Guys, no pre marital sex pls
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just to share with you. i also ve this experience b4.. not once, not twice but three times.... I can still remember the fear and apprehension when i was waiting for her outside the toilet after buying the test kit.
We dated very long b4 we got married. when we first started doing it. i just started working and she in uni final year.... so marriage is out of the question...or at least very difficult... but we already plan to marry each other when the time is right.
but it sort of happened .... actually we dated for like close to 3 years b4 we did it, although b4 that we did everything short of doing it b4 that.
the delay is mainly because we wanted to wait for marriage. anyway, after a while we sort of surrendered and just do it. not just me but her also. since we are going to get married anyway what is the pt on holding back...?
Anyway, once we started we cannot stop. every week will do at least once.... just use withdrawal method... With each scare, we tell ouselves to stop or otherwise use rubber.....
but we don't like sensation of rubber.. not just me, her also... so we just use the withdrawal method ONLY.
and with each scare we stop for about 2 to 3 weeks before resuming from 3rd week onwards.... it is almost impossible to stop i think for ppl... esp when you love the other party. i think it is wired into our genes
and we finally got married.... so now no more scare already... we don't want kids yet , but if got kid we are fine with it also.
Just want to share... it is not easy to stop. and for those in which their r/s is "spoiled" because of this issue, it means that the r/s is not steady yet or it is already flawed... i think for two matured adults sincere about each other.. the above is not really a issue...
but then having a baby when not ready is really a very serious issue. so don't take it lightly.
on hindsight, i am very very glad we didn't hit the jackpot when we are unmarried.... but i am glad that we did it... sxx strengthed our r/s and whatever ppl say, sxx outside of marriage with someone you love is different from sxx within marriage.... so I am glad that I can share both experience with the one that I love.
If we had hit the jackpot, it probably meant that we have to get married suddenly and also a bit of accusing fingers by relatives and caring for the kid when young.... but i think overall we would still be married... so that wouldn't be much different just the order or things are a bit jumbled up.
So don't blame pre marital sxx as the issue when r/s turns sour or if things didn't work out. it is prob issues outside of sxx that cause r/s to crack/break.
btw, i read somewhere that although pre- c um contains semen, they are inactive (basically died), so the withdrawal method is actually effective IF the guy managed to control and pull out EACH time.
But of course to control is not easy.. esp for younger men. do some reseach on the web....
This isn't highly publised. i guess it is not responsible to publicize and a lot of this kind of "studies" are generated by those condom manufacturiers and those who are anti HIV. -
im not planning to get married in the next 5 years...somehow i doubt i could live without sex for that long. it's something spl that i want to share with my partner, a way of showing how much he means to me.
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are u already "active" with your bf? If you are, I think you will know what i mean..... and how are you to "stop" doing it right?Originally posted by kikq:im not planning to get married in the next 5 years...somehow i doubt i could live without sex for that long. it's something spl that i want to share with my partner, a way of showing how much he means to me.
is this your first bf? -
put in wallet no use, must put on penis.Originally posted by Xlashes:I also advised not to have pre-marital sex ... really very stressful.
But you know hard to control, so plz always put 2 condom in your wallet . . -
I think next time i will invent ATM condom, where people can buy directly without going to pharmacy first. and it's available anywhere (just like DBS, OCBC ATM)
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this is a good oneOriginally posted by coffeeortea:put in wallet no use, must put on penis. -
sound advice. somehow when things got pretty hot, i will just think of the consquences and shudder. everything just got soft after that...Originally posted by spencer99:just to share with you. i also ve this experience b4.. not once, not twice but three times.... I can still remember the fear and apprehension when i was waiting for her outside the toilet after buying the test kit.
We dated very long b4 we got married. when we first started doing it. i just started working and she in uni final year.... so marriage is out of the question...or at least very difficult... but we already plan to marry each other when the time is right.
but it sort of happened .... actually we dated for like close to 3 years b4 we did it, although b4 that we did everything short of doing it b4 that.
the delay is mainly because we wanted to wait for marriage. anyway, after a while we sort of surrendered and just do it. not just me but her also. since we are going to get married anyway what is the pt on holding back...?
