am i doomed to be alone?
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i have never been in a r/s. now 24 years old already.in the past, i had several crushes on a few guys and have been in love with a guy for the past 3 years.i confessed recently to my colleague but he simply rejected me crudely and brushed me aside.am i destined to be single? when i see that he is so upset over a failed r/s , i feel so bad.its as if im worthless ,so much inferior compared to his ex,or girls that he is interested in. We had several heart-to-heart conversations but ive failed to win his heart. its seem so impossible to him to be in a r/s with him .he even said something like yes to sex but absolutely no to love.am i so worthless and unlovable in his eyes? told a friend about that.he said something like u think he will like u meh with yr this kind of pattern.he makes it up as if im so awful.im losing my limited self-confidence..I had to ber rejected.i have little hopes of finding a guy who is willing to accept my love
no guys have ever expressed interest in me.i wonder is anything wrong with my looks.pls advise -
Well, I suppose all hope if not lost if he's interested in sex with you. It would really be bad if he turns down the offer of sex.
Have any guys went after you before, through out your entire life?
I'm sorry and sad to say that there are increasing amounts of ladies that are not attached and don't seem to be making any progress in that regard. I know of at least 10 ladies above the age of 30 and show no signs of getting hitched.
Although I would say not to give up hope, you might want to be prepared that you might have to stay single. Only means is probably get to know more people. -
I thought it was a guy saying the same ol' thing.
I'm surprised it's a lady this time.
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i guess im one of the rare ones to encounter this problem..he is avoiding me in e company.and last heard he is shifting to another company.am i really so repulsive?Originally posted by CoolMyth:I thought it was a guy saying the same ol' thing.
I'm surprised it's a lady this time. 
sometimes,when i say hi to him on msn,he simply put away and his status and refuse to greet me or just say got it.. -
I guess it's a matter of self-confidence and feeling proud of yourself because once you can do that, the people you interact with are able to sense it and peharps be more positive towards you.
Maybe you can try a different way of dressing up and all that? Trendy clothes? Make-up? Stuff like that.
Sorry, me am that typical guy said earlier. Can't really help much this time. -
Consider this: It could be you are too obsessed with him, and seriously bothering him too much, likely to point of harassment. You are trying too hard. If he says no, he pretty much means no. Do not contact him too much. Best is leave him alone for 1 month and then contact him to try to be friends.
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no..what if he never contact me after the 1 month period?Originally posted by pwnz0r:Consider this: It could be you are too obsessed with him, and seriously bothering him too much, likely to point of harassment. You are trying too hard. If he says no, he pretty much means no. Do not contact him too much. Best is leave him alone for 1 month and then contact him to try to be friends. -
I'm suggesting that you back off after a one month period and then you contact him after that.
You might to consider seriously moving on, and stop thinking about him.
If your intentions is to be friends with him, then fine. But if you are hoping to be in a relationship with him, I strongly suggest that you stop hoping and move on.
I know it hurts, but nursing that hope even longer is going to cause much more pain. -
Get a grip on yourself and leave your colleague alone! It's dumb to let your emotions rule over personal matters in the work place. He could start politicking against you and then you'll have a bigger mess on your hands.
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wah..24 yrs old...you still have long way to go la...
one qns though...sorry for being realistic...how do you look? -
First you must dump this bastard in to a dust bin or throw in to the incineration plantOriginally posted by Baoliandeng:i have never been in a r/s. now 24 years old already.in the past, i had several crushes on a few guys and have been in love with a guy for the past 3 years.i confessed recently to my colleague but he simply rejected me crudely and brushed me aside.am i destined to be single? when i see that he is so upset over a failed r/s , i feel so bad.its as if im worthless ,so much inferior compared to his ex,or girls that he is interested in. We had several heart-to-heart conversations but ive failed to win his heart. its seem so impossible to him to be in a r/s with him .he even said something like yes to sex but absolutely no to love.am i so worthless and unlovable in his eyes? told a friend about that.he said something like u think he will like u meh with yr this kind of pattern.he makes it up as if im so awful.im losing my limited self-confidence..I had to ber rejected.i have little hopes of finding a guy who is willing to accept my love
no guys have ever expressed interest in me.i wonder is anything wrong with my looks.pls advise
Dun give up so fast and your guy will come to you in future and pours love on you. OK don't worry be happy -
Firstly I think looks are not important.Originally posted by Baoliandeng:i have never been in a r/s. now 24 years old already.in the past, i had several crushes on a few guys and have been in love with a guy for the past 3 years.i confessed recently to my colleague but he simply rejected me crudely and brushed me aside.am i destined to be single? when i see that he is so upset over a failed r/s , i feel so bad.its as if im worthless ,so much inferior compared to his ex,or girls that he is interested in. We had several heart-to-heart conversations but ive failed to win his heart. its seem so impossible to him to be in a r/s with him .he even said something like yes to sex but absolutely no to love.am i so worthless and unlovable in his eyes? told a friend about that.he said something like u think he will like u meh with yr this kind of pattern.he makes it up as if im so awful.im losing my limited self-confidence..I had to ber rejected.i have little hopes of finding a guy who is willing to accept my love
no guys have ever expressed interest in me.i wonder is anything wrong with my looks.pls advise
The way you behave ?
Maybe like just a great friend to have ?
Ever thought of such things ?
how about things like, your kind of taste in guys ? -
my taste in guys?Originally posted by Sekundes:Firstly I think looks are not important.
The way you behave ?
Maybe like just a great friend to have ?
Ever thought of such things ?
how about things like, your kind of taste in guys ?
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well the answer is simple...he's not interested in u...i recogn his saying of sex yes n love no is just an excuse to brush u off, so tat u think he's bad n wont come pester him anymore
u r just 24yo, still very young...should concentrate on other more pdtive things in life...if so many over 30s ladies still hanging ard, u shouldnt be bothered too much.. -
Being alone don't mean its bad
Being in a R/S don't mean you've arrived
Being happy and bringing happiness to your life and people around...
that's what its all about. -
why does he wants to brush me off?Originally posted by Inzaghi:well the answer is simple...he's not interested in u...i recogn his saying of sex yes n love no is just an excuse to brush u off, so tat u think he's bad n wont come pester him anymore
u r just 24yo, still very young...should concentrate on other more pdtive things in life...if so many over 30s ladies still hanging ard, u shouldnt be bothered too much.. -
as said, he's not interested in u n hope u can leave him alone...Originally posted by Baoliandeng:why does he wants to brush me off? -
He doesn't love you, and he doesn't want to have an office r/s.Originally posted by Baoliandeng:why does he wants to brush me off? -
it seems noone loves meOriginally posted by ditzy:He doesn't love you, and he doesn't want to have an office r/s. -
Love yourselfOriginally posted by Baoliandeng:it seems noone loves me
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Ok, dun take this the wrong way but..
HE'S NOT INTERESTED IN YOU
So please move on. It hurts, but there is likely to be no use to you continual harping on him. -
Just coz one brushed you off don't mean no one loves you.Originally posted by Baoliandeng:it seems noone loves me -
Go for forum outings!
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u can love urself.....n instead of wasting time thinking of tat, y not invest in upgrading urself?...can be in outlook or some kinda skills??Originally posted by Baoliandeng:it seems noone loves me -
You have just not met the right person yet. Or you can go out and meet more people. Join SDU.Originally posted by Baoliandeng:it seems noone loves me