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my gf and i have been quarrelling very often these days. can say its like everyday day. and i was the one who started the quarrel. some petty things she does i will get angry. like talking to other guys. i know i was at fault. i know she loves me alot cause she gave in to me. but i was taking way too much advantage. i didn't thought of what she does for me. and she hong me very long to make me alright. as for wrong things i do she will very fast okay. she can be easily hong. but me. i was unforgiving, bad temper and xiao qi. we break alot of times and can patch at the same day. but the day before ytd, we broke off and it was a serious one. she is tired of my unforgiveness, bad temper and xiao qi ness. then ytd i went to find her. she was super cold and heartless to me. she said she didn't love me le. but she doesn't wants to swear. finally she explained she wanted me to find other gals. cus she tinks she is not the one for me. i regretted the whole thing. i wanted to change. i needed a chance. but i scared she lost her trust. guys help me. i really want to change. she needed time. but i want her back. i'm afraid she will lose her feelings. i'm really sorry to her. i want to change. i know i am a bad bf. i regret. i cannot live without her. help!!!
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Nobody can help u except YOURSELF. I feel u shld try to control ur temper !
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Your bad..
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yes i'm bad.
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Grow up.
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first of all u have to really change, no matter how cold she treat you. don be sad or angry. treat her better. show her that u have total change for her. girls is like that once been hurt it take time to heal and trust you.
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This is a time in which I feel u should really sit down and ask yrself this question. "Is it she or is it me?" Well, who is the one at fault. Is it the certain things she does which will cuz u to get angry? Is it her fault tat you got angry? Or is it really your fault tat you got angry? It is very vital to be clear abt who u really place the blame on.
The first step about controlling your anger is not telling yourself not to be angry. U do not fight an enemy which u cannot see. I urge u to realise tat that enemy is more often caused by internal rather than external factors. For example, why is it u get angry when she talks to other guys? I doubt she was interested in tat guy, which u would view it as an external factor generating your anger. Your bad temper is mainly due to the insecurities which u feel in yourself. There are many ways in which u can learn to deal with these insecurities and your low self esteem, which will in turn automatically dissolve your anger. The key is first to understand yourself, before u can accept yourself, after which u can build up your self confidence.
I would like u to ask yourself these questions. When u were still with her, do u constantly feel enstrangled? Finding to so hard to breathe? As if all yr freedom were being taken away by her? Put it crudely, do u feel as if yr manhood were on the line? The power of love is for u to feel empowerment, not to feel castrated instead by your own insecurities.
Last question of all to ask yourself, not anyone else in this forum: Are u missing her love and company just becuz u r now alone? Or are u missing sharing your life with someone u claim to love, tat is if u ever tried sharing any part of yourself with her. A word of encouragement, I do not think she has gotten over you, as yet.[/b] -
Sorry I have to say this...
ORBI!!
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I think you really have to change your temper and unforgivingness. you are just taking her kindness for granted. thinking that she loves you alot so you dun care about her feelings anymore. if you are only making use of her company and just want her around for the sake of having a gf. then you dun love her at all~
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hey dude..when a gal really ask you to look for other gals or say they dun love you anymore, they meant it.. sad to tell u this..
i guess its better for you to change your temper and whatever bad attitudes you have, which it good for you and your next partner...
but who knows, next time, your ex finds you again and realise you are a changed man, and might just fall for you again...
for now, nurse your heart and change your attitudes.. -
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Ya.Originally posted by Tier:I think you really have to change your temper and unforgivingness. you are just taking her kindness for granted. thinking that she loves you alot so you dun care about her feelings anymore. if you are only making use of her company and just want her around for the sake of having a gf. then you dun love her at all~ -
U know already then why you still go and behave like that....like me I always say sorry...easily just forget abt it...my bf also abit like you but hopefully not so bad...frankly army making things worse...so much time apart...then I wish I can spend time with him...when you got the chance you grab...Originally posted by ducktan:my gf and i have been quarrelling very often these days. can say its like everyday day. and i was the one who started the quarrel. some petty things she does i will get angry. like talking to other guys. i know i was at fault. i know she loves me alot cause she gave in to me. but i was taking way too much advantage. i didn't thought of what she does for me. and she hong me very long to make me alright. as for wrong things i do she will very fast okay. she can be easily hong. but me. i was unforgiving, bad temper and xiao qi. we break alot of times and can patch at the same day. but the day before ytd, we broke off and it was a serious one. she is tired of my unforgiveness, bad temper and xiao qi ness. then ytd i went to find her. she was super cold and heartless to me. she said she didn't love me le. but she doesn't wants to swear. finally she explained she wanted me to find other gals. cus she tinks she is not the one for me. i regretted the whole thing. i wanted to change. i needed a chance. but i scared she lost her trust. guys help me. i really want to change. she needed time. but i want her back. i'm afraid she will lose her feelings. i'm really sorry to her. i want to change. i know i am a bad bf. i regret. i cannot live without her. help!!!
