GF 3 months pregnant.. no money for abortion
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need $500 more by 1 week.. where to get? im 18 shes 17. 100% cant let our parents know. pro life christians wont allow abortion thinking its murder and we'll go to hell. both our back accounts no more money. we dont have medisave right? cant use ezycash loans either.
100% cant dont abort. she insists too. her mother is psycho.. shant say more here. -
parents or any relatives dat u can trust wld be the best.
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dun abort
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Like?Originally posted by FireIce:dun abort
there are ways out definitely -
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As much as i would like this option if it ever happens... but... society now difficult for teenage moms.Originally posted by FireIce:dun abort
there are ways out definitely
Then again, I wouldn't have the heart to... -
y issit by one more week?
or e foetus getting too big...risky to do e surgery? -
Pregnancy Crisis Service Tel: 6339 9770
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adoption? but it depends on the couple la, im not against nor pro.Originally posted by aRcTiC_sTaR:Like? -
+1Originally posted by FireIce:Pregnancy Crisis Service Tel: 6339 9770
There is a life and of you both. -
CAll ME cruel, or damn arse hole...
Whenever people ask for my opinion on teenage birth, I always object.
The finance strain is tough. The mental torture is crazy. The isolation from people is unbearable. For teenagers, it is a damn tough choice to cope with too.
I would suggest abortion, sounds cruel, but personally feel that there is less problems for both. Unless both side of the parents can agree and help, there isn't much choice to work with. -
do chun li fa kick on ur gf.
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drink pineapple juice ba...
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If its less than 3 months old, I would advise aborting it.
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ohh man check whether is it risky to abort at 3 mths will it harm your gf health. if really cant save up to the amount then have to prepare to give birth to the baby le. Life is just so unpredictable. call the hotline ba. see what the advice they give.
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As for money, sell your handphone and whatever. Ask for a loan from a charity or something.
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i think having he child would be much more expensive manOriginally posted by Tier:ohh man check whether is it risky to abort at 3 mths will it harm your gf health. if really cant save up to the amount then have to prepare to give birth to the baby le. Life is just so unpredictable. call the hotline ba. see what the advice they give. -
raise the kid..if u mention being a christian..i believe after sinning once,u shud not go any further..raise the kid and be a good parent..
let ur parents know,they will scold and nag whatever,but it can't be helped..
dun let the kid die for nth,it won't hurt u except for ur piggy bank but think about the mother..such a traumatizing experience for her might scar her for life..there have been reports of people entering depression after pregnancy..
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abort it, yes it's cruel but think again will u b able to afford it at your age?Originally posted by neverendingtrauma:need $500 more by 1 week.. where to get? im 18 shes 17. 100% cant let our parents know. pro life christians wont allow abortion thinking its murder and we'll go to hell. both our back accounts no more money. we dont have medisave right? cant use ezycash loans either.
100% cant dont abort. she insists too. her mother is psycho.. shant say more here.
Secondly your gf might jus ditch the child with u and ran off in the end u suffer.
And don go to some unlicense clinics for abortiion, i have gruesome stories abt it -
I say abort. I do not think that abortion is a sin if the baby isnt 3 months old yet.
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Let's face it - you don't have the money for an abortion, and she doesn't have a lot of time left for an abortion even if you scrimp and save for the money. Late abortions can be pretty harmful for the mother. It also increases the risk of miscarriage in future pregnancies.
I think right now the best idea is to let your parents know. Her parents as well.
Of course they'll be disappointed and angry at the two of you - nothing much you can do about that. But eventually they're going to have to face the facts and help you solve the issue at hand.
There are childless couples out there who would do anything to have a baby. If the two of you feel that you're not mature enough to get married and raise the child, then consider putting the child up for adoption. Let the child be raised and loved in a loving family, and not in an impromptu unplanned marriage where both parents are still young and ill-prepared. -
given their age and what not i doubt they can actually raise the child. not really a viable option to raise the kid man.Originally posted by stellazio:raise the kid..if u mention being a christian..i believe after sinning once,u shud not go any further..raise the kid and be a good parent..
let ur parents know,they will scold and nag whatever,but it can't be helped..
dun let the kid die for nth,it won't hurt u except for ur piggy bank but think about the mother..such a traumatizing experience for her might scar her for life..there have been reports of people entering depression after pregnancy..
go raise the kid and be responsible dude.. -
Its a life.. i understand it is very difficult situation because you are not sure whether should take care of the child.. don't blame you if you choose not to raise it yourself, but dun be so cruel to go and abort?Originally posted by FBI:abort it, yes it's cruel but think again will u b able to afford it at your age?
Secondly your gf might jus ditch the child with u and ran off in the end u suffer.
And don go to some unlicense clinics for abortiion, i have gruesome stories abt it
You can send the baby to an adoption centre, give it a chance to live. There might be many happy couples in singapore longing to adopt a child. At least you won't feel so sinful and remorseful for possible rest of your life..
I think it is best to consult professional advice on this matter.. such as calling the teenage emergency helpline etc they are most ready to help you
Pregnancy Crisis Service
Tel: 6339 9770
(Face-to-face counselling)
Teensline
Tel: 6221 4949
Youth Crisis Hotline:
6252 6300 (11am - 10pm daily) For troubled youths
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I feel so sorry for you man. I would love to say, why did you do that in the first place, but it already happened, so no point saying it. So you want a solution, there is no perfect solution. But here are some options.
Tell the parents.
Borrow money to do the abortion. Friends? Relatives? Teachers?
I strictly don't encourage you both to give birth to the kid cause it's a really huge responsibility and i strongly don't believe you both are ready for it yet, not just emotionally, but financially too. You don't even have money to do the abortion, and you want to raise the kid? Pay for the education? No, you don't want that. So I recommend just borrow some money somewhere and do the abortion. There has to be someone with some money for you. Or just borrow from your parents, say you need $300 to get some stuff. You and your gf add up there will be $600.
