dont noe wat to do...
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the story goes...i have a junior who tell me she likes me..so we decided to try it out...then..i noe i posted this in Chitchat..but the problem doesnt seems to end here...we smsed quite alot for the first few days..and then slowly she dont wan to reply me my sms and told me she dont turn on her phone 1..then..i thought she wanted a breakup (through some mean) but it turn out that i got the wrong meaning...so i feel that she is getting colder and colder to me..and when i tell her..i feel that is not working out..she told me she didnt think so..i thought about this myself many time..if i break up with her..i wont b happy..and i guess neither would she...and now..i m really trapped..its like..i m not happy with her..neither m i happy without her...i noe this sound ridiculous...but...i dont noe y i feel like that..its like..oh commo..just pretend nothing has happen and lead ur own life...but...i just feel somethings not right...anyway..we r both at our crucial year...is it me..or is it her
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Break lah.
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maybe give her some time... she might be trying to think some things through.... gals tend to think a lot sometimes.... and while thinking, they do silly things.... switching off handphones, not replying sms etc..... continue to just be there.... but leave it first till she wanna talk about it....
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thought so too...i think shes hiding something from me..i mean like..she suddenly really differ alot from wat i noe of her last year..
i wont consider break up..unless i m certain it wont hurt her..beside..1 heart break is always better then 2..besides..i also like her.. -
Have you thought of going out with her other than SMSes and phone calls? If nothing gets better trying to go out with her... i advise you not to cling onto this deteriorating relationship, it will be miserable to the end.
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....m so at a lost..she dont think theres anything wrong between us...
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then you're thinking too much? and don't forget to go out with her =\
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cool..u r actually the same age as me..lol! off topic sorry..
anyway..i dont noe lar..but the worst thing is...we went out once..and..we had nth to talk about..some 1 gimme some tip as to how to initate a chat? -
anyway..i donno how to say...its just that i feel that there is something weird...its like...in lay man term..i dont feel the love lol..haiz..donno wat to say lar.. mayb i should just let natural take its course...
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hmm duno what to talk... i had that problem with my ex... she didn't want to talk.. and i told her everything i've got.... till one day i had nth left and she got bored and broke with me.. sheesh...girls...
hm... many ways to fix this... ask her a question that her instincts can tell you alot about, and she'll start talking all about it, or make a point system, when you win an arguement you get a point. reach 5 first and the other party has to give u a small gift. -
i got a feeling that if u need alot of effort to keep the conversation going the chemistry is definitely not there.
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Yes... Try to FOCUS on your 'O' LEVELS (?) at least for now pls...?Originally posted by snop_coolz:anyway..i donno how to say...its just that i feel that there is something weird...its like...in lay man term..i dont feel the love lol..haiz..donno wat to say lar.. mayb i should just let natural take its course... -
Nothing to talk? Find some activities and do it and the conversation will come along... hei hei..I'm not talking abt sex. Go for a cheap and enjoyable outing like go Ubin and cycle. pay 4 dollars for 2 person to get over to there and 10 dollars for cycling whole day in a double seat bicycle! U sure will enjoy the day and conversation will roll in and chemistry will spark! Any r/s needs effort..especially from both side.Originally posted by snop_coolz:cool..u r actually the same age as me..lol! off topic sorry..
anyway..i dont noe lar..but the worst thing is...we went out once..and..we had nth to talk about..some 1 gimme some tip as to how to initate a chat? -
Have you two gone out together before? I mean a 1 to 1 date. 1) If yes, how was the date like? Full of laughter, chit chat non stop, being lame to each other etc? 2)Or its like you ask her what she like to eat, and her reply is anything lor. Want go where? anything lor. Want watch a movie? Anything lor. Anything that you ask her she will just give you a feeling on this, i-dun-want-to-care-where-we-are-going, just-have-someone-beside-me-can-le look.
If its 1, mean maybe you have been thinking too much. If its 2, its better to get hurt now then later, break ba.
But I have nagging feeling that she is just treating you as a rebounced target. Maybe she had just borken up with a bf and just want someone to fill up the void. Or maybe you are the spare tyre, someone that can be discard when someone who is better comes along.
