Any advice?
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Clap,Clap,Clap....Well say.I was like what u desrcibe before.Luckily,I abandon my old mentality at the age of 25 and didn't start at age of 32 like what yr friend did! Now I'm very happy,I found my one..Originally posted by Yunhaier:
You are the guy who thinks too much.
You are constantly fed with thoughts of inadequacy that you will never feel 'enough'.
You will tell yourself, there is still NS, probably after NS first. Then probably comes higher education.. probably after that bah. Then comes work... probably after a while bah. Then comes money... probably abit more bah...
As you aged, you will come to realise that Love is not something that automatically comes to you when you are finally 'prepared'. And what makes you think that the ones that came to you are the ones you are seeking?
It seemed to me you are more fearful of the repercussion of risky relationship at this age, more than anything else.
Don't get me wrong; I don't want you to step into a relationship for the sake of it. Rather, understand that your reason of not accepting and acknowledging this Love is out of fear, not because you thought it was more rational and logical to build a career first.
I have a friend who had your sort of thinking; his first gf came when he was around 32-33.
And then it also failed, despite feeling decently 'enough'.
Some things won't change in Love - your amount of lessons needed for 'graduation'.
When you are enough? Chances are, you will never be.
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Originally posted by CannyOng:Clap,Clap,Clap....Well say.I was like what u desrcibe before.Luckily,I abandon my old mentality at the age of 25 and didn't start at age of 32 like what yr friend did! Now I'm very happy,I found my one.. Congratulation dude.
yunhaier wish you well.
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wonderfully crafted and well said.Originally posted by Yunhaier: You are the guy who thinks too much.
You are constantly fed with thoughts of inadequacy that you will never feel 'enough'.
You will tell yourself, there is still NS, probably after NS first. Then probably comes higher education.. probably after that bah. Then comes work... probably after a while bah. Then comes money... probably abit more bah...
As you aged, you will come to realise that Love is not something that automatically comes to you when you are finally 'prepared'. And what makes you think that the ones that came to you are the ones you are seeking?
It seemed to me you are more fearful of the repercussion of risky relationship at this age, more than anything else.
Don't get me wrong; I don't want you to step into a relationship for the sake of it. Rather, understand that your reason of not accepting and acknowledging this Love is out of fear, not because you thought it was more rational and logical to build a career first.
I have a friend who had your sort of thinking; his first gf came when he was around 32-33.
And then it also failed, despite feeling decently 'enough'.
Some things won't change in Love - your amount of lessons needed for 'graduation'.
When you are enough? Chances are, you will never be.
Cheers
what have u gotta lose anyway? live life with no regrets.
let it go, u may regret, start a r/s now, even if it fails, u will look back and say at least i tried, and if it succeeds and u r married happily ever after, u can say, "heng ar, i tried!"
cheers