What is love?
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A couple of days remaining to the end of 2005. I just wants to share about my story that take place this entire year. Basically, at the start of this year, i set my goal which i wants to fufill but however, it leads everything into disaster. Relationship is one of my goal that i wants to achieve. I tell myself that i wants to settle down in a permantle relationship with a girl regardless of race, languages and all religion, but however i failed myself miserably.
Let me kick off, I'm 19 this year, must admit, not too young for a relationship but i do see people around me having a relationship and that makes me have a strong urge of having one as well. All my siblings have one, more than half of my friends' have one and i was curious why i doesn't have one? So without furthur will do, i try my luck. I like 3 girls this year but all rejected me. Each of the girl i like, I had invest feelings for a couple of months before confessing to her, I even date her out, send her home, treat her meals, buy her gifts and many things just like any common guy would do and yet still fails. So I proceed to the next girl, and does the same thing as mention above, and still fails. I shall not say it in precise otherwise it would drag the story on and on.
I remember one of the 3 girl tells her friend that I'm not her cup of tea and then her friend pass the message to me immediately, my heart goes piercing with a dagger.
Everytime I read people's relationship problem or hear it from a female friend mentioning something like, "He bed with another girl", "He doesn't want me anymore", "He cheated my feelings." and i understand how the girl feel and she went crying and felt hurt deep in her heart and i was telling myself wtf, a girl who appreciate and loves a guy so much and yet he still doesn't seems to understand? The world is so unfair to me, got many guys out there who girls truly appreciate and loves a lot and I was wondering why am i not one of the many? I'm one of those who girls doesn't appreciate and likes. People often say, "It's not the right time yet," "She doesn't belong to you and i think that was totally a crap. What you want, you applies with effort and patient to it, it certainly yours, you can change it from not yours to yours.
Sigh~ is liking and loving a girl so difficult? Everything when fails in a attemp to win a girl heart can leads me to have phobia about girls. Seems like I can't understand/imagine/predict/tell a girl feelings.
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Love is something you say to your parents. 'Mama, I love you.' Thats what I call love. I think you shouldn't be using the word love in your title. LIKE should be more appropriate.Originally posted by James1:A couple of days remaining to the end of 2005. I just wants to share about my story that take place this entire year. Basically, at the start of this year, i set my goal which i wants to fufill but however, it leads everything into disaster. Relationship is one of my goal that i wants to achieve. I tell myself that i wants to settle down in a permantle relationship with a girl regardless of race, languages and all religion, but however i failed myself miserably.
Let me kick off, I'm 19 this year, must admit, not too young for a relationship but i do see people around me having a relationship and that makes me have a strong urge of having one as well. All my siblings have one, more than half of my friends' have one and i was curious why i doesn't have one? So without furthur will do, i try my luck. I like 3 girls this year but all rejected me. Each of the girl i like, I had invest feelings for a couple of months before confessing to her, I even date her out, send her home, treat her meals, buy her gifts and many things just like any common guy would do and yet still fails. So I proceed to the next girl, and does the same thing as mention above, and still fails. I shall not say it in precise otherwise it would drag the story on and on.
I remember one of the 3 girl tells her friend that I'm not her cup of tea and then her friend pass the message to me immediately, my heart goes piercing with a dagger.
Everytime I read people's relationship problem or hear it from a female friend mentioning something like, "He bed with another girl", "He doesn't want me anymore", "He cheated my feelings." and i understand how the girl feel and she went crying and felt hurt deep in her heart and i was telling myself wtf, a girl who appreciate and loves a guy so much and yet he still doesn't seems to understand? The world is so unfair to me, got many guys out there who girls truly appreciate and loves a lot and I was wondering why am i not one of the many? I'm one of those who girls doesn't appreciate and likes. People often say, "It's not the right time yet," "She doesn't belong to you and i think that was totally a crap. What you want, you applies with effort and patient to it, it certainly yours, you can change it from not yours to yours.
Sigh~ is liking and loving a girl so difficult? Everything when fails in a attemp to win a girl heart can leads me to have phobia about girls. Seems like I can't understand/imagine/predict/tell a girl feelings.
What is love exactly? what does it contains and mean? How to win a girl heart? -
your quite a patient guy, i must say...if the 3 gals don't appreciate you, den wait...for other gals...no point see other ppl have then u MUZ have attitude..this thinking will kill you in the long term..its unhealthy....Originally posted by James1:A couple of days remaining to the end of 2005. I just wants to share about my story that take place this entire year. Basically, at the start of this year, i set my goal which i wants to fufill but however, it leads everything into disaster. Relationship is one of my goal that i wants to achieve. I tell myself that i wants to settle down in a permantle relationship with a girl regardless of race, languages and all religion, but however i failed myself miserably.
