How?
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Hi guys, currently ther is this situation, John is havin a long (exp:2yrs) relationship with Sher. Things are very nice in the first 2 yrs. However things starts to get pretty serious durin the past few mths. John is unable to stand Sher short temper and "Gals Domination". Juz as when John is out with his friends, he begins to take note of his ex gf, Jes. Jes in the meantime is also havin some problems in her own relationship.
John develop a crush on his ex-gf Jes yet cant bear to break off with Sher. But he is in a dilemma, cos he cant stand Sher character.
What must John do nw?
Give real solutions only pls. Dun make a fool out of it. Thanks.
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You're the closest person who can give John the most sound advice.Originally posted by mitgalant:Hi guys, currently ther is this situation, John is havin a long (exp:2yrs) relationship with Sher. Things are very nice in the first 2 yrs. However things starts to get pretty serious durin the past few mths. John is unable to stand Sher short temper and "Gals Domination". Juz as when John is out with his friends, he begins to take note of his ex gf, Jes. Jes in the meantime is also havin some problems in her own relationship.
John develop a crush on his ex-gf Jes yet cant bear to break off with Sher. But he is in a dilemma, cos he cant stand Sher character.
What must John do nw?
Give real solutions only pls. Dun make a fool out of it. Thanks. What does John WANT? -
Thats y i said John in a dilemma.
He wan Jes cos he cant stand Cher character and also Jes character is better.
Yet he cant bear to give up the long relationship he haf with Cher.
So he needs advice nw. John himself also doesnt know what he really wants.
But he knows he cant get the best of both world.
How ?
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u mean John has taken fancy with his ex gf? Perhaps is a residual feeling.. perhaps he felt sth lackin in the rs between him n Sher that oni Jes can provide.
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Ask John to come into this thread.Originally posted by mitgalant:Thats y i said John in a dilemma.
He wan Jes cos he cant stand Cher character and also Jes character is better.
Yet he cant bear to give up the long relationship he haf with Cher.
So he needs advice nw. John himself also doesnt know what he really wants.
But he knows he cant get the best of both world.
How ?
Unless you're John.
If not i don't see this going anywhere.
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ya. John slowly developin feelins for the ex. he wants to stop it. but he cant.Originally posted by alexkusu:u mean John has taken fancy with his ex gf? Perhaps is a residual feeling.. perhaps he felt sth lackin in the rs between him n Sher that oni Jes can provide.
ya u got the point. Jes can provide what is lackin. But yet he dun bear to let Cher go. How ???? -
seriously juz that the name change only mah. isit it obvious ?Originally posted by M©+square:Ask John to come into this thread.
Unless you're John.
If not i don't see this going anywhere.
( not joking)
ok even if John come here, then ?
of course not jokin la.
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tell him he need to make sacrifices lor.. stay with cher, he gets treated like carpet..Originally posted by mitgalant:ya. John slowly developin feelins for the ex. he wants to stop it. but he cant.
ya u got the point. Jes can provide what is lackin. But yet he dun bear to let Cher go. How ????
or maybe cher is the trophy type of gf n he cant bear to let her go? -
the reason y he dun wanna let go is becoz they together for a very long time and also he is hopin (although been hopin for a very long time) she will change.
if u, what will u do ? in this circumstance ? -
look for another one
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I have learnt that retaining something for no other reason other than "because you've had it a long time" is not a smart thing to do.
Has John done anything to affect the change he wants to see in Sher?Originally posted by mitgalant:the reason y he dun wanna let go is becoz they together for a very long time and also he is hopin (although been hopin for a very long time) she will change.
if u, what will u do ? in this circumstance ? -
u really bear to let go ? she was once a gal that you loved alot and alot. so easy to let go ?Originally posted by alexkusu:look for another one -
yup, John had tried to talk to Cher already. Cher promise she will try to change. But seems that until nw, the changes is still very minimum. It is still very much the same.Originally posted by choco B:I have learnt that retaining something for no other reason other than "because you've had it a long time" is not a smart thing to do.
