How Do You Know if He/She is the One?
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yea it is a common question, but one that I think hard to find answer to.Originally posted by Sekundes:The one, this seem like a common question for couples ?
I'm not sure what is the one,
If you were to treat every mate that enters your life like the on, he/she would be the one, if things goes the right way.
The One seems to be like someone who He or she is going to marry in some cases ?
I guess I will just take things one step at a time...
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You just know, dear girl : )
When you've found that person who makes you feel like the most beautiful girl in the world, & makes you want to sing to the world, you'll know what others talk about : )
FeowFeowOriginally posted by rainee:How can you tell?
In books and movies, it is often portrayed as the instinct telling the main character that this is the person he/she will be with for the rest of their lives. Does it work the same way in reality?
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Thats a good description. hahaha...Originally posted by FeowFeow:You just know, dear girl : )
When you've found that person who makes you feel like the most beautiful girl in the world, & makes you want to sing to the world, you'll know what others talk about : )
FeowFeow
Man don't I feel like doing that...
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Originally posted by rainee:How can you tell?
In books and movies, it is often portrayed as the instinct telling the main character that this is the person he/she will be with for the rest of their lives. Does it work the same way in reality? 
Human being never think rationally, despite how rational he/she tells you.
In fact, ALL our decision is emotional based.
We make decision based on our feelings and justify using our logics.
Therefore, our heart is 24 times stronger than our mind.
The One is a myth.
It depends on which perspective you are holding.
People talks about God... but until we breathe our last, we will not get to see God personally, or the truth on whether God existed in the first place.
So what matters here?
To lead a fulfilling life and make the best out of it while you are still alive, isn't it?
Similarly, 'The One' and God may be important, but in reality, we just have to focus our attention on our present, as our future is indirectly shaped by our present.
Do not devalue a relationship just because it is missing out a soul mate feeling or to linger in a 'bad' relationship just because you felt the soul mate feeling. You will NEVER know if it is a soul mate feeling or a karmic relationship (unless through some means... e.g. Astrology).
The truth is: karmic relationship produce the same vibes as soul mate feeling.
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This paragraph alone is awesomeOriginally posted by Yunhaier: Human being never think rationally, despite how rational he/she tells you.
In fact, ALL our decision is emotional based.
We make decision based on our feelings and justify using our logics.
Therefore, our heart is 24 times stronger than our mind.
The One is a myth.
It depends on which perspective you are holding.
People talks about God... but until we breathe our last, we will not get to see God personally, or the truth on whether God existed in the first place.
So what matters here?
To lead a fulfilling life and make the best out of it while you are still alive, isn't it?
Similarly, 'The One' and God may be important, but in reality, we just have to focus our attention on our present, as our future is indirectly shaped by our present.
Do not devalue a relationship just because it is missing out a soul mate feeling or to linger in a 'bad' relationship just because you felt the soul mate feeling. You will NEVER know if it is a soul mate feeling or a karmic relationship (unless through some means... e.g. Astrology).
The truth is: karmic relationship produce the same vibes as soul mate feeling.
Cheers
And I think I might have found the answer...thanks again for all advice -
Don't we all : )
I went through disasters before I finally found this 1, & I hope to keep him always : )
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Sekundes:Thats a good description. hahaha...
Man don't I feel like doing that... -
Same here,Originally posted by FeowFeow:Don't we all : )
I went through disasters before I finally found this 1, & I hope to keep him always : )
FeowFeow
I went through quite alot of her suitors just to be with her.
Though she already fell in love with me,
I do wish for a goof effort to put in chasing her.
GLHF for ur relationship Feow Feow -
Dear Rainee,if I mayOriginally posted by rainee:be serious for once in my thread, is that possible?
NO one knows if he is the ONE.no one knows e future nor can guarantee it.No one can also tell u if he is the one.CLoud ur mind, they must not. haha
I feel that the important ting is.here n now..if u are happi with the person,n he treats u well n make u happi.then cherish it. Sumtimes the memories are worth more than the questions n doubts. N if he treats you de same or even better after marriage..then IM sure you can confidently say He is the ONe for u.
jus my 0.02cts
" How cud sumthing as beautiful as love hurts so bad?".... -
Because it comes with a great price. If it doesn't hurt, it ain't worth it.Originally posted by megatron:" How cud sumthing as beautiful as love hurts so bad?"....
