Some advice to decipher such a situation
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Originally posted by curiousOrange:
wow.... seems like the advice given here is real solid.... reali hits the ground hard with serious impact....
I would go out with that girl she introduced to you. No harm meeting a new friend.
I agree with Sinicker with the possibilities he mentioned.
[b]She is not interested and is trying to cushion the impact.
Since she enjoys being a pimp, you might as well oblige.
When the traffic light is red, you should make a U-turn and find the next green traffic light. It is better than waiting indefinitely.
She is running some sh!te tests on you
The disturbing fact is that she is already 26 and still plays all these mind games and sh!t tests.
I would be concerned about whether she can be a keeper in the long run! Do you want to spend your life entertaining a manipulative lady? Better think twiceÂ…
But DO call her on her bullsh!t anywaysÂ…cos itÂ’s fun to do so.
Meet that friend she wants to introduce to you. Show her a good time. This friend of hers obviously has a decent amount of interest in you. It shouldnÂ’t be difficult to impress her.
Cut down on your calls and emails. If your target is interested (and is just playing mind games) and she hears about how her friend enjoys the date, she will call and ask you why you are contacting her less often.
Just tell her you have your thing going. Busy with your job and a new hobby, etc.
If she teases you about changing your target so quicklyÂ…no staying power etcÂ…just tell her there is nothing wrong with meeting new people. She canÂ’t argue with that.
Continue to meet her one on one and have fun when she initiates it.
You left the ball in her court too early. But you can use this opportunity she has given you to win the ball back.
I don’t think you should make another “formal” confession again. She heard you loud and clear the first time.
So either wayÂ…meet that friend.
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ok will reali consider all your points made curious orange... thks -
Originally posted by falling_stars:wow.... seems like the advice given here is real solid.... reali hits the ground hard with serious impact....
ok will reali consider all your points made curious orange... thks
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but then again i did mention that she not only intro 1 to me... it's almost like 1 after another liao...
when i displayed minimum or no interest, her reply was " y leh?? my frenz not good meh?? cannot jux noe more frenz??"
so izzit jux me being anti-social or wat?? -
Because you're dense.Originally posted by falling_stars:but then again i did mention that she not only intro 1 to me... it's almost like 1 after another liao...
when i displayed minimum or no interest, her reply was " y leh?? my frenz not good meh?? cannot jux noe more frenz??"
so izzit jux me being anti-social or wat??
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maybe she trying to get u to know her frens?
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sorry but plz forgive my poor english.... what does dense means in this situation??Originally posted by M©+square:Because you're dense.
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haiz i reali dun noe man... she's a reali hard to guess one.... reali a 100% gemini gal will the traits of a multiple personalityOriginally posted by yuko-ogura:maybe she trying to get u to know her frens? -
It ranges from good/pure intent to planned intent.Originally posted by yuko-ogura:maybe she trying to get u to know her frens?
It depends how well he know his love interest. Quite obviously he doesn't know her well enough.
No matter what, it doesn't hurt to be sociable or try to be one.
There is this saying. If you settle/mix into your love interest's best friends/girlfriends, you'll have a easy life. Because they will be your angels.
It may be a test all these while.
Why not go ahead and try those test? Afraid of failing those test?
Might as well don't do the chase?
The most important question he haven't post.
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oes she show interest in thread starter?
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Like my friend, smittened by a Gemini's unpredictablity.Originally posted by falling_stars:haiz i reali dun noe man... she's a reali hard to guess one.... reali a 100% gemini gal will the traits of a multiple personality
Actually you could be too predictable, that's why she could grasp your thoughts and tease you around.
Anyway, these kind of girls find predictable guys a bore very soon.
(generally speaking)
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well enough or not i m also not too sure myself.... can onli say she did tell me a lot abt herself...Originally posted by M©+square:It ranges from good/pure intent to planned intent.
It depends how well he know his love interest. Quite obviously he doesn't know her well enough.
No matter what, it doesn't hurt to be sociable or try to be one.
There is this saying. If you settle/mix into your love interest's best friends/girlfriends, you'll have a easy life. Because they will be your angels.
It may be a test all these while.
Why not go ahead and try those test? Afraid of failing those test?
Might as well don't do the chase?
