Why can't we move on easily ?
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proven already, i'm not what i am supposed to be. so zodiac readings macam no use for me.Originally posted by M©+square:
*Sharpen Claws*
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Originally posted by kopiosatu:proven already, i'm not what i am supposed to be. so zodiac readings macam no use for me.
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/me quickly hide dagger.Originally posted by M©+square: *Sharpen Claws*
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Originally posted by pinkygal76:I am a Taurus....wat difference does it make
Without considering the Natal Chart, among the 12 signs of zodiac, Taurus is probably the most difficult sign to move on after a failed relationship.
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Originally posted by kopiosatu:proven already, i'm not what i am supposed to be. so zodiac readings macam no use for me. Sun sign itself cannot read into a person.
Only by charting a person's natal chart would have access to information about somebody.
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if you're thinking that by partying will make u forget him, then i think you're wrong, you could even get into stuffs that you may not even wanna touch. but by keeping yourself with a busy schedule could be a good thing.Originally posted by chaah:Originally posted by M©+square:
Hmm...
Quote frm evolution M© on Self Destruction .ver 2.2.
Humans are unique, we have this special ability to decieve ourselves to believe what we want to believe.
No, i'm not kidding no one. Humans are inevitablely enslaved to this ability. The space between emotions and logic.
First of all i like to quote, i didn't deceived myself.
For those who do not understand, i did lots of things trying to move on from the initial stage of singlehood after the break up.
I actually party with friends like mad, hang out with buddies have fun, join in friend's sunset bay, even took up some lessons to keep myself busy.
But sad to said, after 2 years of tiring schedules. I found myself at time missing "him".
In my heart i knew he would never return, with a mixture of feeling between hatred and missing. Somehow i felt i am lost somewhere.
I have tried to date but somehow somewhere in the dating part i just feel that it lacks of certain feels. I am questioning myself if the lacks of my feels was due to "him" or it's just the person i am dating isn't someone i am truely looking at ?
2nd date: somehow something he ring the bells of 'him' which freak me out. Don't ask me why i am freak out of "him" because i don't have an answer myself. Likewise friends are puzzles with my behaviors, asking the same old questions i shouldn't be feeling freak out because i should be feeling more hatred then freaking and scaring of him.
Right now, dating and love remind me of committments and the big roles of being someone wife and daughter-in-law. Being in these roles only remind me of the pains, miserable and suffer of endless jealousy and quarrels man given to me during my last relationship.
I hate my past, i wanna move on.
(Smiling face of mine, hidden streak of sorrow within)
the problem lies in you're not willing to let him go. think it this way, by letting him go is a kind of love, you won't feel so miserable and you can move on with your life.
after such things happen, there tend to be some side-effects, just slowly adjust yourself to the new "environment".
btw, do you still have his number? or is there anyway that you can contact him?
lastly, by letting him go is the only way to let yourself free. -
Of course it wun be easy to move on...
Th gal I like so much... Her image runs thru my head every night... Its driving me crazy... But is there anything I can do?
Nothing...
I have to forget... Hopefully...
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what is a natal chart????Originally posted by Yunhaier: Sun sign itself cannot read into a person.
Only by charting a person's natal chart would have access to information about somebody.
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It is a report based on your birthdate and birth time...so you will get to read how your personality/character is not only affected by the sun sign (the common one we all know) but also by other signs such as Moon sign, Venus sign, Mars, etc...Originally posted by kopiosatu:what is a natal chart???? -
Hmm, ask yourself what you have been doing to help yourself forget?Originally posted by chaah:It has been 2 years after break off with ex-guy.
But why can't i seems to move on ?
I am still dwelling into the past memories (Happy and Saddness)
There are times when those memories bring me lots of miserables.
Have been trying not to look back on the memories but seems so hard to do so.
I guess he has long forgetten about me.
Going happily with his "not so" new love.
It would be wonderful if one could turn back the clock.
By dwelling in the past memories, be it happy memories or otherwise, it is no wonder you can't forget even though 2 years have passed by...
I know it is hard, because I am someone who tend to stay too much in the past as well. And everyday I struggle to remind myself that it is not the past I am living in, but the present and it is the future I have to look forward to. The past might be something beautiful once, but that's all it is now, memories and nothing else.
