Heartbroken
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Sighz,I really need someone to talk to, anyone at this moment would be a god-sent.
My gf broke up with me 3mths back, and we are not on talking terms. Deep inside me, I still miss her and all, and am willing to change just so that I can be with her.
Recently, just on Wednesday, I went to Suntec to shop for X'mas gifts for my friends, and as I was returning, passed by this shop at CityLink selling notebooks etc. Went in, and after spending 1/2 hr in the shop, chose to buy my ex a diary/planner for 2006 as an X'mas gift. Went home hopping that she would accept it, wrapped it all up nicely and all.
Passed it to my friend to ask her to help me pass to my ex. Later in the day, my friend smsed me, saying that my ex have accepted it and have got me sumthing as well. I was obviously delighted, not because I'm a step closer to reconcilation or anything.But at least this shows that we can still be friends.
So today, I arranged to meet with my friend at Novena Square's Spinelli. My friend came and handed me the gift,I opened the wrapping and my mind went blank.She had taken two pieces of wood from her school's workshop and sandwiched the diary/planner I gave her and re-wrapped the whole thing with another wrapping paper and asked my friend to passed it to me.
My heart was totally torned up. How is it that someone, whom you know for 6yrs and whom you have been in a relationship with for 2.5yrs do this to you?Someone please help me...I just feel like crying, but i can't bring myself to. I'm really really torned up. -
The higher your hopes are, the worse the potential disappointments can become.
Many people would start to tell you to move on with life.. and forget about this girl.. I am no different. I know it's difficult, but it's time to move on..
When you are fated to come together, you will. If not, forcing things would only make it more difficult to cope with life.
If you have to cry, cry. Once you are done, dry your tears, and move on with life. Focus on other things in life which are more meaningful. -
i suggest u wait for curious_orange to answer ur qn..
he's the pro in this aspect..
juz wait k?
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I want to cry, my heart tells me to cry as a form of release. But my mind tells me not to, its a sure sign of weakness.An utter sign of complete weakness
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Originally posted by SpecOps87:I want to cry, my heart tells me to cry as a form of release. But my mind tells me not to, its a sure sign of weakness.An utter sign of complete weakness
Crying is not a sign of weakness , when u are upset, you express it...i dun understand why guys consider it a weakness, i cry and i dun care how other ppl look at me
I suggest that you might want to talk to her about it, not in a firm and fierce way but ask her why did she do that and also tell her that you are very hurt by her actions
Frankly speaking, i would just ask her why she did it and if she treats me badly and gives a cold answer, i think its best to give up, not worth your time on spending your time on such a gal
~+Cheers+~
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what caused the break up in the first place?
the way she return u the gift.. feels like u were the one who let her down? -
She does not answer my calls, nor smses. And although Temasek Poly is not big, its not easy to meet someone either.To be frank, she wasn't like this before, she was a real sweet person when we were in the same class in Sec.1. But eversince she came to Poly, she has changed, her friends are all those rich spoilt brats who have rich spoilt brat boyfriends. And i work for my expenses, I cannot afford to give her what they give their gfs. And she's become more material.
I'm really at a total complete lost.I just wish that someone would take me outta my misery. -
its abt how to you see things. it is this kind of situation that will motivate you to wanna chase her backOriginally posted by SpecOps87:Sighz,I really need someone to talk to, anyone at this moment would be a god-sent.
My gf broke up with me 3mths back, and we are not on talking terms. Deep inside me, I still miss her and all, and am willing to change just so that I can be with her.
Recently, just on Wednesday, I went to Suntec to shop for X'mas gifts for my friends, and as I was returning, passed by this shop at CityLink selling notebooks etc. Went in, and after spending 1/2 hr in the shop, chose to buy my ex a diary/planner for 2006 as an X'mas gift. Went home hopping that she would accept it, wrapped it all up nicely and all.
Passed it to my friend to ask her to help me pass to my ex. Later in the day, my friend smsed me, saying that my ex have accepted it and have got me sumthing as well. I was obviously delighted, not because I'm a step closer to reconcilation or anything.But at least this shows that we can still be friends.
So today, I arranged to meet with my friend at Novena Square's Spinelli. My friend came and handed me the gift,I opened the wrapping and my mind went blank.She had taken two pieces of wood from her school's workshop and sandwiched the diary/planner I gave her and re-wrapped the whole thing with another wrapping paper and asked my friend to passed it to me.
My heart was totally torned up. How is it that someone, whom you know for 6yrs and whom you have been in a relationship with for 2.5yrs do this to you?Someone please help me...I just feel like crying, but i can't bring myself to. I'm really really torned up. -
I wanna chase her back. I love her for who she is and I love her for the flaws she have. But I'm not perfect.Try as I might, don't you guys think that its really hurtful to do something like that? Its like a big slap to the face, not that I'm egoistic or the value of my face is more impt. then being with her. I would rather posses nothing in the world, but still be able to hold her hand and see her smile. Thats what matters to me most.
