mth onli..but i'm so sad liao...maybe cos it's the things he did and too sudden dat i can't expect it ba...Originally posted by l3stat:sigh.. worse for me. my ex used me as a temp bf. once she found a better guy with a car... zoom! off she went. 1 year 3 months.. fantastic...
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ya lor...some guys wif those superb transports really show-off...can see from their body language...Damn hao lian... dunno y there r those girls go for them... got secure mah?? or maybe for fun can lah...