We have break off
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after one year plus of relationship, my bf and me finally break off.
i am very hurt and sad. heart ache and lost....
we break off cos he said he is very stress at work, no time for me, cant give me anything......
but he said he is sorry about it.....i am reallly hurt
why guys stress out will affect the relationship with the gf. I give him plenty of times to solve his problem and never push or stress him to meet me...
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u sure it is about work??Originally posted by changb57: after one year plus of relationship, my bf and me finally break off.
i am very hurt and sad. heart ache and lost....
we break off cos he said he is very stress at work, no time for me, cant give me anything......
but he said he is sorry about it.....i am reallly hurt
why guys stress out will affect the relationship with the gf. I give him plenty of times to solve his problem and never push or stress him to meet me...
he is not using work as an excuse??? -
wats the cause of the break up? care to share?
Anyway, what happened has happened. You might grieve now, but soon you will feel better and will move on again
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yes cos recently he told me that his work got alot of problems and his boss is not happy with the performance...and the company might lose $$$$$ on it.....
and he often not having his lunch, holiday also work thru the days....not celebrating the new year and christmas .....etc.... no mood of course....
i heart ache but i know i need to accept the fact, just that the process is very painful....and i know its take time to heal....
on the other hand, another of my guy friends know we break off, very happy and want to meet me, i really don wish to go into relationship so soon... -
give yourself some time to healOriginally posted by changb57:yes cos recently he told me that his work got alot of problems and his boss is not happy with the performance...and the company might lose $$$$$ on it.....
and he often not having his lunch, holiday also work thru the days....not celebrating the new year and christmas .....etc.... no mood of course....
i heart ache but i know i need to accept the fact, just that the process is very painful....and i know its take time to heal....
on the other hand, another of my guy friends know we break off, very happy and want to meet me, i really don wish to go into relationship so soon...
Hmm, I dun like the sound of this guy...if he really cares about you, he would give you time to move on, instead of being happy just because you break up. Yes, of cos it means opportunity for him, but to me it seems like he is taking advantage of your sadness. Don't go on a r/s so soon, because it might be a rebound one, which will cause both of you problems later on. -
he must be thinking that he might not be financially independent soonOriginally posted by changb57:yes cos recently he told me that his work got alot of problems and his boss is not happy with the performance...and the company might lose $$$$$ on it.....
and he often not having his lunch, holiday also work thru the days....not celebrating the new year and christmas .....etc.... no mood of course....
i heart ache but i know i need to accept the fact, just that the process is very painful....and i know its take time to heal....
on the other hand, another of my guy friends know we break off, very happy and want to meet me, i really don wish to go into relationship so soon...
i think he doesn't know how to take things in his stride, there is always work available, if u can't work for this co. there is always another job offer elsewhere.
take things easy, time will heal yr wound.
yr guy friend, i got nothing to say about this type of fellow who take the opportunity, u need someone to console u, not another bf -
thanks, i don wish to and i have explained to the guy i don want as well.
cos i did love my bf....or maybe ex bf now...and i truly love him...
the feeling is still here, my house full of things that remind me of him....
even the hp, also brought together with him...
i need time to heal of course, but i just don understand why guys stress out will be like this,.....to be honest, this is the 2nd time already....
work too stress, scold me easily, i feel sad, maybe they feel guilty, then break off......
don understand...
any guy can explain, maybe guy understand more about his situation...pressure at work..... -
ask him change to a new working environment.
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how do you get to know him in the 1st place? school?
most men will look up to their career 1st. r/s to them is secondary, not being stable in their career how they going to talk about love?
anyway just treat this as a blessing, cos least that he decided to let you go, knowing that he cant affort to spend time wif you due to commitment in work. if he stick on wif you, he is being selfish for delaying your youth where you might get more opportunity for getting to know for pple in the future.
life has to go on. focus your attention in work and get more opportunity to meet up potential guys. -
Dear Changb57,
I would recommend you read Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars. What your bf is going through is in fact, quite common. Being a woman, I've actually gone through the same thing, Not that I'd break up with my partner, but feeling stressed & having it affect our relationship.
It's up to the couple to work things out & see if some sorta compromise can be reached. Nowadays, I try to leave work behind when I leave the office, & being human, sometimes I still screw up. My partner is also more understanding when I'm snappy due to stress, but I usually apologise fairly quickly for being unreasonable.
To those whose career matters to them, it's only natural for them to be more absorbed about work than anything else. Since he's chosen to break up with you, & since you've stated that you've Not been unreasonable, perhaps it's Not too late to talk to him about it.
Let him know that you're feeling very hurt about his decision, since you've made few demands on him. Try to understand & accommodate his nature, because everybody has something close to their hearts, & to your bf, work is 1 of them. If both of you can work things out, then a breakup may Not be necessary.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by changb57: after one year plus of relationship, my bf and me finally break off.
i am very hurt and sad. heart ache and lost....
we break off cos he said he is very stress at work, no time for me, cant give me anything......
but he said he is sorry about it.....i am reallly hurt
why guys stress out will affect the relationship with the gf. I give him plenty of times to solve his problem and never push or stress him to meet me... -
i am soft hearted person, and i do cry alot.
every nites i cried , i see his sms he sent to me before i cried, i see the things related to him i also cried, its been a week already i still cried..........today my eyes swollen, my face look terrible today at work....in fact cant work...
i think i need to change an environment or maybe have a good break and see how it goes... -
seems your ex-bf is having some mid-life or work crisis.
stay by his side. he needs alot of support now.
the dumbest thing he ever done (for now) is to let you go.
he most probably feel useless for making you cry, and not being able to do anything (because his hands are tied).
i believe you two will get back together soon. going through thick and thin will only make your relationship stronger.
