not there for me anymore..
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Originally posted by macjoe:bbjam, beware of behaving like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.
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*shrug* you are entitled to your opinionOriginally posted by tiggersgd:complicates things? big hazard?
dun say as if its the end of the world mah...
what i know is that friendship whether can be salvaged after sometime requires more effort (not saying they dun have) but often than not, it won't happen.
they should have talked things through...and yes, if there's enough communication, the relationship could end amicably or otherwise. -
...Originally posted by choco B:*shrug* you are entitled to your opinion -
Thats why la.. dun owest use emotional blackmail or keep using the breakup card
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maybe he is thinking the same right now.
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i say its inaccurate... u cant test relationship that way... as she keep doing it to him, it can kill him off which is very demoralising and very sad thing to receive... and that is cos she pushed him down not on his own... if he really leave, is cos she herself made it... so i dun tink its the guy who is the problem... tink, if someone u like keep giving u this treatment and so often and being so negative how would u feel if she land the biggest punch in your face... so if she really serious, better give him a call or pray he is still alive after wat she had done...Originally posted by macjoe:bbjam is having a heartache because her bf literally took her word to breakup and give up when in fact the more bbjam insists on breaking up, the more he shouldn't give up on her and their r/s.
If he did the latter, goes to show he's serious about saving the r/s and that's a big sign of him turning 180 deg from flirting.
When he gives up and completely bochap overnight, goes to show how insignificant she and the r/s are to him
and that imo is hurting bbjam terribly.
Poor bbjam.
but, we jz duno the guy's intention and feel, still good luck to her... -
wunder where is bbjam now?....she has not replied to any of our nonsense...hehehe
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hihi.. thanks for the replies, everyone.. thou there were some harsh ones... well uh... anyway... i guess im really wrong this time.. for being such an unreasonable girl to my boy.... i guess.. its too late also... theres nth i can do.........Originally posted by mhcampboy:wunder where is bbjam now?....she has not replied to any of our nonsense...hehehe
and dear mhcampboy.. im sorry to hear abt ur past.. how could u tolerate her cheating on u for 3 times?? glad that its all over now huh..
maybe you will understand how i really feel... the process.. the doubts... everyday... sighs... no more... -
its not too late... if u really wants him back then u have to gamble(the future) and give him a call or message... good luck...Originally posted by blueberryjam:hihi.. thanks for the replies, everyone.. thou there were some harsh ones... well uh... anyway... i guess im really wrong this time.. for being such an unreasonable girl to my boy.... i guess.. its too late also... theres nth i can do.........
and dear mhcampboy.. im sorry to hear abt ur past.. how could u tolerate her cheating on u for 3 times?? glad that its all over now huh.. maybe you will understand how i really feel... the process.. the doubts... everyday... sighs... no more... -
Originally posted by blueberryjam:i broke up with a cheating ex about 3 mths ago.. but after breaking up, he said he really miss me alot.. he regretted all that he had done to me.. he asked for a patch.. hesistating for a week later, i agreed... (i know its stupid.. but i really do miss him alot too)
he told me he will change.. and thou pple say Flirts Will Never Change.. this once-a-flirt changed. he treated me like just.. so wonderfully great.. but now the problem lies with me, i don trust him anymore.. everytime he reply or calls me slow, i keep doubting his answers, i keep suspecting him.. i dont know whats he doin behind me all the time.. to the extent that every msg i just keep reprimanding him, sometimes i think im soooo going nuts.
i asked for a breakup almost everyday.. i just find out that i really cannot trust him anymore.. theres no faith.. but he's reluctant to break, he said he really changed, and its unfair to him..
just last night.. we had a really big fight.. again, i asked for a break up, he doesnt want it.. but i keep insisting it.. saying things like "go away.. just leave me alone, u'll find some other girls very soon.. lets jus break k" i think eventually he gave up also.......
actually when we patched, i was just bored.. i just wan a bf there for me.. i thought my heart already died for him, but since he said he's gonna change, fine, we can try... but i treated him like shyt and its true that when girls don feel anymore for the guy they're in the r/s with, they'll just threaten to break when they're being "triggered" or when they "lose" in an arguement..
i cried and cried last night.. thinking what the hell did i just do.. i pushed a bf whos always been there, treating me like his precious finally, and most importantly.. loving me.... maybe i made the wrong choice.. i smsed him, saying its a hard night to slp today.. im sorry if i hurt u.. night..
i woke up with 6 msgs in my phone.... NONE was from him.... i was surprised how 'cruel' he is..... he didnt even care..... am i asking too much, or is he just doing what is needed to forget me.. today.. i woke up with swollen eyes... and my heart... feels so empty...... 
