How Do I Tell A Guy I Can't Stop Thinking About Him??
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Well i have a very big problem that has been bugging me for the last 5 months! there is this guy i really,really like.i spent a month and a half with him when i first met him,at my work.i clicked with him from the first moment i met him.we became close,and then he had to go home to sg!
he knew i like him a little bit when he left,,,,,,but i dont know how to tell him that he is what i think about every day!
at first i thought i just got along well with him like a friend,as i always get along with guys better than with girls.
but as time went on,i found myself crying when he left.....and i think i love him.
i am going to be seeing him soon,but i think he has a gf now.
how am i supposed to be happy for him,and act as if i dont have anymore feelings for him than a friend should have?
i dont want to put him in a bad position,and i dont want to embariss myself.
but i feel like i have to tell him how i feel. i know he's excited to be seeing me again soon,but i dont know if he likes me as anything more than a friend now.
please help...im so confused....i dont want to make the biggest mistake of my life.
i could tell him i think i love him.....but then he might freak out and i could lose his friendship.
or i could not tell him,and i could lose any chance i might have of being with him!!
help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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so thats why you come to sgforums?
well, send him an email -
You can also call him too. Don't be shy.
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no thats not just why i came to sgforums........i came here to find friends aswell.
i cant tell him on the phone.............what if he freaks???
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Originally posted by ozzy-gurl:no thats not just why i came to sgforums........i came here to find friends aswell.
i cant tell him on the phone.............what if he freaks??? 
Lets say, those times when you guys worked together. He appreciate you as a good gal friend.
Will that make you feel better? OR not?
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ummmmmmmmmmmm.........yes,but also no.
it's great if he appreciates me as a good girl friend.....that i'm happy with.
but how do i tell my heart to stop wanting him??
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Maybe you can check and confirm if he really have a gf and how close and serious they are before you proceed with any plans ahead.
Dont make him stuck his legs in 2 boat. -
Hmm... Could it be just a strong infatuation...?Originally posted by ozzy-gurl:Well i have a very big problem that has been bugging me for the last 5 months! there is this guy i really,really like.i spent a month and a half with him when i first met him,at my work.i clicked with him from the first moment i met him.we became close,and then he had to go home to sg!
he knew i like him a little bit when he left,,,,,,but i dont know how to tell him that he is what i think about every day!
at first i thought i just got along well with him like a friend,as i always get along with guys better than with girls.
but as time went on,i found myself crying when he left.....and i think i love him.
i am going to be seeing him soon,but i think he has a gf now.
how am i supposed to be happy for him,and act as if i dont have anymore feelings for him than a friend should have?
i dont want to put him in a bad position,and i dont want to embariss myself.
but i feel like i have to tell him how i feel. i know he's excited to be seeing me again soon,but i dont know if he likes me as anything more than a friend now.
please help...im so confused....i dont want to make the biggest mistake of my life.
i could tell him i think i love him.....but then he might freak out and i could lose his friendship.
or i could not tell him,and i could lose any chance i might have of being with him!!
help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Mmm.... Personally advice is perahps you can try dropping hints... LOTS of hints the next time you meet up with him if you're really quite determined to find a way with him.... However, pls also see things with an open mind.... -
yes well i've been trying to keep an open mind all along.
im not sure...........it could be an infatuation.....but a very strong one if it is!
ive told myself before that i wouldnt love another guy because ive been hurt lots before......but when im hanging out with him.....im happy. -
Another thing to note is that you've mentioned that he has already got a gf?Originally posted by ozzy-gurl:yes well i've been trying to keep an open mind all along.
im not sure...........it could be an infatuation.....but a very strong one if it is!
ive told myself before that i wouldnt love another guy because ive been hurt lots before......but when im hanging out with him.....im happy.
Then I think you better be caution on that 1st...?