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Great price indeed...will thnkn abt it when im hurting less...Time....time....Originally posted by M©+square:Because it comes with a great price. If it doesn't hurt, it ain't worth it.
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Yes, you are right... 'Listening to the heart' is just part of the story... It may not always be right... It lets you into a part of your heart... A part of your perception... Parts which might be desirable to you but otherwise hidden...Originally posted by rainee:But often when it comes to love, my instinct might be wrong. It might be because I harbor too much hopes towards a certain outcome, and hence I sorta convince myself that that outcome is possible.
So now when I have an instinct and it seems to be rather impossible at the current moment, I will start to doubt myself and try to not listen to it. I know people have been telling me to listen to my heart and instinct, but I am still scared that it might be telling me the wrong thing, and by following it, I will go down the wrong path.
'Listening to your heart' doesn't means you just follow it blindly... It means LISTENING to it... Then make proper decisions based on it as a piece of information... -
y cant a relationship be simple, innocent love?
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Only when you're a toddler till primary school.Originally posted by brother no space:y cant a relationship be simple, innocent love?
Everything is simple then.
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we wun know if that person is the one for the rest of our lives...
but when it comes...we will be too happy to think of other things...
when both can chat for long hours...chat for months...maybe a year or 2...without running out of topic...the other party is giving the person (be it male or female vice visa) what he/she needs...
miss the person more...when he/she is sad, your emotions are directly the same as his/hers or affected by his/her mood 80% and above...
when he/she is sick...you will take off even if u have important things to do just to have time to take care of him/her...
for guys: he shld be seeing his gf off to work daily...or at least see her off to work at the door or at least board the transport to work den head back...
if both person go to a quiet lifeless place...but as long as you both feel happy and contented...have to have this feeling 'as long as with him/her, no matter what place...i hope the time stops right now..' that kind of feeling...
when u sleep, or before sleep, you think of him/her
when its raining..you will worry bout him/her didnt use the blanket, scared that she/he fall sick the next day...
when the both of you go out together...always hold hands...ocassionally hug or pet each other...maybe that happens more in mrt...
walk side by side...if boarding & alighting from transportation, ladies first, afterwhich the man...this applies to the escalators too..
while eating..feed each other...share food...feeding each other...
etc...
maybe this are some things that i can think of...to at least have a rough idea of probably the one your looking for... -
Every relationship i step in, i thought she will be the one, but every relationship turns out to be a disappointment. There is NO such thing as the one. The one u married usually/tends not to be the one u love the most. it just so happens that he/she appears at the right place at the right time.
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Nay.. You'll probably have to be CRYING real loud for something ya want... And if you're doing it wrongly..? You might even be SPANKED for that...Originally posted by M©+square:Only when you're a toddler till primary school.
Everything is simple then.
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you won't know until the day u died.
so no point mooding about it.
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Originally posted by Devil1976:Nay.. You'll probably have to be CRYING real loud for something ya want... And if you're doing it wrongly..? You might even be SPANKED for that...
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so cheem...there is never A One...sometimes there is something better than the One
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Then have you let go of the girl who is not The One already?Originally posted by StarPuppy:so cheem...there is never A One...sometimes there is something better than the One
p.s Trick Question.
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don't torment the lad la you..Originally posted by M©+square:Then have you let go of the girl who is not The One already?
p.s Trick Question.
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best solutionOriginally posted by rainee:yea it is a common question, but one that I think hard to find answer to.
I guess I will just take things one step at a time... -
Originally posted by Lance_han:don't torment the lad la you.. MC evil.
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don't be afraid, there's alway something known as karmaOriginally posted by M©+square: MC evil.
Cheers Don't be surprised when one day, his girl might turn out to be more beautiful then yours.. -
Then i'll be happy for him!Originally posted by Lance_han:don't be afraid, there's alway something known as karma Don't be surprised when one day, his girl might turn out to be more beautiful then yours..
beauty is only but one physical attribute.
Cheers