The way I treat now is exactly the way I treat her on day 1 .Originally posted by Devil1976:Maybe she still haven't forget the past and you're also getting more and more bochap with things as you get disheartened along the way...?
Sounds a bit familiar.Originally posted by Mudslide:We quarel and quarel ever since we graduated and came back to singapore , over small things , the issues are small things such as my friends , the way I do things , the way she questioned me ...etc ..
we moved on ...patching up things everytime.
I was injured due to a fall from my bike. I get the stuffs for her despite my pain in the injury ... I gave her some $$$ as well as she say she was hard on cash ...
She neglected me and I dun no due to what reason, she doesnt wants to see me to work (my working place was near to her), she left me alone walking out of the MRT train , she didnt even want to hold my hands ...
I was , of course , angry n sad , do I deserve this kind of treatment from her ?
what really happen ?
I question her , she say sorry to me .... I probe , she said nothing . In the later day, she called/sms me to check on me about how I was . It was so fake .....
We have been into our relationship into 6 months already, in this 6 months , I nv hear a word of "I love you" from her ...Its always me who put in effort in this relationship which I sometimes feel so tired . Why my effort put in doesnt have any effect on her at all ?She promise she will put in effort , but I seriously doubt so ....
I sometimes wonder if I give her too much attention and concern or just too little ?
I feel so hurt and disappointed . what should I do ? I wanted to find out reason why she behaved like that . Dun tell me to ask / write letter / sweet talk / sms / call / communicate , I have exhausted all channels of communication.
it quoted in my post . 6 months.Originally posted by laosu:Sounds a bit familiar.
Before I give any comments..can I ask a question?
How long are you two together?
My post from your former thread still stands.Originally posted by Mudslide:it quoted in my post . 6 months.
Do you think you're important to her?Originally posted by Mudslide:Guys : thanks for reading .
Pardon me for my paraniod. I cherish her as much as I cherish my life .
She is important to me , a striking goal in my life .
frankly speaking , I dont know ....maybe I dun think so.Originally posted by M©+square:Do you think you're important to her?
Cheers
you mean who do i ask this question?Originally posted by Mudslide:frankly speaking , I dont know ....maybe I dun think so.
Why dun you ask this question ?
no it doesnt sound offensive , speak your heart ...Originally posted by M©+square:you mean who do i ask this question?
Because you're in your own world and you don't know the situation you're in.
Offensive it may sound. I'll burst your bubble one by one if necessary.
I doubt your ideal in love is a sound one.
Cheers
I realised something after a long time.Originally posted by Mudslide:no it doesnt sound offensive , speak your heart ...
Uh, I may be missing something here, but if you're going to refuse to communicate, how are you going to find out the reason?Originally posted by Mudslide:I wanted to find out reason why she behaved like that . Dun tell me to ask / write letter / sweet talk / sms / call / communicate , I have exhausted all channels of communication.
Wah Special GUEST!!!!!Originally posted by Gedanken:Uh, I may be missing something here, but if you're going to refuse to communicate, how are you going to find out the reason?![]()
I am open to commuication , communication doesnt work in one way , its both way ... but she doesnt wants to ...Originally posted by Gedanken:Uh, I may be missing something here, but if you're going to refuse to communicate, how are you going to find out the reason?![]()
haha , well said , cool analysis .Originally posted by M©+square:I realised something after a long time.
It was a long long time since i've assured anyone that their partners loved them, or that they need to leave their partner.
Sometime since i've posted opinionated comments.
1st one in 2006(?)This substance could lead/motivate a person to make believe that he/she could sustain a relationship solely on one sided basis even though the other party isn't making effort at all.
Unfortunately, it is somewhere near Love but not close enough.
It's called obssession.Your next few moves are possibly leading you to your downfall of esteem and confidence.
It's either you waste up your 'energy/motivation' faster and escape from wrath or you'll be consumed.
Be cautious.
Cheers
how both of u get together in the first place?Originally posted by Mudslide:We quarel and quarel ever since we graduated and came back to singapore , over small things , the issues are small things such as my friends , the way I do things , the way she questioned me ...etc ..
we moved on ...patching up things everytime.
I was injured due to a fall from my bike. I get the stuffs for her despite my pain in the injury ... I gave her some $$$ as well as she say she was hard on cash ...
She neglected me and I dun no due to what reason, she doesnt wants to see me to work (my working place was near to her), she left me alone walking out of the MRT train , she didnt even want to hold my hands ...
I was , of course , angry n sad , do I deserve this kind of treatment from her ?
what really happen ?
I question her , she say sorry to me .... I probe , she said nothing . In the later day, she called/sms me to check on me about how I was . It was so fake .....
We have been into our relationship into 6 months already, in this 6 months , I nv hear a word of "I love you" from her ...Its always me who put in effort in this relationship which I sometimes feel so tired . Why my effort put in doesnt have any effect on her at all ?She promise she will put in effort , but I seriously doubt so ....
I sometimes wonder if I give her too much attention and concern or just too little ?
I feel so hurt and disappointed . what should I do ? I wanted to find out reason why she behaved like that . Dun tell me to ask / write letter / sweet talk / sms / call / communicate , I have exhausted all channels of communication.
Me, lurking? Nah, I was just passing through the neighbourhood and saw this thread pop up on the "newest topics" list.Originally posted by M©+square:Wah Special GUEST!!!!!
I see you've been lurking in AA. **Rubs chin**
Cheers
Hmm.Originally posted by Mudslide:I am open to commuication , communication doesnt work in one way , its both way ... but she doesnt wants to ...
I am really confused at this moment , I cant cool-down , too many things happen , I cant take it , she taking me as a toy ....
Very true for the 2nd point. Such scary things can be done to a person in the name of Love.Originally posted by M©+square:I realised something after a long time.
It was a long long time since i've assured anyone that their partners loved them, or that they need to leave their partner.
Sometime since i've posted opinionated comments.
1st one in 2006(?)This substance could lead/motivate a person to make believe that he/she could sustain a relationship solely on one sided basis even though the other party isn't making effort at all.
Unfortunately, it is somewhere near Love but not close enough.
It's called obssession.Your next few moves will possibly lead your downfall of esteem and confidence.
It's either you waste up your 'energy/motivation' faster and escape from wrath or you'll be consumed.
Be cautious.
Cheers
i sense a hidden message. Maybe its just meOriginally posted by M©+square:I realised something after a long time.
It was a long long time since i've assured anyone that their partners loved them, or that they need to leave their partner.
Sometime since i've posted opinionated comments.
1st one in 2006(?)This substance could lead/motivate a person to make believe that he/she could sustain a relationship solely on one sided basis even though the other party isn't making effort at all.
Unfortunately, it is somewhere near Love but not close enough.
It's called obssession.Your next few moves will possibly lead your downfall of esteem and confidence.
It's either you waste up your 'energy/motivation' faster and escape from wrath or you'll be consumed.
Be cautious.
Cheers
Maybe this is exactly the reason why-- It is one thing to treat someone as important in your life but another to make the person the MOST important thing in your life. It gives your partner a sense of pressure and burden all the time, like everything they do or don't do becomes soooo important to you, they can't be themselves anymore.Originally posted by Mudslide:Guys : thanks for reading .
Pardon me for my paraniod. I cherish her as much as I cherish my life .
She is important to me , a striking goal in my life .