Caught in a mix with friendships. (Help?!)
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I need some advice.
You see, at my class, ALL the girls are so..fussy. It is always "I friend you" or "I don't friend you anymore!". And then, there was this BIG problem, which happened on Tuesday.
So then, Amanda, one of the popular girls and one of the favourite students among teachers, got into BIG trouble, and lost her popularity and her fame with the teachers.
So almost all my friends say "I don't like Amanda leh..so bossy, always order us around do this do that..hate her lah! Lucky we no longer her friends...HAH. Serves her right anyway..hope she die lah!"
And then they also pretend pretend to friend her. And during the All Girls Talk, only and just for girls, about what happens to all girls, and then there was this Questions time. So we answer one question correctly, get a prize. So then, I answered correctly and got a prize
and so did Amanda. And then the people whom I was "hanging" out with all said, "WAH LAO!! Amanda so SELFISH one! Never invite us to sit with her together!! STUPID lah her!" *grumbles grumbles*
But then, I felt so bad. I friend Amanda and I am like the ONLY person who really FRIEND her in the class. And everybody go and threaten me say, "If you friend Amanda, we don't friend you!
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Omg, what kind of girls are these???? Aren't we all supposed to get along with each another and live in perfect harmony? Even HARMony have the word HARM inside!!!
Now, I am really confused. I really want to be in the "Popular Side" but not the "Nerds Side'' which I had been in for a longggg timeeeeeee!!!
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if i were u, i would rather friend Amanda den those girls if she's not as bad as them.
" And everybody go and threaten me say, "If you friend Amanda, we don't friend you! " "
wat kind of friends would sae tis to u? taking friendship so lightly.. tis kind of 'friends' bu yao ye ba if they could do tis to her now, they could do it to u sumdae... -
For a while I was like
looking at his post...
Then I realised the threadstarter is 12 or 13 yrs old...
At this age you will tend to treat befriend ppl based on their appearance or popularity... Peer pressure is also a heavy influence...
In a few yrs you will think differently I hope... -
sigh xiao mei mei also post here? haha can just friend friend both parties or not? make peace not war.....
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which one do u regard as your better friend? follow her then
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Heyy, xiao mei mei. how old? sounds like problems back in primary school. anyway, if think amanda is a nice girl, and the otheres are only acting like that cos they are jealous, then follow your heart, fren amanda lorr. but if amanda is a bitch, but simply cos u feel sorry for her then u fren her, then not worth it lah.
school got more interesting things to look out for other than going through the Bitchy Saga day after day
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THIS... My girl... You'll have to decide for yourself what kinda friend(s) you wanna have and what kinda friend you would wanna be...?Originally posted by LinLing:I need some advice.
You see, at my class, ALL the girls are so..fussy. It is always "I friend you" or "I don't friend you anymore!". And then, there was this BIG problem, which happened on Tuesday.
So then, Amanda, one of the popular girls and one of the favourite students among teachers, got into BIG trouble, and lost her popularity and her fame with the teachers.
So almost all my friends say "I don't like Amanda leh..so bossy, always order us around do this do that..hate her lah! Lucky we no longer her friends...HAH. Serves her right anyway..hope she die lah!"
And then they also pretend pretend to friend her. And during the All Girls Talk, only and just for girls, about what happens to all girls, and then there was this Questions time. So we answer one question correctly, get a prize. So then, I answered correctly and got a prize and so did Amanda. And then the people whom I was "hanging" out with all said, "WAH LAO!! Amanda so SELFISH one! Never invite us to sit with her together!! STUPID lah her!" *grumbles grumbles*
But then, I felt so bad. I friend Amanda and I am like the ONLY person who really FRIEND her in the class. And everybody go and threaten me say, "If you friend Amanda, we don't friend you! "
Omg, what kind of girls are these???? Aren't we all supposed to get along with each another and live in perfect harmony? Even HARMony have the word HARM inside!!!
