Is it a right way to give up on your relationship.........
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just because you want to concentrate on your career and have a better life in terms of monetary?
Just want to find out how you guys feel about it.
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No $$$ no honey
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everyone got his own way of thinking.Originally posted by Mao x 2:just because you want to concentrate on your career and have a better life in terms of monetary?
Just want to find out how you guys feel about it.
To me a good relationship is more important then a career.
So what if you got more money?
The girls you find will be after your money not you.
When these girls got your money they will dump you asap.
This is a very important lesson I have learnt.
Money cannot buy love.
Once true love is gone there is no way to get it back.
A good wife will lead you to a peace of mind when you are working and you will work harder to provide for your family.
Imagine the case of a bad wife or husband will you work hard for a family that is not worth fighting for? -
For me, rs more important. Money can be earn any time, but rs takes time to build up yet easy to lost.
Furthermore, I think I can earn more $$$ if rs are stable. -
+1Originally posted by drx:everyone got his own way of thinking.
To me a good relationship is more important then a career.
So what if you got more money?
The girls you find will be after your money not you.
When these girls got your money they will dump you asap.
This is a very important lesson I have learnt.
Money cannot buy love.
Once true love is gone there is no way to get it back.
A good wife will lead you to a peace of mind when you are working ans you will work harder to provide for your family.
Imagine the case of a bad wife or husband will you work hard for a family that is not worth fighting for? -
Not necessary. Some pple can live with tat, some dun. When it comes to marriage, then itz a different thing altogether, but itz only a relationship now, the period of courtship, aside from petty gifts and entertainment, I dun see the need to "give up" the relationship to advance in one's career, itz B.S.
But I believe the "one" who brought up this reason, wans a breakup. I believe the "one" got bored/tired/worse of this relationship and doesn't see the need to continue it, and use it as an excuse to breakup. If this is the case, the receiver dun have to try salvaging anything, cos there's nothing to salvage. There's a saying, "If an object truthly belongs to u, it will come back even if u let it go".
"Move on" like most pple said. Easier said than done. Keep urself occupied in the things u do, or find more activites to attent and dun keep brooding over it. Putting in a brunt way, itz game-over dude. So? Just press the "Start" button and try again, u've got unlimited lives man....
Besides, she not the only women in the WORLD. If u open ur pervertic little eyes, u can SEE tat there r actually BABES all around u. Just pick, target, shoot. There... headshot. Simple, short and sweet. The earth is still spinning, and the Time is still running, they r waiting for no one. -
Nope..... a couple must and should support each other in all ways/ times...... includingOriginally posted by Mao x 2:just because you want to concentrate on your career and have a better life in terms of monetary?
Just want to find out how you guys feel about it.
CAREER, family and frenz!
THAT IS THE KEY TO A GOOD STRONG FUFILLING RELATIONSHIP!
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Agree with cherry on the above points.Originally posted by pinkygal76:Nope..... a couple must and should support each other in all ways/ times...... including
CAREER, family and frenz!
THAT IS THE KEY TO A GOOD STRONG FUFILLING RELATIONSHIP!
One must be sure that the couple must be able to trust each other first before anything could happen becos in life anything could happen, only thru love and trust could a good relationship surive.
Without trust there will not be anything left to talk about. -
yeap i agree..Originally posted by drx:So what if you got more money?
The girls you find will be after your money not you.
When these girls got your money they will dump you asap.
This is a very important lesson I have learnt.
Money cannot buy love.
Once true love is gone there is no way to get it back.
A good wife will lead you to a peace of mind when you are working and you will work harder to provide for your family.
Imagine the case of a bad wife or husband will you work hard for a family that is not worth fighting for?
For a guy to hav a good career is good..
but from my pt of view, once u're missed the age range of "simple love romance" (17-21 yr old), juz because u hav to build up ur career, i tink its not worth it..
As reference from experiences from my frens (age 22+), now they find a gf juz for the sake of planning for their future.. i mean as in marriage or somting.. they hav the mindset of "oh, i'm not young anymore.. time to get married" tis kind of tinking.. which i tink its pretty pathetic..
so from wat i tink, enjoy love life while u're still young.. cos its the most worries-free and sweet.. career can be put on hold 1st..
juz some of my tinking.. hope dun kanna flame..
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Let's put it this way. Many lady friends of mine nowadays are strong, independent career women, & don't need a guy to take care of them financially. They take pride in the fact that they can afford the things they need. What they expect though, is loyalty & emotional/mental support from their loved ones.
