What can i do...
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I believe that when I was your age, where reason has no bearing on emotional decisions, I will definitely try to "win" her back if I were in your shoes. However, from the viewpoint of an outsider, I honestly feel that she likes the other guy, or she is weary of your relationship, which is based on almost nothing. I think the best thing you can do, if you intend to do anything at all, would be to talk to her. Be direct and avoid beating around the bush. Don't drag.
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If I'm in your shoes, I might not even try to win her back... It's really quite a meaningless thing to do... And if you really think about it, it can very well not be THIS GUY... It could have just been ANY other guy who has the reasonable 'push' factor stirred up in her....Originally posted by TidusX:our relationship is very much like what u said, devil... if u were in my shoes, wat would u do to try and win her back?
If she's really bound to leave, what even if you try to win her back? Can you keep her for long? You don't even have a foundation... Do you have any concrete plans? And you should understand... Foundation ain't built up overnight... That only happens for 'chemistry'...
If I'm you, I'll probably just have a good chat with her... Ask for her sincere thoughts and opinions... Be OPEN about it... Afterall, loving someone is not just about keeping her by your side...? If she really wish to go, I'll wish her well eventually... No matter how willing that might be... -
Last para, closure.Originally posted by Devil1976:If I'm in your shoes, I might not even try to win her back... It's really quite a meaningless thing to do... And if you really think about it, it can very well not be THIS GUY... It could have just been ANY other guy who has the reasonable 'push' factor stirred up in her....
If she's really bound to leave, what even if you try to win her back? Can you keep her for long? You don't even have a foundation... Do you have any concrete plans? And you should understand... Foundation ain't built up overnight... That only happens for 'chemistry'...
If I'm you, I'll probably just have a good chat with her... Ask for her sincere thoughts and opinions... Be OPEN about it... Afterall, loving someone is not just about keeping her by your side...? If she really wish to go, I'll wish her well eventually... No matter how willing that might be...
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sorry bro she was crazy for you cos you are the so call in thing at that time.Originally posted by TidusX:Hey people,
my story goes like this...
i have a girlfriend, we've been together for about 4mths+. but she isnt commited to this relationship. i remember when we first knew each other for not long, she was quite crazy about me.. being very sensitive.. now she rarely is... she replies for my msgs are often short and she doesnt ask much about me.. though i told her about some of my probs, she never asked me about how it is the next day or so.. her conversations with me are short, i've asked her to come out a couple of times but she always says she's lazy or tired.. wats more is that there's another guy who like her as well and he's waiting patiently for her.. and... u know wat my worst nightmare would be... she went out with him to get his new year clothes and i can understand that. but i saw her when she was on her way back and she wore contacts... she never wore contacts when she's out with me.. and she never talked or smile to me when she sees me.. i asked if she was going back and she just nod her head..
Now, i'm living through quite painful days.. failing to get her attention. i've talked to her a few times abt her being not responsive and she often give s me a word of sorry. it hurts me to hear that.. and now i dont really wana confront her again.. i dont like to hear that sorry... feels like we're strangers.. she very rarely ask abt me in daily life, unless she's really in good mood.. and i'm feeling quite miserable...
but now she just lost interest in you cos you have lost your worth.
Is only a few more days before she dump you thats all...
yawn
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So many this kind of cases in here sia...But i think the outcome will all be similar....All already no way back and cannot salvage liao...Sorry to say that but that's what i think....
U're not the first and won't be the last....Its a cycle...ha -
i dunno wat else 2 say budden abt 2 contact lenses thing.....
it just shows she's takin u 4 granted. she doesn't feel 2 need 2 bother abt how she looks when she's wif u. but bothers if she's wif e other guy.
actualli how can u still stand it?
mebbe i dun really understand how much u feel for her.. but it wld be less painful if u juz let it go.. 4 yr own sake.
wish ya all e best. dat's all i can say. -
oh man... some good, some bad advices i got here.. i guess i'm gonna hav a good chat with her... after her exams that would be... and hopefully it turns out well... she's pretty cold towards me now... i hope its because of the exams...