The most important question he haven't post.
::oes she show interest in thread starter?
Cheers
well i m not afraid of any test or anything... jux find it kinda redundant though
how would u define interest shown??
would remembering my bdae and giving me a surprise by asking ppl to send a birthday cake that she bought to me be considered interest or not?? -
could be true in some way....Originally posted by M©+square:Like my friend, smittened by a Gemini's unpredictablity.
Actually you could be too predictable, that's why she could grasp your thoughts and tease you around.
Anyway, these kind of girls find predictable guys a bore very soon.
(generally speaking)
Cheers
but haiz... how to be unpredictable then?? -
dont answer any of her questions.Originally posted by falling_stars:could be true in some way....
but haiz... how to be unpredictable then??
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You're funny.Originally posted by falling_stars:could be true in some way....
but haiz... how to be unpredictable then??
Go read up Orange's post to you again and again.
You may think it's good advise. But we know that almost more than half of the time. These advises are read but not understood.
Good advises are meant to be thought through and act upon(?).
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might as well as me not to talk to her rite??Originally posted by sinicker:dont answer any of her questions.
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Originally posted by curiousOrange:
good advice..
I would go out with that girl she introduced to you. No harm meeting a new friend.
I agree with Sinicker with the possibilities he mentioned.
[b]She is not interested and is trying to cushion the impact.
Since she enjoys being a pimp, you might as well oblige.
When the traffic light is red, you should make a U-turn and find the next green traffic light. It is better than waiting indefinitely.
She is running some sh!te tests on you
The disturbing fact is that she is already 26 and still plays all these mind games and sh!t tests.
I would be concerned about whether she can be a keeper in the long run! Do you want to spend your life entertaining a manipulative lady? Better think twiceÂ…
But DO call her on her bullsh!t anywaysÂ…cos itÂ’s fun to do so.
Meet that friend she wants to introduce to you. Show her a good time. This friend of hers obviously has a decent amount of interest in you. It shouldnÂ’t be difficult to impress her.
Cut down on your calls and emails. If your target is interested (and is just playing mind games) and she hears about how her friend enjoys the date, she will call and ask you why you are contacting her less often.
Just tell her you have your thing going. Busy with your job and a new hobby, etc.
If she teases you about changing your target so quicklyÂ…no staying power etcÂ…just tell her there is nothing wrong with meeting new people. She canÂ’t argue with that.
Continue to meet her one on one and have fun when she initiates it.
You left the ball in her court too early. But you can use this opportunity she has given you to win the ball back.
I don’t think you should make another “formal” confession again. She heard you loud and clear the first time.
So either wayÂ…meet that friend.
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talking about oneself is normal de.. girls tend to be talkative.. or else whats there to talk about nia..Originally posted by falling_stars:well enough or not i m also not too sure myself.... can onli say she did tell me a lot abt herself...
well i m not afraid of any test or anything... jux find it kinda redundant though
how would u define interest shown??
would remembering my bdae and giving me a surprise by asking ppl to send a birthday cake that she bought to me be considered interest or not??
to her.. u might be someone who can confide with.. a good friend who will listen to her when she needs u around.. someone who can chat her heart out knowing tat u dun have ill intentions..
possibilities are countless.. it is for u to decide whether how much u like her or whether is she worth ur time.. i see a number of sound advices here~ take ur time and choose the best one~
cheers~
the birthday cake thing does confuse things a little.. but well.. some things are hard to say.. i send flowers to my friend's office before on her birthday~ i dun really mean anything special~ just a surprise nia.. well.. up to u to decipher the situation~ double cheers~ -
In my opinion, I think she really likes you as a good friend, but is afraid that when she rejects you, you guys wouldn't be as good friends as before. It is possible that a few people have also told her their feelings before, and they weren't as good friends as before. So, she is sorta trying to make you give up on her, but still remain good friends.
But then...this is all my opinion. Maybe you could go out with one of her friends, and test her reaction. If it is like what I think, she will be a little jealous/not jealous, but relieved. -
Unpredictable sounds like unstable to me.Originally posted by falling_stars:could be true in some way....
but haiz... how to be unpredictable then??
I think the bottom line is, you have to keep her wondering about you.
