Any advice?
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I know a girl for 6 month...
always hang out together, people thought we are an item...She is single so do i...
We always call each other out have fun together, sharing the same thoughts, same hobbies...
There are some hinting and flirting in our conversation but i know very well if i ask her to be my gf the answer is yes...
Just got myself a diploma but getting a low pay job, she is still in poly...
I am not ready...
I willing to wait for her and i dun mind remain single....Just to focus on my career first...
Both are too young...
I love the friendship more than getting into a relationship...
She can't wait...what should i do? -
Let her go?
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Tell me more about the part where you say she can't wait.
why do you say that?
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what does cant wait means?
continue to go out as friends... -
Many times she say she always being left on the shelf no 1 want her....
there are other guys that is chasing her and i would tell her the guys not wroth her love etc etc....
I do not want to get into a relationship just for dating, i only believe in getting into a relationship so both can get married...
I did tell her what i want and what i seek when i am in a relationship, both must be mature etc etc...
She would
Is my thinking old fashion?Another part of me is I also don't wish to let go of her.....
I never say to her " trust me, wait for me. wait until i am stable...." because it's not fair to her -
Take first, try it out.
If you don't try, you will never know!
Who knows what can be churned out? Maybe she really your lucky star then you ho seh liao!
Don't like/ cannot make it then just refund lor... -
So meaning i just give her the good news?Originally posted by shrekho:Take first, try it out.
If you don't try, you will never know!
Who knows what can be churned out? Maybe she really your lucky star then you ho seh liao!
Don't like/ cannot make it then just refund lor...
She is still studying.....Are you sure? -
Try lah.
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In my heart, the answer is clear
If she can wait, she is wroth it
If she can't wait means she not wroth my love...
I think i let her go, i continue being her best friend. Will not stop her from going out with the guys.. -
Originally posted by Wulus:In my heart, the answer is clear
If she can wait, she is wroth it
If she can't wait means she not wroth my love...
I think i let her go, i continue being her best friend. Will not stop her from going out with the guys..
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Nice if you think of marriage and to provide for her and everything lah... But hor... How many relationships you had before huh...?Originally posted by Wulus:So meaning i just give her the good news?
She is still studying.....Are you sure?
If you never even start up a relationship with her, how you'll know if things would work out ley...?
It's like trying to paint a house without even building it in the 1st place man... -
Being thru 1 relationship...One and only that hurt me most
Not wroth being together end up not the one i spend my lifetime with.... -
You can never predict probability...because people change.Originally posted by Wulus:Being thru 1 relationship...One and only that hurt me most
Not wroth being together end up not the one i spend my lifetime with....
It is a good thing if it work out. It is an experience if it didn't.
If you've decided on the path you're going to walk. Then focus and walk on.
Otherwise, if anything goes wrong...you'll have excuse that the person have affected you. Which is unfair to her.
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have you wonder if you missed this boat, the next boat might not come so early or may not even come?
y not board the boat and see how far you can row..who knows, you n her may last forever....if u dun try, u will not know. if you try, you may know.
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You said that you want the friendship more than a relationship. So, do you love her as a lover will?
Or do you not want her to be attached to another guy coz you may lose the only "connection" that you can't feel with other ppl? but you dun love her at all?
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get together with her first, but let her know things will go slow now bcos u still need to work for career... if she really like u she'll understand...Originally posted by Wulus:I know a girl for 6 month...
always hang out together, people thought we are an item...She is single so do i...
We always call each other out have fun together, sharing the same thoughts, same hobbies...
There are some hinting and flirting in our conversation but i know very well if i ask her to be my gf the answer is yes...
Just got myself a diploma but getting a low pay job, she is still in poly...
I am not ready...
I willing to wait for her and i dun mind remain single....Just to focus on my career first...
Both are too young...
I love the friendship more than getting into a relationship...
She can't wait...what should i do? -
U can jus date her and then earn some money for your marriage after that.Originally posted by Wulus:I know a girl for 6 month...
always hang out together, people thought we are an item...She is single so do i...
We always call each other out have fun together, sharing the same thoughts, same hobbies...
There are some hinting and flirting in our conversation but i know very well if i ask her to be my gf the answer is yes...
Just got myself a diploma but getting a low pay job, she is still in poly...
I am not ready...
I willing to wait for her and i dun mind remain single....Just to focus on my career first...