Ironically, they've met guys who don't like the fact that my friends are independent, or they just haven't found the guy who'll provide the emotional/mental support.
To me, providing financial support is easy. But believe it or Not, finding someone who'll provide the emotional/mental support is damn difficult. People give up on relationships too easily nowadays. So to look for financial stability/luxury in a partner doesn't seem a good idea.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Boo777:Not necessary. Some pple can live with tat, some dun. When it comes to marriage, then itz a different thing altogether, but itz only a relationship now, the period of courtship, aside from petty gifts and entertainment, I dun see the need to "give up" the relationship to advance in one's career, itz B.S.
But I believe the "one" who brought up this reason, wans a breakup. I believe the "one" got bored/tired/worse of this relationship and doesn't see the need to continue it, and use it as an excuse to breakup. If this is the case, the receiver dun have to try salvaging anything, cos there's nothing to salvage. There's a saying, "If an object truthly belongs to u, it will come back even if u let it go".
"Move on" like most pple said. Easier said than done. Keep urself occupied in the things u do, or find more activites to attent and dun keep brooding over it. Putting in a brunt way, itz game-over dude. So? Just press the "Start" button and try again, u've got unlimited lives man....
Besides, she not the only women in the WORLD. If u open ur pervertic little eyes, u can SEE tat there r actually BABES all around u. Just pick, target, shoot. There... headshot. Simple, short and sweet. The earth is still spinning, and the Time is still running, they r waiting for no one. -
How about the other way round? I mean if the one giving up a relationship for her career is a gal?Originally posted by ArSeBeNi:yeap i agree..
For a guy to hav a good career is good..
but from my pt of view, once u're missed the age range of "simple love romance" (17-21 yr old), juz because u hav to build up ur career, i tink its not worth it..
As reference from experiences from my frens (age 22+), now they find a gf juz for the sake of planning for their future.. i mean as in marriage or somting.. they hav the mindset of "oh, i'm not young anymore.. time to get married" tis kind of tinking.. which i tink its pretty pathetic..
so from wat i tink, enjoy love life while u're still young.. cos its the most worries-free and sweet.. career can be put on hold 1st..
juz some of my tinking.. hope dun kanna flame.. -
well, i tink my idea appiles to both sexes ba..Originally posted by Mao x 2:How about the other way round? I mean if the one giving up a relationship for her career is a gal?
esp for females.. tak for example, a guy, 28 yrs old, with successful career, and a lady, age 28 yrs old, also with successful career, which gender do u tink can get a partner more easier? i mean the older a lady is, the faster she is gonna "expire".. dont u tink so?
well, if i hav a female fren who hav tis kind of mindset, i would advice her not to giv up her relationship so easily juz for career..
dun tink its worth to miss so many memorable tings in relationship juz for career.. -
pats mao.. is the same...Originally posted by Mao x 2:How about the other way round? I mean if the one giving up a relationship for her career is a gal?
sadly is her choice and if you love her you have to let her go.
Seen so many of this scene liao until I feel so numb.
I got a friend whose gf went to a big company to work in the end
broke up with my friend cos of her career. haiz...
no time no time she says.
In the end
my friend let her go cos he love her.
the girl ends moving up but never find the person she loved. Always dumping by guys along the way cos she never find the one who can match her.
The guy was lucky he found a girl who love him for whom he was. Together they work hard and got married. Now they are proud parents of a kid and one coming soon. They may not be rich but they are leading a happy family life which many can only envy. -
Agreed with feow on that.....providing financial support....strong modern woman like feow and me can provide ourselves.Originally posted by FeowFeow:Let's put it this way. Many lady friends of mine nowadays are strong, independent career women, & don't need a guy to take care of them financially. They take pride in the fact that they can afford the things they need. What they expect though, is loyalty & emotional/mental support from their loved ones.
Ironically, they've met guys who don't like the fact that my friends are independent, or they just haven't found the guy who'll provide the emotional/mental support.
To me, providing financial support is easy. But believe it or Not, finding someone who'll provide the emotional/mental support is damn difficult. People give up on relationships too easily nowadays. So to look for financial stability/luxury in a partner doesn't seem a good idea.
FeowFeow
Its just so difficult to find someone who we can connect at a emotional / spiritual level ....