Hanging out happy can always be just friends... Even if you really love (or infatuate with) a person alot.... You see... The thing is most of the time all these 'feelings' would PUSH you to ACT... GET CLOSER... KNOW BETTER.... But little do people realise that sometimes being just a friend and enjoying each other's company might just be so much better without adding in the extra pressures... -
aww..u just told me so..
kk jokes aside..u jst have to be frank with him..some guys are really blur,and i can tell u that we do appreciate it when women sometimes makes their feelings known to us.. -
Post ur pic we will know wat to do
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Perhaps its a crash at that moment.. Is he really wat you wanna to be with??*ponderZ* Or the time/looks you are looking forward to....
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Well.. first off, ask yourself first. Are you ready for commitment? Are you comfortably sure he is the right person for you? Don't think with your lust, think with your head. Like one fella said is it infatuation? If you're thinking about marriage, how is he going to support you. Would your parents agree?
Once you get that sorted out and assuming you want to go ahead, approach him. And the best way to do that is face to face. Don't be afraid of rejection. Take the Que Sera Sera approach (whatever will be, will be) and you'll get through.
Don't give a damn if he freaked out. The point is, you'll get a chestload of weight of your chest.
Then tell me how good you'll feel. -
Really if you're really into him,
Maybe you can start by gauging how he thinks of you ?
Like for example.
Questions of how he thinks of you ?
Maybe U can try talking to him more ?
Chances of a guy good enough with a gf of liking you is high, but loving you ?
I wouldn't bet too much on that.
I'm guessing you've not been hanging around guys much, but your much suppressed desires suddenly resurface and you can't control it.
No one can live alone.
Being hurt before doesn't give you the excuse of not looking for you other half,
or devoting into a relationship.
Lets just put it that you're engulf by your inner desire.
The only thing now you can do now is to talk to him more.
Here's somethingto help you talking to him.
Ask him about his gf, and i think this maybe a thing you wanna make sure of too.
Is he really in a stable relationship? -
Originally posted by Devil1976:Hmm... Could it be just a strong infatuation...?
Mmm.... Personally advice is perahps you can try dropping hints... LOTS of hints the next time you meet up with him if you're really quite determined to find a way with him.... However, pls also see things with an open mind....
If i'm the guy's advisor...
I'll get him to join the dark side and enjoy the ride.
The girl will be hurt. -
He may still be waiting for you... all is not lost. Just tell him straight...Originally posted by ozzy-gurl:Well i have a very big problem that has been bugging me for the last 5 months! there is this guy i really,really like.i spent a month and a half with him when i first met him,at my work.i clicked with him from the first moment i met him.we became close,and then he had to go home to sg!
he knew i like him a little bit when he left,,,,,,but i dont know how to tell him that he is what i think about every day!
at first i thought i just got along well with him like a friend,as i always get along with guys better than with girls.
but as time went on,i found myself crying when he left.....and i think i love him.
i am going to be seeing him soon,but i think he has a gf now.
how am i supposed to be happy for him,and act as if i dont have anymore feelings for him than a friend should have?
i dont want to put him in a bad position,and i dont want to embariss myself.
but i feel like i have to tell him how i feel. i know he's excited to be seeing me again soon,but i dont know if he likes me as anything more than a friend now.
please help...im so confused....i dont want to make the biggest mistake of my life.
i could tell him i think i love him.....but then he might freak out and i could lose his friendship.
or i could not tell him,and i could lose any chance i might have of being with him!!
help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! -
your the guys advisor mcsquare???? -
If i am his advisor. IF.Originally posted by ozzy-gurl:your the guys advisor mcsquare???? 
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hmmmmmmmmmmm........theres something your not telling me mcsquare!!!
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Originally posted by ozzy-gurl:hmmmmmmmmmmm........theres something your not telling me mcsquare!!! What do you want to know?
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okay....so straight forward,so i'll be straight forward with you.
do you know the person i'm talking about?? -
No i don't.Originally posted by ozzy-gurl:okay....so straight forward,so i'll be straight forward with you.
do you know the person i'm talking about??
I don't have any idea who you're talkin about. -
thats alright then
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Originally posted by ozzy-gurl:thats alright then I tot i said 'IF' a few times? ha