What can i do...
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should i really go talk it out with her one day and know how each other feel once and for all... but she's having exams now... once exams over, its the weekend before valentines day.. i really wana give her an enjoyable vday before we really talk it out... i think she cant feel that i'm in this state yet so it shld be okay right...
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bro, this IS self-denial.. dun learn to be like this anymore..Originally posted by TidusX:to move on is to break up with her isnt it? wat if she eventually found she hav feelings for me... by know her personality, she wont come back for me... it means i'm going to break her heart.. for goodness sake, i've broken people's heart before and i dont want to do it again...
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i guess the lost souls out there really need help. yeah sometimes they can get so charmed by the gals they love that they have lost the drive to do anything. Believe me I've been through that before. Before i contribute i already know that the 'victims' have been hurt too deeply that they do not care but nevertheless it doesnt matter. They just need people who can share their woes and provide a listening ear.Originally posted by M©+square:Ah i somehow guess you will reply this way.
This was formally my style, to believe that people have the ability to come into their senses.
After some time in AA, the repetition of cases happened and trends became obvious.
I see you're really helpful that's why i called you a friend.
Not warning you, just to help you so that you can stay longer.
Cheers
Thanks a million.
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bro, wat IF she ain't going out wif u on valentine..? or she bluff u say she stay at home but she went out wif another guy? it's gonna hurt bro.. better talk every through first..Originally posted by TidusX:should i really go talk it out with her one day and know how each other feel once and for all... but she's having exams now... once exams over, its the weekend before valentines day.. i really wana give her an enjoyable vday before we really talk it out... i think she cant feel that i'm in this state yet so it shld be okay right...
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nah, she wouldnt lie.. if she's going out with someone else, she will tell me straight... she will go out with me on valentine.. but maybe she doesnt really want to.. but she knows 'by right' she should and so she will.. but i dont want that, wats the point of she forcing herself to do it.. i believe there are a few occasions of other matters like that as well.. i could see she isnt very happy when doing it..
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yup.. i was once lidat.. now pulling my self up..Originally posted by dokono:i guess the lost souls out there really need help. yeah sometimes they can get so charmed by the gals they love that they have lost the drive to do anything. Believe me I've been through that before. Before i contribute i already know that the 'victims' have been hurt too deeply that they do not care but nevertheless it doesnt matter. They just need people who can share their woes and provide a listening ear.
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My tidusX not replying my post?
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tat's the more u shld thrash it out wif her be4 valentine.. ur previous post was saying u didn't wan to threash it out cos u wannted her to enjoy valentine..Originally posted by TidusX:nah, she wouldnt lie.. if she's going out with someone else, she will tell me straight... she will go out with me on valentine.. but maybe she doesnt really want to.. but she knows 'by right' she should and so she will.. but i dont want that, wats the point of she forcing herself to do it.. i believe there are a few occasions of other matters like that as well.. i could see she isnt very happy when doing it.. -
yea, but her mood is quite erratic.. who knows i could be lucky on valentines day and hit a 'good' mood.. she would be able to enjoy that day, i'm confident... even if she started out being not really wanting to come... there were a few occasions like that and sometimes i manage to bring her mood up...
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Your post, stating the questions? well, i think my value dropped because i've been doing too much.. showering gifts, giving her much attention... resulting in her thinking that i'm too easy... her feelings changed... i dont quite hav an idea.. i think our relationship deteriote coz, we cant 'hit' many times.. i couldnt get her to be comfortable with me.. and it seems like my matters are of no concern to her...
the other guy that i mentioned, he is a more cool and calm guy... she likes this kind of guys... he's a more gentleman and more capable than i am.. and better looking.. and now he's more popular than i am... and i think people thinks he's more compatible with her... well, if u compare, i just kinda suck.. -
yes in my opinion u were too nice to her that's why she gradually lost her feelings for u...too nice.Originally posted by TidusX:Your post, stating the questions? well, i think my value dropped because i've been doing too much.. showering gifts, giving her much attention... resulting in her thinking that i'm too easy... her feelings changed... i dont quite hav an idea.. i think our relationship deteriote coz, we cant 'hit' many times.. i couldnt get her to be comfortable with me.. and it seems like my matters are of no concern to her...
the other guy that i mentioned, he is a more cool and calm guy... she likes this kind of guys... he's a more gentleman and more capable than i am.. and better looking.. and now he's more popular than i am... and i think people thinks he's more compatible with her... well, if u compare, i just kinda suck..
now from the way u said it seems u have low self-esteem. stop comparing urself with that guy. If she likes u in the first place u must have displayed some qualities that were alluring to her.
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i dont know... we had a romantic chat and i asked her she said she doesnt know as well.. i tink its becoz i played the sport really well before and i became quite famous with many people eyeing on me... i used a racquet with the colour she likes, and my fren whose in her class told her tt i'm the vice captain.. when they saw me playing.. plus on that day she picked a ball for me and i said thank you.. i have a stupid ah beng face and she was quite stunned to hear me saying thank you.. so on that fateful day, we kinda leave each other a nice impression... but i havent been able to focus well and i kinda lost my ability to play...