Go out and have fun with your friends, and talk to someone you trust about this...meet more people and soon, you will wake up one morning and find out that you have finally left the past behind. I am not saying it will be easy and that it will just happen instantaneously, because it definitely didnt for me...you have to work towards that day.
Good luck
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Admit i am escaping trying not to think of him.Originally posted by berll:if you're thinking that by partying will make u forget him, then i think you're wrong, you could even get into stuffs that you may not even wanna touch. but by keeping yourself with a busy schedule could be a good thing.
the problem lies in you're not willing to let him go. think it this way, by letting him go is a kind of love, you won't feel so miserable and you can move on with your life.
after such things happen, there tend to be some side-effects, just slowly adjust yourself to the new "environment".
btw, do you still have his number? or is there anyway that you can contact him?
lastly, by letting him go is the only way to let yourself free.
Friends quote that i am playing the silence waiting game. Even though i feel i am not. I don't know seriously i am lost somewhere within.
I do not have his contact now, but somehow he is still staying somewhere in my mind.
Admit i do have stubborn character, especially when things that i am have set eyes on. But sad to say in real life not everything is within out control. -
Understandable, cos I have gone thru it before la...I liked someone secretly for 4 years and let it destroy some of my past relationships as well...so yea, in a way I am stubborn as well. But I have decided to snap out of this...Originally posted by chaah:Admit i am escaping trying not to think of him.
Friends quote that i am playing the silence waiting game. Even though i feel i am not. I don't know seriously i am lost somewhere within.
I do not have his contact now, but somehow he is still staying somewhere in my mind.
Admit i do have stubborn character, especially when things that i am have set eyes on. But sad to say in real life not everything is within out control.
If you want to wait, wait with faith...waiting without faith is foolish and you should move on. Life doesn't stop just because of one break up -
you actually knew why u can't get over this. don't you feel the sufferings in these 2yrs are enough? if you're really playing the "silence waiting game", please don't.Originally posted by chaah:Admit i am escaping trying not to think of him.
Friends quote that i am playing the silence waiting game. Even though i feel i am not. I don't know seriously i am lost somewhere within.
I do not have his contact now, but somehow he is still staying somewhere in my mind.
Admit i do have stubborn character, especially when things that i am have set eyes on. But sad to say in real life not everything is within out control.
this has nothing to do with your character and he's not an item, not something you can buy.
keep this as good memories if you want, but the longer you drag it, the more hatred. -
tamade, i just want a mind reader to read other people's mind.Originally posted by rainee:It is a report based on your birthdate and birth time...so you will get to read how your personality/character is not only affected by the sun sign (the common one we all know) but also by other signs such as Moon sign, Venus sign, Mars, etc... -
Xiao Pi Gu, these things take time, but you hafta be active in reminding yourself that you shouldn't hang on. Once you've made a decision, don't look back. If you keep telling yourself, "I can't, I can't", then it's only gonna make it all the harder for you to forget.
When you catch yourself thinking "I can't", make yourself busy, talk to friends, etc. Smudge is actually very good in helping you forget things & turning the topic to something more positive & light hearted. You should talk to her when you have the chance : )
FeowFeowOriginally posted by ^Delta^:Of course it wun be easy to move on...
Th gal I like so much... Her image runs thru my head every night... Its driving me crazy... But is there anything I can do?
Nothing...
I have to forget... Hopefully... -
Maybe you are doing things a bit too consciously to remind yourself not to think about him. But in the end, it's all about him.Originally posted by chaah:Admit i am escaping trying not to think of him.
Friends quote that i am playing the silence waiting game. Even though i feel i am not. I don't know seriously i am lost somewhere within.
I do not have his contact now, but somehow he is still staying somewhere in my mind.
Admit i do have stubborn character, especially when things that i am have set eyes on. But sad to say in real life not everything is within out control.
So, this is a paradox in itself.
Do you still love him or are u still holding on to your past/memories?
Emotional baggage do get heavier as we went through life. At times have to set them apart & soften their impact on our current situation & move on. -
Originally posted by Magnus:Maybe you are doing things a bit too consciously to remind yourself not to think about him. But in the end, it's all about him.
So, this is a paradox in itself.
Do you still love him or are u still holding on to your past/memories?
Emotional baggage do get heavier as we went through life. At times have to set them apart & soften their impact on our current situation & move on.
