Girl chasing Guy
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Originally posted by Yunhaier:
The question of Value
'When a girl chase a guy, the guy will never appreciate her more than one that he chased. Even if they ended up in a relationship, she will often be 'inferior'...'
Cheers
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yeah.. im also a stubborn person.Originally posted by Devil1976:It could infatuation, it could be a 1 sided love... You should know how stubborn one can be even when they're in a one sided relationship... Especially after reading so many threads in AA...?
Also, not everybody express 'non-interest' from a start of a relationship...
im reading Teng Jing Shu ..
feeling v sad now..
bbb is getting emotional today.. -
Try to get your mind off the sadness by doing happy things instead?Originally posted by browniebaobao:yeah.. im also a stubborn person.
im reading Teng Jing Shu ..
feeling v sad now..
bbb is getting emotional today..
Cos for me, I realize, if I keep reading sad books/articles or listening to sad songs, I will get even more depressed. But if I start to listen to happier tunes, then I will start to feel more optimistic.
Dunno if this will help or not, but can try it out ba -
Originally posted by Devil1976:Well... Notice the irony in all these... Some people complaining that the party they're chasing won't give them a chance to try if things would work out...
So if the other party has no feeling for them and won't give them a chance, they complain... And if the other party give them a chance... And reality proves that things can't be... They ALSO complain...?? "
Anyway, relationship can be quite an unpredictable thing... As such, even 2 people loving each other so much from a start can detour... And not forgetting the sometimes real complicated story of what's really going on within the relationship during its walk.... Can we strictly speaking knows each gender is the 'bad guy'?
notice i said 'some guys' and not say men generally?
wat if it's the person who gave chances right from the start end up hearing 'sorry the feeling has faded'? Should he/she regret giving the other party a chance?
no we cannot say each gender is the bad guy.. this is not wat i meant. i was juz talking abt myself ba. haiz. No gender discrimination. -
morning rainee...Originally posted by rainee:Try to get your mind off the sadness by doing happy things instead?
Cos for me, I realize, if I keep reading sad books/articles or listening to sad songs, I will get even more depressed. But if I start to listen to happier tunes, then I will start to feel more optimistic.
Dunno if this will help or not, but can try it out ba
there's this song that's on my mind.. but i can't find it in my computer anymore..
it has been such a long time that i dare not play this song again.. but right now juz when i wana hear it, it cannot be found on my new pc.
im always listening to happy songs.. lately.. -
Hmm...can tell me the title of the song?Originally posted by browniebaobao:morning rainee...
there's this song that's on my mind.. but i can't find it in my computer anymore..
it has been such a long time that i dare not play this song again.. but right now juz when i wana hear it, it cannot be found on my new pc.
im always listening to happy songs.. lately.. -
Alias I need you now (More than words can say)Originally posted by rainee:Hmm...can tell me the title of the song? -
For me, when I have made up my mind to do something, I will tell myself to have no regrets in the end. No matter how it will turn out, I will just take it as another chapter of my life and when it has ended, so has the time comes for me to move to another.Originally posted by browniebaobao:
notice i said 'some guys' and not say men generally?
wat if it's the person who gave chances right from the start end up hearing 'sorry the feeling has faded'? Should he/she regret giving the other party a chance?
no we cannot say each gender is the bad guy.. this is not wat i meant. i was juz talking abt myself ba. haiz. No gender discrimination.
Every r/s brings with it a lesson to be learnt, even if it doesn't have a happily ever ending...
People told me that I am impulsive in some ways...but if we do not give another person a chance in the beginning, if we do not take up risks, how would we find our eternal happiness in the end? -
hmm I do have this song...do you want me to send it to you?Originally posted by browniebaobao:Alias I need you now (More than words can say) -
yes thank u rainee~!Originally posted by rainee:hmm I do have this song...do you want me to send it to you?
are u log in to msn?
i think i have u in my other acc. -
hmm send thru msn super slow de leh...Originally posted by browniebaobao:yes thank u rainee~!
are u log in to msn?
i think i have u in my other acc.
and hor...maybe you need to resend me your email add thru PM...i mite have accidentally deleted yours when i did a clean up of my msn nicks last time..so send me ur msn and i will add u back -
Better not to read too many of such books if ya can't handle it...?Originally posted by browniebaobao:yeah.. im also a stubborn person.
im reading Teng Jing Shu ..
feeling v sad now..
bbb is getting emotional today..
