GF 3 months pregnant.. no money for abortion
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u are quite correct and i agreee on the part where u mentioned that this kind of stuff it's better to approach the counsellors.Originally posted by ChenW33:Its a life.. i understand it is very difficult situation because you are not sure whether should take care of the child.. don't blame you if you choose not to raise it yourself, but dun be so cruel to go and abort? You can send the baby to an adoption centre, give it a chance to live. There might be many happy couples in singapore longing to adopt a child. At least you won't feel so sinful and remorseful for possible rest of your life..
I think it is best to consult professional advice on this matter.. such as calling the teenage emergency helpline etc they are most ready to help you
Pregnancy Crisis Service
Tel: 6339 9770
(Face-to-face counselling)
Teensline
Tel: 6221 4949
Youth Crisis Hotline:
6252 6300 (11am - 10pm daily) For troubled youths
Do approach them first before coming to any decision.. pls
We can only give u sugggestion but the best advice only comes frm experts and they are the counsellors. -
he and gf add up become $600.. wah so easy liao..Originally posted by DailyFreeGames.com:Borrow money to do the abortion. Friends? Relatives? Teachers?
I strictly don't encourage you both to give birth to the kid cause it's a really huge responsibility and i strongly don't believe you both are ready for it yet, not just emotionally, but financially too. You don't even have money to do the abortion, and you want to raise the kid? Pay for the education? No, you don't want that. So I recommend just borrow some money somewhere and do the abortion. There has to be someone with some money for you. Or just borrow from your parents, say you need $300 to get some stuff. You and your gf add up there will be $600.
can abort ar! then no problems? how bout the baby? the pain and suffering you will cause to it? the regret and remorse and impact it will have on you next time forever? you think can just use a few hundred dollars and heck care about a living thing? if its me, i will give the baby up for adoption, at least my conscience is better.. im not totally shedding responsibility -
i think we guys should give him the most realistic answer for him.Originally posted by ChenW33:he and gf add up become $600.. wah so easy liao.. can abort ar! then no problems? how bout the baby? the pain and suffering you will cause to it? the regret and remorse and impact it will have on you next time forever? you think can just use a few hundred dollars and heck care about a living thing? if its me, i will give the baby up for adoption, at least my conscience is better.. im not totally shedding responsibility -
yup.. true there are a few realistic answers here, sry if sounded abit harsh
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dun abort...
u tend to not regret if u give birth to it than if u abort it...
talk it out...i am sure the parents will support one of these days...
most importantly is to think logical...
whatever happens..its still a life... -
yeah seek answers for your parents. Let them decide instead of uOriginally posted by R3SsH|n:dun abort...
u tend to not regret if u give birth to it than if u abort it...
talk it out...i am sure the parents will support one of these days...
most importantly is to think logical...
whatever happens..its still a life... -
Btw, if you make the decision not to abort, remember to read this thread also ------> http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=180102 -
haha interesting thread..
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it is always the psychological effects, if you abort, you feel the guilt, if you give it up for abortion, you will also feel the guilt. the worse thing that can happen is if the child wants to know its biological parent, and then things dont turn out the way you want.. blame yourself for causing it to happen in the first place. this is your problem, people here have laid out solutions, it is time for you to make the decisions.
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Pls...both of you might already be physically mature to have sex and create babies, but it is obvious that both of you are not emotionally mature to deal with the consequences. So now is the time to get some adult assistance in this case, don't make decision rashly, which will destroy both of your future. Abortion is not an easy way out, it carries with it a long-term effect.
So even if her parents are psycho, you still have to face the music and tell them...don't think they won't find out just because she goes and abort...it is not as easy as that, especially if complications arise.
Let some adults who are more capable of dealing with this situation know about it as soon as possible. -
let ur parents noe.. u wil nv noe tat whether they wan the grandchild ornot..
heard of stories abt couples couldn't let their parents noe but in the end when the parents got to noe it, they supported the couple to haf the child.. of cos u wouldn't be spared from the naggin/scoldin.. 
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The pressure on you guys in very great. Studies aside, consider how will someone think as the days goes by.Originally posted by neverendingtrauma:need $500 more by 1 week.. where to get? im 18 shes 17. 100% cant let our parents know. pro life christians wont allow abortion thinking its murder and we'll go to hell. both our back accounts no more money. we dont have medisave right? cant use ezycash loans either.
100% cant dont abort. she insists too. her mother is psycho.. shant say more here.
Society still doesn't really accept unwed mothers, much less teenagers. Another pile of stress.
As you said, pro life Christians are against it. Another source of stress.
Financially, your girlfriend would have to go for regular checkups. And you don't have the money. After birth, those necessities also cost. Stress again. And I guess you are a male, you have to go for NS sooner or later. It will be hard to maintain the relationship.
Why not do as FireIce suggest, call the helpline, explain your situation and see how? Something will come out of it.