Now, I am really confused. I really want to be in the "Popular Side" but not the "Nerds Side'' which I had been in for a longggg timeeeeeee!!!
ANYONE CAN HELP ME?
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wtf??????????????
how did AA reach this state?????? -
ya i was feeling the same thing... like WTH?Originally posted by Delta 5:For a while I was like looking at his post...
Then I realised the threadstarter is 12 or 13 yrs old...
At this age you will tend to treat befriend ppl based on their appearance or popularity... Peer pressure is also a heavy influence...
In a few yrs you will think differently I hope...
but thinking back..... kids at that age can be quite cruel...
my advise to u xiao mei, is ask yourself who u feel is more of a friend to u,
is it this Amanda gal or the other gals?
as horrible as this feels... take heart at the fact that this is not the end of the world whatever you choose.
I was in amanda's position once. and no matter how nice i treated all my classmates.... they just chose to "hate" me. it hurted a lot then... used to cry in my room all the time after school....
but a decade later... it is all water under the bridge... doesn't hurt anymore... and guess what, the friends that sticked to u through all that time... they are your real friends. -
Well, yea.
But then I friend Amanda, and Siew Hwee BUT Amanda DON'T like Siew Hwee and told me not to friend her or else she wun friend me.
I going to enter Sec 1 next yr, and yes, I might be young, but..wait. Is there an age limit for this forum thing? -
I am NOT a xiao mei mei!!Originally posted by korusu:sigh xiao mei mei also post here? haha can just friend friend both parties or not? make peace not war.....
Anyway, I can't friend BOTH parties!! And ANOTHER party came in. Argh, peer pressure peer pressure....--faints--
AND if I friend both, sooner OR later, both will ask me this truely annoying and irritating question. "Who do you friend most?" or "Who do you like to hang out with most?"
Friends. *shakes head* -
i like your signature. beware of paedophiles who will PM you.
have a nice day. -
I wanna have good friends and I wanna be a good friend.Originally posted by Devil1976:THIS... My girl... You'll have to decide for yourself what kinda friend(s) you wanna have and what kinda friend you would wanna be...?
And the problem now, is that no one wants to friend each another.
I really want to friend Amanda, but then I will be cast into the shadows again, just like last year. But if I friend THEM, then I be one of the popular kids...coz' then I won't be teased, bullied or whatever JUST like last year.
Problems problems....................................... -
Almost all the girls in my class take friendships lightly.Originally posted by GoOdOnE:if i were u, i would rather friend Amanda den those girls if she's not as bad as them.
" And everybody go and threaten me say, "If you friend Amanda, we don't friend you! " "
wat kind of friends would sae tis to u? taking friendship so lightly.. tis kind of 'friends' bu yao ye ba if they could do tis to her now, they could do it to u sumdae...
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There There sayang sayang.Originally posted by LinLing:I am NOT a xiao mei mei!!
Anyway, I can't friend BOTH parties!! And ANOTHER party came in. Argh, peer pressure peer pressure....--faints--
AND if I friend both, sooner OR later, both will ask me this truely annoying and irritating question. "Who do you friend most?" or "Who do you like to hang out with most?"
Friends. *shakes head*
I understand how you feel. Is a choice everyone got to face when they grow up.
The only way out is to chose a group or a person to stick to and stick with the person.
I used to be friends to almost everyone but in the end everyone was worry if i leak any important information to other parties during exam period.
so is up to you to think who you want to be your best friend. -
Teenage angst...
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Grow up please..
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Oh, and I forgot one more thing.
Don't reply to this if you nothing good to say, ok? -
Yup. Last time I stick to ONE person only. But ever since the incident on Tuesday the 21st, February 2006, I got all invited.Originally posted by drx:There There sayang sayang.
I understand how you feel. Is a choice everyone got to face when they grow up.
The only way out is to chose a group or a person to stick to and stick with the person.
