Looks=everything?
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hello jam
i see that many others have already replied to your post. What I want to say have already been covered by the rest. I just want to let you know that looks are not everything. What determines whether others will like you is your character and personality. Trust me compared to a girl with good looks and ahorrid personality the girl with a better personality but not-as-good looks would be more well liked.
Really what you can do is really dont mind so much abotu your appearance. just socialise more, be mroe friendly, more helpful and you will naturally have more friends. when people see that your personality overtakes your looks, they will overlook your flaws in your appearance.
cheer up
dont worry so much!
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teeth? u can go wear bracers. Leg? U can try jogging. But are those important? Nope. U seem to lack confidence. That is a problem. The way to gain confidence and recognition is to excel in certain areas for example yr studies or certain sports.
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Wonderful advice u guys gave
, Jam, we're all behind u! U can do somethin bout it.
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If ur heart is beautiful( good)
u will be beautiful in your own way
you are a unique person...belive it -
if you're ugly, then be fun....be shameless be happy. u'll hav more frens tis way...
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Looks count when you meet shallow people.
You've got a personality. I'm guessing a real complex one too, because of all the crap youve been through. Let your personality shine through. It'll attract people worth having as friends, and filter out arseholes that you dont want to know. -
right on girl.........dont let any idiots get you down........n please pm me............really!!!! i think we'd get along well!
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this is just an evil world
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I thought u thinking to much le.....Originally posted by jam on a bread:Ok, first of all, i'm a girl with little confidence. You know how the society tend to judge a girl by her looks. No looks=nothing. Aiya, that's why I have no friends (yes you are right, no friends, not even one that goes out with me) so I tend to do things all alone. No boyfriends (got one guy likes me but kena swayed by his friends opinions until dun like me liao).
A lot of ppl dun like me because they dun like my looks. Last time, I have a so-called friend. She said im disgusting because of my teeth. She even avoid sharing food with me for she dun want to know that my teeth have sank into it.
Thinking back, a lot of ppl vent on me or pick on me for no reason because my looks doesn't measure up. I got rejected by a guy and been called a freak. I ask for a stranger guy direction and he gave me a 'disgusted' look. My father keeps saying my legs is disgusting. Last time, I finally found a job and my manager told me to do sales (asking people to buy the products) He told me not to go to the guys for fear I might disgust them. And lots of insecure girls comparing their looks to mine cause they know I don't measure up anyways..
It's not that I dun want to make an effort to become much better, but I have no money! Everything costs like hundred bucks!! girls shld know those facial, hair and all those cost like a bomb! Help people!! it's ruining my life! my social life! I am now tearing while typing this..btw i'm just a student and I know looks is like everything to a girl!! Ahhhhhh!!! no wonde I have nothing at all!! I am given no chance!!!
If u think ur some part not nice, try to improve this part......
Anyhow, happy is more important. If ur mood alwAys not gOOd, of course can not be preTTy ....smiLe more, giRl -
Hey girl, have to agree with what many of the others have told you. You said you're still a student, so I guess peer pressure is really a great deal for you right now. But there are many other things that you can put your energy on, like your studies, family, caring for the less fortunate...
LOL, I sound like i'm preaching or something!! :p
but seriously, I believe that you'll bloom into a beautiful girl in time to come. I had many female classmates that I hadn't thought of as attractive during my school days, and even to the extent of not being 'popular'. but right now, they've all grown out of that phase and are beautiful in their own ways!
So, do take heart!!! -
hmmm i have to agree with u...most ppl choose friends based on looks....i m 1 ugly guy also..
maybe u can do something to improve yr looks? Go adopt a healthy lifestyle? Exercise n eat rite? I m sure yr appearance will improve...
As for yr teeth, go to dentist ba..thats the only way -
Every things looks good ?
not really true ... even with good heart ...
pple just eat you up ...
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learn to believe in urself babe.. dont just hide in ur shell all the time. fer those people who dont want to be ur friends cos of ur teeth, they're just a shallow n childish bunch. i believe there are much nicer people out there who are willing to be ur friends.. but first you have to learn to have more confidence and open up to new people. when you interact with people often, they'll gradually know of ur inner beauty... its just a matter of time. well, if you really need a friend to talk to/hang out with, you can always pm me.
you are beautiful, no matter what they say. -
No boyfriends (got one guy likes me but kena swayed by his friends opinions until dun like me liao).
Yo, i wanna be your boyfriend
(joking im too young)
Hey girl, i weight 130kg and people keep calling me a "FAT LARD" and still i love myself...
Really man, what really matters is how you love your image, love yourself and everything will be fine.
And btw, i tell you what, males dont go for looks, they go for her atttude -
JOIN THE FORUM OUTINGS!!!Originally posted by jam on a bread:Ok, first of all, i'm a girl with little confidence. You know how the society tend to judge a girl by her looks. No looks=nothing. Aiya, that's why I have no friends (yes you are right, no friends, not even one that goes out with me) so I tend to do things all alone. No boyfriends (got one guy likes me but kena swayed by his friends opinions until dun like me liao).
A lot of ppl dun like me because they dun like my looks. Last time, I have a so-called friend. She said im disgusting because of my teeth. She even avoid sharing food with me for she dun want to know that my teeth have sank into it.
Thinking back, a lot of ppl vent on me or pick on me for no reason because my looks doesn't measure up. I got rejected by a guy and been called a freak. I ask for a stranger guy direction and he gave me a 'disgusted' look. My father keeps saying my legs is disgusting. Last time, I finally found a job and my manager told me to do sales (asking people to buy the products) He told me not to go to the guys for fear I might disgust them. And lots of insecure girls comparing their looks to mine cause they know I don't measure up anyways..
