Some advice to decipher such a situation
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Anyone ever encounter such a situation plz give some advice.. thks
you ask a gal to be your gf, she says 1 month is kinda fast n she's not kinda ready... so being frenz wld be beta for now...
after agreeing, continue as frenz... now this gal starts to like intro her gal-frenz to you... asking you to consider her frenz....
so what does this all means?? -
she asked you to consider her friends?? i give you two reasons.
1. she really wants you to go aft her friends.
2. she wants to know of why u wudnt take her friends but would rather take you as ur gf. here, you have to give reasons why you don't want her friend. but dont go to the point of flattering her like crazy coz' it'll be too fake. be sincere why you wouldnt pick her friends to be ur gf. -
Pretty obvious isn't it?
Interesting, didn't think of that possibility
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obvious?? wat's obvious??Originally posted by AlexJS:Pretty obvious isn't it?
Interesting, didn't think of that possibility -
haiz... dun reali know which is it that she's thinking....Originally posted by sinicker:she asked you to consider her friends?? i give you two reasons.
1. she really wants you to go aft her friends.
2. she wants to know of why u wudnt take her friends but would rather take you as ur gf. here, you have to give reasons why you don't want her friend. but dont go to the point of flattering her like crazy coz' it'll be too fake. be sincere why you wouldnt pick her friends to be ur gf.
but she did ask back why dun like her frenz?? what's so bad about them -
Maybe she would rather be friends with you and hope that you will go after her friends instead? Because she dunno how to reject you directly, so she is trying to "distract" you by introducing you to her frens?Originally posted by falling_stars:Anyone ever encounter such a situation plz give some advice.. thks
you ask a gal to be your gf, she says 1 month is kinda fast n she's not kinda ready... so being frenz wld be beta for now...
after agreeing, continue as frenz... now this gal starts to like intro her gal-frenz to you... asking you to consider her frenz....
so what does this all means?? -
but to me she seems like trying to playaround with me... sometime this gal she take to intro me.... then sometime she teases me about anotherOriginally posted by rainee:Maybe she would rather be friends with you and hope that you will go after her friends instead? Because she dunno how to reject you directly, so she is trying to "distract" you by introducing you to her frens? -
falling stars, it's up to you to conclude which one she is trying to do to you ah.. in my post, it may be no. 1 or 2. no. 2 happened to me. and 2 mths later, she accepted me. but it lasted 7 mths only ah..
we have deciphered. now, it's all up to you to conclude which one she is doing to you. -
Since you know she is playing around with you, why don't you speak your mind to her about what you really want? Tell her that you are really interested in her, and am not interested in her friends.Originally posted by falling_stars:but to me she seems like trying to playaround with me... sometime this gal she take to intro me.... then sometime she teases me about another -
haiz... i did laa.... but arh.... can only says she's very naughty de loh... dun noe laa.... reali confused by her sometimes...Originally posted by rainee:Since you know she is playing around with you, why don't you speak your mind to her about what you really want? Tell her that you are really interested in her, and am not interested in her friends. -
mine is she ask me wad kind of gurls i like..i told her..den she said she couldn't be that type la..den she 'haha'
later she apologised and said that she wasn't in the right state of mind that night.
wad does it mean?
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Wat is your relationship with her at that time?? gona give more details mah...Originally posted by yuko-ogura:mine is she ask me wad kind of gurls i like..i told her..den she said she couldn't be that type la..den she 'haha'
later she apologised and said that she wasn't in the right state of mind that night.
wad does it mean?
kind hard to tell you with such limited info -
Tell her that you take such thing seriously and you would like her to give you a true answer rather than playing you around?Originally posted by falling_stars:haiz... i did laa.... but arh.... can only says she's very naughty de loh... dun noe laa.... reali confused by her sometimes...
and how old are both of you? -
ok laa.. actuali ever since the last time i didnt reali mention this b4 again... jux that she like time to time ask me to go for her fren loh... we still chat on phone, go out together, one to one...Originally posted by rainee:Tell her that you take such thing seriously and you would like her to give you a true answer rather than playing you around?
and how old are both of you?