When you failed to understand the true essence of your break-up, you will live to go through it again. Poor judgment coupled with emotional instability, fuel this Love break-patch karmic cycle.
When you two initially came together, it was of Love.
Later, it was of habitual.
Much later? Meaningless.
When you patch back with him, the conundrum that initially CAUSED you to leave this relationship reluctantly, didn't vanish. In fact, the residue of that virulent factor remained acrimoniously. It wasn't resolved previously, nothing will change then. You are just reiterating the exact behaviour you are exuding prior before the first break up - suspicious, having constant mistrust and becoming vindictive.
Flirt will eventually change - but generally, this relationship will not 'survive long enough' to enjoy the transformation. In fact, if you are the chosen catalysis for his transformation, he will only change with his next partner. This is the Karmic Law of Cosmic Love because even if he does change overnight - you will be mortally wounded and would be too overwhelmed with fatigue to continue this relationship.
My dad was a player. Woman loved him as he is the fun Sagittarius guy. It took him about FORTY years of lifespan to have some understanding of marriage, family and the good woman he married. Thank God my mum is a simple woman. I accentuate... so fcuking simple that I reckon that her sort of simplicity is almost extinct in sg.
Can you be that simple... that it REVERSE your power to understand and to know? When a toddler hands you one hundred dollars willingly, it is because the child is too young to know the value of money. The child wouldn't even flinch when he has given you a hundred buck. Can you be like that child?
Because you cannot be hurt by things you don't understand.
Love is not about feeling it emotionally and thinking that it is a means to an end. It has to be substantial, measured by the degree your Love is coming from. All your nonchalant attitude and ill-treating is a sign of wanting attention from him. You are being defensive, yet yearning for his affection. Gradually, this confusion will bring another conclusion to your relationship with him.
And if you accept another patch cycle, you repeat that sad story over again.
P.S: Never turn your shoulder over and walked where you have travelled. Turning back doesn't heal our scars; it reminded us of it.
Cheers -
yeah thank god its all over. maybe i followed my heart too often tats y still together for 3 yrs. but i wasnt devastated when we left each other. the funny part is...i had broke up with her for 1 yr 2 months now....and she had a bf for 1 yr 2mths also....hmm..u do the math. hahah even though i do not know exactly your situation u r in... i guess we are about in the same cruise liner. heeeee anyway... dun think too much. seriously..there are too many men to choose from out here in life. cannot get asian...can becum spg also....lol kidding....Originally posted by blueberryjam:hihi.. thanks for the replies, everyone.. thou there were some harsh ones... well uh... anyway... i guess im really wrong this time.. for being such an unreasonable girl to my boy.... i guess.. its too late also... theres nth i can do.........
and dear mhcampboy.. im sorry to hear abt ur past.. how could u tolerate her cheating on u for 3 times?? glad that its all over now huh.. maybe you will understand how i really feel... the process.. the doubts... everyday... sighs... no more...
cheers.... -
Originally posted by Yunhaier:
clap clap clap... When you failed to understand the true essence of your break-up, you will live to go through it again. Poor judgment coupled with emotional instability, fuel this Love break-patch karmic cycle.
When you two initially came together, it was of Love.
Later, it was of habitual.
Much later? Meaningless.
When you patch back with him, the conundrum that initially CAUSED you to leave this relationship reluctantly, didn't vanish. In fact, the residue of that virulent factor remained acrimoniously. It wasn't resolved previously, nothing will change then. You are just reiterating the exact behaviour you are exuding prior before the first break up - suspicious, having constant mistrust and becoming vindictive.
Flirt will eventually change - but generally, this relationship will not 'survive long enough' to enjoy the transformation. In fact, if you are the chosen catalysis for his transformation, he will only change with his next partner. This is the Karmic Law of Cosmic Love because even if he does change overnight - you will be mortally wounded and would be too overwhelmed with fatigue to continue this relationship.
