Need advice
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I've been seeing this girl recently. We both sort of liked each other, and have been going out regularly. Although we're not official a couple, due to various reasons. She's afraid of commiting to me, while I don't mind waiting.
she can be really sweet and kind and gentle. she's really talkative although sometimes she can be self centered a little.
the main problem is that, due to different lifestyle, alot of friction between us.
she always finds fault when i can't accompany her chat till wee hours in the morning. I'm serving NS. Also, phone bill have been very ex. $500 was my last bill.
also, while we have been intimate, she was upset when i didn't want to go all the way with her.
due to this, she told me a friend of hers wanted to screw her, and she agreed to let him.
of course i'd be upset about this.
although we're not official, but this is kinda a first relationship for me. letting go is really hard. but what should i do? -
Dude... that's wrong. She should totally not have done that.Originally posted by dumbdumb!:I've been seeing this girl recently. We both sort of liked each other, and have been going out regularly. Although we're not official a couple, due to various reasons. She's afraid of commiting to me, while I don't mind waiting.
she can be really sweet and kind and gentle. she's really talkative although sometimes she can be self centered a little.
the main problem is that, due to different lifestyle, alot of friction between us.
she always finds fault when i can't accompany her chat till wee hours in the morning. I'm serving NS. Also, phone bill have been very ex. $500 was my last bill.
also, while we have been intimate, she was upset when i didn't want to go all the way with her.
due to this, she told me a friend of hers wanted to screw her, and she agreed to let him.
of course i'd be upset about this.
although we're not official, but this is kinda a first relationship for me. letting go is really hard. but what should i do?
I realise that our pay is pathetic, unless you're a 2LT because I'm still a chao REC. But the thing is, because you are in NS, will you have the time and commitment? Like you said, she wanted you to chat with her until the wee hours of the morning.. Is she the type you must constantly shower attention on?
The thing now is whether to you, she means enough, enough for you to make some very serious personal sacrifices. -
she might b testing u up abt the letting other guy screwing her upOriginally posted by dumbdumb!:I've been seeing this girl recently. We both sort of liked each other, and have been going out regularly. Although we're not official a couple, due to various reasons. She's afraid of commiting to me, while I don't mind waiting.
she can be really sweet and kind and gentle. she's really talkative although sometimes she can be self centered a little.
the main problem is that, due to different lifestyle, alot of friction between us.
she always finds fault when i can't accompany her chat till wee hours in the morning. I'm serving NS. Also, phone bill have been very ex. $500 was my last bill.
also, while we have been intimate, she was upset when i didn't want to go all the way with her.
due to this, she told me a friend of hers wanted to screw her, and she agreed to let him.
of course i'd be upset about this.
although we're not official, but this is kinda a first relationship for me. letting go is really hard. but what should i do? -
y dun u get a free incoming subcription and ask her to use her house phone to call u instead??
a home phone bill wont reali cost much... trust me...
i chat on the phone at least 2 hrs a day... and everyday i do...
the bill sum up to no more than $15!!!! i was very surprised...
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You are right,Originally posted by FBI:she might b testing u up abt the letting other guy screwing her up
But i don't see the point why she's even allowing DD! to get intimate with her even when they haven't got into formal r/s and she wanted all the way?!?
Then her friend's offer worsen her crediblity.
Yo dumbdumb! bro, you got to becareful not to fall too deep yeah?
Sense a mess here.
Cheers -
and finally, for the first time u ageed with wat i saidOriginally posted by M©+square:You are right,
But i don't see the point why she's even allowing DD! to get intimate with her even when they haven't got into formal r/s and she wanted all the way?!?
Then her friend's offer worsen her crediblity.
Yo dumbdumb! bro, you got to becareful not to fall too deep yeah?
Sense a mess here.
Cheers -
I am being Objective la!!!!Originally posted by FBI:and finally, for the first time u ageed with wat i said -
somehow i feel this gal of urs is kinda 'loose' sori man no offence to you though...Originally posted by dumbdumb!:I've been seeing this girl recently. We both sort of liked each other, and have been going out regularly. Although we're not official a couple, due to various reasons. She's afraid of commiting to me, while I don't mind waiting.
she can be really sweet and kind and gentle. she's really talkative although sometimes she can be self centered a little.
the main problem is that, due to different lifestyle, alot of friction between us.
she always finds fault when i can't accompany her chat till wee hours in the morning. I'm serving NS. Also, phone bill have been very ex. $500 was my last bill.
also, while we have been intimate, she was upset when i didn't want to go all the way with her.
due to this, she told me a friend of hers wanted to screw her, and she agreed to let him.
of course i'd be upset about this.
although we're not official, but this is kinda a first relationship for me. letting go is really hard. but what should i do?
think u shld reali take ur time to reconsider this gal.... -
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that was some nice discouragementOriginally posted by falling_stars:somehow i feel this gal of urs is kinda 'loose' sori man no offence to you though...
think u shld reali take ur time to reconsider this gal.... -
Well, don't know you're heng or suay to meet this kind of girl...Originally posted by dumbdumb!:I've been seeing this girl recently. We both sort of liked each other, and have been going out regularly. Although we're not official a couple, due to various reasons. She's afraid of commiting to me, while I don't mind waiting.
she can be really sweet and kind and gentle. she's really talkative although sometimes she can be self centered a little.
the main problem is that, due to different lifestyle, alot of friction between us.
she always finds fault when i can't accompany her chat till wee hours in the morning. I'm serving NS. Also, phone bill have been very ex. $500 was my last bill.
also, while we have been intimate, she was upset when i didn't want to go all the way with her.
due to this, she told me a friend of hers wanted to screw her, and she agreed to let him.
of course i'd be upset about this.
although we're not official, but this is kinda a first relationship for me. letting go is really hard. but what should i do?