Think i wld have to tell her formally again one more time...
btw i m 23 and she's 26... -
wa at this age she still plays this kinda game with you?Originally posted by falling_stars:ok laa.. actuali ever since the last time i didnt reali mention this b4 again... jux that she like time to time ask me to go for her fren loh... we still chat on phone, go out together, one to one...
Think i wld have to tell her formally again one more time...
btw i m 24 and she's 27...
At first I thought she is a teenager or someone younger
Tell her to take your proposal more seriously ba
And tell her that you are not interested in her friends, she might just be using them to tempt you and to see your reactions -
x2Originally posted by rainee:wa at this age she still plays this kinda game with you?
At first I thought she is a teenager or someone younger
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From a very judgmental view, that girl's not interested. Otherwise, if she's interested, she's just too silly to tempt you with her friends. If her friend is successful, will make her miserable -
actuali it has been like 3 months since my proposal... so now have not mentioned to her again yet...Originally posted by rainee:wa at this age she still plays this kinda game with you?
At first I thought she is a teenager or someone younger
Tell her to take your proposal more seriously ba And tell her that you are not interested in her friends, she might just be using them to tempt you and to see your reactions
ya laa... she's the playful type of person given her age though.... but she's very mature indeed... definately more mature than i do for sure....
she did tell me of her past r/s exp so she's trying to be more careful now... -
Mention to her again, and if she continues to be like this, it is clear what she is hinting at.Originally posted by falling_stars:actuali it has been like 3 months since my proposal... so now have not mentioned to her again yet...
ya laa... she's the playful type of person given her age though.... but she's very mature indeed... definately more mature than i do for sure....
she did tell me of her past r/s exp so she's trying to be more careful now... -
that means she's not interested??Originally posted by rainee:Mention to her again, and if she continues to be like this, it is clear what she is hinting at.
ok... no jux trying to wait for a more suitable time to do it.... -
another thing i forgot to mention is that she's a gemini...
n she reali fits the characteristics of gemini having split personality or even multiple ones... -
Once u told her ur interested in her, she lose interest in you automatically liaw
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Originally posted by alexkusu:Once u told her ur interested in her, she lose interest in you automatically liaw I agree a bit. There's actually some truth in what you say.
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haiz... why is this the case most of the time??Originally posted by alexkusu:Once u told her ur interested in her, she lose interest in you automatically liaw -
I would go out with that girl she introduced to you. No harm meeting a new friend.Originally posted by falling_stars:but to me she seems like trying to playaround with me... sometime this gal she take to intro me.... then sometime she teases me about another
I agree with Sinicker with the possibilities he mentioned.
She is not interested and is trying to cushion the impact.
Since she enjoys being a pimp, you might as well oblige.
When the traffic light is red, you should make a U-turn and find the next green traffic light. It is better than waiting indefinitely.
She is running some sh!te tests on you
The disturbing fact is that she is already 26 and still plays all these mind games and sh!t tests.
I would be concerned about whether she can be a keeper in the long run! Do you want to spend your life entertaining a manipulative lady? Better think twiceÂ…
But DO call her on her bullsh!t anywaysÂ…cos itÂ’s fun to do so.
Meet that friend she wants to introduce to you. Show her a good time. This friend of hers obviously has a decent amount of interest in you. It shouldnÂ’t be difficult to impress her.
Cut down on your calls and emails. If your target is interested (and is just playing mind games) and she hears about how her friend enjoys the date, she will call and ask you why you are contacting her less often.
Just tell her you have your thing going. Busy with your job and a new hobby, etc.
If she teases you about changing your target so quicklyÂ…no staying power etcÂ…just tell her there is nothing wrong with meeting new people. She canÂ’t argue with that.
Continue to meet her one on one and have fun when she initiates it.
You left the ball in her court too early. But you can use this opportunity she has given you to win the ball back.
I don’t think you should make another “formal” confession again. She heard you loud and clear the first time.
So either wayÂ…meet that friend.