My 2 cents worth
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actually..i think u r right..lol...anyway..think she did broke up with a bf..but i donno when was it..anyway the first 1-1 date was a total crap..it wasnt a date..or mayb it was..we just like took the bus home together..she did most of the talking..while it had to b ruined by a old friend of mine who came and b a "light bulb" and stick to us like gum...i didnt really talk..and seriously..i feel the lack of chemistry..and..crap..just think it might not work out..Originally posted by tortoise55:Have you two gone out together before? I mean a 1 to 1 date. 1) If yes, how was the date like? Full of laughter, chit chat non stop, being lame to each other etc? 2)Or its like you ask her what she like to eat, and her reply is anything lor. Want go where? anything lor. Want watch a movie? Anything lor. Anything that you ask her she will just give you a feeling on this, i-dun-want-to-care-where-we-are-going, just-have-someone-beside-me-can-le look.
If its 1, mean maybe you have been thinking too much. If its 2, its better to get hurt now then later, break ba.
But I have nagging feeling that she is just treating you as a rebounced target. Maybe she had just borken up with a bf and just want someone to fill up the void. Or maybe you are the spare tyre, someone that can be discard when someone who is better comes along.
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yea..trying..anyway..how can i tackle o lvl when i cant even cross this hurdle infront of me now..thats y i m thinking..chang tong bu ru duan tong..(temporary pain)..if it really cant work out..then..just say sayonara to each other...Originally posted by Devil1976:Yes... Try to FOCUS on your 'O' LEVELS (?) at least for now pls...? -
Think of it this way... Maybe you don't really have to make this decision of whether to 'tong' at this point... Perhaps you hold this mentality that you should quickly get this matter over with then you can face your 'O' levels with everything else thrown behind... But wait... Would you be certain that you can just leave everything behind and tackle your 'O' levels well just because you choose to experience a 'duan tong' at this point..? I bet it might just hurt you equally...Originally posted by snop_coolz:yea..trying..anyway..how can i tackle o lvl when i cant even cross this hurdle infront of me now..thats y i m thinking..chang tong bu ru duan tong..(temporary pain)..if it really cant work out..then..just say sayonara to each other...
Why not PUT IT THIS WAY....? FOCUS ON YOUR 'O' LEVELS... GET IT OVER WITH.. After that you shall have a LONG BREAK... Try and see if you can catch things up with her then...? Both of you should have more time then and it's also easier to focus on her at that later period instead -
i'm having my Os this year too. and i have relationships problems. after a patch she changed. totally. its like she expect me to apologize even when i didn't think i was wrong. but fine. i did apologize. i want treasure her. but she took much advantage and was really ba dao. and the reason for her being ba dao is, her dad said girls have the privilage to be ba dao. wth. btw her parents don't approve of our relationship. and we lied to them about us breaking up le. i'm hurt by her lots of times. but i'm still considering whether to brk. like u. i jus fang bu xia. i lOve her alot. i'm worried this would affect my results. and my results is deterioting. any suggestions what i can do?
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my advice,Originally posted by snop_coolz:the story goes...i have a junior who tell me she likes me..so we decided to try it out...then..i noe i posted this in Chitchat..but the problem doesnt seems to end here...we smsed quite alot for the first few days..and then slowly she dont wan to reply me my sms and told me she dont turn on her phone 1..then..i thought she wanted a breakup (through some mean) but it turn out that i got the wrong meaning...so i feel that she is getting colder and colder to me..and when i tell her..i feel that is not working out..she told me she didnt think so..i thought about this myself many time..if i break up with her..i wont b happy..and i guess neither would she...and now..i m really trapped..its like..i m not happy with her..neither m i happy without her...i noe this sound ridiculous...but...i dont noe y i feel like that..its like..oh commo..just pretend nothing has happen and lead ur own life...but...i just feel somethings not right...anyway..we r both at our crucial year...is it me..or is it her
take a 'break', and conc on your studies, if you two are meant to be together... you'll be together after the exams... if not... well at least you didn't mess up ur exams! -
well, if I am not wrong, why you nv tok much is that you are afraid that you might make her angry as you dunno if you will speak the wrong things. But she was talking to you ah, so you sld have take it from there. You nv hint to by old friend to get lost? Anyway, are you those who have a very quiet character? those who will think it thru before doing anything?Originally posted by snop_coolz:actually..i think u r right..lol...anyway..think she did broke up with a bf..but i donno when was it..anyway the first 1-1 date was a total crap..it wasnt a date..or mayb it was..we just like took the bus home together..she did most of the talking..while it had to b ruined by a old friend of mine who came and b a "light bulb" and stick to us like gum...i didnt really talk..and seriously..i feel the lack of chemistry..and..crap..just think it might not work out..
