Anyone contemplated suicide by jumping before?
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No no,not me,but I started this thread after I read the one by Agenda about ending his life...
Seriously,it takes a lot of courage to stand on the ledge and prepare for the plunge.I don't wanna feel what the person is feeling as he stands on the ledge...
I don't wanna feel what the person is feeling as he goes into freefall...and as he watches the ground become nearer and nearer...
Just wondering,anyone ever progressed to the stage where you stood at the ledge and looked down but somehow backed out? -
I wonder how many of these people actually experienced a moment of regret during the few milliseconds they take to reach the ground.. and for that matter, how many of those who jumped actually slipped off the ledge accidentally.
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many people are far too tempted by the quick death, thinking that it'll end all their pain and suffering. maybe cause the light to the end of tunnel seems too dim that suicide seems to be a better way out?
it's a sad world. -
One of my classmates committed suicide.Originally posted by thousandisland:many people are far too tempted by the quick death, thinking that it'll end all their pain and suffering. maybe cause the light to the end of tunnel seems too dim that suicide seems to be a better way out?
it's a sad world.
While I was at her funeral,I let my mind go wild and thought:would I go the same path also? So frightening...
In the end,I told myself: HELL NO!
That's the coward's way out!
A smile of the baby at his mother,a word of thank you from a stranger,the rays from the sun rise,the azure blue sky,a well done remark on your school assignment.
Seriously,look around you,The Small Things in Life can make Life seem so beautiful at times... -
yep kinda agree with you it's actually the small insignifcant things that actually give the hope. sometimes when i really feel that life has lost its meaning and i'm so useless, i go out alone catch a comedy movie go on a mini retail therapy and then i feel a tad better. lol, somtimes to the extent that i prefer being a lone creature.
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One of my best friends took his own life this way. His girlfriend left him, and he decided to end it all by jumping off a HDB block.
He was one of the most respected commanders in my company. He wasn't like most of the commanders - the other commanders treated me with apprehension and suspicion after I got my three stripes. I wasn't like them - I joined my company as a PTE and only became a 3SG after a year. However, he treated me like a good buddy of his - both before and after I got my three stripes.
It was a traumatic time for me when he took his life. I couldn't eat, sleep, or study properly and eventually had to seek professional counselling.
So the answer to the question in the starting post is: no. I will forever never truly comprehend the reasons behind why my friend whom I respected so much would take his own life. To me, to take your own life is the coward's way out; true bravery is about facing up to your problems and not running away from them.
Besides, no matter what, there are still people who do care for you. You still have your family and friends. If you jump off a building, the pain is momentary for you between the time you hit the ground and the time your soul departs your body. However, the pain you inflict to your family and friends - the people whom you love - is lifelong.
It was hard enough on me as it is. I wonder how much harder it was for his family.
As U2 would say in 'Stuck In A Moment You Can't Get Out Of':
I was unconscious, half asleep
The water is warm till you discover how deep
I was enchanted, but for me it was a fall
It's a long way down to nothing at all
More importantly:
And if the night runs over
And if the day won't last
And if our way shall falter
Along this stony pass....
..... It's just a moment, this time will pass. -
not that I'm encouraging chaps to commit suicide, which is about the most stupid thing you can do ....
but jumping off a block is probably the most stupid thing you can do .... you go splat and your body parts get scattered all over ... maybe the resident population of crows and stray-cats will have a go at your carcass before the police and the morgue crew arrives to scrape you off the sidewalk ..... (hope that scares people off the thought)
there are so many people on this earth in need of a heart, a kidney, a liver, or perhaps even a pair of eyeballs to have another shot at life .... and people who wants to end it all were still selfish enough NOT to make their organs available for others when they decided to die ? ....
tsk tsk tsk .....
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not meaning to cause any offence but people who reached the stage of deciding that death is the only answer does not deserve to be labeled as cowards
they should be given help and support, not labels like coward or stuff -
The emphasis should be on committing suicide, and not jumping off a block of flats.
