be a nice guy and then get crushed.. BADLY!!!
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im always there for her, listen to all her sorrows and problems. but then she found a bf and stop contacting me... few months later got dumped, come back to me and pour her sorrow to me again. and guess what? im always there for her.
sheesh... how come so many mr nice guy problems suddenly popped out?
just dont be a 7-11 to the girls you like. you are courting your own doom.
most of them will take you for granted. its like striking toto for you to find someone who will appreciate your 7-11 personality to them.
when you like a girl, be sure to let her know that you are not a 7-11 for her. if she wants you as a 7-11... then be your gf.
next time she calls you up to pour her sorrows to you, counter it which your own sorrows. make up some sorrows if you dont have any.
or just tell her off that you are busy playing mahjong. call you back in about 5 hours time.
seriously... singapore guys should learn not to be a 7-11 to woman they like.
if a relationship developed based on this, there will never be a balance in the relationship. the guy will most probably be too scared to lose his prize that he gives in to all her unreasonable requests.
learn la. they are just woman. another human being. there are plenty of them out there. this one cannot just hop on to another. or be evil cast a net and see which one got hooked.
and dont believe in fated one. the only one. the destiny one. blah blah blah all that s.hit.
those stuff are for losers who cant free themselves from their past relationship.
you can turn any girls into your fated one if you put in the effort. its just a feeling you made up or had subconciously.
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nice reasoning, shows u are not a conformist
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Every girl desires a emotional bolster.
That they can cry to and hug whenever they need...but she never belonged to bolster.
Bolster always thought someday, he could become her prince...he waited and waited.
Bolster's dream never died, he waited still because he thought he is the rightful prince.
But she never thought this way. A bolster is always a emotional bolster.
Likewise, a 7-11 is always a 7-11.
There are success stories, but it's hard to come by...say 1:200?
Do you want to be included in the statistic? Food for thought
Cheers -
wtf..ok since u're ok time to close thread..
seriously i wish more ppl can be as brave and smart as u. -
That's why I always say girls deserve to be heart-broken. They need to experience more pain to break their mentality.Originally posted by digicharat:im always there for her, listen to all her sorrows and problems. but then she found a bf and stop contacting me... few months later got dumped, come back to me and pour her sorrow to me again. and guess what? im always there for her. -
Originally posted by M©+square:Every girl desires a emotional bolster.
That they can cry to and hug whenever they need...but she never belonged to bolster.
Bolster always thought someday, he could become her prince...he waited and waited.
Bolster's dream never died, he waited still because he thought he is the rightful prince.
But she never thought this way. A bolster is always a emotional bolster.
Likewise, a 7-11 is always a 7-11.
There are success stories, but it's hard to come by...say 1:200?
Do you want to be included in the statistic? Food for thought
Cheers
I think it is my personality...no matter guy or girl, i think all of them see me as their 7-11 convenience store, open 24-7, has what you need and more
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Rainee ah...the more important issue is.Originally posted by rainee:
I think it is my personality...no matter guy or girl, i think all of them see me as their 7-11 convenience store, open 24-7, has what you need and more
Do you think you're their princess? Do you desire to be their princess(gf)?
That's the part which cuts.
Cheers
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I think the problem may be the SGrean guys who complain & whine simply do Not know how to interact with women.
To them, if the lady happens to be abit nice to them, they'll think the lady is attracted/interested
They think that just being nice to the lady = the lady MUST like them (No thoughts about chemistry)
Worst of all, they do things with EXPECTATION of something in return, i.e. the gesture has never been outta the genuine goodness of their hearts. There's always a MOTIVE.
Makes me wonder about their CHARACTER.
