I got better as time goes by, but the hurt still lingers.
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How many of you have suffered a failed relationship, and after a long time. You managed to overcome the reality of a damned relationship but all you have left is bleeding wound(s).
And you tell yourself 'I can never love again...'
How many here?
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sounds familiar.Originally posted by M©+square:How many of you have suffered a failed relationship, and after a long time. You managed to overcome the reality of a damned relationship but all you have left is bleeding wound(s).
And you tell yourself 'I can never love again...'
How many here?
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Cheers
open this thread for me har?
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you also have such problems?
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Hmm???Originally posted by dragg:you also have such problems?
No me....but i'm also human leh.
I've been thru that phrase before.
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yea.
but its not love. -
Can relate to this feeling, cause just broke off with her last christmas.......
Kind of sad and sometime do feel the hurt, but try to put up a strong front.
Why feel such pain, when she is already in the arms of another guy.
She just not worth it. -
Originally posted by browniebaobao:
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It's depends how you want to see it.Originally posted by Climber79: Can relate to this feeling, cause just broke off with her last christmas.......
Kind of sad and sometime do feel the hurt, but try to put up a strong front.
Why feel such pain, when she is already in the arms of another guy. She just not worth it.
It'll be better if you treat it as a experience and treasure what you've learnt than to habour unhealthy negetive thoughts of her.
Welcome to Aunt Agony forum.
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so u juz want to know how many ple are like me here?Originally posted by M©+square:
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Just sharing and discussion.Originally posted by browniebaobao:so u juz want to know how many ple are like me here?
arent u gg to give some advice or watever?
Different people different experience.
I might start Part II when this thread ends.
You can PM me if you have anything to tell me.
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thanks for the welcome
Actually feel better....especially when i know that she actually leaving me for aother guy. That goes to show that her heart is no longer with me. Why get myself all screw up with someone that have no feeling for me any more.
Now, trying to live my life to the fullness. Especially all those sports that i love to take up , but in the past put on hold, cause i wish to spend more time with her.
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im v not used to see u using green fonts leh.Originally posted by M©+square:Just sharing and discussion.
Different people different experience.
I might start Part II when this thread ends.
You can PM me if you have anything to tell me.
Cheers
this thread ends? do u mean when it hit 80 pages?
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me.Originally posted by M©+square:How many of you have suffered a failed relationship, and after a long time. You managed to overcome the reality of a damned relationship but all you have left is bleeding wound(s).
And you tell yourself 'I can never love again...'
How many here?
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Cheers
my r/s ended in nov last year. i've found out the reason anyway. she left me for another guy. but this other guy went for another girl. so yup. we're both single now.
i have come to face the fact that i am single already. sometimes, when out with all my friends, it's so fun u forget everything. then, comes the time you see her face-to-face.. man.. it hurts. it just happened today again. all the "wad IFs" keep coming into my mind.. wad if i had done this.. wad if i had done that..
and yup, i dont think i can ever love again.. sometimes when i go out and see a beautiful girl, i don't feel the urge to take note of how pretty she is.. whether i shud find out more abt her.. ask her for her number etc. it just seems that women are no longer of any interest to me.
last week, i had a talk with a guy friend of mine. he too has the same experience as wad i'm feeling. pretty gal walks past, dun see anything interesting. to the point that we think we're turning gay!~ haha. and we laughed it off.
truth is, i still want to be with her. -
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once. but now i hope it won't happen again.
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never had the chance too..
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Wow, seems like heartbroken rate in singapore is high
Well, we all grow up and learn from all these "lessons".
One thing, i have learn .... personal quote :
" Hate not those that hurt you. Instead praise them, cause they are the one that make you stronger "
Can understand the way snicker feel.........when you just broke off with someone so dear to you. You just seem to lose all interest in thing around you. Even the most beautiful creature walk pass you, you will just say " yeah , she pretty...ok...." 
Cause heart is still rebuilding -
its loss that makes u hurt, not love.
I think everyone will go through the kenna dump feeling. But if you also one day realises you are in a failing relationship and you can tell regardless of how much this person loves you, you can't stay together - AND you still feel affection for that person, even when you know it isn't working. And the dead, dull, dread you feel in your heart when you know you must hurt that person.
Then, you realise life sometimes is like this. You get hurt some, you hurt people some. You realise it isn't always about you, but circumstances. You realise that circumstances change, but not always for the better, yet not necessarily for the worse. And your capacity to tolerate pain, and to love becomes bigger, deeper, broader.