Let me kick off, I'm 19 this year, must admit, not too young for a relationship but i do see people around me having a relationship and that makes me have a strong urge of having one as well. All my siblings have one, more than half of my friends' have one and i was curious why i doesn't have one? So without furthur will do, i try my luck. I like 3 girls this year but all rejected me. Each of the girl i like, I had invest feelings for a couple of months before confessing to her, I even date her out, send her home, treat her meals, buy her gifts and many things just like any common guy would do and yet still fails. So I proceed to the next girl, and does the same thing as mention above, and still fails. I shall not say it in precise otherwise it would drag the story on and on.
I remember one of the 3 girl tells her friend that I'm not her cup of tea and then her friend pass the message to me immediately, my heart goes piercing with a dagger.
Everytime I read people's relationship problem or hear it from a female friend mentioning something like, "He bed with another girl", "He doesn't want me anymore", "He cheated my feelings." and i understand how the girl feel and she went crying and felt hurt deep in her heart and i was telling myself wtf, a girl who appreciate and loves a guy so much and yet he still doesn't seems to understand? The world is so unfair to me, got many guys out there who girls truly appreciate and loves a lot and I was wondering why am i not one of the many? I'm one of those who girls doesn't appreciate and likes. People often say, "It's not the right time yet," "She doesn't belong to you and i think that was totally a crap. What you want, you applies with effort and patient to it, it certainly yours, you can change it from not yours to yours.
Sigh~ is liking and loving a girl so difficult? Everything when fails in a attemp to win a girl heart can leads me to have phobia about girls. Seems like I can't understand/imagine/predict/tell a girl feelings.
What is love exactly? what does it contains and mean? How to win a girl heart?
maybe now its not your time...since u are patient enough to wait for a gal for couple of months...then wait for a few more months or a couple of years for the rite gal...but you have to look out for possible gals also la...go knock at the door and don't wait for others to knock at your door...keep trying...dont give up just at the third door...adopt this "nv say die" attitude...alright...cheers... -
Hmm i was like you last time.. Wanted one gf also dun have. Then i told myself i just want one, damm it just one... Chio de like shit de also buay yao gin. Just one to feel what does love feel like. Then one came. And i got hell lots of trouble with that gal.
Thts history, anyway my friend... the right one will come. You dun want to be stuck in a relationship when the right one comes along. I sometimes feel that once you start having the 1st gf. The 2nd and the third one comes along. For starters, you can widen your social circle by having tons of female friends like I did. In abt 4 months i had a gf.
The art of xian char bor, must psyco the girl to like you; Buy gift and all that is nothing, ger is all about feeling de.. Want more info, pm for a beginner's guide (not written by me of course) -
just want to say a few thingsOriginally posted by James1:A couple of days remaining to the end of 2005. I just wants to share about my story that take place this entire year. Basically, at the start of this year, i set my goal which i wants to fufill but however, it leads everything into disaster. Relationship is one of my goal that i wants to achieve. I tell myself that i wants to settle down in a permantle relationship with a girl regardless of race, languages and all religion, but however i failed myself miserably.
Let me kick off, I'm 19 this year, must admit, not too young for a relationship but i do see people around me having a relationship and that makes me have a strong urge of having one as well. All my siblings have one, more than half of my friends' have one and i was curious why i doesn't have one? So without furthur will do, i try my luck. I like 3 girls this year but all rejected me. Each of the girl i like, I had invest feelings for a couple of months before confessing to her, I even date her out, send her home, treat her meals, buy her gifts and many things just like any common guy would do and yet still fails. So I proceed to the next girl, and does the same thing as mention above, and still fails. I shall not say it in precise otherwise it would drag the story on and on.
I remember one of the 3 girl tells her friend that I'm not her cup of tea and then her friend pass the message to me immediately, my heart goes piercing with a dagger.
Everytime I read people's relationship problem or hear it from a female friend mentioning something like, "He bed with another girl", "He doesn't want me anymore", "He cheated my feelings." and i understand how the girl feel and she went crying and felt hurt deep in her heart and i was telling myself wtf, a girl who appreciate and loves a guy so much and yet he still doesn't seems to understand? The world is so unfair to me, got many guys out there who girls truly appreciate and loves a lot and I was wondering why am i not one of the many? I'm one of those who girls doesn't appreciate and likes. People often say, "It's not the right time yet," "She doesn't belong to you and i think that was totally a crap. What you want, you applies with effort and patient to it, it certainly yours, you can change it from not yours to yours.