But anyway, it's none of my problem, because I've got a wonderful guy, & many of my friends are pretty solid in character
So, I DO know that Not all SG guys are like that. Some just don't bother to take a look at themselves.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by digicharat:im always there for her, listen to all her sorrows and problems. but then she found a bf and stop contacting me... few months later got dumped, come back to me and pour her sorrow to me again. and guess what? im always there for her.
sheesh... how come so many mr nice guy problems suddenly popped out?
just dont be a 7-11 to the girls you like. you are courting your own doom.
most of them will take you for granted. its like striking toto for you to find someone who will appreciate your 7-11 personality to them.
when you like a girl, be sure to let her know that you are not a 7-11 for her. if she wants you as a 7-11... then be your gf.
next time she calls you up to pour her sorrows to you, counter it which your own sorrows. make up some sorrows if you dont have any.
or just tell her off that you are busy playing mahjong. call you back in about 5 hours time.
seriously... singapore guys should learn not to be a 7-11 to woman they like.
if a relationship developed based on this, there will never be a balance in the relationship. the guy will most probably be too scared to lose his prize that he gives in to all her unreasonable requests.
learn la. they are just woman. another human being. there are plenty of them out there. this one cannot just hop on to another. or be evil cast a net and see which one got hooked.
and dont believe in fated one. the only one. the destiny one. blah blah blah all that s.hit.
those stuff are for losers who cant free themselves from their past relationship.
you can turn any girls into your fated one if you put in the effort. its just a feeling you made up or had subconciously. -
True..true to a certain extent. Except i follow this philosphy - No expectations , No Disappointments. But sometimes can't help it if i fall for my girl buddy la. I'll juzt go home wash my face and hopefully the feeling goes away. After that can go back to "suan-ing" her.Originally posted by FeowFeow:I think the problem may be the SGrean guys who complain & whine simply do Not know how to interact with women.
To them, if the lady happens to be abit nice to them, they'll think the lady is attracted/interested
They think that just being nice to the lady = the lady MUST like them (No thoughts about chemistry)
Worst of all, they do things with EXPECTATION of something in return, i.e. the gesture has never been outta the genuine goodness of their hearts. There's always a MOTIVE.
Makes me wonder about their CHARACTER.
But anyway, it's none of my problem, because I've got a wonderful guy, & many of my friends are pretty solid in character So, I DO know that Not all SG guys are like that. Some just don't bother to take a look at themselves.
FeowFeow -
agreed x 3Originally posted by FeowFeow:Maybe because you've always been, & you'll always be, to her?
I had a guy friend like this too, & I was like this to the same guy friend, but we've always been friends because there was Nothing else other than a platonic friendship between us.
Remember, you were there for her outta your own free will. She is Not obligated to choose you as her bf.
Good Friend/Close Friend =/= Potential BF material
Open your eyes wide next time if you wanna be more than friends.
FeowFeow
i cant agree with more than wat she say.. u did nt express ur likes for her....you did wat u did to her out of ur free will now u r blaming her. to simplified, wld u b thr for ur brothers if they nd u... piangz.. guys...oso nv see u complain, a friend can be thr for a friend they treasure in times of their needs or when someone feels blue, wld want someone to be thr for them but pls rem, the person don hv to be a boyfriend/a girlfriend. -
There's Nothing wrong with falling for a girl pal since matters of the heart can't be helped. However, expecting the girl to like him back just because of him being there for her isn't exactly good.
Oh well, at least I know that Not all SG guys are like that, my friends are pretty solid
FeowFeowOriginally posted by nullifi3d:True..true to a certain extent. Except i follow this philosphy - No expectations , No Disappointments. But sometimes can't help it if i fall for my girl buddy la. I'll juzt go home wash my face and hopefully the feeling goes away. After that can go back to "suan-ing" her. -
If u are doing all this willingly, no reciprocation doesn't matter. Obviously you expected something in return, and when u din get it, u r not happy.Originally posted by digicharat:im always there for her, listen to all her sorrows and problems. but then she found a bf and stop contacting me... few months later got dumped, come back to me and pour her sorrow to me again. and guess what? im always there for her.
She is not right to use u like tat (assuming she is using), but u shouldn' be helping only cuz e end goal is to have her as a gf.
Apparently she doesn't make such a good fren either, cuz once she's attached she don't contact u at all.
This kind of gal is very typical; a lot of bimbotic sg gals are like tat. Whole life revolve ard some jerk ah-beng. when not gg well, they are ur best fren, call ya everyday. When doing well or have other love interests, forget abt u.
Dun bother la, got many gals out there. -
Originally posted by guitarman1:If u are doing all this willingly, no reciprocation doesn't matter. Obviously you expected something in return, and when u din get it, u r not happy.