Ultimately, you learn to give more and cherish more, and be more tender, because you have been hurt before. -
so sad to hear this.Originally posted by sinicker:me.
my r/s ended in nov last year. i've found out the reason anyway. she left me for another guy. but this other guy went for another girl. so yup. we're both single now.
i have come to face the fact that i am single already. sometimes, when out with all my friends, it's so fun u forget everything. then, comes the time you see her face-to-face.. man.. it hurts. it just happened today again. all the "wad IFs" keep coming into my mind.. wad if i had done this.. wad if i had done that..
and yup, i dont think i can ever love again.. sometimes when i go out and see a beautiful girl, i don't feel the urge to take note of how pretty she is.. whether i shud find out more abt her.. ask her for her number etc. it just seems that women are no longer of any interest to me.
last week, i had a talk with a guy friend of mine. he too has the same experience as wad i'm feeling. pretty gal walks past, dun see anything interesting. to the point that we think we're turning gay!~ haha. and we laughed it off.
truth is, i still want to be with her.
well.. it's a pity that love in the 2nd millenium is no longer the same as those in the 90s.
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perhaps ba.. ever heard of that phrase somewhere.Originally posted by Climber79:" Hate not those that hurt you. Instead praise them, cause they are the one that make you stronger "
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He, who hurt me, told me "something that does not defeat u makes u stronger."
Maybe I'm stronger, but I'm forced to be. Being stronger doesn't makes me happier.
Still dun understand why do I have to go thru all these pain.. when it could all be avoided. Forced to accept the fact that one could become heartless or cruel when he thinks that the feelings have faded. Left alone to fend for myself. No one knows, no one understands.. the fear, the period of suffering in silence, the feeling of being deserted by someone I love at the times when I needed him most. The darkest days of being helpless and hopeless.. and made to believe how worthless I am. And it's so silly of me to cover up everything for him and live with the pain...till today.. -
Don't say about relationship not lasting.....even marriage is not lasting thesedays.
Imagine, i ask her once, what you think of marriage thesedays.
Her answer : " Just a piece of paper loh, happy be together. Not happy, just file for seperation loh. Just sign can loh"
Can you imagine , how i feel inside.....to think i want to purpose to her on this year V day.
Maybe someone from above is telling me, "STOP and THINK".
So on christmas, i got a BIG christmas gift. "let's break up, i found another man, that i think i love more.... take care of yourself" -
Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:its loss that makes u hurt, not love.
I think everyone will go through the kenna dump feeling. But if you also one day realises you are in a failing relationship and you can tell regardless of how much this person loves you, you can't stay together - AND you still feel affection for that person, even when you know it isn't working. And the dead, dull, dread you feel in your heart when you know you must hurt that person.
Then, you realise life sometimes is like this. You get hurt some, you hurt people some. You realise it isn't always about you, but circumstances. You realise that circumstances change, but not always for the better, yet not necessarily for the worse. And your capacity to tolerate pain, and to love becomes bigger, deeper, broader.
Ultimately, you learn to give more and cherish more, and be more tender, because you have been hurt before.
Does it mean that I have high tolerance towards pain, so naturally I should be going thru that amount of pain?
ulitmately, like wat mc wrote, the wounds are still bleeding.. and it seems that it will never stop.. how to love again when one's heart is still dripping blood? -
actually, divorce is a bad testimony. well, nobody actually cares these days because their parents never teach them well.Originally posted by Climber79:Don't say about relationship not lasting.....even marriage is not lasting thesedays.
Imagine, i ask her once, what you think of marriage thesedays.
Her answer : " Just a piece of paper loh, happy be together. Not happy, just file for seperation loh. Just sign can loh"
Can you imagine , how i feel inside.....to think i want to purpose to her on this year V day. Maybe someone from above is telling me, "STOP and THINK".
So on christmas, i got a BIG christmas gift. "let's break up, i found another man, that i think i love more.... take care of yourself" 
and also, try look for another girl better than this one. i think she's a bit crazy and nuts up there. forget about her manz.. she's not worth u're tears and aches. -
Think i am lucky also, don't want a "d" statue on me
Thanks Emperor.....well, still rebuilding my heart from the core , 'earthquake ' scale 9.0. So totally broken into pieces
Well, man become stronger with each pain...... -
i didnt say that in my post. I just said that when you get hurt, and then you hurt people, you just grow to accept and handle the pain better. No one says you deserve it. You cannot order love to come or to go, you can only learn to handle it as best as you can.Originally posted by browniebaobao:
Does it mean that I have high tolerance towards pain, so naturally I should be going thru that amount of pain?
A long time ago when I was feeling the same type of pain, i came across a korean poem.
"If you cannot forget, let it be unforgotten, one day you will forget
If you cannot forget, let him go unforgotten, some part or all will go one day
But you will say, how can I forget? When this flame still burns in my heart?"
And Life is more than about rejection, about disappointment, it is much much more than your own broken heart. It is also about the things you have the duty to do, and the people who love and care about you. Towards these, you have your responsibility to heal. As for future love, when it happens it happens.
The heart is like that I guess. It heals the best when you don't think about it.