Anyway, once we started we cannot stop. every week will do at least once.... just use withdrawal method... With each scare, we tell ouselves to stop or otherwise use rubber.....
but we don't like sensation of rubber.. not just me, her also... so we just use the withdrawal method ONLY.
and with each scare we stop for about 2 to 3 weeks before resuming from 3rd week onwards.... it is almost impossible to stop i think for ppl... esp when you love the other party. i think it is wired into our genes
and we finally got married.... so now no more scare already... we don't want kids yet , but if got kid we are fine with it also.
Just want to share... it is not easy to stop. and for those in which their r/s is "spoiled" because of this issue, it means that the r/s is not steady yet or it is already flawed... i think for two matured adults sincere about each other.. the above is not really a issue...
but then having a baby when not ready is really a very serious issue. so don't take it lightly.
on hindsight, i am very very glad we didn't hit the jackpot when we are unmarried.... but i am glad that we did it... sxx strengthed our r/s and whatever ppl say, sxx outside of marriage with someone you love is different from sxx within marriage.... so I am glad that I can share both experience with the one that I love.
If we had hit the jackpot, it probably meant that we have to get married suddenly and also a bit of accusing fingers by relatives and caring for the kid when young.... but i think overall we would still be married... so that wouldn't be much different just the order or things are a bit jumbled up.
So don't blame pre marital sxx as the issue when r/s turns sour or if things didn't work out. it is prob issues outside of sxx that cause r/s to crack/break.
btw, i read somewhere that although pre- c um contains semen, they are inactive (basically died), so the withdrawal method is actually effective IF the guy managed to control and pull out EACH time.
But of course to control is not easy.. esp for younger men. do some reseach on the web....
This isn't highly publised. i guess it is not responsible to publicize and a lot of this kind of "studies" are generated by those condom manufacturiers and those who are anti HIV.
everyone keep saying wear rubber. but is rubber 100% safe? or 99.99% safe simply because that they do not want to have the responsibility? so the 0.01% is like a buffer zone for them? -
Rubber is 100% safe if you know wear it correctly. There is a booklet inside that teach you how to correctly wear it. All brands of rubbers in the markets have gone thru batch testing in PSB before they are allow to be sold in singapore. Therefore, those who got preg even if they got used rubber is that they mishandle it. Like when the guy is putting on, then used his nails to pull it over, causing the nails to tear the rubber.Originally posted by casshern:sound advice. somehow when things got pretty hot, i will just think of the consquences and shudder. everything just got soft after that...
everyone keep saying wear rubber. but is rubber 100% safe? or 99.99% safe simply because that they do not want to have the responsibility? so the 0.01% is like a buffer zone for them?
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I hope you've learnt your lesson. You may say that you wun wanna go thru it again, but hope your lust wun overcome your brains! Think of the ordeal your gf has to go thru..Originally posted by twenty47:I just survived a real scare. We had sex and my gf missed her period for more than 2 weeks. (It came few days ago.) This 2 weeks is really hell for us as both of us are still students and i doubt that we can afford a child right now; even if we could, the stress from parents, wagging tongues from relatives and friends will give us a nervous breakdown. Trust me, we truly love each other and we are planning to get married as soon as we graduate, but a having a child was no planned for and would seriously ruin everything.
I am sharing my story just because i don't want more people to go through whatever I've just been through. A word of warning. If you are not ready for the consequences, don't even try it.
What's happening to Singapore now? Even students are experiencing sex at a young tender age. If they're not given adequate sex education, i bet the clinics and hospital wud be filled with unwanted babies and maybe number of AIDS patients wud increase. ( without practicing safe sex)
Plse, even if you need to do it, wait till your wedding OR plse, use a condom. -