My dad was a player. Woman loved him as he is the fun Sagittarius guy. It took him about FORTY years of lifespan to have some understanding of marriage, family and the good woman he married. Thank God my mum is a simple woman. I accentuate... so fcuking simple that I reckon that her sort of simplicity is almost extinct in sg.
Can you be that simple... that it REVERSE your power to understand and to know? When a toddler hands you one hundred dollars willingly, it is because the child is too young to know the value of money. The child wouldn't even flinch when he has given you a hundred buck. Can you be like that child?
[b]Because you cannot be hurt by things you don't understand.
Love is not about feeling it emotionally and thinking that it is a means to an end. It has to be substantial, measured by the degree your Love is coming from. All your nonchalant attitude and ill-treating is a sign of wanting attention from him. You are being defensive, yet yearning for his affection. Gradually, this confusion will bring another conclusion to your relationship with him.
And if you accept another patch cycle, you repeat that sad story over again.
P.S: Never turn your shoulder over and walked where you have travelled. Turning back doesn't heal our scars; it reminded us of it.
Cheers [/b] -
his post so loong u onli give him 3 clap?? stingy lei u...hahahOriginally posted by BrUtUs:clap clap clap... -
Even though he had hurt you once and now he says he regretted it and wants to come back to you and you both are now couples, you should at least have some faith in him. He is not a complete jerk, I believe. Flirts CAN turn over a new leaf but BE WARY. Don't just think that "Oh, he love me! Never mind le, don't care!!" and don't bother about where he go.
I suggest you two have a man-to-man talk and YOU tell him what you feel. That you are uneasy because that you are scared he will cheat on you again. Just let it be heard. It's alright. He IS your boyfriend after all!!
Anyway, give him a CHANCE. Not all flirts can never change. =] -
Originally posted by Yunhaier:
WELL SAID, WELL SAID!! When you failed to understand the true essence of your break-up, you will live to go through it again. Poor judgment coupled with emotional instability, fuel this Love break-patch karmic cycle.
When you two initially came together, it was of Love.
Later, it was of habitual.
Much later? Meaningless.
When you patch back with him, the conundrum that initially CAUSED you to leave this relationship reluctantly, didn't vanish. In fact, the residue of that virulent factor remained acrimoniously. It wasn't resolved previously, nothing will change then. You are just reiterating the exact behaviour you are exuding prior before the first break up - suspicious, having constant mistrust and becoming vindictive.
Flirt will eventually change - but generally, this relationship will not 'survive long enough' to enjoy the transformation. In fact, if you are the chosen catalysis for his transformation, he will only change with his next partner. This is the Karmic Law of Cosmic Love because even if he does change overnight - you will be mortally wounded and would be too overwhelmed with fatigue to continue this relationship.
My dad was a player. Woman loved him as he is the fun Sagittarius guy. It took him about FORTY years of lifespan to have some understanding of marriage, family and the good woman he married. Thank God my mum is a simple woman. I accentuate... so fcuking simple that I reckon that her sort of simplicity is almost extinct in sg.
Can you be that simple... that it REVERSE your power to understand and to know? When a toddler hands you one hundred dollars willingly, it is because the child is too young to know the value of money. The child wouldn't even flinch when he has given you a hundred buck. Can you be like that child?
[b]Because you cannot be hurt by things you don't understand.
Love is not about feeling it emotionally and thinking that it is a means to an end. It has to be substantial, measured by the degree your Love is coming from. All your nonchalant attitude and ill-treating is a sign of wanting attention from him. You are being defensive, yet yearning for his affection. Gradually, this confusion will bring another conclusion to your relationship with him.
And if you accept another patch cycle, you repeat that sad story over again.
P.S: Never turn your shoulder over and walked where you have travelled. Turning back doesn't heal our scars; it reminded us of it.
Cheers [/b] -
u sound as if he didn't hurt her badly in the 1st place.Originally posted by DrTech:Please la... you hurt him so bad and you still expect him to treat it like nothing and reply?
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wad a sad story
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He betrayed ur trust in the first place. So dun reproach urself too much.
I think u juz need time to pick up the pieces.
I also think that u should not turn back.