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Hmm...turning point?Originally posted by TidusX:i dont know... we had a romantic chat and i asked her she said she doesnt know as well.. i tink its becoz i played the sport really well before and i became quite famous with many people eyeing on me... i used a racquet with the colour she likes, and my fren whose in her class told her tt i'm the vice captain.. when they saw me playing.. plus on that day she picked a ball for me and i said thank you.. i have a stupid ah beng face and she was quite stunned to hear me saying thank you.. so on that fateful day, we kinda leave each other a nice impression... but i havent been able to focus well and i kinda lost my ability to play...
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i played the sport really well in a short amt of time of abt 2 years.. and i was able to match the players who had 8 to 10 years of experience... so i WAS quite an icon... but now, the other guy who likes her as well.. is able to do the same.. and he's better in physique which makes him a better player... plus now i'm almost graduating... and i've lost touch... which leaves him as the icon now.. and he just seem to be able to do it better than me.. and he has one more year to go.. same as her... by then, i'll be going into the army...
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turning point... her ex bf kept pestering her and made her really down.. i offered to talk it out with him but she doesnt want.. so i choose to wait... after which, she knows this guy.. which is the guy who likes her now... and during then i was trying to get her attention and stopped msging her for a few days... they got quite close together.. i asked if she likes him.. she said she doesnt know...
then i decided to chase her again.. and got close to her and finally held her hand... she kept longer before the other guy knew we were together... i really didnt know why she didnt wanted to let him know abt it... i actually told her that i like her alot before and she said how come she couldnt feel it... it just went deterioating and i just kept moving in... until now, she's like only with 2 toes on the relationship block and i'm fully in with a huge space behind.. -
as for that guy now, i asked her again if she's interested in him... coz they were like very often together... and she said she and him are just frens... that guy told her that he likes her before but she rejected...
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if what she says is true, then she doesnt like both of u.Originally posted by TidusX:as for that guy now, i asked her again if she's interested in him... coz they were like very often together... and she said she and him are just frens... that guy told her that he likes her before but she rejected...
but her actions contradicts her words. If she doesnt like him, why is she going out with him?
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i got no idea man.. but now she's having exams.. i dont wana give her more probs... she wans to score and i shldnt obstruct her...
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hey my suggestion is to bow out gracefully and quietly. All her actions have been very clear that she's no longer interested in having a r/s with u anymore. Im sorry it's sounded very harsh.Originally posted by TidusX:i got no idea man.. but now she's having exams.. i dont wana give her more probs... she wans to score and i shldnt obstruct her... -
u mean i dont say anything and just leave her alone? she's been treated like this by someone else before and it left her very hurt... i'm not going to do it to her agian... the best i think i shld do, is to talk it out with her and hopefully let her understand how i feel..
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u can try talking to her but it's very disrespectful of her to go out with other guys instead of the ''bf''. Besides talking to her will not help improve things. If u dun believe me u can try. Why? As usual it seems like u are trying to seek her attention. All she cares are abt are her feelings only. I mean, once it's game over, time to smile and take ur leave.Originally posted by TidusX:u mean i dont say anything and just leave her alone? she's been treated like this by someone else before and it left her very hurt... i'm not going to do it to her agian... the best i think i shld do, is to talk it out with her and hopefully let her understand how i feel.. -
Hmm... Talking to her might be quite an okay thing to do afterall?Originally posted by TidusX:u mean i dont say anything and just leave her alone? she's been treated like this by someone else before and it left her very hurt... i'm not going to do it to her agian... the best i think i shld do, is to talk it out with her and hopefully let her understand how i feel..
By the way.. Think both of you have a very weak foundation for the relationship... And perhaps she was holding too much emotional baggage when she started off with you... Not to mention that there is a high chance your relationship started off highly based on infatuation and idolisation, without giving much further push to its build up... -
our relationship is very much like what u said, devil... if u were in my shoes, wat would u do to try and win her back?
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forget it lah....these kind of gals nt worth it for ur love....wah lau i tink u deserve a much better gal.....
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Actually after reading so much of your posting, have you realise that you are so proud of yourself, keep saying how good you are, how you are able to get your gf. But have you seriously thought of her feelings?Originally posted by TidusX:our relationship is very much like what u said, devil... if u were in my shoes, wat would u do to try and win her back?
You want her back because you are scare to lose not her but to "lose"
All your life you are winning again and again and she is a trophy to you.
You feel proud that despite AA have ask you to give up on her and you are able to get her. Nice hor the feeling? But sadly she is not a trophy but a person. She got feelings. She used to admire you in the past and thought you are a good bf and give you a chance but sadly you did not treasure it.
Nvm lar seems everyone here has already try to help you but you seems bend on thinking that you have the right and have the chance then go ahead lor.
Your gf has eyes, soon any tricks you pull before will not work and she will go.
Not going to encourage you but i feel that the your gf is better off not knowing you at all.