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I can see you need help.Originally posted by ducktan:my gf and i have been quarrelling very often these days. can say its like everyday day. and i was the one who started the quarrel. some petty things she does i will get angry. like talking to other guys. i know i was at fault. i know she loves me alot cause she gave in to me. but i was taking way too much advantage. i didn't thought of what she does for me. and she hong me very long to make me alright. as for wrong things i do she will very fast okay. she can be easily hong. but me. i was unforgiving, bad temper and xiao qi. we break alot of times and can patch at the same day. but the day before ytd, we broke off and it was a serious one. she is tired of my unforgiveness, bad temper and xiao qi ness. then ytd i went to find her. she was super cold and heartless to me. she said she didn't love me le. but she doesn't wants to swear. finally she explained she wanted me to find other gals. cus she tinks she is not the one for me. i regretted the whole thing. i wanted to change. i needed a chance. but i scared she lost her trust. guys help me. i really want to change. she needed time. but i want her back. i'm afraid she will lose her feelings. i'm really sorry to her. i want to change. i know i am a bad bf. i regret. i cannot live without her. help!!!
Can you please be more specific, in which area do you need help?
You want to control your temper?
You want to learn to be more understand?
You want to grow up?
You want to learn how not to break up all the time?
Or you want to learn how to break up and last more than a day?
You need to know why is she Cold and heartless to you?
You want to know why did she say she's not the girl for you?
You want to know why are you a bad bf?
What DO YOU WANT to change?
Some people know that they are wrong.
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But you should have seen some of the girls...?Originally posted by Kimosabe:U know already then why you still go and behave like that....like me I always say sorry...easily just forget abt it...my bf also abit like you but hopefully not so bad...frankly army making things worse...so much time apart...then I wish I can spend time with him...when you got the chance you grab...
Just work on your temper for now...try to deal with it...still don't understand how guys say they love their gf but still so easy get angry with them. Hai. -
Originally posted by M©+square:I can see you need help.
Can you please be more specific, in which area do you need help?
You want to control your temper?
You want to learn to be more understand?
You want to grow up?
You want to learn how not to break up all the time?
Or you want to learn how to break up and last more than a day?
You need to know why is she Cold and heartless to you?
You want to know why did she say she's not the girl for you?
You want to know why are you a bad bf?
What DO YOU WANT to change?
Some people know that they are wrong.
But they never learn why are they're wrong.
This is in fact very true.
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thanks everyone for your comments. things got better today. we're back again. this time i learn to control my temper. although today she was taking advantage. i manage to hong her in everything. i changed my temper and will keep changing. i'm sad not because of being without her but i just miss her love and caring. i will learn to treat her gd. she needs time to trust me. i'm confident of myself.
so now even if she talk to others i don't mind. as long as she tells me. thx all. -
We shall see. I for one very much doubt anger can be managed by sheer will power alone. Without a proper understanding of yourself, and wat makes u tick, I feel yr self confidence will not last for long. Control is tempory, misunderstanding of yr feelings is permanent. Tat said, in any case, hope with all sincerity tat u do succeed.Originally posted by ducktan:i changed my temper and will keep changing. -
I understand...but it takes them sometimes too long to realise it...like with his ex is also the same...he lost her probably because of it...and to make things worse..women are beginning to tap on their own ego limits and how far they can go...and adopt some dingy "huh! don't needa guy!" attitude...things rarely work out...Originally posted by Sandistur:It is an inner born nature that a man has to live life on their own terms. The nicer sounding word would be PRIDE. The ugly sounding word would be EGO. There is a need for men to maintain autonomy in watever they do, fabulously workable in the working world, but not in a relationship. Men constantly tend to engage their romantic partners in a power struggle becuz they feel tat they are surrendering autonomy to their partners. But until a man is able to understand that the enemy is thier own fragile ego instead, it is hard for their love life to work out. LOVE IS A NATURE OF UNEQUAL SHARING OF BOTH AFFECTION AND BURDEN. I learnt this too late, after I lost the girl i claimed to love. With all sincerity, I pray yr guy learns to understand himself better. -
Originally posted by Devil1976:But you should have seen some of the girls...?
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hey guy... just remember this: shower her with love like a princess but learn to say no sometimes. Most importantly, showing your own jealousy is a big NO-NO. It shows insecurity on ur part. Women hate guys who have insecurities written all over them, especially jealousy and lack of self-control.Originally posted by ducktan:thanks everyone for your comments. things got better today. we're back again. this time i learn to control my temper. although today she was taking advantage. i manage to hong her in everything. i changed my temper and will keep changing. i'm sad not because of being without her but i just miss her love and caring. i will learn to treat her gd. she needs time to trust me. i'm confident of myself. so now even if she talk to others i don't mind. as long as she tells me. thx all. -
truth be told, if u guys were meant to be together, you wouldnt have broken up in the first place.