u sure it is about work??Originally posted by changb57:after one year plus of relationship, my bf and me finally break off.
i am very hurt and sad. heart ache and lost....
we break off cos he said he is very stress at work, no time for me, cant give me anything......![]()
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but he said he is sorry about it.....i am reallly hurt
why guys stress out will affect the relationship with the gf. I give him plenty of times to solve his problem and never push or stress him to meet me...![]()
give yourself some time to healOriginally posted by changb57:yes cos recently he told me that his work got alot of problems and his boss is not happy with the performance...and the company might lose $$$$$ on it.....
and he often not having his lunch, holiday also work thru the days....not celebrating the new year and christmas .....etc.... no mood of course....
i heart ache but i know i need to accept the fact, just that the process is very painful....and i know its take time to heal....
on the other hand, another of my guy friends know we break off, very happy and want to meet me, i really don wish to go into relationship so soon...![]()
he must be thinking that he might not be financially independent soonOriginally posted by changb57:yes cos recently he told me that his work got alot of problems and his boss is not happy with the performance...and the company might lose $$$$$ on it.....
and he often not having his lunch, holiday also work thru the days....not celebrating the new year and christmas .....etc.... no mood of course....
i heart ache but i know i need to accept the fact, just that the process is very painful....and i know its take time to heal....
on the other hand, another of my guy friends know we break off, very happy and want to meet me, i really don wish to go into relationship so soon...![]()
Originally posted by changb57:after one year plus of relationship, my bf and me finally break off.
i am very hurt and sad. heart ache and lost....
we break off cos he said he is very stress at work, no time for me, cant give me anything......![]()
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but he said he is sorry about it.....i am reallly hurt
why guys stress out will affect the relationship with the gf. I give him plenty of times to solve his problem and never push or stress him to meet me...![]()
your advise is good, but when a man stands to what's his principle and stands, there is no way to change him.Originally posted by FeowFeow:Dear Changb57,
I would recommend you read Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars. What your bf is going through is in fact, quite common. Being a woman, I've actually gone through the same thing, Not that I'd break up with my partner, but feeling stressed & having it affect our relationship.
It's up to the couple to work things out & see if some sorta compromise can be reached. Nowadays, I try to leave work behind when I leave the office, & being human, sometimes I still screw up. My partner is also more understanding when I'm snappy due to stress, but I usually apologise fairly quickly for being unreasonable.
To those whose career matters to them, it's only natural for them to be more absorbed about work than anything else. Since he's chosen to break up with you, & since you've stated that you've Not been unreasonable, perhaps it's Not too late to talk to him about it.
Let him know that you're feeling very hurt about his decision, since you've made few demands on him. Try to understand & accommodate his nature, because everybody has something close to their hearts, & to your bf, work is 1 of them. If both of you can work things out, then a breakup may Not be necessary.
FeowFeow
weird.... maybe there something else but since break off liao jz let it be... got plenty guys out there no worries...Originally posted by changb57:after one year plus of relationship, my bf and me finally break off.
i am very hurt and sad. heart ache and lost....
we break off cos he said he is very stress at work, no time for me, cant give me anything......![]()
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but he said he is sorry about it.....i am reallly hurt
why guys stress out will affect the relationship with the gf. I give him plenty of times to solve his problem and never push or stress him to meet me...![]()
/Patz changb57's head.. Take a break then?Originally posted by changb57:yes cos recently he told me that his work got alot of problems and his boss is not happy with the performance...and the company might lose $$$$$ on it.....
and he often not having his lunch, holiday also work thru the days....not celebrating the new year and christmas .....etc.... no mood of course....
i heart ache but i know i need to accept the fact, just that the process is very painful....and i know its take time to heal....
on the other hand, another of my guy friends know we break off, very happy and want to meet me, i really don wish to go into relationship so soon...![]()
Originally posted by ALKS:i am also feeling lousy and shiity...
been with my gf for 4 yrs plus... we are so good together...we even have plans to ROM... however things took a bad turn when we entered into the working enviroment...
in less than 2 mths...she changed..she found someone new.... i felt so hurt and shity...
cant really trust love these days...![]()
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Originally posted by changb57:after one year plus of relationship, my bf and me finally break off.
i am very hurt and sad. heart ache and lost....
we break off cos he said he is very stress at work, no time for me, cant give me anything......![]()
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but he said he is sorry about it.....i am reallly hurt
why guys stress out will affect the relationship with the gf. I give him plenty of times to solve his problem and never push or stress him to meet me...![]()
yeah agreee totally...nv even try to concern or care abt threadstarter and anyways to help the threadstarter to patch with her bf instead straight away wanting to stead with the threadstarter...Originally posted by rainee:give yourself some time to heal
Hmm, I dun like the sound of this guy...if he really cares about you, he would give you time to move on, instead of being happy just because you break up. Yes, of cos it means opportunity for him, but to me it seems like he is taking advantage of your sadness. Don't go on a r/s so soon, because it might be a rebound one, which will cause both of you problems later on.
another crappy man.Originally posted by changb57:after one year plus of relationship, my bf and me finally break off.
i am very hurt and sad. heart ache and lost....
we break off cos he said he is very stress at work, no time for me, cant give me anything......![]()
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but he said he is sorry about it.....i am reallly hurt
why guys stress out will affect the relationship with the gf. I give him plenty of times to solve his problem and never push or stress him to meet me...![]()
wrong timing to advertise that overrated special occasion which will flatten our wallets and fatten the greeting-cards, chocolate and fine-dining industry's wallets.Originally posted by maggot:Hmm...valentine's day coming...hmm...![]()
more exposureOriginally posted by ALKS:i am also feeling lousy and shiity...
been with my gf for 4 yrs plus... we are so good together...we even have plans to ROM... however things took a bad turn when we entered into the working enviroment...
in less than 2 mths...she changed..she found someone new.... i felt so hurt and shity...
cant really trust love these days...![]()
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