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your advise is good, but when a man stands to what's his principle and stands, there is no way to change him.Originally posted by FeowFeow:Dear Changb57,
I would recommend you read Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars. What your bf is going through is in fact, quite common. Being a woman, I've actually gone through the same thing, Not that I'd break up with my partner, but feeling stressed & having it affect our relationship.
It's up to the couple to work things out & see if some sorta compromise can be reached. Nowadays, I try to leave work behind when I leave the office, & being human, sometimes I still screw up. My partner is also more understanding when I'm snappy due to stress, but I usually apologise fairly quickly for being unreasonable.
To those whose career matters to them, it's only natural for them to be more absorbed about work than anything else. Since he's chosen to break up with you, & since you've stated that you've Not been unreasonable, perhaps it's Not too late to talk to him about it.
Let him know that you're feeling very hurt about his decision, since you've made few demands on him. Try to understand & accommodate his nature, because everybody has something close to their hearts, & to your bf, work is 1 of them. If both of you can work things out, then a breakup may Not be necessary.
FeowFeow
To Changb57:
do wat Feowx2 told u, but the decision lies within your man. if he know dat you are understanding and still care for him, he will eventually be back by your side. -
weird.... maybe there something else but since break off liao jz let it be... got plenty guys out there no worries...Originally posted by changb57: after one year plus of relationship, my bf and me finally break off.
i am very hurt and sad. heart ache and lost....
we break off cos he said he is very stress at work, no time for me, cant give me anything......
but he said he is sorry about it.....i am reallly hurt
why guys stress out will affect the relationship with the gf. I give him plenty of times to solve his problem and never push or stress him to meet me... -
i am also feeling lousy and shiity...
been with my gf for 4 yrs plus... we are so good together...we even have plans to ROM... however things took a bad turn when we entered into the working enviroment...
in less than 2 mths...she changed..she found someone new.... i felt so hurt and shity...
cant really trust love these days... -
stress can even drive a person to commit suicide,whats breaking off?
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/Patz changb57's head.. Take a break then?Originally posted by changb57:yes cos recently he told me that his work got alot of problems and his boss is not happy with the performance...and the company might lose $$$$$ on it.....
and he often not having his lunch, holiday also work thru the days....not celebrating the new year and christmas .....etc.... no mood of course....
i heart ache but i know i need to accept the fact, just that the process is very painful....and i know its take time to heal....
on the other hand, another of my guy friends know we break off, very happy and want to meet me, i really don wish to go into relationship so soon... -
Hmm...valentine's day coming...hmm...
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Originally posted by ALKS:i am also feeling lousy and shiity...
been with my gf for 4 yrs plus... we are so good together...we even have plans to ROM... however things took a bad turn when we entered into the working enviroment...
in less than 2 mths...she changed..she found someone new.... i felt so hurt and shity...
cant really trust love these days... 
It simply means that the relationship wasn't good at all.
You only thought that it was good.
Cheers -
Originally posted by changb57: after one year plus of relationship, my bf and me finally break off.
i am very hurt and sad. heart ache and lost....
we break off cos he said he is very stress at work, no time for me, cant give me anything......
but he said he is sorry about it.....i am reallly hurt
why guys stress out will affect the relationship with the gf. I give him plenty of times to solve his problem and never push or stress him to meet me... Time may not be what he needs.
Cheers -
yeah agreee totally...nv even try to concern or care abt threadstarter and anyways to help the threadstarter to patch with her bf instead straight away wanting to stead with the threadstarter...Originally posted by rainee:give yourself some time to heal
Hmm, I dun like the sound of this guy...if he really cares about you, he would give you time to move on, instead of being happy just because you break up. Yes, of cos it means opportunity for him, but to me it seems like he is taking advantage of your sadness. Don't go on a r/s so soon, because it might be a rebound one, which will cause both of you problems later on. -
another crappy man.Originally posted by changb57: after one year plus of relationship, my bf and me finally break off.
i am very hurt and sad. heart ache and lost....
we break off cos he said he is very stress at work, no time for me, cant give me anything......
but he said he is sorry about it.....i am reallly hurt
why guys stress out will affect the relationship with the gf. I give him plenty of times to solve his problem and never push or stress him to meet me...
Forget him and move on, the going might be difficult right now but as time pass feeling will be fine..
What you need is time to heal up..
You have our moral support, when feeling lonely or etc just online and chat with us.. -
wrong timing to advertise that overrated special occasion which will flatten our wallets and fatten the greeting-cards, chocolate and fine-dining industry's wallets.Originally posted by maggot:Hmm...valentine's day coming...hmm... -
more exposureOriginally posted by ALKS:i am also feeling lousy and shiity...
been with my gf for 4 yrs plus... we are so good together...we even have plans to ROM... however things took a bad turn when we entered into the working enviroment...
in less than 2 mths...she changed..she found someone new.... i felt so hurt and shity...
cant really trust love these days...
she found out that u r not really the one for her
things happen -
If he no time, WE have the time !