If love is meant to be, u will be together again, without any hard feelings.
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Originally posted by Yunhaier:
MC take down notes.
[b]Because you cannot be hurt by things you don't understand.
Cheers [/b]
Cheers -
bad gal..Originally posted by blueberryjam:i broke up with a cheating ex about 3 mths ago.. but after breaking up, he said he really miss me alot.. he regretted all that he had done to me.. he asked for a patch.. hesistating for a week later, i agreed... (i know its stupid.. but i really do miss him alot too)
he told me he will change.. and thou pple say Flirts Will Never Change.. this once-a-flirt changed. he treated me like just.. so wonderfully great.. but now the problem lies with me, i don trust him anymore.. everytime he reply or calls me slow, i keep doubting his answers, i keep suspecting him.. i dont know whats he doin behind me all the time.. to the extent that every msg i just keep reprimanding him, sometimes i think im soooo going nuts.
i asked for a breakup almost everyday.. i just find out that i really cannot trust him anymore.. theres no faith.. but he's reluctant to break, he said he really changed, and its unfair to him..
just last night.. we had a really big fight.. again, i asked for a break up, he doesnt want it.. but i keep insisting it.. saying things like "go away.. just leave me alone, u'll find some other girls very soon.. lets jus break k" i think eventually he gave up also.......
actually when we patched, i was just bored.. i just wan a bf there for me.. i thought my heart already died for him, but since he said he's gonna change, fine, we can try... but i treated him like shyt and its true that when girls don feel anymore for the guy they're in the r/s with, they'll just threaten to break when they're being "triggered" or when they "lose" in an arguement..
i cried and cried last night.. thinking what the hell did i just do.. i pushed a bf whos always been there, treating me like his precious finally, and most importantly.. loving me.... maybe i made the wrong choice.. i smsed him, saying its a hard night to slp today.. im sorry if i hurt u.. night..
i woke up with 6 msgs in my phone.... NONE was from him.... i was surprised how 'cruel' he is..... he didnt even care..... am i asking too much, or is he just doing what is needed to forget me.. today.. i woke up with swollen eyes... and my heart... feels so empty...... 
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flirting is not like drugs la..can change one..
anyway though it might be painful for the both of u..the best is to break up.. there can be no rs without trust in it.. -
My gf and I broke up for about a mth before we manage to patch up, cos I admited to her that I got feelings for other girl, and I dun wan to cheat on her, so i ask for a break. She was damn sad. Thats when I know that she loves me alot. Thou in the end I asked for a patch, and she agreed, but she still dun trust me like before, like bbjam. I work hard to let her have trust in me again, and guess how long it takes? nearly 6 mths. But at bbjam said that she jus wan a bf beside her only, and treat her bf badly, I guess the guy feels that she was not the same as before le. Or maybe he jus wan some time out to see if this r/s can work.
Dun lose heart, all the best -
he was wrong to have cheated behind your back. he realised it in time and changed. you? you just kept on threatening and pushing him. everyone has their own limits.Originally posted by blueberryjam:i cried and cried last night.. thinking what the hell did i just do.. i pushed a bf whos always been there, treating me like his precious finally, and most importantly.. loving me.... maybe i made the wrong choice.. i smsed him, saying its a hard night to slp today.. im sorry if i hurt u.. night..
i woke up with 6 msgs in my phone.... NONE was from him.... i was surprised how 'cruel' he is..... he didnt even care..... am i asking too much, or is he just doing what is needed to forget me.. today.. i woke up with swollen eyes... and my heart... feels so empty......
about your sms to him, just look at it. oh its a hard night to sleep. come on. it sounded just like you were bored cant get to sleep thats why you smsed him.
and sorry if i hurted you. you think you can get away everytime when you said sorry to someone? like him, you had already caused the hurt. did you forgive him?
and yes you are asking for too much.
its not about him being cruel now. you left him no choice. since there is no more trust in the relationship with YOU always asking for a breakup, its just sooner or later that he realise it is best for him to just back off. and now is that time. -
You must be able trust him again then you two can be together again.
He never reply may be because he is very troubled to whether or not to let you go, since u seems to be so unhappy with him.
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Yes yes.. and that cost MONEY!!!Originally posted by M©+square:MC take down notes.
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