Is waiting a fool's game? (for love)
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Originally posted by curiousOrange:
If that 3 seconds rule works on him. Let me know ok?
Let me do the explaining for Boo777. I think I understand what he is trying to say.
Guys who have spent some time thinking about their aspirations and ambitions in life will know what I am talking about.
Life is too short to be hung up about your lovelife. I myself have only completed 40% of what I want to acheive in life.
[b]Mindset: “Let them come to you, they can choose why not you”
The part in red is a mentality.
To be successful in anything you do, you need to have the correct mindset.
Too many guys out there focus on meeting womenÂ’s expectations. They forgot about their own expectation and passion in life.
Getting a woman is not success. Getting a woman who is willing to accommodate your expectations and passion in life is the real success.
To achieve that,
Focus on improving yourself first and foremost as it makes you a catch.
Be willing to walk away if she cannot give you what you want.
Boo777 is talking about a weeding out process.
Once you have gotten your act together, donÂ’t settle.
Weed out those who are not willing to accommodate, keep those who can meet your expectations.
Practice
I donÂ’t think I need to elaborate on this one. Confidence and charisma comes from practice.
You can keep improving yourself but still don't know what to say when a woman approaches you unless you get some real experience.
But I have something I want to add though.
Practice with the correct mindset.
I have a friend who started torturing himself with a ”3 seconds” rule some time ago.
When he sees someone he likes in the street, he gives himself 3 seconds to decide whether he wants to approach.
I saw how the other guys were laughing at him when he was shot down and I asked him why he wanted to torture himself like that.
His reply:
“I should be the one laughing at them. I’ve spent only 3 seconds of my life making a decision, if her interest is low, I drop the idea and move on.”
“They on the other hand will spend the whole day discussing every aspect of that girl but will not know whether she is interested!
“They are wasting their time!”
His focus is on himself.
He is concerned about other aspects of his life that requires his attention.
Therefore, he uses the weeding out process.
Weed out those who has low interest in him instead of spending so much effort trying to raise their interest.
He understands right from the start, what he wants to achieve:
Getting a woman who is willing to accommodate your expectations and passion in life is the real success.
A woman who has high interest in you will naturally try to do that.
And you donÂ’t have to waste time trying to raise her interest.
Your focus will always be on your dreams and passion in life.
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Originally posted by M©+square:If that 3 seconds rule works on him. Let me know ok?
work - direction of Marriage.
Cheers
I would say out of 10 women he approaches, 3 will stop what they are doing and talk to him.
Only 1 will give him her number.
Something I notice though...
The women he approached will usually give him a lot of eye contact and keep looking towards his direction after they rejected him. As if they were willing him to do it one more time now that they were "mentally prepared".
I told him I usually give some eye contact before "intruding" their privacy but he wasn't interested.
His 3-second rule:
1) He will not do a second attempt on the same girl, this is part of his 3 seconds rule. He will not waste anymore time on that girl.
2) Once he was shot down, he would already have gotten over the lady and will continue to talk and laugh with us as if nothing happened.
Once when I was with him. A woman (she shot him down) walked over and gave him her number a few minutes later.
Women can sense his confidence and how he seems to be indifferent (from the way he reacted after the rejection) but interested at the same time.
Why leh? You want to try?
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OMG... u read my mind... u must be psychic
Kudos to u bruddah.
oh... and a Happy New Year dude!!Originally posted by curiousOrange:
Let me do the explaining for Boo777. I think I understand what he is trying to say.
Guys who have spent some time thinking about their aspirations and ambitions in life will know what I am talking about.
Life is too short to be hung up about your lovelife. I myself have only completed 40% of what I want to acheive in life.
[b]Mindset: “Let them come to you, they can choose why not you”
The part in red is a mentality.
To be successful in anything you do, you need to have the correct mindset.
Too many guys out there focus on meeting womenÂ’s expectations. They forgot about their own expectation and passion in life.
Getting a woman is not success. Getting a woman who is willing to accommodate your expectations and passion in life is the real success.
To achieve that,
Focus on improving yourself first and foremost as it makes you a catch.
Be willing to walk away if she cannot give you what you want.
Boo777 is talking about a weeding out process.
Once you have gotten your act together, donÂ’t settle.
Weed out those who are not willing to accommodate, keep those who can meet your expectations.
Practice
I donÂ’t think I need to elaborate on this one. Confidence and charisma comes from practice.
You can keep improving yourself but still don't know what to say when a woman approaches you unless you get some real experience.
But I have something I want to add though.
Practice with the correct mindset.
I have a friend who started torturing himself with a ”3 seconds” rule some time ago.
When he sees someone he likes in the street, he gives himself 3 seconds to decide whether he wants to approach.
I saw how the other guys were laughing at him when he was shot down and I asked him why he wanted to torture himself like that.
His reply:
“I should be the one laughing at them. I’ve spent only 3 seconds of my life making a decision, if her interest is low, I drop the idea and move on.”
“They on the other hand will spend the whole day discussing every aspect of that girl but will not know whether she is interested!
“They are wasting their time!”
His focus is on himself.
He is concerned about other aspects of his life that requires his attention.
Therefore, he uses the weeding out process.
Weed out those who has low interest in him instead of spending so much effort trying to raise their interest.
He understands right from the start, what he wants to achieve:
Getting a woman who is willing to accommodate your expectations and passion in life is the real success.
A woman who has high interest in you will naturally try to do that.
And you donÂ’t have to waste time trying to raise her interest.
Your focus will always be on your dreams and passion in life.
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Too many things comes into my mind at once... kinda hard to consolidate.
I guess I need to use the, "solly, my england no good" excuse to save myself from embarassment. Ha ha!!
Oh ya... and Happy New Year to u too!!
Cheerz!! Itz Tiger Time!! So.... where Jessica Alba?Originally posted by M©+square:No you don't, you just need more time to consolidate your thought process and then type it out clearly.
Your earlier post was unclear, i was just teasing you.
Gong Hei Fatt Choy ah.
Cheers~