Sigh~ is liking and loving a girl so difficult? Everything when fails in a attemp to win a girl heart can leads me to have phobia about girls. Seems like I can't understand/imagine/predict/tell a girl feelings.
What is love exactly? what does it contains and mean? How to win a girl heart?
1) Relationship is never goal. How can you treat relationship like some kind of work problem that must be solve in a year? The more try to rush into finding any girl the more you will not find the right one. If you seriously want to find the perfect one then do not set a time limit for yourself. Find someone who you can connect well. Stop say you will accept any gal who comes along. Set a rule saying which type of girls you like and go for the type you like.
2) you dated girls for a few months and ask her to be your stead after a few months? come on you hardly know the girl well enough of course the gal will reject you lar. Some gals need more time to accept you and some girls need more asking to be your gf. It takes time and effort and there is no short and fast way.
3) Before you feel sorry for yourself about not getting a gf. Ask yourself how hard have you really try? I have seen people who had wait for a single gal for 9 years and he is always there for her no matter how she reject him. Sadly you should learn from others mistakes and note that why guys fail and think of ways to prevent yourself from making the same mistakes.
4) "What you want, you applies with effort and patient to it, it certainly yours, you can change it from not yours to yours.
Want to know why you always failed? Is this mindset of yours which I feel that is not right. Love cannot be force and the theory above should not be use for finding a love one. In love is best to apply effort and patient and wait for the girl to feel the same way for you, if you try to force the girl to love you or try to change something which is not yours the girl will be the first to run.
5) "Sigh~ is liking and loving a girl so difficult? Everything when fails in a attemp to win a girl heart can leads me to have phobia about girls. Seems like I can't understand/imagine/predict/tell a girl feelings.
What is love exactly? what does it contains and mean? How to win a girl heart?"
Liking and loving a girl is not difficult but it takes time, effort and understanding . Everytime you fail to win a gal you should try to understand why you fail and not repeat the same mistakes again.
Love means giving your time and effort to the one you feel so much for. You will not regret your actions when you fail to win the girl's heart and you will always be there for her no matter what happens. Please do not think that love is a game like after winning a girls heart you can just dump the girl asap after having fun. -
one word for you: wait.
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a relationship is not something that you should rush into it. so what if most of your friends and relative have gfs or bfs already? You can wait for years and see if they'll marry their bfs and gfs in the future. I think most of them will eventually broke up and marry another person. You want a relationship that will last until your gf become your wife, right? then the widest thing to do is to wait until u settle down your carreer and is financially stable. Now, you may not see the wisdom of doing so but you will see it years later.
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a better qn to ask wud be : have i done enuf to win a girl's heart?
like the other guys said, there are alot of other gals for u, juz keep looking... den again, how much hav u put into wooing a girl? if you think a couple of months is enuf, you can't be more wrong... a couple of months is *long pause* peanuts when it comes to affairs of the heart. if the gal dun like u u also cannot force it wat... so wat if u've given ur best to win her heart, if she dun like u, game over dude
and dun wry bout' understanding gals yet, they take *alot * of time to understand...
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edit : sry, internet siao liao, triple post...
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edit : sry, internet connection siao liao, triple post
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What is love?
Baby, don't hurt me.
Don't hurt me.
No more.
(Yeah, gimme some head banging)
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Others can tell you or explain what LOVE is to you.
But all i want to say is that. You're definitely not in love.
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Love or infatuation??
Love:
It's not just a feeling but a relationship
Love is a maturation of friendship,physical closeness is only one aspect of love
Love is quiet understanding & mature acceptance of imperfection
Love is a commitment
Love means trust,One is calm, secrure and is not threatened.Freedom to pursue individual interests....
Though love involves a desire for closeness, a couple share other experiences important to them and learn ways of expressing theri affection apart form engaging in sexual touching
Love is patient and confidently plans for the future. One desires physical intimacy but is albe to exercise self-restrain
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Hey......u think u r da only victim like tat......my story is even worst than urz !! wtf !....i juz broke with her last few weeks !! she is a horny bitch !! all i can sae to u is juz wait !! the old 1 dun go then the new 1 wont come !! i believe tat there is still many gal out there !! y u so worry abt tat !! juz relax....yeo...sumtime i felt tat there is no need to treat a gal so nice !! u treat her nice they wont appreciate it ! juz b urself !! they wil cum for u !trust me !! tiz work....!!! nw there is a lot of gal around me....n i am goin to show tat bitch !! dam man ...anyway wish u gud luck !! juz wait ....