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Life can often be of regrets from time to time... Once a decision made, often nobody can really give a 100% prediction of its outcome especially when we're talking about love relationships...Originally posted by browniebaobao:
wat if it's the person who gave chances right from the start end up hearing 'sorry the feeling has faded'? Should he/she regret giving the other party a chance?
As I've said earlier, 'interest' can possibly varies from time to time... Especially when a relationship's foundation is weak or of non-existence... Even for one with a strong foundation, a patrner might still change his / her heart one day... Nothing is quite impossible... May it be the person who have persuaded or the one been persuaded... Or 2 parties started off loving each other equally deep... Either party can be a result of change... -
It's such an unhealthy song...Originally posted by browniebaobao:Alias I need you now (More than words can say)
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i think it's a gd way to release myself too la..Originally posted by Devil1976:Better not to read too many of such books if ya can't handle it...?
hardly gt the time to do such things.. only when im having vacation..
and im gg back to sch next week. -
so love does not come with a warranty.Originally posted by Devil1976:Life can often be of regrets from time to time... Once a decision made, often nobody can really give a 100% prediction of its outcome especially when we're talking about love relationships...
As I've said earlier, 'interest' can possibly varies from time to time... Especially when a relationship's foundation is weak or of non-existence... Even for one with a strong foundation, a patrner might still change his / her heart one day... Nothing is quite impossible... May it be the person who have persuaded or the one been persuaded... Or 2 parties started off loving each other equally deep... Either party can be a result of change... -
and there's an unhealthy reason why i wanted to listen to it..Originally posted by Devil1976:It's such an unhealthy song... -
Ok... Can read other books also what...? Anyway... So long as you can handle it yeah...?Originally posted by browniebaobao:i think it's a gd way to release myself too la..
hardly gt the time to do such things.. only when im having vacation..
and im gg back to sch next week. -
A love relationship is something which takes constant effort to maintain... Easy for me to tell you but often something as easily forgotten from time to time... Anyway... As many other subjects in this earthly place we live in, it is not an absolute... (but that doesn't mean you can't do more to have a better hold of it)Originally posted by browniebaobao:so love does not come with a warranty. -
Since you know, why don't you try to learn to regulate yourself...?Originally posted by browniebaobao:and there's an unhealthy reason why i wanted to listen to it..
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Originally posted by Yunhaier:
I sort of agreed with this, man are born with hunter instinct hence we tend to enjoy the thrill of the hunt. if u even deny him the kick he get from wooing u, u don't really expect him to treasure something that he didn't work for. u can said guys are a pathetic lot, u treat him like a gem n he treat u like trash, if u treat him like trash, he will treat u like his queen
How well would you agree with this statement?
[b]'When a girl chase a guy, the guy will never appreciate her more than one that he chased. Even if they ended up in a relationship, she will often be 'inferior'...'
Disclaimer: This doesn't represent my stand, just wanted to bring this to an AA discussion and stir some mental 'agony'.
Cheers[/b]
u can said that this is an ego thing.
a guy will always boost about this in front of his friends n when they went into an argument, the guy tends to bring this into the picture. "u wooed me, remember?" -
Originally posted by Yunhaier:
not true at all... even if the guy chase after a while he oso wun appreciate her... so is the character not who did the chasing...
How well would you agree with this statement?
[b]'When a girl chase a guy, the guy will never appreciate her more than one that he chased. Even if they ended up in a relationship, she will often be 'inferior'...'
Disclaimer: This doesn't represent my stand, just wanted to bring this to an AA discussion and stir some mental 'agony'.
Cheers[/b] -
In general I would agree with this. It's a man's instinct to treasure his prize that was gained through hard work and some obstacles. The whole process is not just for show, it prompts the guy to question if he likes her enough to put some effort to win her over.
As for a girl feeling inferior, I think it's her own unhealthy mindset making trouble. If she sees herself as less worthy, nothing will convince her otherwise.'When a girl chase a guy, the guy will never appreciate her more than one that he chased. Even if they ended up in a relationship, she will often be 'inferior'...'
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ya.. reading Shen Xue's book now.. if u duno who is she.. she is the author of Pawnshop No. 8.Originally posted by Devil1976:Ok... Can read other books also what...? Anyway... So long as you can handle it yeah...?
nice, sweet looking girl, but the content in her books a bit cruel/sick de.. -
ya i know.. fall in love and getting into a r/s is easy, but to maintain it is hard.Originally posted by Devil1976:A love relationship is something which takes constant effort to maintain... Easy for me to tell you but often something as easily forgotten from time to time... Anyway... As many other subjects in this earthly place we live in, it is not an absolute... (but that doesn't mean you can't do more to have a better hold of it)