Before the government's building program went into full swing, there were lots of squatter settlements, and kampong houses. During those times, hanging was the method used. Ulu areas like farm land, poisoning by insectcide was common. Near seaside, wadding out into the sea and drown.
Now jumping off is the convenient method.
Suicide, is it revenge by trying to hurt someone else's feelings,ie making them feel guilty, or is it escaping a mess.
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like i've said, i'd guess it's an easy escape, a quick release, a painless death it seems to those attempting suicide. i havent experienced the state whereby i teteered on the brink of life and death neither will i ever want to experience that. yah, i agree we shouldnt just tag them as cowards or quitters especially you dont know what they were going through.Originally posted by mancha:The emphasis should be on committing suicide, and not jumping off a block of flats.
Before the government's building program went into full swing, there were lots of squatter settlements, and kampong houses. During those times, hanging was the method used. Ulu areas like farm land, poisoning by insectcide was common. Near seaside, wadding out into the sea and drown.
Now jumping off is the convenient method.
Suicide, is it revenge by trying to hurt someone else's feelings,ie making them feel guilty, or is it escaping a mess.
Or what? -
They may not be cowards.... But then should they be classified as the thoughtless? They did not think of how their parents had brought them up, their frens and teachers caring and kind attitude towards them, as well as watching them grow.
Why not just think of the gd stuffs and let the bad ones go? There are so much opprtunities and so much chances out there. And moreover, they should have more determination to live on. Sort out their emotions with their parents or who they are closest with and should avoid such rash actions.
Unless they've become a total vegetable and think that they are of no use to the world, then they can jump down the building... that is provided their relatives allow that and help them by pushing them down...
they can't do it on themselves anymore.
They would be better off living than dead anyway.... committing suicide is a crime... which in a way mean that they've started off their 'other' life by committing a crime... which isn't a very good introduction...
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Really yes, just recently.........
On the night of 5 March, when my father came to my com (after I, my bro had some quarrel with my parents.......a v small matter), I thot he want to slap me..........(such things happened on 26 February, the 1st month anniversary of my Yuen Shek Ngai (SGEMP)'s Gallery http://yuenshekngai.fotopic.net ......)
And so after he asked me in cantonese "what are you doing now?" several times, I think "disaster" is near, so I dashed to the kitchen window (my very high up HDB flat's kitchen window always have the key.....!!!) turn the key, open the windowledge and climb onto the windowledge immediately.......pretending I wanted to jump down.....!!!
Actually I had only wanted to scare my parents, so that they would not use violence on me. It worked (they let me cool down). But I am very regretful of this incident (everyone are unhappy)................this incident taught me not to be rash and sensitive........especially in responses..................
And so with the new goal being set I have since included "Not to commit suicide, forever!!!" aim inside the list of short term goals................ -
Well, I read with interest all the previous individuals post about their views about jumping off buildings and suicide attempts.
What I can say, based on my experiences in working with friends who are suicidal is that they do so, or tried to do so, when it's total hopelessness - something that many of us would not be able to understand. It is most usual when someone becomes clinically depressed, and when there is absolute hopelessness (which only occurs in depressives), and with perceived limited social support, suicide would be the last resort. There is no way we can talk rationality into it. We can use all kinds of nasty adjectives like "selfish", "thoughtless", "stupid", etc on them. The fact that remains is that these people who are depressive, and are on the verge of committing suicide are genuinely helpless. Is there a way for any of us to imagine what it is like to "never feel happy before"? This is just one possible question that I can pose to invite people to think as close as possible for people with depression.
Of course, there are those who committed suicide out of impulse, due to relationship problems, etc. I would not hesitate to use those nasty adjectives with them.
Just my two-cents' worth. -
No matter what happens,nvr attempt sucide. A human life is so precious!
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well...what i think is,pple who commit suicide dont have to be cowards or pple who dont think on behalf of their loved ones...Originally posted by X3Mi5t:They may not be cowards.... But then should they be classified as the thoughtless? They did not think of how their parents had brought them up, their frens and teachers caring and kind attitude towards them, as well as watching them grow.
