Why am i like this?Just a gathering n i m so nervous
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hi
i am a quiet and extremely shy person with few friends even after i graduated from my poly..I seldom and in fact never go to class outing cause i cant get along, recently dono for what reason i decided to pluck up my courage and decied to join a bbq gathering..
The prob is the bbq is tomorrow and i am extremely nervous cause i am very shy and i always just cant open my mouth to talk because i got this problem of repeating my words when i am nervous...I am always thinking will i screw up and embarrasse myself tommorrow
Wads wrong with me!!!! Cant i live a normal life
Right now i cant sleep cause i am too nervous, even my heartbeat is very fast now should i just call the orgainzer and say i could't make it? -
JUZ GO!
was once liked u in the past..ages ago..
What u think is juz ur mentality..has nth to do wif what others will think!
go be urself but mix in some fun n juz chat wif them...
NOTE:dun stray away from watever ur friends r disccusing
b open about comments..they might b having some fun n joking arnd...joke back..
ALL the best!
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go lo, nothing to be afriad of... tomorrow jz go there, find someone u know of n socio... then work from there n chat up wif the rest... nothing serious wrong wif u, jz tat u lack confidence in chatting up wif rest... so wat u need now is socio more... jz talk abt anything tat comes across...Originally posted by Kaze_00:hi
i am a quiet and extremely shy person with few friends even after i graduated from my poly..I seldom and in fact never go to class outing cause i cant get along, recently dono for what reason i decided to pluck up my courage and decied to join a bbq gathering..
The prob is the bbq is tomorrow and i am extremely nervous cause i am very shy and i always just cant open my mouth to talk because i got this problem of repeating my words when i am nervous...I am always thinking will i screw up and embarrasse myself tommorrow Wads wrong with me!!!! Cant i live a normal life
Right now i cant sleep cause i am too nervous, even my heartbeat is very fast now should i just call the orgainzer and say i could't make it? -
Juz be yourself.. The way u are at home.. with ppl ur comfortable wif.. Juz go la! come outta ur "shell"..
CHiLL!!!!!!!
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haha, i want to laugh coz last time i am worst than you... always hiding in one corner of the gathering... got once, i see the girl i like walk down the stairs and i turn around to face the wall, don't dare to see her... but now...
after going out with quite a few gatherings, i am becoming a monster, terrorising people and i think practise makes perfect, so go out more often soon you will get used to it. -
jia you!
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go,relax, be your orignal selfOriginally posted by Kaze_00:hi
i am a quiet and extremely shy person with few friends even after i graduated from my poly..I seldom and in fact never go to class outing cause i cant get along, recently dono for what reason i decided to pluck up my courage and decied to join a bbq gathering..
The prob is the bbq is tomorrow and i am extremely nervous cause i am very shy and i always just cant open my mouth to talk because i got this problem of repeating my words when i am nervous...I am always thinking will i screw up and embarrasse myself tommorrow Wads wrong with me!!!! Cant i live a normal life
Right now i cant sleep cause i am too nervous, even my heartbeat is very fast now should i just call the orgainzer and say i could't make it? 
and everyting will be fine
EDIT: WAIT!!! ur tomorrow is it today or tml(17)? coz u post at 12 mn
if ur tml is today den i too late liao..haha -
i think he meant 17 apr. cant sleep tats why he is typing these but din realise the timing.Originally posted by wxboi:go,relax, be your orignal self and everyting will be fine
EDIT: WAIT!!! ur tomorrow is it today or tml(17)? coz u post at 12 mn
if ur tml is today den i too late liao..haha -
you have social phobia or something?
cos this type of thing exist , u know.. -
go go go ... i was once like u too ....
coz i cant speak well like to mumble alot ..... that y i like to hide at hm
though nw i still cant communicate well ...
but im more open to class gathering nw ... juz go out talk and enjoy yrself ...
dont really have to talk alot .. you can just listen if u dont feel like commenting -
hey... it's ok... these r pple u know... u dun hv to talk alot... jus hang around, smile smile, listen to the conversations, occasionally go along what is saidOriginally posted by Kaze_00:hi
Right now i cant sleep cause i am too nervous, even my heartbeat is very fast now should i just call the orgainzer and say i could't make it? 
jus relax, be comfortable with yourself first then others will also feel comfortable around you
just remember that no one is there to judge you, like some of them said, just treat it like you are at home or think of the people whom u r most comfortable wif e.g. your family etc
jus go and have some fun and give others a chance to know a nice person like you
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bring a pen and paper.
that should solve your problem of repeating words. -
Dun run away from it. Face ur fear straight on, if u dun, u will forever be running away one.