As you said you and she are taking O this year, why not ask her out to study together? You 2 in the same class? You can start by asking a few friends out to study together and make sure that those friends know she and her friends. So call a few ppl out (5 - 6 is the enuff), go study together. Then try to make small talk with her, like ask her on subjects that she is strong in, and tell her you are not sure about this topic, and can she teach you? but make sure you are sitting near to her la.
If the a/m cant work, dun blame me, haha. I used it before, but sadly, I nv take the chance as I was unsure how she think about me.
Since the 1 to 1 date, have you 2 went out again? Going out dun mean must go faraway place. You can ask her out for breakfast or lunch at mac, and also maybe tell her, since exams is near, y not study together? So if you dunno about something, still can ask each other.
What Devil1976 and some others said is correct, focus on ur O. It more impt then any other thing. This will make or break ur life. -
LOL . taking Os still wanna play . siao ah ? kanna screwed you lagi die .
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break.Originally posted by snop_coolz:the story goes...i have a junior who tell me she likes me..so we decided to try it out...then..i noe i posted this in Chitchat..but the problem doesnt seems to end here...we smsed quite alot for the first few days..and then slowly she dont wan to reply me my sms and told me she dont turn on her phone 1..then..i thought she wanted a breakup (through some mean) but it turn out that i got the wrong meaning...so i feel that she is getting colder and colder to me..and when i tell her..i feel that is not working out..she told me she didnt think so..i thought about this myself many time..if i break up with her..i wont b happy..and i guess neither would she...and now..i m really trapped..its like..i m not happy with her..neither m i happy without her...i noe this sound ridiculous...but...i dont noe y i feel like that..its like..oh commo..just pretend nothing has happen and lead ur own life...but...i just feel somethings not right...anyway..we r both at our crucial year...is it me..or is it her
kids like her dunno wats love and prolly like u because of infatuation.
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donno lar..O might b important..but..at least i m coping well...much better than last week..i m beginning to feel like..i m living my life without her present..as if like nth ever happened..or its how i feel..m i the problem...i dont noe...i have a feeling that if she's serious..then i m the root of the problem to the relationship..anyway..i hinted..he just wanna stick..darn...sickening seah...
i just wanna give it a try..if i really cant cope..guess if shes serious..she would have to wait for me..mayb then i will truely see the whole picture...hopefully..shes also quite into her study lar..we also dont really sms now..well..guess its like nth happened at all
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ask her wassup.Originally posted by snop_coolz:donno lar..O might b important..but..at least i m coping well...much better than last week..i m beginning to feel like..i m living my life without her present..as if like nth ever happened..or its how i feel..m i the problem...i dont noe...i have a feeling that if she's serious..then i m the root of the problem to the relationship..anyway..i hinted..he just wanna stick..darn...sickening seah...
i just wanna give it a try..if i really cant cope..guess if shes serious..she would have to wait for me..mayb then i will truely see the whole picture...hopefully..shes also quite into her study lar..we also dont really sms now..well..guess its like nth happened at all
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no we didnt date again..wasnt sure of our relationship and didnt ask her out on a date...anyway..its not i dont wanna offend her..its that..i have nth to talk to her..u noe..like..no chemistry...or mayb i was feeling attituded that day...oh well..i actually had another date with her on a sat..but didnt comfirm it..and she study instead...geez...how the hell i made it with my ex in the first place...Originally posted by tortoise55:well, if I am not wrong, why you nv tok much is that you are afraid that you might make her angry as you dunno if you will speak the wrong things. But she was talking to you ah, so you sld have take it from there. You nv hint to by old friend to get lost? Anyway, are you those who have a very quiet character? those who will think it thru before doing anything?
As you said you and she are taking O this year, why not ask her out to study together? You 2 in the same class? You can start by asking a few friends out to study together and make sure that those friends know she and her friends. So call a few ppl out (5 - 6 is the enuff), go study together. Then try to make small talk with her, like ask her on subjects that she is strong in, and tell her you are not sure about this topic, and can she teach you? but make sure you are sitting near to her la.
If the a/m cant work, dun blame me, haha. I used it before, but sadly, I nv take the chance as I was unsure how she think about me.
Since the 1 to 1 date, have you 2 went out again? Going out dun mean must go faraway place. You can ask her out for breakfast or lunch at mac, and also maybe tell her, since exams is near, y not study together? So if we dunno about something, still can ask each other.
What Devil1976 and some others said is correct, focus on ur O. It more impt then any other thing. This will make or break ur life.