Both are too young...
I love the friendship more than getting into a relationship...
She can't wait...what should i do?
If she really loves she can wait..
If u continue on your career first then u have a 50 percent chance of losing to other guys.
If u love the friendship then getting into a relationship.. so wats bothering u now? -
pats pats i know is tough to go thru a broken relationship.Originally posted by Wulus:Being thru 1 relationship...One and only that hurt me most
Not wroth being together end up not the one i spend my lifetime with....
I myself have thru a few and went through what you have been going through.
My advice is this let go of your hurt in the past or you will never find true happiness . You have being hurt before i understand and is your heart that is scare to be hurt again but in life you must learn how to let go.
I believe she is a nice girl and she is willingly to be the one with you. Give her a chance to let her into your heart to repair that hurt that you suffer before.
I know is tough for her but thru hard work and true love i believe she can do it. -
Someone told me this...
"I will not pursue a relationship with a girl whom I cannot imagine a future with. If I get into a r/s with someone, I would have to be able to imagine myself living forever with her, until both of us are old."
I was thinking...how can you be sure that your imagination is correct? How can you base what is going to happen in the future on your imagination? Nobody can predict what is going to happen...you can never tell whether she is the one for you by trying to predict what is going to happen next, the only way to tell is to actually try it out in real life.
So I dunno if this reason of yours is valid. Though it does sound very much like what one of my frens was thinking when he told me why he was reluctant to get involved with a girl whom he likes and also cares a lot for him.
The only valid reason is if you do not have any feeling for her. If you cannot see yourself being more than friends with her at the current moment, then don't complicate things just by becoming her bf because you feel "pressurized" by her insistence. Love cannot be forced.
It has to come naturally. But don't let your imagination that you think you won't last long with her prevents you from trying it out
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You'll never know if the shoe fits till you try it on
Originally posted by Wulus:Being thru 1 relationship...One and only that hurt me most
Not wroth being together end up not the one i spend my lifetime with.... -
There are many people who have gone thr long courtship of more than 5 yrs.
It worked cos both parties are willing to put in effort. -
jus go into the rs and hope for the best. If it works, it works, if it dosent, at least you have meaningful experience from it. Life is too short to go through alone
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Like most others have already advised you... I say build the house 1st before you think about painting it....Originally posted by Wulus:Being thru 1 relationship...One and only that hurt me most
Not wroth being together end up not the one i spend my lifetime with....
As much as you'll need time for your career, you'll need time to nurture a relationship too... -
haiz.. i cano onli sae u r not outdated.. u simply live ion the past.. come on.. don contradict urself. she already go the 1st step of takin the initaitve.. wat do u mean by she can wait she worth my love she canntot wait she not worth my love when u nv even ask her to wait?
at least u tell her that ask her wait a few years if she truly like u, den at least not so bad la.. -
Originally posted by Wulus:I know a girl for 6 month...
always hang out together, people thought we are an item...She is single so do i...
We always call each other out have fun together, sharing the same thoughts, same hobbies...
There are some hinting and flirting in our conversation but i know very well if i ask her to be my gf the answer is yes...
Just got myself a diploma but getting a low pay job, she is still in poly...
I am not ready...
I willing to wait for her and i dun mind remain single....Just to focus on my career first...
Both are too young...
I love the friendship more than getting into a relationship...
She can't wait...what should i do? You are the guy who thinks too much.
You are constantly fed with thoughts of inadequacy that you will never feel 'enough'.
You will tell yourself, there is still NS, probably after NS first. Then probably comes higher education.. probably after that bah. Then comes work... probably after a while bah. Then comes money... probably abit more bah...
As you aged, you will come to realise that Love is not something that automatically comes to you when you are finally 'prepared'. And what makes you think that the ones that came to you are the ones you are seeking?
It seemed to me you are more fearful of the repercussion of risky relationship at this age, more than anything else.
Don't get me wrong; I don't want you to step into a relationship for the sake of it. Rather, understand that your reason of not accepting and acknowledging this Love is out of fear, not because you thought it was more rational and logical to build a career first.
I have a friend who had your sort of thinking; his first gf came when he was around 32-33.
And then it also failed, despite feeling decently 'enough'.
Some things won't change in Love - your amount of lessons needed for 'graduation'.
When you are enough? Chances are, you will never be.
Cheers