Abortion will bring about psycological stress, which your girlfriend will not be able handle. Think twice before doing it. -
i think if their parents have a heart,they will raise the kid for them..Originally posted by hisoka:given their age and what not i doubt they can actually raise the child. not really a viable option to raise the kid man. -
tell them nicely and i am sure they understand. pro-life christians so they wont ask u abort mah....they shld support the idea of keeping the child and raise him/her up.
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take your gf and ur IC go and borrow from loanshark loh
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Do you know that some Christians are very unchristian when it comes to such issue?Originally posted by NT2:tell them nicely and i am sure they understand. pro-life christians so they wont ask u abort mah....they shld support the idea of keeping the child and raise him/her up.
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i think we are offering v contradicting advices here...prob will only make e young couple more stressed up and lost. however, e forumnites did mention many points that u need to think bout it..eg. social pressure, and financial support etc...
it wld b best if u seek professional help, or ur parents, since u stated that u are not financially able. even if u go for abortion, there wld b follow up costs. medical fees may go up to 800bucks, plus extra vitamins or supplements that are necessary to allow ur gf to recover sooner and better lehz? if on e case that ur gf does not recover as quickly or smoothly as she shld, then more money wld b needed..500/600 bucks is not enough in e longer run...
altimately we have no right to interfer wat u do neverendingtrauma, but then you will need to come up w a decision v soon. its jus, if ur mind makes e best one. of cos, neither solutions are easy...u will have to brave u n ur gf up for e consequences. -
analysis of your current position:Originally posted by neverendingtrauma:need $500 more by 1 week.. where to get? im 18 shes 17. 100% cant let our parents know. pro life christians wont allow abortion thinking its murder and we'll go to hell. both our back accounts no more money. we dont have medisave right? cant use ezycash loans either.
100% cant dont abort. she insists too. her mother is psycho.. shant say more here.
you 18:
1 - studying
2 - jobless
3- know nothing of adulthood
4 - before u try support her, can u support yourself first?
5 - can you afford to drop out of school to support your girlfriend/wife to be..
6 - maturity wise, are you prepared to support her?? do you have the means?
your girlfriend/wife to be 17:
1 - 3 months pregnant already
2 - baby is taking shape...life is starting...
3 - abortion later then that, will cause danger to both her and the baby
4 - is she mentally prepared to take on the role of motherhood?
5 - she needs you to be at her side when she is 1 - 2 months due for pregnancy - for she may develop wild thoughts like pregnacy depression; can you afford to stay at her side or get someone to look after her
6 - she needs lots of nurients...which cost $$, can you give?
if the both of you aren't going for abortion, then both of you are left with no choice but to give birth, and get ready to marriage...perhaps...
1 - tell your parents
2 - their reactions - scold, get mad
3 - think of ways...to keep the baby
4 - if super protective parents, then will charge u for raping (not sure bout this, but this incident almost happen to my frens' small sis...
5 - there is an example of a gal who is already a parent at eh age of 18, and her kid is being taken care by her mother, whereas her boyfriend, in jail / boy's home, i can't remember clearly...
regardless of whatever you do now, you cannot think of yourself anymore...think of her and legal issues involved....call the helplines NOW!! -
At the end of it all, it's your decision and hers to make. The forumites have included, I believe, almost every single area of coverage to back you up on your decision. However, I think you do have to bear in mind that while it is easy to see things in the interim, it is difficult to see things 5, 6 yrs from now. What will things be like then? How will your decision now affect your lives? I strongly believe this is a question you and her have to ask yourselves, which I fear is beyond your age and maturity, no disrespect intended. That is why I say take the rest of the forumites adivce, go to the professionals, they are schemes and options avaliable or even facts which you are unaware of. Do we need to go to this extend? Of course, a life is at stake? Even if it is a lump of cells as some sceptics claim, it is still cells upon which life forms.
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You haven't seen those who are pro life yet don't want to raise the kid for you. They only NATO. In the end, still have to abort.Originally posted by NT2:tell them nicely and i am sure they understand. pro-life christians so they wont ask u abort mah....they shld support the idea of keeping the child and raise him/her up.
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who ask u not to use a condom?
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You tell your parents, people forever will know. if you keep quiet and abort the baby, no one will know except u 2. Besides you can't even afford the money then what makes you think that you can raise a kid. Abort lah save everybody's time..Just a kid rightOriginally posted by rainee:Pls...both of you might already be physically mature to have sex and create babies, but it is obvious that both of you are not emotionally mature to deal with the consequences. So now is the time to get some adult assistance in this case, don't make decision rashly, which will destroy both of your future. Abortion is not an easy way out, it carries with it a long-term effect.
So even if her parents are psycho, you still have to face the music and tell them...don't think they won't find out just because she goes and abort...it is not as easy as that, especially if complications arise.
Let some adults who are more capable of dealing with this situation know about it as soon as possible.
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