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I really couldn't tell if your still angry about your breakup or your just excited in advising our threadstarterOriginally posted by siongs:Hey......u think u r da only victim like tat......my story is even worst than urz !! wtf !....i juz broke with her last few weeks !! she is a horny bitch !! all i can sae to u is juz wait !! the old 1 dun go then the new 1 wont come !! i believe tat there is still many gal out there !! y u so worry abt tat !! juz relax....yeo...sumtime i felt tat there is no need to treat a gal so nice !! u treat her nice they wont appreciate it ! juz b urself !! they wil cum for u !trust me !! tiz work....!!! nw there is a lot of gal around me....n i am goin to show tat bitch !! dam man ...anyway wish u gud luck !! juz wait ....
But yeah, siongs has a point. The cliche phrase "theres many fish in the sea" really does mean something. -
Well,u dun nid to be handsome to get a gurl rites..
let the gurl understan u..these kind of thing takes time one...
be like me la...kena reject liao..thn u wan thn wait lor..
care for her even though she ignores you...dun go overboard la..let her noe u are there for her.. -
Are u a good a charming looking guy? Want to gal to fall for u? firstly u got to be confident of urself and most importantly dress to kill. Please speak intelligently and don't ever talk crap..this shun away gals.At your age you needn't to show off how many cards and money u have as i dun think u process that yet. Dress smart and confident is the first step to attract gals.
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yah...u r damn right. I fully agree with you, sometime cannot treat a girl too nice want, they simply dont appreciate for guys effort in winning them. They have been indulge too much by guys/family/ppl liao. if dont use force, things simply dont work. I mean to some girls la, hope i'm not offending girls around here...Originally posted by siongs:Hey......u think u r da only victim like tat......my story is even worst than urz !! wtf !....i juz broke with her last few weeks !! she is a horny bitch !! all i can sae to u is juz wait !! the old 1 dun go then the new 1 wont come !! i believe tat there is still many gal out there !! y u so worry abt tat !! juz relax....yeo...sumtime i felt tat there is no need to treat a gal so nice !! u treat her nice they wont appreciate it ! juz b urself !! they wil cum for u !trust me !! tiz work....!!! nw there is a lot of gal around me....n i am goin to show tat bitch !! dam man ...anyway wish u gud luck !! juz wait ....
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u know...i agree wif the the guy who started this topic...im in the same boat as him..i already lyked this gal for 2 yrs...n had jio her for 1 yrs + but she kept rejecting me...even steading wif another guy...even so..i did made stars for her n give her get well cards n sorts when she's nt feeling well...or sick..
bt she still dun wanna give me a chance...she mentioed tat she prefer taller guys n she gt no special feelings for me...bt all tat i've done wasnt worth of a chance?it sure does give me phobia of girl too.... -
exactly....a bit to add...if you wanna have a good start, maybe u are not good looking, but you MUZ be confident of yourself, or at least be a funny chap, ladies like guys who aren't boring (applies to gals; if+ good prospect in current and future job(s) and behave like gentleman = ladies thinkingOriginally posted by James1:yah...u r damn right. I fully agree with you, sometime cannot treat a girl too nice want, they simply dont appreciate for guys effort in winning them. They have been indulge too much by guys/family/ppl liao. if dont use force, things simply dont work. I mean to some girls la, hope i'm not offending girls around here...
they like surprises...so does guys...everybody like surpises as a matter of fact...just know this, if ur funny guy with full of ideas, gals don't know what to expect from you...then you most likely will end up with a lot of female frenz at least...from there, then you slowly explore which lady is for you -
i love this girl for 5 years liao...she rejected me once...i tired to forget her but i still love her......then suddenly,i heard frm my fren that she has some feelings for me..i thought.i should go for it.but then now ,i realised that my buddy oso fall for the same gal...now i m stagnant....not going to do anything abt it.
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Seems like it's a trend to join the 'same boat party' these days.
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Sigh~ i thought i'm the worst relationship victim here, never expect there are people here also the same circumstances with me. So whoever reading this post here, and whoever have a gf/bf now, i encourage u to cherish your love as love dont come by easily. You have read all the post here, people want relationship also dont have...
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Aiya same la! Me also same situation! JUs don give a shit to her and then end everything!! Find yourself a new gal on the bike!!! Read my case under "i'm one of the most silly guys ard"
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er...im pretty gd looking or above average de..im nt bhb or wat..juz saying real....'ve gave up so many gals who ask me to stead wif them but she dun seem to apperciate...somemore shes nt very gd looking or wat...dun understand y she cant give me a chance...