She is not right to use u like tat (assuming she is using), but u shouldn' be helping only cuz e end goal is to have her as a gf.
Apparently she doesn't make such a good fren either, cuz once she's attached she don't contact u at all.
This kind of gal is very typical; a lot of bimbotic sg gals are like tat. Whole life revolve ard some jerk ah-beng. when not gg well, they are ur best fren, call ya everyday. When doing well or have other love interests, forget abt u.
Dun bother la, got many gals out there.
not me.
im just stating an analogy of all mr nice guy nia. -
Originally posted by Agenda:last time got tis gal lor.. tis I always listen 2 ur sorrows and her nagging all those den go makan wif her or pei her til her friends come.. then she go wif tis other guy
NO MORE MR.NICE GUY!!!!!!!
Then after she broke up wif her stead still wan 2 msg me and den duno say wat until I oso no mood reply and den msg me abt 4 times I dulan turn off hp.. LUCKY NV COME FIND ME
Tis type of gal say wan find nice guy den always go ahead be heartbroken den come crawling bak 2 the 1 that truly love them
So my advice, DON'T BE TOO NICE MAYBE LISTEN 2 THEM ONCE IN A WHILE AND ASK ABOUT THEM!!!
RAWR!!!!
Finally got that out, Ok I can move on wif my life liao
There is this thing about most guys; they cannot be an emotional companion, save for people they are interested in. Sometimes, because there is a hidden agenda to their action - being 'nice' is but a facade.
If your friends are emotionally down, you mean they must be romantically involved with you to 'compensate' for your 'kindness'? Especially when you Love him/her?
What does Love means to you then? Having a relationship being top of your priority? (Which again reinforced my first paragraph)
Does having a relationship automatically mean Love?
If you want to be there for someone, be there without expecting returns... and not setting your safety net to catch someone and cursed at the effort you took that has no returns.
Listening to someone is volunteering. It is not business.
Cheers -
u r just acting Mr Nice guy, u r not one at allOriginally posted by Agenda:last time got tis gal lor.. tis I always listen 2 ur sorrows and her nagging all those den go makan wif her or pei her til her friends come.. then she go wif tis other guy
NO MORE MR.NICE GUY!!!!!!!
Then after she broke up wif her stead still wan 2 msg me and den duno say wat until I oso no mood reply and den msg me abt 4 times I dulan turn off hp.. LUCKY NV COME FIND ME
Tis type of gal say wan find nice guy den always go ahead be heartbroken den come crawling bak 2 the 1 that truly love them
So my advice, DON'T BE TOO NICE MAYBE LISTEN 2 THEM ONCE IN A WHILE AND ASK ABOUT THEM!!!
RAWR!!!!
Finally got that out, Ok I can move on wif my life liao
no wonder the gal oso don't like u lah -
i sort of agree~Originally posted by digicharat:im always there for her, listen to all her sorrows and problems. but then she found a bf and stop contacting me... few months later got dumped, come back to me and pour her sorrow to me again. and guess what? im always there for her.
sheesh... how come so many mr nice guy problems suddenly popped out?
just dont be a 7-11 to the girls you like. you are courting your own doom.
most of them will take you for granted. its like striking toto for you to find someone who will appreciate your 7-11 personality to them.
when you like a girl, be sure to let her know that you are not a 7-11 for her. if she wants you as a 7-11... then be your gf.
next time she calls you up to pour her sorrows to you, counter it which your own sorrows. make up some sorrows if you dont have any.
or just tell her off that you are busy playing mahjong. call you back in about 5 hours time.
seriously... singapore guys should learn not to be a 7-11 to woman they like.
if a relationship developed based on this, there will never be a balance in the relationship. the guy will most probably be too scared to lose his prize that he gives in to all her unreasonable requests.
learn la. they are just woman. another human being. there are plenty of them out there. this one cannot just hop on to another. or be evil cast a net and see which one got hooked.
and dont believe in fated one. the only one. the destiny one. blah blah blah all that s.hit.
those stuff are for losers who cant free themselves from their past relationship.
you can turn any girls into your fated one if you put in the effort. its just a feeling you made up or had subconciously. 