how do re-establish contact with an old crush?

• The Count of Monte-Cristo

  6 Jan 06, 01:57

  If u once had a crush on someone or a failed love interest of yours which never materialise becos of some problems involving a third party (eg.backstabbed u) , difference in opinion, fear,shyness or failure to declare your love in the nick of time (eg.your love interest left to other countries ), But years down the road u cant forget him or her....But choose to wait for the right time (your career stable ectt) and then try for a 2nd shot at the situation...How will u approach the person and talk to him or her, when the time u know is ripe?
  
  
• aRcTiC_sTaR

  6 Jan 06, 02:07

  Just ask the person out.
  
  Maybe for a movie or an outdoor activity.
  
  When you're spending time with that person, you'll know soon enough whether it is feasible to proceed or not.
• The Count of Monte-Cristo

  6 Jan 06, 02:11

  What if u did not have contact with that person for YEARS but u have knowledge on their whereabouts, home address and their old gifts to u or u still haivng some photos which the both of u took together ect.....
• aRcTiC_sTaR

  6 Jan 06, 02:14

  Hmnnn can't say much 'cos I seldom approach them...
  
  BUT
  
  If we're still on friendly terms, I'd just have a casual chat and ask what she's doing at the moment (studying/working etc). Then if the chat goes well (she's reponsive), I might just casually say we could meet up some time for coffee or a movie.
  
  If she's NOT responsive during the chat, it'd be good to give up or to wait and see if things improve first. Don't ask her out if she's totally not interested in even going out as a casual date.
• Fatum

  6 Jan 06, 02:16

  
  let the ghosts of the past stay in the past ....
  
  be thankful for the memories, .... trying to revive this ghost shall only destroy whatever memories you have .....
  
  leave it alone bro ... .
  
  
• The Count of Monte-Cristo

  6 Jan 06, 02:17

  I do not believe that old memories will get wiped out. Old memories are old and they have nothing to do with present, am i correct to say this?.....
• The Count of Monte-Cristo

  6 Jan 06, 02:19

  and i do believe that a second try is not going to change things much even if it fails? Better to have tried and failed than fail to try
• The Count of Monte-Cristo

  6 Jan 06, 02:20

  or should u get someone example yr parents or friends to talk to that person on yr behalf?
• Fatum

  6 Jan 06, 02:23

  Originally posted by The Count of Monte-Cristo:

  I do not believe that old memories will get wiped out. Old memories are old and they have nothing to do with present, am i correct to say this?.....

  if she is happy and content with someone else now, what then ? ... would you selfishly brage into her world then ? ... and you did mention it's a crush, not even an old flame eh ? ... chances are, she'd just think you freaky coming out of the blue like that after long years ....
  
  of course then, you'd hurt yourself further ....
  
  so, best course to take, let it go bro ....
  
  whatever the case, good luck ....
  
  
• skeujin

  6 Jan 06, 02:23

  Originally posted by The Count of Monte-Cristo:

  or should u get someone example yr parents or friends to talk to that person on yr behalf?

  u tink this is the olden days ah? need matchmaker?
  
  wana tok to er thn giv a call. catch up on old times but make sure u dont malu yrslf if she doesnt even knw tt u exist in the 1st plc
• The Count of Monte-Cristo

  6 Jan 06, 02:26

  Originally posted by skeujin:

  u tink this is the olden days ah? need matchmaker?
  
  wana tok to er thn giv a call. catch up on old times but make sure u dont malu yrslf if she doesnt even knw tt u exist in the 1st plc

  how can the person deny yr existence when u have old photos or gifts from her still wif u?
• The Count of Monte-Cristo

  6 Jan 06, 02:27

  what happens when u show hom or her those things? they will get malu first
• skeujin

  6 Jan 06, 02:29

  Originally posted by The Count of Monte-Cristo:

  how can the person deny yr existence when u have old photos or gifts from her still wif u?

  well u havg such possession does not mean she knws u.
  
  u said crush. means u like the gal bt thers nuthg more to it. usually people who have crushes nvr act on them. thus days like this wen threads like this appear.
  
  so im wondering lor. were u ever frens? n i mean as in chatting n going out. in groups or otherwise. not some i smile at her she smile back crap.
  
  have you done anythg w her significant enuf for you to b remebered?
• Fatum

  6 Jan 06, 02:30

  Originally posted by The Count of Monte-Cristo:

  what happens when u show hom or her those things? they will get malu first

  no they won't .... chances are, the girl will freak out first .... go ask some female friends how they would react if you don't believe me
• skeujin

  6 Jan 06, 02:30

  Originally posted by The Count of Monte-Cristo:

  what happens when u show hom or her those things? they will get malu first

  wats the point in showing them?
• The Count of Monte-Cristo

  6 Jan 06, 02:31

  Originally posted by skeujin:

  well u havg such possession does not mean she knws u.
  
  u said crush. means u like the gal bt thers nuthg more to it. usually people who have crushes nvr act on them. thus days like this wen threads like this appear.
  
  so im wondering lor. were u ever frens? n i mean as in chatting n going out. in groups or otherwise. not some i smile at her she smile back crap.
  
  have you done anythg w her significant enuf for you to b remebered?

  Yes. have done enough significant things like the things u described. Not someone who just Hi, bye and smile back.
• The Count of Monte-Cristo

  6 Jan 06, 02:34

  Originally posted by Fatum:

  no they won't .... chances are, the girl will freak out first .... go ask some female friends how they would react if you don't believe me

  if u really love that person, u will by now knew how he or she is likely to react.
  Anticipation, planning and execution and some gut level feeling is the key my friend.
• skeujin

  6 Jan 06, 02:36

  Originally posted by The Count of Monte-Cristo:

  if u really love that person, u will by now knew how he or she is likely to react.
  Anticipation, planning and execution and some gut level feeling is the key my friend.

  u knw thn y r u askg for our opinion....
• Ayukat

  6 Jan 06, 02:36

  Tis 39 year old guy seems even more immature than me... budden... love is blind...
• The Count of Monte-Cristo

  6 Jan 06, 02:38

  Originally posted by Ayukat:

  Tis 39 year old guy seems even more immature than me... budden... love is blind...

  I am not 39. my real age is much less, oh well That is for the autobiography....
• The Count of Monte-Cristo

  6 Jan 06, 02:38

  Originally posted by Ayukat:

  Tis 39 year old guy seems even more immature than me... budden... love is blind...

  Blind love is true love.
• The Count of Monte-Cristo

  6 Jan 06, 02:40

  Originally posted by skeujin:

  u knw thn y r u askg for our opinion....

  My true opinion is ....If u know her reaction is gong to be negative, just find out ways to work around it so as not to have it materialise
• M©+square

  6 Jan 06, 02:42

  Originally posted by The Count of Monte-Cristo:

  Blind love is true love.

  
  
  If you dare to commit suicide, then i say you've got true love.
  
  If you take yourself seriously, think straight.
  
  Cheers
• The Count of Monte-Cristo

  6 Jan 06, 02:42

  U have heard stories where old school classmates meet again and married settle down in life?
  
  
• skeujin

  6 Jan 06, 02:44

  Originally posted by The Count of Monte-Cristo:

  My true opinion is ....If u know her reaction is gong to be negative, just find out ways to work around it so as not to have it materialise

  hello... you havnt met her in a long time. people's charecteristics do change. if she can be read so easliy in the 1st place. ud b with her in the past. n probly still b w her now
  
  geez i wonderr if u r even listening to yrslf