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Hmm...seriously I do not know if I should be feeling sad for you or not...but I'll obey my instinct as usual and support you.Originally posted by TidusX:Hey people,
my story goes like this...
i have a girlfriend, we've been together for about 4mths+. but she isnt commited to this relationship. i remember when we first knew each other for not long, she was quite crazy about me.. being very sensitive.. now she rarely is... she replies for my msgs are often short and she doesnt ask much about me.. though i told her about some of my probs, she never asked me about how it is the next day or so.. her conversations with me are short, i've asked her to come out a couple of times but she always says she's lazy or tired.. wats more is that there's another guy who like her as well and he's waiting patiently for her.. and... u know wat my worst nightmare would be... she went out with him to get his new year clothes and i can understand that. but i saw her when she was on her way back and she wore contacts... she never wore contacts when she's out with me.. and she never talked or smile to me when she sees me.. i asked if she was going back and she just nod her head..
Now, i'm living through quite painful days.. failing to get her attention. i've talked to her a few times abt her being not responsive and she often give s me a word of sorry. it hurts me to hear that.. and now i dont really wana confront her again.. i dont like to hear that sorry... feels like we're strangers.. she very rarely ask abt me in daily life, unless she's really in good mood.. and i'm feeling quite miserable...
You see, although she's your girlfriend but you don't really own her. She's still reserved her rights to go out with her friends, and her friends doesn't necessary has to be girls only or people who doesn't makes you jealous. Yes, there are always guys out there waiting and waiting for the both of you to break up or wait for her to dump you. But no matter how long they are willing to wait, they're still stucked in the 'nth' runner-up position while you're 1st position. There isn't any need to be jealous or possessive really, she will leave you if she's really bent on dumping you for someone better. And when she really does that, you'll have to blame yourself for it and no one else. Respect her as a friend (That's why it's called GirlFriend, luckily there's still a Friend word in 50% of it.) and love her as a girl. Try putting yourself in her position for once and perhaps you'll understand a bit of her behaviour.
Remember...
GirlFriend should means someone who's better or at least equivalent of your best friend. So you should trust her as you would trust your best friend on the friendship (The attachments of the hearts never dies), respect her as you would of your best friend (They are still in control of their own life and they don't need to please you every single time you're together), love her as a girl (You can shower your one-sided love on her anytime without breaking the law). Love is reciprocal and she'll respond back to your love cos girls will know if they're being loved or not.
Good luck, and do change your mindset and behaviour towards her before she's forced to dump you. And do not feel bad if she doesn't respond well enough for your expectations, and don't bother to try forcing her to give you a reason for it. Girls are beyond reasoning cos they're emotional creatures, something rational creatures like Guys couldn't comprehend in eternity. Just do your part and love her, she'll follow-up in her own pace. -
let's face it: she's already so straightforward with u. she lets u see her with that guy. and she's ignoring u. u may think it's becos of exams and other reasons. Has it ever occurred to u that she has no feelings anymore? Duh.Originally posted by TidusX:oh man... some good, some bad advices i got here.. i guess i'm gonna hav a good chat with her... after her exams that would be... and hopefully it turns out well... she's pretty cold towards me now... i hope its because of the exams... -
My advice to you is to keep your mind open. The result of the chat may go in favour to you or may not. If you have a high expectation from the chat, you may disappointed greatly. Be cool about it and chat like a regular friend and try to find out more about her feeling towards you. Respect her with the decision she made. It takes 2 hand to clap, likewise, take 2 person to love.
Good luck man.Originally posted by TidusX:oh man... some good, some bad advices i got here.. i guess i'm gonna hav a good chat with her... after her exams that would be... and hopefully it turns out well... she's pretty cold towards me now... i hope its because of the exams...