What should I do?
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some boats never return, some sinks..Originally posted by Gackt247:If u really like her.. watch out for her.
U have missed the boat.. wait for another opportunity to rise.
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Try not propose to her. It might be a bad move. It might frighten her. Yes, there are signs that she may be interested in you but it is still hard to tell. Ask her out instead. If she agrees, you might have a chance. Next even if she agrees to go out alone with you, it's still hard to tell if she really likes you. To test her, maybe try holding her hand. If she moves away, you should get the idea and maybe forget abt her. If not, you stand a chance. As a matter of fact, try to control urself from telling her u like her. Treat her like a friend first. Let her make the first move of telling you about her feelings. Even then, try to hide your feelings still until she pester you about it. Try to stall for time. You need to determine her level of interest she has in you.Originally posted by Deunamist:There's this girl who was my junior in school/student leaders/NPCC. She's in Sec 3 now, and I've left school (Sec 4 in 2005, O Level). She's damned cute, and damned sporty, and she smiles all the time (I really mean all the time). Her smile really
Though I was the Chief Drill Instructor in my unit, I volunteered to take her squad since there was a lack of standard in the junior squads. Over the past two years I've known her, she's laughed the loudest at even the silliest stuff I say, and we've developed a very good friendship and I feel that I want to take things to the next level.
Okay, things were going well. I went back to school for the Sec 1 Orientation Camp campfire and nightwalk, but wasn't allowed to stay longer than that. I went for a midnight movie with some friends, and at 2AM she sms-ed me a "where are you?" and asked me to go back to school, but I didn't want to climb over the gate since it would be breaking the law.
After that, I constantly returned to school every week for NPCC parades, though I'm not a Cadet Inspector. She also sms-es me and calls me the day before with "coming tomorrow?", "there's parade tomorrow", and "coming today?".
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The complication sets in. This girl, who is also Sec 3, her friend, and quite close to me in a brother-sister sense, tells me that there's a guy (Sec 4) wooing her and she kinda likes that guy. What's worse, I found out that he is the person all the senior student leaders hate for acting like a big shot, and cheating on one of the senior girls once.
I seriously didn't know what to do when my friend's sister (also Sec 3), told me that they are together. I still carry on with life normally but the question still pops into my mind constantly. "WHAT TO DO?"
I invited her to my chalet BBQ which is on the weekend before Valentine's Day, and my initial plan was to propose to her while sending her home after that. Don't know if I should carry on with this plan, I don't want her to get cheated on by this guy. I feel that I can give her a better sense of security than him (he's the type who always hangs out with mats, smoke with them..etc etc)
Which brings us back to the topic title...
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Yep.. it's juz ur luck.. but one shouldnt leave everything to fate.Originally posted by FBI:some boats never return, some sinks.. -
my sentiments too.Originally posted by Gackt247:Yep.. it's juz ur luck.. but one shouldnt leave everything to fate.
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then again there are many gals.. so don worry yaOriginally posted by Gackt247:Yep.. it's juz ur luck.. but one shouldnt leave everything to fate. -
I not really that "nice" lah. I'm a little roughed up and streetwise, though I turn real soft when it comes to socializing with girls.Originally posted by nullifi3d:See the thing about some girls is that they don't wan security, nice guy attitude. They want bad boy, handsome type of guys. I personally been through such a thing, i'm a nice guy, i'm fairly well-to-do, i do well in my exams but its just that i'm a nice guy. And nice guys finish last. All girls want is the thrill, you can't provide her with a thril being such a nice guy. I hate to admit it but we're in the same shoes. It won't make a difference when you eneter poly becose they'll still be the same. ITs until they realized after 10 broken relationships, 3 abused ones and the fact that athey are no longer a virgin that they realize that they wan security... down to earth kind of guys. ITs a vicious cycle but you've got to accept it.
I don't drink, smoke, pierce or tattoo. I can be conservative, yet wild at the same time (I listen to X JAPAN's heavy metal) -
You mentioned that the guy wooing her is a "mat" who smokes? Dowbn with him. Down with all "mats" and "minahs". They are a disgrace to my race. Seriously, it may sound very insignificant coming from me but - shes better off with someone like you rather than that guy.Originally posted by Deunamist:I not really that "nice" lah. I'm a little roughed up and streetwise, though I turn real soft when it comes to socializing with girls.
I don't drink, smoke, pierce or tattoo. I can be conservative, yet wild at the same time (I listen to X JAPAN's heavy metal) -
x-jap is good.Originally posted by Deunamist:I not really that "nice" lah. I'm a little roughed up and streetwise, though I turn real soft when it comes to socializing with girls.
I don't drink, smoke, pierce or tattoo. I can be conservative, yet wild at the same time (I listen to X JAPAN's heavy metal) -
HI bas me komon here
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Man, mats and minahs are a disgrace to me too (I'm half-Malay).Originally posted by nullifi3d:You mentioned that the guy wooing her is a "mat" who smokes? Dowbn with him. Down with all "mats" and "minahs". They are a disgrace to my race. Seriously, it may sound very insignificant coming from me but - shes better off with someone like you rather than that guy. -
Be a friend?Originally posted by Deunamist:I wanted to be with her before this obstacle cropped up, shouldn't be a problem yah? -
if u are talking abt being a friend thats ok but anything mroe then that i don think it's possibleOriginally posted by Devil1976:Be a friend?