Talk about anything under the sun. But donÂ’t disclose too much personal info at the initial stage.
Scenario 1:
You and her taking a walk around City Hall area after watching a concert at Esplanade when she mentions the dreaded question:
Her: “So why did you and your ex break up?”
You: “It happened.”
Her: “Surely there must be some reason?”
You: “We were young then, we could have done some things differently.”
(Change topic, make use of anything you see on the streets at this point.
Point to the War Memorial Hall)
You: “You know people can be inattentive sometimes. Like that War Memorial park over there…I walked past it so many times in my life, but I don’t really pay any attention to it.”
“Keen for some adventure?” Grab her hand and smile,
“Let’s do some exploring this time!”
Scenario 2:
She starts asking about your finances way too early in the relationship
Her: “I heard being a XXX pays well …”
You: “Oh…I earn enough”
Her: “……”
(Obviously, not satisfied with your answer and waiting)
You: “Enough to buy your little sister some balloons for her birthday…look at the designs they have here!”
Her: “……………..”
(SheÂ’s still looking p!ssed)
You: Hold her hand, smile and give her a kiss,“Asking too many questions”.
When she wants more info about you, tell her a little without lying about anything. -
so you see... that's the part that has confused the situation till now...Originally posted by binZ:the birthday cake thing does confuse things a little.. but well.. some things are hard to say.. i send flowers to my friend's office before on her birthday~ i dun really mean anything special~ just a surprise nia.. well.. up to u to decipher the situation~ double cheers~
i m sure one doesnt gives a birthday cake to every friend rite?? wat's more i only knew her like less than a month that time -
Motherly instinct!
Cheers -
orange, u satisfied ur curiosity yet?Originally posted by curiousOrange:“Keen for some adventure?”[/i] Grab her hand and smile,
“Let’s do some exploring this time!”
You: Hold her hand, smile and give her a kiss,“Asking too many questions”.
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dun think too much about it..Originally posted by falling_stars:so you see... that's the part that has confused the situation till now...
i m sure one doesnt gives a birthday cake to every friend rite?? wat's more i only knew her like less than a month that time
she might have other things than romance in her mind when she bought u the cake..
you might know the reason or u might not know the reason..
One always look at the present and look into the future..
im sure u wont let one cake interfere with ur decisions? -
Originally posted by M©+square: Motherly instinct!
Cheers -
Originally posted by curiousOrange:
Did you dream all this up or did you really do that with some girl before???
Unpredictable sounds like unstable to me.
I think the bottom line is, you have to keep her wondering about you.
Talk about anything under the sun. But donÂ’t disclose too much personal info at the initial stage.
[b]Scenario 1:
You and her taking a walk around City Hall area after watching a concert at Esplanade when she mentions the dreaded question:
Her: “So why did you and your ex break up?”
You: “It happened.”
Her: “Surely there must be some reason?”
You: “We were young then, we could have done some things differently.”
(Change topic, make use of anything you see on the streets at this point.
Point to the War Memorial Hall)
You: “You know people can be inattentive sometimes. Like that War Memorial park over there…I walked past it so many times in my life, but I don’t really pay any attention to it.”
“Keen for some adventure?” Grab her hand and smile,
“Let’s do some exploring this time!”
Scenario 2:
She starts asking about your finances way too early in the relationship
Her: “I heard being a XXX pays well …”
You: “Oh…I earn enough”
Her: “……”
(Obviously, not satisfied with your answer and waiting)
You: “Enough to buy your little sister some balloons for her birthday…look at the designs they have here!”
Her: “……………..”
(SheÂ’s still looking p!ssed)
You: Hold her hand, smile and give her a kiss,“Asking too many questions”.
When she wants more info about you, tell her a little without lying about anything.
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^^ possible, but the guy needs to be daring enough.
And falling_stars, it seems to me that girl is testing you out. Go out with one of the girls she introduced. Make sure it's the prettiest. That would make her jealous if she's interested in you. If she begins to take some initative after you went out with the other girl, congratulations.
The birthday cake kind of mess things up a bit. Did she deliver the cake herself, or just bought the cake and asked smoeone else to bring it? If she did it herself, most likely she did it with the intentions of love. Because that way, you would know she was the one who bought it. That's what i feel.