Has John done anything to affect the change he wants to see in Sher?
John is very tired already. Does that means the end of the relation ? -
You or John should know what you/john want.
John or you should stop giving yourself reasons or excuses why he couldn't decide.
Everything determined by choices.
Being single is a choice.
Having both is a choice as well.
If John or you were to choose to stay in dilema
If not....stay out from the both of them and think thru carefully. -
yup....sometimes u jus have to let go, even though you do not want to. If she was yours to begin with, maybe u two may meet again sometime in the future n fall in love again lor..Originally posted by mitgalant:u really bear to let go ? she was once a gal that you loved alot and alot. so easy to let go ?
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u really make John think now. Its a very nice piece of advise.Originally posted by M©+square:You or John should know what you/john want.
John or you should stop giving yourself reasons or excuses why he couldn't decide.
Everything determined by choices.
Being single is a choice.
Having both is a choice as well.
If John or you were to choose to stay in dilema
If not....stay out from the both of them and think thru carefully.
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John should be very clear that he should consider relationship between himself and Cher only, this has nothing to do with Jes. If anything she is just a distraction
If he is not happy with Cher it is best to end itOriginally posted by mitgalant:yup, John had tried to talk to Cher already. Cher promise she will try to change. But seems that until nw, the changes is still very minimum. It is still very much the same.
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haiz. Love Life. Always confusin. Always sweet yet sour.
Always tons of happiness yet sadness. -
Haiz???Originally posted by mitgalant:haiz. Love Life. Always confusin. Always sweet yet sour.
Always tons of happiness yet sadness.
haha....learn to enjoy.
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love...
why not just enjoy being in dating, being in the rs.. instead of looking for love? love usually comes when u least expects it -
being in the relationship with some many little little quarrels, how to enjoy ? B4 can enjoy, another one comes in. goes on and on.
John would love to enjoy it too. But things gettin out of hand soon. -
if it was meant to be, u 2 wouldnt have broken up in the first place.
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tats because last time young, duno how to think so anyhow play play. but nw so much older already, different nw.
thinkin also mature nw.
young where got so much problems ? anyhow go into relationships one -
John has experience what many of us has experience before.Originally posted by mitgalant:Hi guys, currently ther is this situation, John is havin a long (exp:2yrs) relationship with Sher. Things are very nice in the first 2 yrs. However things starts to get pretty serious durin the past few mths. John is unable to stand Sher short temper and "Gals Domination". Juz as when John is out with his friends, he begins to take note of his ex gf, Jes. Jes in the meantime is also havin some problems in her own relationship.
John develop a crush on his ex-gf Jes yet cant bear to break off with Sher. But he is in a dilemma, cos he cant stand Sher character.
What must John do nw?
Give real solutions only pls. Dun make a fool out of it. Thanks.
He may have put lots of effort on Sher but what he got back from her is just her short temper and negative feelings.
Imagine putting effort on a person but realise that he or she might not be worth the effort. Thats wat John is feeling now.
Actually is John heart which is changing it might be Jes or someone else but the most impt thing is that he tired of doing so much for someone who is not worth it.
For John or who you are.
This is just a few answer to your questions.
1) Do a offical break with Sher. It will help you clear the air that you are serious with your actions and people will respect you for it. Being single will help you go for someone else without any worries and if Sher can get another chance to find someone who loves her.
2) drag and hide until Sher finds out. She scream and shout. Cries and call for a breakup. Both breakup then you are call a bad person cos you are the bad one who ran away.
3) Go with jes and once confirm with her dump Sher. The worst type who cares for only his own feelings and everyone calls him a playboy behind his back.
Actually is up to John lar
this is open end answer which only John knows the answer.
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Can you change your own character?Originally posted by mitgalant:the reason y he dun wanna let go is becoz they together for a very long time and also he is hopin (although been hopin for a very long time) she will change.
if u, what will u do ? in this circumstance ?
If not then why hope?