Firstly, have you asked yourself what do you like about her? Is it her looks or physical appearance? And how much do you know about her? From what i read, she may not suit you. She could be someone who had a fanastic record of number of exs, but thats just my assumption...
Although she may be testing you on the sex part, i still think a decent girl would never let her friend do it with her, no matter how close...
If you two really want to have a future with each other, i think u two must sit down and talk it over. If she understands your plight (in NS), then if she is an understanding girl, she will accept that you cant call her every night. If not, i think the problem doesn't lie in you already....
From what i think, she just needs a companion to talk and to accompany her...Worst still, she wants a s** partner...I apologise if i offend you or her in any way, but its just what i think....
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You better give up on her. After your NS, in your social circle, you'll find more better girl than her. Think about it.
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no no, i'm not offended.. thanks for all your advices..
i've already explained to her about my plight. her usual response is "i don't care"
so usually i just hang up on her lol.
i don't know la... but i was quite taken back she told me in my face that her friend asked if he could screw her. and she agreed to let him.
i don't know if i'm angry at her or at him. but definitely if i see him, i'd break his legs.
i don't know she's telling me that to test me, or to threaten me or was she just joking or what.. i'm so confused now -
sounds like courting emotional trouble. the whole thing doesn't even seem right. don't fall too deep. u're only in NS. still so young. long way ahead. alot more people you'll meet after NS.
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haha.. i know.
i think i very suay la.. if i date christians, usually its a no-go for me. because they too holy, want to focus on God.
she's the first non christian i date, and i get into so much emotional sh!t -
my pay is ok la.. but the personal sacrifice thing is the big issueOriginally posted by nightsky87:Dude... that's wrong. She should totally not have done that.
I realise that our pay is pathetic, unless you're a 2LT because I'm still a chao REC. But the thing is, because you are in NS, will you have the time and commitment? Like you said, she wanted you to chat with her until the wee hours of the morning.. Is she the type you must constantly shower attention on?
The thing now is whether to you, she means enough, enough for you to make some very serious personal sacrifices. -
i brought up the issue with her. she seemed quite indifferent, then changed topic. she just won't tell me what's her reason for doing this to me.
i asked her if she was serious about sleeping with her friend.
she just said at least she is telling me, she don't go let him screw her and keep it from me.
then she said, ah whatever, she doesn't know, maybe, maybe not, see how
what if she was serious, what if she's not, what does it matter. -
Yo my man,Originally posted by dumbdumb!:i brought up the issue with her. she seemed quite indifferent, then changed topic. she just won't tell me what's her reason for doing this to me.
i asked her if she was serious about sleeping with her friend.
she just said at least she is telling me, she don't go let him screw her and keep it from me.
then she said, ah whatever, she doesn't know, maybe, maybe not, see how
what if she was serious, what if she's not, what does it matter.
I suggest that you do the brush off first, right now it seems like you're hanging on to her, she have the upper hand.
NO.
Be busy and just brush her off, tell her 'you're too busy to handle things like that'. If she's interested in you, she'll start being panic.
No girls like to play their game and suddenly lose the game.
DO NOT be nice to her.
Don't ask questions.
Don't like the conversation last more than 5mins but do not hang up on her, instead
Tell her you're busy, got other incoming calls and bye bye.
So far this should be the way.
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MC, that's abit cruel dont you think? After all.. i believe dumbdumb would have had feelings for her also..
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Wait till you kanna this situation...this will save you from alot of torture.Originally posted by nightsky87:MC, that's abit cruel dont you think? After all.. i believe dumbdumb would have had feelings for her also..
It might even tame her!
No offence man, that gal is playin with him.
And she ain't cruel?
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problem is the hanging up.. she will insist i don't hang up. what should i do?Originally posted by M©+square:Yo my man,
I suggest that you do the brush off first, right now it seems like you're hanging on to her, she have the upper hand.
NO.
Be busy and just brush her off, tell her 'you're too busy to handle things like that'. If she's interested in you, she'll start being panic.
No girls like to play their game and suddenly lose the game.
DO NOT be nice to her.
Don't ask questions.
Don't like the conversation last more than 5mins but do not hang up on her, instead
Tell her you're busy, got other incoming calls and bye bye.
So far this should be the way.
Cheers. -
True ba, if u look at it the other way. Still, the best is to talk it out straight with her. Saves u lots of thinking too much and wondering.Originally posted by M©+square:Wait till you kanna this situation...this will save you from alot of torture.
It might even tame her!
No offence man, that gal is playin with him.
And she ain't cruel?
Cheers -
i really don't get it though. why would she be sad if i didn't want to have sex.
i thought girls would appreciate me wanting to be totally commited to her before sex.
i always believed in sex before marraige
she actually cried when i refused to enter her. =/ -
typo?Originally posted by dumbdumb!:i always believed in sex before marraige -
i mean marraige before sex