Just work on your temper for now...try to deal with it...still don't understand how guys say they love their gf but still so easy get angry with them. Hai. -
Take her out to a nice dinner, and maybe buy a card + a nice gift for her. Apologize to her, and promise you try be a better person.
And you should do your part to be a better person too
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It is an inner born nature that a man has to live life on their own terms. The nicer sounding word would be PRIDE. The ugly sounding word would be EGO. There is a need for men to maintain autonomy in watever they do, fabulously workable in the working world, but not in a relationship. Men constantly tend to engage their romantic partners in a power struggle becuz they feel tat they are surrendering autonomy to their partners. But until a man is able to understand that the enemy is thier own fragile ego instead, it is hard for their love life to work out. LOVE IS A NATURE OF UNEQUAL SHARING OF BOTH AFFECTION AND BURDEN. I learnt this too late, after I lost the girl i claimed to love. With all sincerity, I pray yr guy learns to understand himself better.Originally posted by Kimosabe:don't understand how guys say they love their gf but still so easy get angry with them. Hai. -
After breaking up & patching up a few times, you have come to take your gf's forgiving nature for granted. You've become complacent, thinking she'll always be there for you, & always take you back. You've Not respected her feelings, & simply trampled all over her. And now, after you realised that she's got her dignity afterall, you want her back?
Aren't you a tad selfish? The best thing you can do, now that you know how HORRIBLE you've been, is to respect her decision to break up with you for good. Honestly, she deserves better.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by ducktan:my gf and i have been quarrelling very often these days. can say its like everyday day. and i was the one who started the quarrel. some petty things she does i will get angry. like talking to other guys. i know i was at fault. i know she loves me alot cause she gave in to me. but i was taking way too much advantage. i didn't thought of what she does for me. and she hong me very long to make me alright. as for wrong things i do she will very fast okay. she can be easily hong. but me. i was unforgiving, bad temper and xiao qi. we break alot of times and can patch at the same day. but the day before ytd, we broke off and it was a serious one. she is tired of my unforgiveness, bad temper and xiao qi ness. then ytd i went to find her. she was super cold and heartless to me. she said she didn't love me le. but she doesn't wants to swear. finally she explained she wanted me to find other gals. cus she tinks she is not the one for me. i regretted the whole thing. i wanted to change. i needed a chance. but i scared she lost her trust. guys help me. i really want to change. she needed time. but i want her back. i'm afraid she will lose her feelings. i'm really sorry to her. i want to change. i know i am a bad bf. i regret. i cannot live without her. help!!! -
yeah totally agree with Parka.Originally posted by Parka: Everytime you do those stunts, a little part of her love dies.
We do our best to please the one we love giving in and doing our best to make them feel the best.
As time goes by you realise that what you have done is nothing compare to his or her wants or ego.
Slowly and surely the loves dies..
Soon the effort and understanding goes too.
finally the last part is the trust.
Then the final let go.
Sadly to some people they never treasure what they have.
They always think so what if he or she do not want me i can find another one to replace asap. Soon people will come to know that you are a playboy or playgirl. Even the good people will not put any effort on you.
My point is if you want to play with people, people will also play with you.
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If you really love your gf, I suggest you to leave her.
Cos I dun see how you are able to provide her with any happiness in the long run.
A guy throwing tantrum soo frequently and need GF to hong you?
2 words.
YOU SUCKS!
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HARSH, but oh so correct.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by incredible:If you really love your gf, I suggest you to leave her.
Cos I dun see how you are able to provide her with any happiness in the long run.
A guy throwing tantrum soo frequently and need GF to hong you?
2 words.