Why not just think of the gd stuffs and let the bad ones go? There are so much opprtunities and so much chances out there. And moreover, they should have more determination to live on. Sort out their emotions with their parents or who they are closest with and should avoid such rash actions.
Unless they've become a total vegetable and think that they are of no use to the world, then they can jump down the building... that is provided their relatives allow that and help them by pushing them down... they can't do it on themselves anymore.
They would be better off living than dead anyway.... committing suicide is a crime... which in a way mean that they've started off their 'other' life by committing a crime... which isn't a very good introduction...
many of these are atheists,pple who dont believe in the afterlife,for them,death is the ultimate release from everything and there is no after life or any other kind of consciousness.Therefore a person who reasons like this will think along the lines of, 'why shouldn't i kill myself?i will not have to suffer guilt for causing hurt to the pple i leave behind."
Quite scary actually...so u see how religion scares ppl out of suicide as well as provides comfort during hard times. -
Originally posted by ellisbeck:
agreed. pple who have never felt utter despair shld not be so quick to judge
Well, I read with interest all the previous individuals post about their views about jumping off buildings and suicide attempts.
What I can say, based on my experiences in working with friends who are suicidal is that they do so, or tried to do so, when it's total hopelessness - something that many of us would not be able to understand. It is most usual when someone becomes clinically depressed, and when there is [b]absolute hopelessness (which only occurs in depressives), and with perceived limited social support, suicide would be the last resort. There is no way we can talk rationality into it. We can use all kinds of nasty adjectives like "selfish", "thoughtless", "stupid", etc on them. The fact that remains is that these people who are depressive, and are on the verge of committing suicide are genuinely helpless. Is there a way for any of us to imagine what it is like to "never feel happy before"? This is just one possible question that I can pose to invite people to think as close as possible for people with depression.
Of course, there are those who committed suicide out of impulse, due to relationship problems, etc. I would not hesitate to use those nasty adjectives with them.
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Yes, I did think of suicide. At that time, I really had no idea what was going on in the mind. All I thought was to end it all. I sat at the ledge (school had a nice extended area infront of the parapet which gave me enough space to actually dance around), really just wanting to take a step. But my principal stopped me.
Now, I'm quite thankful that he did that. Of course, the repurcussions were terrible. People who heard labelled me as "attention-seeking".
But only if they knew how terrible it was to even think of suicide. -
i contemplated suicide by sex marathon...
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I had a very serious relationship problem 4 years ago and this was the most serious crisis of my life so far till today.
It was really very bad,I woke up in the morning with a heavy heart and every minute of the day seemed to drag,of course whenever I have nothing to do(like waiting for bus or something) I would think of my problem.Of course,I tried to occupy myself but definitely there would be times when I had nothing to do(as I said previously like waiting for bus).Whenever I thought of it,my heart ached ever so badly...sometimes I would wake up in the middle of the night,and the first thing that came to my mind was that problem again.Then when I tried to go to sleep, I could not.Hence I tossed and turned on my bed till morning(thinking of the problem of course)
There were times when i felt I would really want to end this sucky feeling.No,I was not saying I felt like killing myself,but I just wanted it to go away lor...And yes,I remember waking up in the middle of the night(once only la) and just started crying...ouch...
This went on for about a month,surprisely,my studies were not affected.After a month or so,I gradually began to accept the situation and slowly it healed by itself.
Looking back on,I felt that the whole affair was kinda silly,haha...
Nevertheless,I am glad that I have become stronger since that affair. -
i have such thoughts before.. but after a while i calm down n stop thinking about it...
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i clear the low wall wif my muzzle pointing upwards...suicide mission.
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what make you people think that committing suicide is a coward's way out? you dont even know how they feel. unless you have been through it you wouldnt really understand.
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y jump..
take pill and go sleep la.
nicer body when die -
often told those who wanna commit suicide,even ants fight to survive in 20-cent-coin sized water puddles when it rains..
why shouldn't we treasure our lives then? -
because we are not ants.
ants dont have troubles like us.