Dilemma
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threadstarter, if you're not sure whether you love her anot, i suggest you let her concentrate in her studies first....
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kakakaka... tq. anyway, he wants me to put my studies at the utmost priority as he doesn't want our r/s to distract my current education position. that's why i love himOriginally posted by dcx:hMz...seems like you're quite young....good luck to you....
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okok...as long as you're happy n fine with it..then it's ok...but always have a little bit of self-prepared for any unwanted problems that will arise......Originally posted by anixel:kakakaka... tq. anyway, he wants me to put my studies at the utmost priority as he doesn't want our r/s to distract my current education position. that's why i love him 
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Well actually I do like her , she been treating me like a Prince seriously and some of her actions touched my heart that is why I am thinking should I go ahead or not ?Originally posted by anixel:threadstarter, if you're not sure whether you love her anot, i suggest you let her concentrate in her studies first....
Thanks for all your lovely and useful advices ! I will consider every aspects carefully .
Btw I am not thinking of marrying early , probably in the 30s ba.
So If I decide to be with her, I will make sure she concertrate on her studies. Giving her room of space to do whatever she has to do to complete her studies.
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just help her with her studies and be there for her when she needs you.Originally posted by K800i:Well actually I do like her , she been treating me like a Prince seriously and some of her actions touched my heart that is why I am thinking should I go ahead or not ?
Thanks for all your lovely and useful advices ! I will consider every aspects carefully .
Btw I am not thinking of marrying early , probably in the 30s ba.
So If I decide to be with her, I will make sure she concertrate on her studies. Giving her room of space to do whatever she has to do to complete her studies.
Once I have decided , I let you guys know again .
Do your best for her and let her decide what she wants in the future.
winks you can do it no problems... -
you got car?how much is your salary per mth?
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no lei...btw she graduated...she can marry you liao..yay...can be housewife!!don need work!!!!
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Is that the reason why you're thinking of being with her? At her present age, how many years do you think it might take before her attitude starts to change...?Originally posted by K800i:Well actually I do like her , she been treating me like a Prince seriously and some of her actions touched my heart that is why I am thinking should I go ahead or not ?
Thanks for all your lovely and useful advices ! I will consider every aspects carefully .
Btw I am not thinking of marrying early , probably in the 30s ba.
So If I decide to be with her, I will make sure she concertrate on her studies. Giving her room of space to do whatever she has to do to complete her studies.
Once I have decided , I let you guys know again .
And most likely that her parents might be adding more pressure for the both of you... In time to come, strongly wearing both of you down... Is your mind set for that? Or are you just thinking that if there's 'love', it should be able to overcome EVERYTHING
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Ok... What is your current occupation..? It's still pretty 'early' I guess...?Originally posted by anixel:till today, we've been together for about a year. and we're on LDR. well... he comes back once or twice in a month just to spend his time with me. you think that helps in making the r/s stronger? hmmm.... in my opinion, i think so. coz i found that i really appreciate him as of now compared to the first few weeks i accepted him...
ehh... this thing is totally off from the topic
LDR for now might be more suited for your mentality for now, that's why you're feeling everything as sweet? Hmm... Anyway... So long as you're happy, just enjoy the relationship to its fullest while it's here with you..? -
girls that age are like bombs.. push wrong buttons and they'll explode causing you much anguish and pain.
If you can put up with it, then your rs will work out.....maybe -
haha.. hopefully i can graduate in time next year. early? i think so but here am i still going against my folks i don't know why.Originally posted by Devil1976:Ok... What is your current occupation..? It's still pretty 'early' I guess...?
LDR for now might be more suited for your mentality for now, that's why you're feeling everything as sweet? Hmm... Anyway... So long as you're happy, just enjoy the relationship to its fullest while it's here with you..?
for your LDR statement.. it may be...... but anyway, i think i'm a loyal person and so does he. i believe we have built a pretty strong trust for each other, although barely a year after we've been together. we've also talked about any circumstance that might trigger the r/s. so we had an 'agreement' and that helps me alot. lol. -
Originally posted by anixel:haha.. hopefully i can graduate in time next year. early? i think so but here am i still going against my folks i don't know why.
for your LDR statement.. it may be...... but anyway, i think i'm a loyal person and so does he. i believe we have built a pretty strong trust for each other, although barely a year after we've been together. we've also talked about any circumstance that might trigger the r/s. so we had an 'agreement' and that helps me alot. lol. -
Originally posted by K800i:Hi , I am in a dilemma . I am 26 this year and there is this gal who is only 17 is in love with me. Her hints are pretty clear , I find her a nice companion to be with and I was thinking should I go ahead with the relationship even with her father doesnt approve of her having a relationship until she is 20 . She has already make it clear that she doesnt want to wait until 20. I was thinking if she's the one, by the time her marriage age comes, I will be more then ready to settle down ( I am thinking for the future as well) .
What do you guys think ?
I believe that it would classify you as her first love if she were to pursue this relationship with you. (First Love in this case is denotes as First Relationship).
If that was the case, I suggest that you shouldn't 'think' too far into the relationship other than enjoying each other's company and see how this relationship run.
Marriage?
This young lady probably knows next to nothing other than companionship in relationship. You got to allow that sort of natural, intangible learning to take place before the subject of marriage would make any sense to her.
If you were to pursue this relationship, born almost a decade difference, your needs, desires and wants are vastly different. Work that out first before planning anything else.
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guess u n i r in the same situation.. my gf is only 16 n i m 24.. somemore we r on LDR.. but we still in love 4 a few months already
well, if u love her, i say go for it coz life only come once.. if u think so much, u will never get anywhere.. if u dun try, u will never know whether it might work or not...
my advice is go for it but dun expect much.. anytime the relationship might change.. so juz enjoy while it lasts..
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17? Nothing lasts forever. I seriously doubt she will be with you till marriage? OMG, think carefully. Perhaps if she is 27, I can see she could be serious in settling down.
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Hi guys, thanks for your advices and some of your experiences. I have make my decision and that is to move on . A few reasons :
She is childish . Hard to communicate with her. Her mood swings come and go. I can imagine when problem comes, she will try to run away from it. I need someone who is mature enough to handle relationship problem. Perhaps give her a few more years maybe. She is quite a spoilt child and besides needs a lot of attention. These bad points are enough for me to move on.
I think it's a good decision . I wish her all the best, since now she is going to poly , I think she will find a more suitable guy over there.