should I or should I not?
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I have a liking for a friend for some time already. I only confirmed my feelings for him when I felt my heart beating very fast when he was sitting beside me and I was looking forward to meet him everytime.
Now I am contemplating whether to let him know or not.. past hurt in relationships is holding me back from taking a step forward. As much as I wanted to move on, I still fear.. fear of being hurt again. Actually I also do not dare to expect anything from him. But I just feel so silly that I am feeling happy over the little things that happened and yet it is all one sided.
I guess he look upon me like a little sister. I never thought that I will feel this way for him but it just happened. What should I do? -
Originally posted by Happy22:I have a liking for a friend for some time already. I only confirmed my feelings for him when I felt my heart beating very fast when he was sitting beside me and I was looking forward to meet him everytime.
Now I am contemplating whether to let him know or not.. past hurt in relationships is holding me back from taking a step forward. As much as I wanted to move on, I still fear.. fear of being hurt again. Actually I also do not dare to expect anything from him. But I just feel so silly that I am feeling happy over the little things that happened and yet it is all one sided.
I guess he look upon me like a little sister. I never thought that I will feel this way for him but it just happened. What should I do?
You should tell him about your feelings
Bottling your feelings does not help you and it will make you feel worse later on if he does find a g/f By telling him, you might get a 50% chances that he might like you but if you dun its 0%....
~+Cheers+~
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yeah jus tell him how u feel,
at least u tried right?
better than keeping e feelings to urself...
if its negative, then jus move on, who knows, u guys can b e best of friends.... -
what if he avoids me? Then it will be so awkward.. and we know each other so long already.. very sad if we cannot continue to be friends just because I have a liking for him.
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If thats the case, would longing for him everytime u see him be any better?Originally posted by Happy22:what if he avoids me? Then it will be so awkward.. and we know each other so long already.. very sad if we cannot continue to be friends just because I have a liking for him. -
personally, i see no reasons why friends cant carry on as friends even if one party has already confessed. its just the mentality. if ex-lovers can be friends, i dont see why you 2 cant carry on as friendsOriginally posted by Happy22:what if he avoids me? Then it will be so awkward.. and we know each other so long already.. very sad if we cannot continue to be friends just because I have a liking for him.
if you feel you truely like him, then go ahead and confess. as pointed out, its 0% chance if you dont confess. would you wanna move on without confessing and look back with regrets 10 years later? -
be brave, juz do it~
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drink more eno... can help take off some heat.
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avoid u?
i tot only girls do that?
why don't u first try to sound him out what he feels about you...if its quite good...(in the romantic sense)..let him know...someone has to make the first step... -
tell ur fren abt it, and ur fren would spread the news to let him know...
tell ur best fren abt it and ur best fren will help in chasing the guy =p -
from your daily contacts with him you should more or less be able to tell if he has affection for you.
if you dont feel comfortable telling him drop a few hints here and there,
or casually ask him to go out for a movie. then take it from there.... -
I tried asking him out and wanted to cheer him up when he was down. But he rejected my 'date'. I guess the love worm started when one night, out of the blue, he suddenly smsed me whether I can chat with him on the phone and we chatted for 4 hours till 4am.
After that conversation, I don't know about him, but I seem to understand him better and still treat him like a friend. We still come out with our common friends, but we never come out one-on-one. If I really have to tell him how I feel, how to? what can I do? -
Let nature takes its course.Originally posted by Happy22:I tried asking him out and wanted to cheer him up when he was down. But he rejected my 'date'. I guess the love worm started when one night, out of the blue, he suddenly smsed me whether I can chat with him on the phone and we chatted for 4 hours till 4am.
After that conversation, I don't know about him, but I seem to understand him better and still treat him like a friend. We still come out with our common friends, but we never come out one-on-one. If I really have to tell him how I feel, how to? what can I do?
If u like him let him know.
Seems to me that he likes you but not really sure of himself.
Maybe talk to him more ?
Try to know him better before throwing in your choice. -
tell him directly. If u beat around the bush, guy wouldnt know..and probably go after other girls
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in addition the the 50% thingy...
after u tried...still have 25% that the ans is positive...the other 25% is rejection..
if u try...at least have 25%...cheers...
just give it a shot...Originally posted by StarPuppy: You should tell him about your feelings
Bottling your feelings does not help you and it will make you feel worse later on if he does find a g/f By telling him, you might get a 50% chances that he might like you but if you dun its 0%....
~+Cheers+~
StarPuppy
like u have said as per above..if u feel that he treats u as a sister..if he rejects u...then u can still ask him to be ur god-brother right??Originally posted by Happy22:I have a liking for a friend for some time already. I only confirmed my feelings for him when I felt my heart beating very fast when he was sitting beside me and I was looking forward to meet him everytime.
Now I am contemplating whether to let him know or not.. past hurt in relationships is holding me back from taking a step forward. As much as I wanted to move on, I still fear.. fear of being hurt again. Actually I also do not dare to expect anything from him. But I just feel so silly that I am feeling happy over the little things that happened and yet it is all one sided.
I guess he look upon me like a little sister. I never thought that I will feel this way for him but it just happened. What should I do?
bad move...later her fren get him as her bf...then how...dun think its feasible...Originally posted by Happy22:what if he avoids me? Then it will be so awkward.. and we know each other so long already.. very sad if we cannot continue to be friends just because I have a liking for him.
guess him roughly know ba...at least he still willing to chat with u ya..look on the positive side lor...chat with him more, over time...when u both talk til almost everything...then ask him out lor...Originally posted by Eclipzer:tell ur fren abt it, and ur fren would spread the news to let him know...
tell ur best fren abt it and ur best fren will help in chasing the guy =p
at least he still shows care and concern for u...Originally posted by Happy22:I tried asking him out and wanted to cheer him up when he was down. But he rejected my 'date'. I guess the love worm started when one night, out of the blue, he suddenly smsed me whether I can chat with him on the phone and we chatted for 4 hours till 4am.
After that conversation, I don't know about him, but I seem to understand him better and still treat him like a friend. We still come out with our common friends, but we never come out one-on-one. If I really have to tell him how I feel, how to? what can I do? -
Just do it. Dont worry about what will happen after you confess as it will still depend on you
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are u hui ying?
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how on earth wud u know her name?Originally posted by brother no space:are u hui ying? -
dun tell me u e guy?Originally posted by brother no space:are u hui ying? -
Don't keep me in suspense!!!! The guy asked if your name is huiying!!!
I can forget about Love Concierge on ch8, this is reality drama. XDD -
let me guess if she is,
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wat?!?! i catch no balls
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if i were u, i will not go up to him and tell him straight that i like that person. Instead, i will go look for someone who knows that person a lot, and ask that person to find out for u. So in this case, u won't lose face, and can find out if he returns the feelings for u
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As what others have said, whether u are going by the "DO IT URSELF" or "FRIENDS", you are taking a risk. No one can decide for urself other than urself. So, risk it if u feel u should. Don't if u do not want to. But just do not regret ur decision(i know its hard, but thru experiences can u become more matured. Accept it and move on).
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How come my agony becomes a guessing game?
I am not huiying. I feel like having a talk with him over the phone but I have no idea what excuse can i use to make that call.