I used to be friends to almost everyone but in the end everyone was worry if i leak any important information to other parties during exam period.
so is up to you to think who you want to be your best friend. -
i noe its rude but i jus have to say this:
your other classmates hu don 'friend' her are so bitchy -
Yeah... We shouldn't really belittle the teens' problems all the time... At their age, they can be quite emotionally vulnerable... And it certainly doesn't help when most of their friends could also at a relatively immature stage, and talking to adults about such things are deem as waste of time on trivial matters... As we can see EVEN FROM ADULTS... Some people can really take things quite personally...Originally posted by smudgey:ya i was feeling the same thing... like WTH?
but thinking back..... kids at that age can be quite cruel...
my advise to u xiao mei, is ask yourself who u feel is more of a friend to u,
is it this Amanda gal or the other gals?
as horrible as this feels... take heart at the fact that this is not the end of the world whatever you choose.
I was in amanda's position once. and no matter how nice i treated all my classmates.... they just chose to "hate" me. it hurted a lot then... used to cry in my room all the time after school....
but a decade later... it is all water under the bridge... doesn't hurt anymore... and guess what, the friends that sticked to u through all that time... they are your real friends.
Sometimes we should attempt to teach them to walk out of it rather than brushing their matters off as nothing most of the time... -
No... There's no age limit... Pls feel free to carry on...?Originally posted by LinLing:Well, yea.
But then I friend Amanda, and Siew Hwee BUT Amanda DON'T like Siew Hwee and told me not to friend her or else she wun friend me.
I going to enter Sec 1 next yr, and yes, I might be young, but..wait. Is there an age limit for this forum thing? -
but comparing to most ppl who juz replied. u are.Originally posted by LinLing:I am NOT a xiao mei mei!!
Anyway, I can't friend BOTH parties!! And ANOTHER party came in. Argh, peer pressure peer pressure....--faints--
AND if I friend both, sooner OR later, both will ask me this truely annoying and irritating question. "Who do you friend most?" or "Who do you like to hang out with most?"
Friends. *shakes head*
anyways. easiest out, not the most "correct" one is to choose one side and stick with it. so if u wanna friend amanda, dun friend anyone who is against her. keep it simple, den u dun think about wad other people feel. your peers are so selfish anyways. screw em to hell. you really dun have to force urself to be "holy" or the most correct person on earth, but dun be the worse either. -
What I would do if I'm in your shoes... (Which I think is really what I did?)Originally posted by LinLing:I wanna have good friends and I wanna be a good friend.
And the problem now, is that no one wants to friend each another.
I really want to friend Amanda, but then I will be cast into the shadows again, just like last year. But if I friend THEM, then I be one of the popular kids...coz' then I won't be teased, bullied or whatever JUST like last year.
Problems problems.......................................
If I really care to befriend with one, I won't care about how others might be stopping me from it...
I would choose to befriend BOTH of them.. And I'll ask BOTH of them to RESPECT MY FREEDOM and DECISION. Any party which tries to stop me (unless there's hidden reason to save me from hurt) or might even threaten to discard the friendship because of my decision WOULD be FREE to GO...
I've been teased and bullied before too because of my decision... But since long I've never wanted to live for the sake of others, nor live under the shadows of hypocrites... People can push me over, but it just helps to make me tougher and get to see people clearer... After a while a new group of friends would emerge... So don't you worry too much about it...? Besides... You're going to a new secondary school next year... So why worry so much? 
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Hoho. poor little girl.
Maybe u can seek ur older siblings or parents for assistance.
Anyway friendship at ur age is a big problem.
Becoz around that age most of us tends to be immatured,
therefore we have cases of friend or dont want friend or act to be friend
and so on... My advice to you is to stay out of this friend or no friend thing
with ur best effort or try to find a solution as fast as possible and
concentrate on ur studies. Thats the only thing that will help u more in future.
Ur friends here and there cant guarantee ur future or a place in university.
Anyway wish u all the best.