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why, got chio gals there then shy shy dun wanna talk arh? hahahahaha
im once liddat b4, but i tell u what, best of all is tt u maintain eye contact with the talker, cause if u like shift ur eyes when talking, u give a very bad impression of yourself, so muz be confident, learn to like urself... -
hahahahaha! you damn funny! coz actually i'm like you also! hahahaa. sometimes when i meet ppl i like, i also just turn away from them, and end up facing a wall or something...super pai seh la. hahaOriginally posted by DailyFreeGames.com:haha, i want to laugh coz last time i am worst than you... always hiding in one corner of the gathering... got once, i see the girl i like walk down the stairs and i turn around to face the wall, don't dare to see her... but now... after going out with quite a few gatherings, i am becoming a monster, terrorising people and i think practise makes perfect, so go out more often soon you will get used to it.
anyways, to the thread starter, i guessed everyone was shy once ba. i was super shy last time too. i went my boyfriend's house bai nian..then he got so many relatives..and i dunno where to sit or what to do. and i just sat on a chair, staring at the wall to calm myself down. siao one hor.
i understand ur nerves...isn't anyone you know going with you? stick with that person and try to make new frens...participate in games...just enjoy yourself yeaps! ^^
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I am a shy person too, but this is what I advise you to do. You should treat your friends in the outing like someone who you are close to (like your best friend,father, mother or siblings), then it will eliminate the nervous feeling. And dun be afraid because they are your friends not someone who will laugh at your mistakes.Originally posted by Kaze_00:hi
i am a quiet and extremely shy person with few friends even after i graduated from my poly..I seldom and in fact never go to class outing cause i cant get along, recently dono for what reason i decided to pluck up my courage and decied to join a bbq gathering..
The prob is the bbq is tomorrow and i am extremely nervous cause i am very shy and i always just cant open my mouth to talk because i got this problem of repeating my words when i am nervous...I am always thinking will i screw up and embarrasse myself tommorrow Wads wrong with me!!!! Cant i live a normal life
Right now i cant sleep cause i am too nervous, even my heartbeat is very fast now should i just call the orgainzer and say i could't make it? -
don't worry...they will not "eat" you
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just to inform you that you have crowd phobia. It is normal to be nervous.
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HiOriginally posted by Kaze_00:hi
i am a quiet and extremely shy person with few friends even after i graduated from my poly..I seldom and in fact never go to class outing cause i cant get along, recently dono for what reason i decided to pluck up my courage and decied to join a bbq gathering..
The prob is the bbq is tomorrow and i am extremely nervous cause i am very shy and i always just cant open my mouth to talk because i got this problem of repeating my words when i am nervous...I am always thinking will i screw up and embarrasse myself tommorrow Wads wrong with me!!!! Cant i live a normal life
Right now i cant sleep cause i am too nervous, even my heartbeat is very fast now should i just call the orgainzer and say i could't make it?
I would like to ask u some questions
First, do u feel that when u r in a crowd people will look at u, even they are not?
Second, u hav a intense fear of being embarassed and humilated in front of people? U will also feel the need to avoid groups of people to avoid embarassement?
Third, do u feel sometimes when in front of people u feel that u are gona lose control of urself?
Lastly u feel sudden panic and anxiety for no reasons, even when u are alone
Then if so u hav SOCIAL ANXIETY DISORDER.....
Cos i hav the EXACTLY same symptons as u 2 years ago back then it was worse, scared and nervous when EVEN toking to guys, i figure i gona hav nervous breakdown....went to IMH and was given prozac medications everyday since then, better but not fully recovered...now can talk and joke with gals
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_anxiety_disorder -
Aiyoh....for heaven's sake, you are not giving a speech or a presentation tomorrow leh...just go there to enjoy the food.
Nobody's forcing you to give any talk right. -
hi i am just back from bbq
Well its not as bad as i expected although i have some nervous moments
i managed to talk to this 2 gals, but i guess its because i know 1 of them before...
then there was this guy, although he was my previous classmate, i still couldnt strike a conversation...here were often quiet moments between me and him .When he ask me something, sometimes i have to ask him to repeat a few times cause i couldnt get it..Its pretty obvious that hes quite irritated with me..
but other than that, i guess its ok ba not as bad as i expected although i slutter at times
thks for all your comments.... i got a ex school friend whos planning a lunch gathering next weekend..though i havent see most of my ex schoolmates for long time, i guess i should go ba
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It's easier said than done, for pple with SAD like me, i know how frustrating it is, like handicapOriginally posted by nightzip:Aiyoh....for heaven's sake, you are not giving a speech or a presentation tomorrow leh...just go there to enjoy the food.
Nobody's forcing you to give any talk right. -
yea interact more....have more confident of yourselfOriginally posted by Kaze_00:hi i am just back from bbq
Well its not as bad as i expected although i have some nervous moments
i managed to talk to this 2 gals, but i guess its because i know 1 of them before...
then there was this guy, although he was my previous classmate, i still couldnt strike a conversation...here were often quiet moments between me and him .When he ask me something, sometimes i have to ask him to repeat a few times cause i couldnt get it..Its pretty obvious that hes quite irritated with me..
but other than that, i guess its ok ba not as bad as i expected although i slutter at times
thks for all your comments.... i got a ex school friend whos planning a lunch gathering next weekend..though i havent see most of my ex schoolmates for long time, i guess i should go ba -
yup sometimes its quite depressing too..when ppl could not understand you and think you are antisocial or someone who is odd..Originally posted by Texcoco II:It's easier said than done, for pple with SAD like me, i know how frustrating it is, like handicap
actually i am thinking i have this kind of behaviour cause i lack self confidence..My physical appearance is something that i hate, i sometimes couldnt bear to see myself in mirror cause i am simply too ugly and wads more i have thinning hair
Physical appearance is something very important when ppl decide who to be with..Thats the exact reason why i have few friends..