Kai Bu Liao Kou(Can't open mouth)
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Originally posted by curiousOrange:
thanks for ur points. i appreciate them too.
But did she enjoy the date with you?
Enjoy = A fun and memorable date. [b]Not an auntie agony session.
You want her to associate you with happy feelings, not negative ones.
It seems like all you did so far were listening to her relationship problems (her neg. feelings) and giving her advices.
Chances are, she has already got used to that pattern. She will now only think of talking to you when she has problems because she associated you with her negative feelings.
That I think is one of the reasons why you are always a second option in her eyes.
What I would suggest:
Try not to bring her out when sheÂ’s feeling moody.
You are making your task twice as difficult because she will be preoccupied with her thoughts during the date.
Your task is to make her enjoy the date and want more. Chances are she will not enjoy herself at all.
She will end up telling you all those problems and turn the date into an auntie agony session. DonÂ’t allow that to happen.
So know when to ask her out to improve your chances.
Confessions are over-rated.
I like to have control of the situation at the beginning.
I will never verbally tell a woman I like her until much later in the relationship.
But you can still let her know where she stands through your actions.
Here's how...
When a lady friend broke up with her boyfriend and asked me outÂ…I did the following which you might find useful:
The art of listening without giving advice.
Give her eye-contact and nod your head at appropriate times when sheÂ’s talking to let her know you are paying attention and listening attentively.
Throw in some random phrases like “uh huh”, “hmm”, “I understand how that feels” etc.
DonÂ’t give her advices at all because you end up spending 1 or 2 hours discussing those crap advices that have got nothing to do with you.
So donÂ’t advice. Just be a good listener.
Your aim is to enjoy yourself during the date
Give her 10 mins max to talk about whatÂ’s bothering her. Be a good listener during that time.
Then spend the rest of the time making both of you enjoy the date.
Go for action dates! ThatÂ’s the best way to help her forget her stress and worries.
In my case, I took her to a funfair with a bad ass “Viking” so that she can scream into my ears until they bleed.
Then I took her to an arcade so that she can kick my ass in some computer game. (of course I told her I purposely let her win).
You see why I said confessions are over-rated now?
The way you talk and listen to her.
The way you look at her.
The way she can enjoy herself when sheÂ’s with you.
The way you touch her at the appropriate time.
Those are the things you should focus on.
Confessions will not raise her interest. So don't worry about whether you should confess, it is not that important.
Focus on doing the right thing and when your gut tells you the time is right, grab hold her hand.
But for nowÂ…start talking to her again.
Stop avoiding her and once you are in talking terms again, ask her out and do the right things.
Good luck.
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The moment has come and gone. U asked her if she in the PAST liked u and she said yes. The feeling u have for that person at a particular point in time may not mean that u will have the same feeling forever. She has moved on. Why haven't u? Don't be like me. I had waited 8 years for this girl, and she said she liked me too in the past. Now, we can only be good friends. Maybe that's what u should be with her too.
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haha thanks for all ur comments..now i shall wait for the right time to come.
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How old are you kids? Just study first lar don't let a girl screw up your life.
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It's never too late to let another person know how you feels about her...as long as both of you are healthy and alive. And yes, according to what I've read...she does liked you in the past when she's recovering from her sadness.Originally posted by ChairmanJay:I just canÂ’t open my mouth to let her know
I really wanted to tell Cyndi I really like her very much, but i just can't do it. She has been in the same class with me for the 4th year. I never know that she is the one for me untill late 2005, during the school holidays.
Maybe it's a class gathering that made me change my views toward her. The class gathering was held at a charlet. We had our great times and memories there. After the charlet, I started msging her everyday and night. I try my best to show my care for her. We even started talking on the phone for long hours. She shared some of her problems with me. And I try my best to help her.
I started to know more about her. Then, I found myself in a love triange; she crush on another guy in the same workplace as her. however, that guy doesn't like her. I was heart-broken. I can feel that she was really depressed. I can't do anything to help as she just refused to tell me about it. After sometimes, she finally learnt to forget about that guy.
Once, she asked me to go out together with her. She said she was moody and need someone to accompany her. Although I'm kinda shy, I was over the moon and agreed without much thinking. Soon, we go out together more often and have dinner together sometimes. I really enjoyed being with her.
After school reopen, I seldom have chance to talk to her. One day, she lost her voice and was coughing badly. I bought her strepsel everyday till the day she recovered. In class I was quiet. Maybe I'm shy, or I have nothing to say to her. Then last saturday, we have lunch together. I can feel that she likes me too. I got the Chong Dong to tell her i like her too. But..those mere simple sentences, I canÂ’t say them.
Untill wednesday, I picked up my courage and I was about to tell her. Unfortunately, I found out that she crush on another guy AGAIN but she denied it. I asked her whether have she liked me before and she said she did. My whole heart hangs in the air, I can only watch from afar.
She is so important to me, I regret not letting her know.
Why not take another chance and confess to her that you liked her too? Remember...you got nothing to lose if you tell her that you like her too and you are serious about her. Cos when you keep it from her, you will definitely lose her and regret. Think through thoroughly and decide if you want her to be in your future or not and stick to your final decision.
Well...it's good that you trust what your instinct is telling you...that she's probably sending out signals to you that signify she is also interested in you.
Do not be afraid about rejections, as you are probably her close friend at the moment and she won't be so outright and heartlessly reject you. She won't hurt you in a way that will brings you nightmarish memories okie...
Everybody is constantly seeking out the right 'one' for themselves, but they often have little choice to choose from...cos mostly are people which they are directly associated with. Even then, the 'one' might not turned out to be the real 'one' afterall. But there are alot of cases where we don't really need to find the 'one' for ourselves, cos the 'one' that we think he/she is...dislikes us. Afterall, it will all boils down to our individual ability to love whoever that we're with at the moment. And if we have learnt how to love an individual, we will realise that we don't actually need to seek out the 'one' anymore, cos love is reciprocal.
Anyway, I wish you all the best with your gal. And may both of you appreciate and grow each other's love forever.
Good luck. -
hey.. guess wat... juz when i wanna tell her i stil like her and wanna be with her... 1 of her best fren told me she now like some1... yup... so guess u should juz do smth asap... dun be like me... keepin waitin... in the end... u regret...