It's not that I dun want to make an effort to become much better, but I have no money! Everything costs like hundred bucks!! girls shld know those facial, hair and all those cost like a bomb! Help people!! it's ruining my life! my social life! I am now tearing while typing this..btw i'm just a student and I know looks is like everything to a girl!! Ahhhhhh!!! no wonde I have nothing at all!! I am given no chance!!! 
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Get a list of items to work on ...
1. Teeth
2. leg
3. What else ...
Since first impression is quite important ... work on ur teeth first ...
as for the leg wear long dress to cover up lor ... -
I always feel that I'm ugly too.
I don't have lots of friends. But I do have quality friends. -
got meh? haha..Originally posted by Devil1976:JOIN THE FORUM OUTINGS!!! -
If only need to whiten teeth won't be feeling so sad one lehOriginally posted by VampireEB:Oh dear dun be too sad abt how ur looks..
now got teeth whitening by DIY.
Seems like see a denstist first is a wiser choice ...
of course must earn money first ... -
i think she wants to have braces instead of teeth whitening. braces is quite costly...
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Then this world must be full of shallow people.Originally posted by thinger:Looks count when you meet shallow people.
You've got a personality. I'm guessing a real complex one too, because of all the crap youve been through. Let your personality shine through. It'll attract people worth having as friends, and filter out arseholes that you dont want to know.
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srry 2 say tat yes its very ture in most casesOriginally posted by jam on a bread:Ok, first of all, i'm a girl with little confidence. You know how the society tend to judge a girl by her looks. No looks=nothing. Aiya, that's why I have no friends (yes you are right, no friends, not even one that goes out with me) so I tend to do things all alone. No boyfriends (got one guy likes me but kena swayed by his friends opinions until dun like me liao).
A lot of ppl dun like me because they dun like my looks. Last time, I have a so-called friend. She said im disgusting because of my teeth. She even avoid sharing food with me for she dun want to know that my teeth have sank into it.
Thinking back, a lot of ppl vent on me or pick on me for no reason because my looks doesn't measure up. I got rejected by a guy and been called a freak. I ask for a stranger guy direction and he gave me a 'disgusted' look. My father keeps saying my legs is disgusting. Last time, I finally found a job and my manager told me to do sales (asking people to buy the products) He told me not to go to the guys for fear I might disgust them. And lots of insecure girls comparing their looks to mine cause they know I don't measure up anyways..
It's not that I dun want to make an effort to become much better, but I have no money! Everything costs like hundred bucks!! girls shld know those facial, hair and all those cost like a bomb! Help people!! it's ruining my life! my social life! I am now tearing while typing this..btw i'm just a student and I know looks is like everything to a girl!! Ahhhhhh!!! no wonde I have nothing at all!! I am given no chance!!! 
even if u r a good person or ur good in something etc it takes time and luck 4 ppl 2 notice
Confidence can make u feel better but it cannot change the way ppl look at u
the onli things u can do is get use 2 or try 2 change ur apperance -
Relax la. Everyone is beautiful in their own way.Originally posted by jam on a bread:Ok, first of all, i'm a girl with little confidence. You know how the society tend to judge a girl by her looks. No looks=nothing. Aiya, that's why I have no friends (yes you are right, no friends, not even one that goes out with me) so I tend to do things all alone. No boyfriends (got one guy likes me but kena swayed by his friends opinions until dun like me liao).
A lot of ppl dun like me because they dun like my looks. Last time, I have a so-called friend. She said im disgusting because of my teeth. She even avoid sharing food with me for she dun want to know that my teeth have sank into it.
Thinking back, a lot of ppl vent on me or pick on me for no reason because my looks doesn't measure up. I got rejected by a guy and been called a freak. I ask for a stranger guy direction and he gave me a 'disgusted' look. My father keeps saying my legs is disgusting. Last time, I finally found a job and my manager told me to do sales (asking people to buy the products) He told me not to go to the guys for fear I might disgust them. And lots of insecure girls comparing their looks to mine cause they know I don't measure up anyways..
It's not that I dun want to make an effort to become much better, but I have no money! Everything costs like hundred bucks!! girls shld know those facial, hair and all those cost like a bomb! Help people!! it's ruining my life! my social life! I am now tearing while typing this..btw i'm just a student and I know looks is like everything to a girl!! Ahhhhhh!!! no wonde I have nothing at all!! I am given no chance!!! -
Gal,
Maybe you are lacking in the looks department but being a charming gal means more than looks, confidence is very important...
How do we define people as ugly or pretty? We judge peoples' physical appearances based on social norms. You should not let your self esteem be damaged by those social norms.
I am also lacking in the looks department but I told myself I may be ugly but I am not lousy... -
sad but true to certain extent. good lookers are said to have more advantage over the bad lookers. its true to a certain extent. as the saying goes '1st impression'. if 1st impression isnt good, some ppl wont even want a 2nd impression. u cant deny that most ppl look at the looks 1st. cause u have to see the looks before u can see the heart right. so all those looks not impt but personality more impt is crap. i dont really agree that ppl see looks means they are shallow. if they see looks and figure ALONE, this is then call shallow n superficial as they dont care about other things. i think having good looks can boast one confidence also. as u wont feel inferior in your looks.
u go for interview. the presentables one will normally have the advantage. esp sales type of job or jobs that require u to have pleasant looks.
looks is not everything, but without it, you are as good as having nothing. unless you have other assets to make it up. eg. brains, good career, happy family etc.
so if u want to feel better, do tell yourself that you are at least fortunate, physically fit n young. most impt is happiness.