YOU SUCKS! -
humm your case seems to be the norm nowdays.Originally posted by ducktan:my gf and i have been quarrelling very often these days. can say its like everyday day. and i was the one who started the quarrel. some petty things she does i will get angry. like talking to other guys. i know i was at fault. i know she loves me alot cause she gave in to me. but i was taking way too much advantage. i didn't thought of what she does for me. and she hong me very long to make me alright. as for wrong things i do she will very fast okay. she can be easily hong. but me. i was unforgiving, bad temper and xiao qi. we break alot of times and can patch at the same day. but the day before ytd, we broke off and it was a serious one. she is tired of my unforgiveness, bad temper and xiao qi ness. then ytd i went to find her. she was super cold and heartless to me. she said she didn't love me le. but she doesn't wants to swear. finally she explained she wanted me to find other gals. cus she tinks she is not the one for me. i regretted the whole thing. i wanted to change. i needed a chance. but i scared she lost her trust. guys help me. i really want to change. she needed time. but i want her back. i'm afraid she will lose her feelings. i'm really sorry to her. i want to change. i know i am a bad bf. i regret. i cannot live without her. help!!!
Lucky still got my candy who loves me so much. ;p
nvm lar you can correct your temper or forget about having a gf. -
lmfao, no offence but you here crying like a fucking wussy is not going to help the shit you're in.Originally posted by ducktan:my gf and i have been quarrelling very often these days. can say its like everyday day. and i was the one who started the quarrel. some petty things she does i will get angry. like talking to other guys. i know i was at fault. i know she loves me alot cause she gave in to me. but i was taking way too much advantage. i didn't thought of what she does for me. and she hong me very long to make me alright. as for wrong things i do she will very fast okay. she can be easily hong. but me. i was unforgiving, bad temper and xiao qi. we break alot of times and can patch at the same day. but the day before ytd, we broke off and it was a serious one. she is tired of my unforgiveness, bad temper and xiao qi ness. then ytd i went to find her. she was super cold and heartless to me. she said she didn't love me le. but she doesn't wants to swear. finally she explained she wanted me to find other gals. cus she tinks she is not the one for me. i regretted the whole thing. i wanted to change. i needed a chance. but i scared she lost her trust. guys help me. i really want to change. she needed time. but i want her back. i'm afraid she will lose her feelings. i'm really sorry to her. i want to change. i know i am a bad bf. i regret. i cannot live without her. help!!!
FFS, stop whining here because its not going to solve anything, also, we really don't need to know how badly you messed up without even considering the consequences of your actions. -
Which reminds me about the "nail in the fence" story.Originally posted by ducktan:my gf and i have been quarrelling very often these days. can say its like everyday day. and i was the one who started the quarrel. some petty things she does i will get angry. like talking to other guys. i know i was at fault. i know she loves me alot cause she gave in to me. but i was taking way too much advantage. i didn't thought of what she does for me. and she hong me very long to make me alright. as for wrong things i do she will very fast okay. she can be easily hong. but me. i was unforgiving, bad temper and xiao qi. we break alot of times and can patch at the same day. but the day before ytd, we broke off and it was a serious one. she is tired of my unforgiveness, bad temper and xiao qi ness. then ytd i went to find her. she was super cold and heartless to me. she said she didn't love me le. but she doesn't wants to swear. finally she explained she wanted me to find other gals. cus she tinks she is not the one for me. i regretted the whole thing. i wanted to change. i needed a chance. but i scared she lost her trust. guys help me. i really want to change. she needed time. but i want her back. i'm afraid she will lose her feelings. i'm really sorry to her. i want to change. i know i am a bad bf. i regret. i cannot live without her. help!!!
You knock so many nails in the fence becuase you were so angry. But you apologise and took each nail out. Now the fence is filled wif holes just like your gf is feeling now. Its not like you can cover each hole with a wooden filling. Your gf will find it very hard to trust you again.
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every gal wants a guy to be understanding, supportive, take care of her, be around her when she needs, and a confidant.
not one that quarrels just for quarrel, going out just for going out.
why you want this gal?
Does she really care for you? or do you really care for her?
if you really want her back, win her back again. it is not impossible but difficult.
Try not to speak but listen more. Even if you are angry, listen to her first before you act like an immature brat. Listen to why, when, how she see things, try to communicate on her level.
And once you listen, you will know how this gal who is someone dear to you really function, and you then can know how you can bring joy and happiness to your r/s. Treasure it, it is not easy for two to become a couple. So work hard.
Do let things such as anger, suspicision, envy, jealous break you up.
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if you cannot live just because your gf leaves you...
then you deserved to just die.