I still have feeling for him. If he were to come back, i do feel delimma between love and hate.
Most of all i am holding on to lots of memories, because what we went thru is alittle bit different in a sense.
E.g. We use to went back to JB every Friday evening after work. (he is a msian)
We use to wake up early in the morning and visit the kampung market for marketing and meal.
Use to visit the nearby hot spring behind his house.
And the crazy midnight drive up from JB to KL to Genting for weekend.
Maybe that's why he left a big footprint within me.
As a SG girl this guy left a very vivd image that causing me so much saddness and miserable right now. -
u hv to forget abt the past to move on. easy to say but diff to do.Originally posted by chaah:
I still have feeling for him. If he were to come back, i do feel delimma between love and hate.
Most of all i am holding on to lots of memories, because what we went thru is alittle bit different in a sense.
E.g. We use to went back to JB every Friday evening after work. (he is a msian)
We use to wake up early in the morning and visit the kampung market for marketing and meal.
Use to visit the nearby hot spring behind his house.
And the crazy midnight drive up from JB to KL to Genting for weekend.
Maybe that's why he left a big footprint within me.
As a SG girl this guy left a very vivd image that causing me so much saddness and miserable right now.
for me too took 6mths to get over
not let myself think of the nice times we had, forced out the memories still when I saw him in person, can't help remembering the past then abit sad -
The Quote still stands right?
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You have said it loud & clear here.Originally posted by chaah:..I still have feeling for him. If he were to come back, i do feel delimma between love and hate..
You did not really get over him at all.
You have made a choice to wallow in your present state.
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this is dangerous. if it really happens, i really dunno whether the love will still exist.Originally posted by chaah:
I still have feeling for him. If he were to come back, i do feel delimma between love and hate.
quote]Originally posted by chaah:
Most of all i am holding on to lots of memories, because what we went thru is alittle bit different in a sense.
E.g. We use to went back to JB every Friday evening after work. (he is a msian)
We use to wake up early in the morning and visit the kampung market for marketing and meal.
Use to visit the nearby hot spring behind his house.
And the crazy midnight drive up from JB to KL to Genting for weekend.
Maybe that's why he left a big footprint within me.
As a SG girl this guy left a very vivd image that causing me so much saddness and miserable right now. [/quote]
this is the main reason you keeping giving yourself for hanging-on to him.
you have to let it go.
look forward for a new "itinerary". -
Hi Chaah,
ur post gave me encouragement. Bet your 2 years ain't easy.. honestly, I'm experiencing it for less then a few months.. and I can feel rather depressed @ times. I did numb myself in work and company activities and always out meeting new pp. *_* as suggested by some.. i wanted to have some other pp distracting me.. but.. if a guy wants to go beyond friendship... I just 'run' away. Feel like slapping myself sometimes... coz.. its rather irresponsible
I asked myself why i react like that.. then.. i realised I haven't clear my state of mind. (okay.. i'm kinda slow) I kept asking myself with qns like... " we loved one another.. why cant things work out?", "what if we got married?" or "he is the one, aint him?"So.. i just keep asking myself qn... trying to understand why things dont work out.. it may take years or.. even someday.. when both of us got married to another.. I'll still be figuring out the ans..
Watever that is... I wish u well and that both of us.. can go thru this stage of our life.. becoming stronger and happier. btw.. i'm a taurus..... -
jia you baOriginally posted by odi-o:Hi Chaah,
ur post gave me encouragement. Bet your 2 years ain't easy.. honestly, I'm experiencing it for less then a few months.. and I can feel rather depressed @ times. I did numb myself in work and company activities and always out meeting new pp. *_* as suggested by some.. i wanted to have some other pp distracting me.. but.. if a guy wants to go beyond friendship... I just 'run' away. Feel like slapping myself sometimes... coz.. its rather irresponsible
I asked myself why i react like that.. then.. i realised I haven't clear my state of mind. (okay.. i'm kinda slow) I kept asking myself with qns like... " we loved one another.. why cant things work out?", "what if we got married?" or "he is the one, aint him?"So.. i just keep asking myself qn... trying to understand why things dont work out.. it may take years or.. even someday.. when both of us got married to another.. I'll still be figuring out the ans..
Watever that is... I wish u well and that both of us.. can go thru this stage of our life.. becoming stronger and happier. btw.. i'm a taurus.....