confused about my ex......help!-im so stupid!
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i was out with friends last night at a house party when i got a sms from an ex boyfriend of mine that i havent talked to for about 3 months,because he cheated on me with a good friend of mine! i was so shocked,he was asking if he could pick me up in his car so we could go for a drive and talk.now this is a guy that i was with for 6 months,and we lived together.so i still care about him a lot even though he hurt me so much! i didnt know what to say,so i just said yes.whats the worst that could happen,we have an arguement and he drops me home?! so he picked me up,and we went to a place near an industrial power station where we always used to go to make out before we got together.i was a bit shocked that he took me there,but i kept quite.we started talking,and we sorted a lot of things out,issues that we had with each other since we broke up.that was good,it made me feel so much better than i did.but then.....he asked me for a hug,and i gave him one,cause i care about him heaps still(i used to love him with all my heart,i cared about him more than i cared about half of my own family!!!)but then he kissed me......and i didnt stop him!! it didnt end there.....but i dont regret it now......but im so confused about what to think...........i know that we could never be together again,as there is just too much pain between us,from my side.he hurt we way too much for me to ever get back with him,but i cant help caring about him,i would still do anything for him.and i know he would help me if i ever needed it.but i dont know what to do now......i dont want to let myself start to want him again,cause i know i'll just get hurt badly again.but i cant resist him,and when i was with him,that was the happiest that i've ever been!honestly......since i've broken up with him,im a completely different person than i used to be.........i miss the old me.....everyone i know misses the old me too....but i dont know what to do about it.......i though i really wanted someone else.......i do really want him,but now that my ex has come back into my life,im not so sure!i am so confused,i cant even think straight......
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fromthe pain tt u experienced b4. u realised tt your life needs a new and better direction. you have chosen and been living tt path. dont let a momentary laspe of judgement sway your judgement.
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In Red, i believe that's the answer to your confusion...Originally posted by ozzy-gurl:i was out with friends last night at a house party when i got a sms from an ex boyfriend of mine that i havent talked to for about 3 months,because he cheated on me with a good friend of mine! i was so shocked,he was asking if he could pick me up in his car so we could go for a drive and talk.now this is a guy that i was with for 6 months,and we lived together.so i still care about him a lot even though he hurt me so much! i didnt know what to say,so i just said yes.whats the worst that could happen,we have an arguement and he drops me home?! so he picked me up,and we went to a place near an industrial power station where we always used to go to make out before we got together.i was a bit shocked that he took me there,but i kept quite.we started talking,and we sorted a lot of things out,issues that we had with each other since we broke up.that was good,it made me feel so much better than i did.but then.....he asked me for a hug,and i gave him one,cause i care about him heaps still(i used to love him with all my heart,i cared about him more than i cared about half of my own family!!!)but then he kissed me......and i didnt stop him!! it didnt end there.....but i dont regret it now......but im so confused about what to think...........i know that we could never be together again,as there is just too much pain between us,from my side.he hurt we way too much for me to ever get back with him,but i cant help caring about him,i would still do anything for him.and i know he would help me if i ever needed it.but i dont know what to do now......i dont want to let myself start to want him again,cause i know i'll just get hurt badly again.but i cant resist him,and when i was with him,that was the happiest that i've ever been!honestly......since i've broken up with him,im a completely different person than i used to be.........i miss the old me.....everyone i know misses the old me too....but i dont know what to do about it.......i though i really wanted someone else.......i do really want him,but now that my ex has come back into my life,im not so sure!i am so confused,i cant even think straight...... -
move on gal... u might care but he doesnt cos he wan u as a f___ buddy only... learn to live without him n recreate yourself in another way... u hv to kill off the feeling for him n remember hard wat he did to u n y both of u broke off in the first place... gather ur frens n ask them to help u out... stay away from ur ex...