I JUST want to scream out loud
"YOU COMPLETE ME!" to Somebody.....oops....sounds kinda cheesy le -
Originally posted by pinkygal76:Agreed with feow on that.....providing financial support....strong modern woman like feow and me can provide ourselves.
Its just so difficult to find someone who we can connect at a emotional / spiritual level ....
I JUST want to scream out loud
"YOU COMPLETE ME!" to Somebody.....oops....sounds kinda cheesy le 
Faint............................................. -
Lolz sounds abit despoOriginally posted by pinkygal76:Agreed with feow on that.....providing financial support....strong modern woman like feow and me can provide ourselves.
Its just so difficult to find someone who we can connect at a emotional / spiritual level ....
I JUST want to scream out loud
"YOU COMPLETE ME!" to Somebody.....oops....sounds kinda cheesy le -
*rubs medicated oil on larlingOriginally posted by Mao x 2:
Faint.............................................
*looks concernly at larling
R you ok?
It may be cheesy but it comes from my heart ma
why let a perfectly good relationship go becoz
of career....career/ jobs come and go...but your other half stays
with you till the end of time throu good times and bad times, rite? -
errr.. i think somebody will understand and love you much more....Originally posted by pinkygal76:Agreed with feow on that.....providing financial support....strong modern woman like feow and me can provide ourselves.
Its just so difficult to find someone who we can connect at a emotional / spiritual level ....
I JUST want to scream out loud
"YOU COMPLETE ME!" to Somebody.....oops....sounds kinda cheesy le
still feel dizzy from the shouting.
and faintz... -
ooh...its not despo....its just a heart felt thoughtOriginally posted by ArSeBeNi:Lolz sounds abit despo
As quoted from one of my single career-minded gf who's still searching
for a good fufilling relationship ....
"ITs too lonely to be single....
when she is sick ....no one to pour her a drink
cook her a warm meal.....
drives her to hospital.....
just wish that she can find someone soon... -
Oops....another one thats faints from my shouting declaration of loveOriginally posted by drx:errr.. i think somebody will understand and love you much more....
still feel dizzy from the shouting.
and faintz...
*rubs medicated oil on sugar
*looks concerning at sugar
R U OK??
Oops...... pinky must remember not to be so cheesy next time -
If more gals feel that way, soon we'll extinct!!!Originally posted by Mao x 2:just because you want to concentrate on your career and have a better life in terms of monetary?
Just want to find out how you guys feel about it.
Na.... success in life is not linked with money or career....
Success = Happiness doing whatever it is that makes you happy. -
aww.. sad to hear tat..Originally posted by pinkygal76:ooh...its not despo....its just a heart felt thought
As quoted from one of my single career-minded gf who's still searching
for a good fufilling relationship ....
"ITs too lonely to be single....
when she is sick ....no one to pour her a drink
cook her a warm meal.....
drives her to hospital.....
just wish that she can find someone soon... 
u help her find a guy lo..
anyway, tats y i advise all my g-f not to be so career minded.. cos i dun believe woman can be so strong.. they will need love eventually..
mayb got some really exceptions who REALLY DUN BELIEVE in love.. -
Yah... Sometimes people look at a successful single career woman & think, "She's unattached because her expectations too high".
Perhaps? Perhaps it IS too much to expect emotional/mental support & loyalty nowadays?
FeowFeowOriginally posted by pinkygal76:Agreed with feow on that.....providing financial support....strong modern woman like feow and me can provide ourselves.
Its just so difficult to find someone who we can connect at a emotional / spiritual level ....
I JUST want to scream out loud
"YOU COMPLETE ME!" to Somebody.....oops....sounds kinda cheesy le -
If it's me, I'll choose love over career ANY DAY!!!Originally posted by FeowFeow:
Yah... Sometimes people look at a successful single career woman & think, "She's unattached because her expectations too high".
Perhaps? Perhaps it IS too much to expect emotional/mental support & loyalty nowadays?
FeowFeow
I'm at core a Die hard romantic.... so if I have to choose I'll choose love over bread.
love do not come by every day, some believe once in a lifetime... but money, not enough then make do lor.... eat less, spend less...etc. still happy. -
Yeah... but there are still some ppl who feel that they need money more than love..Originally posted by smudgey:If it's me, I'll choose love over career ANY DAY!!!
I'm at core a Die hard romantic.... so if I have to choose I'll choose love over bread.
love do not come by every day, some believe once in a lifetime... but money, not enough then make do lor.... eat less, spend less...etc. still happy.