just a thought on girls's thinking
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chase girls also must have tactics mah. Tho sincerity is most important...
the way u talked to her.. really failed leh.
u always say the wrong things wan.
doesn't mean that A calls me everynight, i will find him sweet. I must see who is this A..his character, our conversation etc and whether i feel comfortable and enjoy chatting with him.
if she finds u irritating, maybe she's beginning to resent u lor. =x -
Woah, maybe fast replies flavoured with the Ouch! in it.
good replies i see, interactive and stimulating.
Ahem.
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this advise seem to be for me... haha...Originally posted by chunyong:
ok bt the gal i like nv says or shows she's irritated laa.... bt in general she's nice to almost every1.... -
acutali it's all mind games my fren....Originally posted by bladez87:haiz. so sad...just had a conversation with her. she sounds so cold.
bt judging frm wat i see here frm u, i wld say u are jux being brought around the loop.... jux ignore her and c wat's her reaction...
if she's reali also bo chap u then reali gone le loh... -
that's becos she doesnt know what she wants that will attract her. she is thinking for her friend but not for herself. Calling her everyday may not apply for her.Originally posted by bladez87:ya ya . i mean is
how come when her best friend , Z, had a suitor who called Z everyday when courting her, my xin shang ren J thought it was sweet?
then when i msn her daily while courting her and we were still on good terms, she went from good terms to irritating?
the first time i went out with her, she asked me out de. even though is to study la, but still Zzz. -
why do u have to give in to her? are u a man with backbone? jus tell her:''take it or leave it"Originally posted by bladez87:haha true. true. i forgot that part. but when i confessed, i also asked if i stood a chance. which she replied , got chance but depends on my performance. haiz. regrets. if i can just go back to the past... -
agree. come on, how old are you? 87? means you are already 18 years old. everyone has a past, and being self-critical, 'zi bei', will not help much. You will have to help yourself; if it's sympathy you are hoping for, then i'm sorry most of us would rather you pull yourself together and have the courage to let her go.Originally posted by dokono:why do u have to give in to her? are u a man with backbone? jus tell her:''take it or leave it" -
Depends on the girl laa....... very hard to say wan...Originally posted by rainee:if a girl u dun like does all the nice and sincere things for you, would you think they are lame and stupid as well? -
i told him to ignore her liao but he wun listen...tell u lah, du nwaste time in this thread, the thread poster will just go ahead with wat he wants...he is in 'OVERRIDE ALL INPUT' mode...dun bother...he wanan waste time is his biz, dun let him waste ours.Originally posted by falling_stars:acutali it's all mind games my fren....
bt judging frm wat i see here frm u, i wld say u are jux being brought around the loop.... jux ignore her and c wat's her reaction...
if she's reali also bo chap u then reali gone le loh...
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Originally posted by chunyong:i told him to ignore her liao but he wun listen...tell u lah, du nwaste time in this thread, the thread poster will just go ahead with wat he wants...he is in 'OVERRIDE ALL INPUT' mode...dun bother...he wanan waste time is his biz, dun let him waste ours.
Sorry i can't help it.
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waa lao Zzz. say until like this T_T. hurting man. but then again. haha i listening to advice given le. i no longer pestering her. in fact i ignoring her in a way... at least i no initiate any conversation with her. she msg me to get her photos i took on my birthday. other then the story, i also no talk to her le.
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gd.. at least u are waking up.. but dun ignore her completely when u see her.. be a gentleman...have some class.Originally posted by bladez87:waa lao Zzz. say until like this T_T. hurting man. but then again. haha i listening to advice given le. i no longer pestering her. in fact i ignoring her in a way... at least i no initiate any conversation with her. she msg me to get her photos i took on my birthday. other then the story, i also no talk to her le. -
haha will not ignore la. but i more or less quite shy so i seldom greet friends. lol. ya but i no talk to her as much as before le. restrain.Originally posted by dokono:gd.. at least u are waking up.. but dun ignore her completely when u see her.. be a gentleman...have some class.
yup i learning how to wake up. and i learnt how to liao, so slowly waking up.
thanks people.
the story i writing, serves 2 purposes, 1 to understand where i went wrong so i can learn the lesson. 2 to let her know what are my thoughts and explanation for my actions. in a way to apologize to her. -
u want to know what went wrong for u?Originally posted by bladez87:haha will not ignore la. but i more or less quite shy so i seldom greet friends. lol. ya but i no talk to her as much as before le. restrain.
yup i learning how to wake up. and i learnt how to liao, so slowly waking up.
thanks people.
the story i writing, serves 2 purposes, 1 to understand where i went wrong so i can learn the lesson. 2 to let her know what are my thoughts and explanation for my actions. in a way to apologize to her.
let me summarise it for u:
U were too impatient. chase gals need patience. just be steady and calm. let her come to u.. and there's no need to apologise to her. What's done is done. Besides if u apologise, it shows u have no backbone for ur actions. U are a man remember. A man is always at risk for his actions and so doesnt need to apologise.
U need to know what u are doing is for the sake of her. Well, if she doesn't appreciate, it's her loss, not urs. Dun act as if she's the only gal in the world. Let her know out of so many gals u choose her becos she's special in a way, not she choose u. U have to behave in a way such that she has to take u or leave u. No loss. U din lose her in the first place anyway becos it has never started.
Next time a new gal comes along, just hang in there. Dun charge...advance slowly. -
thanks. i learnt liao. slowly ba. hopefully what i learnt will not be forgotten. and that i will be able to apply it...Originally posted by dokono:u want to know what went wrong for u?
let me summarise it for u:
U were too impatient. chase gals need patience. just be steady and calm. let her come to u.. and there's no need to apologise to her. What's done is done. Besides if u apologise, it shows u have no backbone for ur actions. U are a man remember. A man is always at risk for his actions and so doesnt need to apologise.
U need to know what u are doing is for the sake of her. Well, if she doesn't appreciate, it's her loss, not urs. Dun act as if she's the only gal in the world. Let her know out of so many gals u choose her becos she's special in a way, not she choose u. U have to behave in a way such that she has to take u or leave u. No loss. U din lose her in the first place anyway becos it has never started.
Next time a new gal comes along, just hang in there. Dun charge...advance slowly. -
You must have said something that she's doesn't like or did something that irritates her or behaved in a manner that displeases her.Originally posted by bladez87:ok it is of course related to the girl i am chasing la.
so it is like this,
one day we were talking then she mentioned that her best friend had an ex who went chasing her best friend , called and talk to her best friend almost everynight. and she thought it was very sweet of him.
initially, me and her talk on msn almost every night, until 1 day she started finding me irritating.
so i was wondering, why is it when her best friend had a suitor who calls her daily, she finds it sweet. however when i did talk to her on msn , she instead got irritated. wondering wondering.
any answers?
the saying is quite right. when a girl likes a guy, no matter what he does is perfect for her. when the guy who she does not have feelings for do even the most sincere thing for her, she will still think it is stupid and lame.
Nothing surprising, cos guys usually screw up and clueless and lost when tackling the girl that they like. Remember...girls are emotional creatures, so don't go put your own I-think-I-know-girls' formulae and expects girls to respond accordingly to what you think you should get at the end of the = sign.
Guys don't know girls, all they do is trying their best to dissect a girl's mentality and see if they scored. And most of them time, it's the girl who let the guy into her heart because she finds the guy good enough for her and not because he is casanova.