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maybe you shouldnt rush things. treat it as a new start. as if you dont know her at all. try being her friend then best friend. slowly work things out. it does pay even if it takes 10 yrs (if you really love her). and maybe next time, you see the world more and maybe you get to know more girls. read more. observe more.Originally posted by SpecOps87:I wanna chase her back. I love her for who she is and I love her for the flaws she have. But I'm not perfect.Try as I might, don't you guys think that its really hurtful to do something like that? Its like a big slap to the face, not that I'm egoistic or the value of my face is more impt. then being with her. I would rather posses nothing in the world, but still be able to hold her hand and see her smile. Thats what matters to me most. -
thats a MCP view. there is nothing wrong with crying. Men who cry are the strongest because they are unafraid to show their emotions, and unafraid of what others will think.Originally posted by SpecOps87:I want to cry, my heart tells me to cry as a form of release. But my mind tells me not to, its a sure sign of weakness.An utter sign of complete weakness
trust me, if u can cry, its a good thing to do. Long ago, I sort of lost the ability to cry when i feel like u do, and now all I can do to vent my feelings are to hurt myself. -
its hard to change a heart when its dead
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ya agree. humans express their sadness through crying. if you dont then im wondering if you are a human. but the most impt thing is after crying you learn from experience. part and parcel of growing up.Originally posted by HENG@:thats a MC view. there is nothing wrong with crying. Men who cry are the strongest because they are unafraid to show their emotions, and unafraid of what others will think.
trust me, if u can cry, its a good thing to do. Long ago, I sort of lost the ability to cry when i feel like u do, and now all I can do to vent my feelings are to hurt myself. -
agree...since when man are given the rules not to cry?Originally posted by HENG@:thats a MCP view. there is nothing wrong with crying. Men who cry are the strongest because they are unafraid to show their emotions, and unafraid of what others will think.
trust me, if u can cry, its a good thing to do. Long ago, I sort of lost the ability to cry when i feel like u do, and now all I can do to vent my feelings are to hurt myself.
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i really do wish i can cry. I cry when i see something sad, i cry when i read about something tragic. heck i cried when i watched the final matrix movie(the part when trinity dies)Originally posted by anhydrouscoppersulphate:ya agree. humans express their sadness through crying. if you dont then im wondering if you are a human. but the most impt thing is after crying you learn from experience. part and parcel of growing up.
but when it comes to being upset over my own problems, i can't cry, even though i want to cry badly. and then all thats left for me to do is self-harm(non fatal of course) -
some guys wanna be macho mahz more "man". then girls like man who are "man" mahzOriginally posted by StarPuppy:agree...since when man are given the rules not to cry? -
Honestly,frankly, I wish that i could just pour my tears out and then feel better.Now infront of my laptop, i just keep punching the wall next to me. I'm just so torn up.
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so she hiam your gift la?
forget it la.. tian ya he chu wu fang cao. she's not worth ur effort.
no matter how hard u try.. unless u become damn rich.. if not i think chances of u getting a materialsitic girl back is v slim. -
if u cant cry then let it be. im actually encouraging self-harm. encouraging you to vent out. thru crying, a little self harm (of course you yourself must know clearly what you are doing) or even posting in sgforums. but again i say, u vent, and u think thru and you learn. and thus ur solution to the problem.Originally posted by HENG@:i really do wish i can cry. I cry when i see something sad, i cry when i read about something tragic. heck i cried when i watched the final matrix movie(the part when trinity dies)
but when it comes to being upset over my own problems, i can't cry, even though i want to cry badly. and then all thats left for me to do is self-harm(non fatal of course) -
then cry. we're telling u its not wrong to cry. we're also telling u there is nobody who will see u cry now. the thing u have to work on now is your own MCP view that crying for guys is a sign of weakness. it isn't.Originally posted by SpecOps87:Honestly,frankly, I wish that i could just pour my tears out and then feel better.Now infront of my laptop, i just keep punching the wall next to me. I'm just so torn up. -
I really cannot comprehend, how someone can be so totally heartless at doing something like this. Its totally shocking.
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i think the problem is, when it comes to my personal upsets, i've cried for so long, the tears have dried up. I have a phrase, im not even sure if i made it up or i heard it somewhere. It goes like this:Originally posted by anhydrouscoppersulphate:if u cant cry then let it be. im actually encouraging self-harm. encouraging you to vent out. thru crying, a little self harm (of course you yourself must know clearly what you are doing) or even posting in sgforums. but again i say, u vent, and u think thru and you learn. and thus ur solution to the problem.
When the tears have dried up, blood flows next. -
some pple can be v heartless.. or even ruthless.. dun care whether u live or die. I'm also a victim. I understand how u feel. pat pat*Originally posted by SpecOps87:I really cannot comprehend, how someone can be so totally heartless at doing something like this. Its totally shocking. -
punch (but have a limit). vent out. after venting out, think of the problem. think of a solution. its an impt process which many teens dont follow. you see the problem is they vent, yes its good to vent, but they vent too much. they stuck at "venting" this stage. they cry or whatever n wanting people to sympathise or hoping for a miracle or watver. they dont think you careful. it will dangerously sometimes lead to jumping which is a social prob. upset over results, they dont think of why they did bad they dont have that knidaof spirit that say "hey i can do well next yr". they dont think thru. so they "chong dong" and they resort to jumping. thinking it will solve everything. but hey they actually regret jumping.Originally posted by SpecOps87:Honestly,frankly, I wish that i could just pour my tears out and then feel better.Now infront of my laptop, i just keep punching the wall next to me. I'm just so torn up. -
so scary!~ gee~Originally posted by HENG@:i think the problem is, when it comes to my personal upsets, i've cried for so long, the tears have dried up. I have a phrase, im not even sure if i made it up or i heard it somewhere. It goes like this:
When the tears have dried up, blood flows next.