Caught in a mix with friendships. (Help?!)
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amanda and her fren with u form a group.
dun bother about the rest.
it can happen to amanda so it might also happen to.
anyway, ur fren sounds really childish, immature.
like primary school kids like that lols. -
Hi..
to make u feel a bit better.. i just recently had to handle something like this.. and with a group of mid 20s too....
Just think about it, girl.. you may be young now but think about what sort of decision you will make to be the type of person you want to remember yourself to be? Because in 5 yrs time, you look back, and you know what sort of person you are and if you liked yourself back then (which is now, of course)
Sometimes, it is ok to refuse to make a decision if you know that all the choices given are silly! Seems like you know the value of friendship more than those who take it lightly - so don't change who you are. Even if you lose this group of friends now, at least you know you didn't 'betray' your own principles, which will last you in life far longer than any group of friends. -
Thnxs everyone for the advice..
I try to piece them all together to form ONE.
Anyway, sorry if I don't reply so often, coz' it is my CA1 week so...kinda busy studying. ^_____^ -
I want them to know that I need my freedom.
I want them to respect my decisons.
But it is near impossible, for the fact that all the girls excluding me argue and sometimes, when I am talking to..lets say, Yuan Ying. She will say "I don't like Jodi leh..so childish but so big also..." and then everyone else there will like agree. Coz' she IS kinda popular..
And also, I worry. Coz' IF I friend someone else, they will spread rumours that is so totally NOT true, something like slander, and spread it everywhere in the whole school. It happened before, and I swear, I was like the only person there comforting her and telling her that those people are sh!ts.
Oh, and no age limit? Ok, I stay. Until I am about 1048636583220275 years old then maybe I quit.
Anymore advices? I want to combine all together and form it into one. -
I don't wanna look back and regret.Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:Hi.. to make u feel a bit better.. i just recently had to handle something like this.. and with a group of mid 20s too....
Just think about it, girl.. you may be young now but think about what sort of decision you will make to be the type of person you want to remember yourself to be? Because in 5 yrs time, you look back, and you know what sort of person you are and if you liked yourself back then (which is now, of course)
Sometimes, it is ok to refuse to make a decision if you know that all the choices given are silly! Seems like you know the value of friendship more than those who take it lightly - so don't change who you are. Even if you lose this group of friends now, at least you know you didn't 'betray' your own principles, which will last you in life far longer than any group of friends.
I know what I want to be and what I want my image to be or what my whole appearance projects.
Nowadays, people, especially teens, take everything for granted. Why can't they take it seriously and BE serious about it?
Everything is either "I don't friend you anymore, b!tch!" or "Bye bye, ex-friend!" which I simply HATE. -
Its always good to maintain a balance and adopt a policy of neutrality like what the swiss do.
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Uh, sorry. But what does neutrality means?Originally posted by shade343:Its always good to maintain a balance and adopt a policy of neutrality like what the swiss do.
Don't laugh at me, lol, please! -
being neutral means u dun take any1's sides, that way u dun offend any1
By being with the popular group doesn't guarantee that these friends/people will be with u 5-10 years down the road, the same applies to being with the outcast group. Some of them might even lost contact with u 5-10 years later.
If u want to be friends with both groups, just strike a balance. Say for example, fuss with the popular group while study with the nerdy group. If the popular group ask u why u are with the nerdy group, just say u gals dun want to study with u wat, etc
Anyway, u are going 2b Sec 1 next year, most probably u won't b seeing this bunch of friends, so why trouble urself over such issues, better concentrate on getting good grades for PSLE -
eh xmm topic still going on strong ah wah
actually in this kind of situation best to play the double headed snake(or maybe triple headed) when one side ask u who u wanna friend with just say tt oh i was only toking to them to hear those silly things they were gibbering abt repeat the same process with all parties involved.....
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you have a bunch of childish friends really.Originally posted by LinLing:I need some advice.
You see, at my class, ALL the girls are so..fussy. It is always "I friend you" or "I don't friend you anymore!". And then, there was this BIG problem, which happened on Tuesday.
So then, Amanda, one of the popular girls and one of the favourite students among teachers, got into BIG trouble, and lost her popularity and her fame with the teachers.
So almost all my friends say "I don't like Amanda leh..so bossy, always order us around do this do that..hate her lah! Lucky we no longer her friends...HAH. Serves her right anyway..hope she die lah!"
And then they also pretend pretend to friend her. And during the All Girls Talk, only and just for girls, about what happens to all girls, and then there was this Questions time. So we answer one question correctly, get a prize. So then, I answered correctly and got a prize and so did Amanda. And then the people whom I was "hanging" out with all said, "WAH LAO!! Amanda so SELFISH one! Never invite us to sit with her together!! STUPID lah her!" *grumbles grumbles*
But then, I felt so bad. I friend Amanda and I am like the ONLY person who really FRIEND her in the class. And everybody go and threaten me say, "If you friend Amanda, we don't friend you!
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Omg, what kind of girls are these???? Aren't we all supposed to get along with each another and live in perfect harmony? Even HARMony have the word HARM inside!!!
Now, I am really confused. I really want to be in the "Popular Side" but not the "Nerds Side'' which I had been in for a longggg timeeeeeee!!!
ANYONE CAN HELP ME?
WHen u go into Secondary sch, thins will b really diff so right now don thin 2 much -
Originally posted by LinLing:
Get more mature friends from out of your school...
I don't wanna look back and regret.
I know what I want to be and what I want my image to be or what my whole appearance projects.
Nowadays, people, especially teens, take everything for granted. Why can't they take it seriously and BE serious about it?
Everything is either "I don't friend you anymore, b!tch!" or "Bye bye, ex-friend!" which I simply [b] HATE.[/b] -
And I found out something.
My two popular side friends, Yuan Ying and Ashley, doesn't have STUDIES!! in their minds.
Yesterday, and it is the CA1 week, they asked me, "Wanna go shopping with us?" and omg, it was the CA1 week!! And they dun wanna study and ace the exam?
Well yea. I just said, "Um. NO. I need to study...don't you need to do? It's MATHS exams tomorrow leh, gonna be HARD! What if you fail? Might repeat P6 you know!"
THEIR OBNOXIOUS REPLY.
"So what??"
AAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!
Not only are they selfish, immature etc., they DON'T CARE ABOUT THEIR FREAKING STUDIES AND FUTURE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!