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Was in a similar situation.. Its a kind of trap... Once u fall in.. U'll get burned bad.. again.. so i suggest u not give in to "the moment".. Tis happened coz u were very vulnerable.. But u dont want a player in your life do you.. Ure worth more than that..Originally posted by ozzy-gurl:i was out with friends last night at a house party when i got a sms from an ex boyfriend of mine that i havent talked to for about 3 months,because he cheated on me with a good friend of mine! i was so shocked,he was asking if he could pick me up in his car so we could go for a drive and talk.now this is a guy that i was with for 6 months,and we lived together.so i still care about him a lot even though he hurt me so much! i didnt know what to say,so i just said yes.whats the worst that could happen,we have an arguement and he drops me home?! so he picked me up,and we went to a place near an industrial power station where we always used to go to make out before we got together.i was a bit shocked that he took me there,but i kept quite.we started talking,and we sorted a lot of things out,issues that we had with each other since we broke up.that was good,it made me feel so much better than i did.but then.....he asked me for a hug,and i gave him one,cause i care about him heaps still(i used to love him with all my heart,i cared about him more than i cared about half of my own family!!!)but then he kissed me......and i didnt stop him!! it didnt end there.....but i dont regret it now......but im so confused about what to think...........i know that we could never be together again,as there is just too much pain between us,from my side.he hurt we way too much for me to ever get back with him,but i cant help caring about him,i would still do anything for him.and i know he would help me if i ever needed it.but i dont know what to do now......i dont want to let myself start to want him again,cause i know i'll just get hurt badly again.but i cant resist him,and when i was with him,that was the happiest that i've ever been!honestly......since i've broken up with him,im a completely different person than i used to be.........i miss the old me.....everyone i know misses the old me too....but i dont know what to do about it.......i though i really wanted someone else.......i do really want him,but now that my ex has come back into my life,im not so sure!i am so confused,i cant even think straight...... -
It's what i always tell myself if i'm comfused. Listen to your heart do what it tell you, cause it's what u really want.
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to him, you are just like carpet. If he lays you well, he can walk all over you.
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if he cheated on u once, he'll do it again when the chance comes. dun feel confused jus cos u guys kissed. it was prolly an impulse feeling at the spur of the moment. i say move on girl!
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When in a love r/s, there are lines that are not to be crossed. Once crossed, was it betrayal of your love? if it was, could it happen again? Trust that is lost, can it be restored? Is he really truly sorry to deserve your forgiveness? Does his action warrant your love again? Are you reliving the past love and memories and fail to see what the future holds if you allow him/yourself to go back?
Our hearts are fragile and to unfold our lives, we ought to be guided by a principle of going with someone we know for sure would/has never cross/ed the line, never betray/ed our love and never hurt us. Those who have can only have a place in our minds and memories but not in the sacred chambers of our hearts.
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Not a very smart suggestion at this point.Originally posted by Devils_Avatar:It's what i always tell myself if i'm comfused. Listen to your heart do what it tell you, cause it's what u really want. -
If you can't handle it...Originally posted by ozzy-gurl:i was out with friends last night at a house party when i got a sms from an ex boyfriend of mine that i havent talked to for about 3 months,because he cheated on me with a good friend of mine! i was so shocked,he was asking if he could pick me up in his car so we could go for a drive and talk.now this is a guy that i was with for 6 months,and we lived together.so i still care about him a lot even though he hurt me so much! i didnt know what to say,so i just said yes.whats the worst that could happen,we have an arguement and he drops me home?! so he picked me up,and we went to a place near an industrial power station where we always used to go to make out before we got together.i was a bit shocked that he took me there,but i kept quite.we started talking,and we sorted a lot of things out,issues that we had with each other since we broke up.that was good,it made me feel so much better than i did.but then.....he asked me for a hug,and i gave him one,cause i care about him heaps still(i used to love him with all my heart,i cared about him more than i cared about half of my own family!!!)but then he kissed me......and i didnt stop him!! it didnt end there.....but i dont regret it now......but im so confused about what to think...........i know that we could never be together again,as there is just too much pain between us,from my side.he hurt we way too much for me to ever get back with him,but i cant help caring about him,i would still do anything for him.and i know he would help me if i ever needed it.but i dont know what to do now......i dont want to let myself start to want him again,cause i know i'll just get hurt badly again.but i cant resist him,and when i was with him,that was the happiest that i've ever been!honestly......since i've broken up with him,im a completely different person than i used to be.........i miss the old me.....everyone i know misses the old me too....but i dont know what to do about it.......i though i really wanted someone else.......i do really want him,but now that my ex has come back into my life,im not so sure!i am so confused,i cant even think straight......
Why put yourself through the same torments again....?
Wasn't you all too happy when you 1st got to be with him too...? What happened then? Could this possibly be just a cycle repeating itself...? Except perhaps that you really know you won't be as happy as before he had hurt you...
What you MISS is MOST LIKELY NOT HIM, BUT the HAPPY YOU? Go FIND YOURSELF GIRL... Without the PRICE of his PRESENCE.... Difficult as it might be, BEING HAPPY is a CHOICE and a JOURNEY... There're no short cut to such things...
Much as you've long parted with the TASTE of this SWEETNESS, you're probably FORGETTING the PAIN TOO....?
PM me if you need to talk...? -
judging from it..... i think he is just horny on that day. and he need someone to ease himself... tats wad i think though. dun trust men easily.
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well you made me smile parka.....thanks guys....all of you!Originally posted by Parka:
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somebody told me.. if u are confused whether to listen to ur heart or mind... the wise choice would be follow ur mind.. especially for girls who are blinded by love..Originally posted by Devil1976:Not a very smart suggestion at this point. -
The saying goes, "fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."Originally posted by ozzy-gurl:i was out with friends last night at a house party when i got a sms from an ex boyfriend of mine that i havent talked to for about 3 months,because he cheated on me with a good friend of mine! i was so shocked,he was asking if he could pick me up in his car so we could go for a drive and talk.now this is a guy that i was with for 6 months,and we lived together.so i still care about him a lot even though he hurt me so much! i didnt know what to say,so i just said yes.whats the worst that could happen,we have an arguement and he drops me home?! so he picked me up,and we went to a place near an industrial power station where we always used to go to make out before we got together.i was a bit shocked that he took me there,but i kept quite.we started talking,and we sorted a lot of things out,issues that we had with each other since we broke up.that was good,it made me feel so much better than i did.but then.....he asked me for a hug,and i gave him one,cause i care about him heaps still(i used to love him with all my heart,i cared about him more than i cared about half of my own family!!!)but then he kissed me......and i didnt stop him!! it didnt end there.....but i dont regret it now......but im so confused about what to think...........i know that we could never be together again,as there is just too much pain between us,from my side.he hurt we way too much for me to ever get back with him,but i cant help caring about him,i would still do anything for him.and i know he would help me if i ever needed it.but i dont know what to do now......i dont want to let myself start to want him again,cause i know i'll just get hurt badly again.but i cant resist him,and when i was with him,that was the happiest that i've ever been!honestly......since i've broken up with him,im a completely different person than i used to be.........i miss the old me.....everyone i know misses the old me too....but i dont know what to do about it.......i though i really wanted someone else.......i do really want him,but now that my ex has come back into my life,im not so sure!i am so confused,i cant even think straight...... -
well..u cant make a decision rashly..if u ever wanna judge him..u gotta judge him slowly..well..but it seems like hes just trying to cheat u again..just try not to make decision irrationally...in life..we only get 1 chance..if u do something wrong..theres no way to undo it..and theres no 1 there to make the best decision for u..other than u urself...
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There can be quite alot of science behind all these...Originally posted by browniebaobao:somebody told me.. if u are confused whether to listen to ur heart or mind... the wise choice would be follow ur mind.. especially for girls who are blinded by love..
But chances are for a girl.. If things didn't work out the 1st time round when you just followed your 'heart' while you were with this guy... It probably won't work again just following your 'heart' the 2nd time round with the same person... -
my pt of view is.. if i follow my heart, it means i dun care wat the consequences are..wat im doing is bcos of love.Originally posted by Devil1976:There can be quite alot of science behind all these...
But chances are for a girl.. If things didn't work out the 1st time round when you just followed your 'heart' while you were with this guy... It probably won't work again just following your 'heart' the 2nd time round with the same person...
and usually wat my minds tells me to do is rational, and i should heed. -
dun let love blind you
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Hao ma bu che hui tuo chao...
once broken is broken....no matter how u mend it still have the cracks...
It is better if you move on, likely you find better ones...
besides your quality should be good enough to attract many other who would treasure you more.... -
jus wonderin....u have a kid didnt u?
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i still say he is horny on that night.
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so he cheated on u.... with ur best friend.... then 3 mths later he cheats on ur ex-best friend (I presume).... with you....
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that guy is horny thats all.....Originally posted by Spugnardi:so he cheated on u.... with ur best friend.... then 3 mths later he cheats on ur ex-best friend (I presume).... with you....
Is it just me, or is there something wrong with this?