Looks=everything?
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I'm not too sure but I think getting frens has alot ot do with interpersonal skill and such and little to do with your looks... Don't dispites on yourself. Stand up and fight for your future.. Grab a book about getting friends and earn some money to change your look if you have to... Its all in your hands.
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I don't think looks is the only problem here.
Brush up on your communication skill. An effective communicator gets the positive message across.
Poor communication skills can rob you of friends. I believe you should try to communicate effectively.
You don't need many friends, you don't even need a few friends. You just need to believe that your friends will need you.
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Err... Check out the OTHER FORUMS!!Originally posted by papercut87:got meh? haha..
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There are more things to looked at such as inner beauty, personality, character... etc...
Looks may only be everything to some people, but DEFINITELY not all people. -
STOP putting yourself down.others who might be potentially attracted to u might be turn off if you keep putting youself down and claiming you are ugly and inferior.this creates self-doubt in their mind and over time, they come to think that you are truly ugly.im sure you have seen your fair share of girls who are neither attractive ,capable nor sexy but yet they have many friends and suitors,thats because they know how to project confidence and win over their friends .
ppl are going to avoid you and look down on u if you keep telling everyone that you are ugly and useless. Remember:no one can make you feel inferior without your consent.so get the confidence now and work on it.put the past behind you.you are too young to waste your time dwelling on the past.
ppl would not be sympathetic towards you but they are going to ride on your self-defeating thoughts and bully you .....some ppl express happiness at gloating on your misfortune
no doubt, there are plenty of guys out there who indicate looks at the first criteria in choosing a gf and determing whether a girl is gf material .leave them alone.you need genuine and sensible people not some childlish superficial friends.you dont need to be gd-looking to have many friends or to find a guy who truly loves you.its a matter of time, and how you relate to others. -
Looks=everything?
looks is not everything. but it really does play a major part in creating first impression.
once the first impression sets in, its not easy to change them.
so do whatever it takes to boost your first impression on others.
talk to your parents about it. how badly it had affected your social life. ask them for monetary assistance.
also try not to always have that negative attitude. its not possible to change over night but try to change bits by bits.
be fun, caring and considerate. have some confident in yourself. not telling you to be not bothered by other people comments, but try not to be TOO bothered by them.
emphasis on your strengths and hide your flaws be it inner or external. -
U r still young and your looks would change from to time to time..
Do you remember the ugly ducking and how its change into a beautiful swan after that.
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Got to do some imaging of yourself then....You don't need to spend alot to look better.....Originally posted by jam on a bread:Ok, first of all, i'm a girl with little confidence. You know how the society tend to judge a girl by her looks. No looks=nothing. Aiya, that's why I have no friends (yes you are right, no friends, not even one that goes out with me) so I tend to do things all alone. No boyfriends (got one guy likes me but kena swayed by his friends opinions until dun like me liao).
A lot of ppl dun like me because they dun like my looks. Last time, I have a so-called friend. She said im disgusting because of my teeth. She even avoid sharing food with me for she dun want to know that my teeth have sank into it.
Thinking back, a lot of ppl vent on me or pick on me for no reason because my looks doesn't measure up. I got rejected by a guy and been called a freak. I ask for a stranger guy direction and he gave me a 'disgusted' look. My father keeps saying my legs is disgusting. Last time, I finally found a job and my manager told me to do sales (asking people to buy the products) He told me not to go to the guys for fear I might disgust them. And lots of insecure girls comparing their looks to mine cause they know I don't measure up anyways..
It's not that I dun want to make an effort to become much better, but I have no money! Everything costs like hundred bucks!! girls shld know those facial, hair and all those cost like a bomb! Help people!! it's ruining my life! my social life! I am now tearing while typing this..btw i'm just a student and I know looks is like everything to a girl!! Ahhhhhh!!! no wonde I have nothing at all!! I am given no chance!!!
What's wrong with your teeth and your legs? Care to emphasize more?
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hihi.. im an average girl no looks and stuff.. + i oso not tat tall.. i used to be quite sad when ppl say about me (esp my height) but over a period of time i gained my confidence and show them what i am capable of.. i am better in sports and some academic stuff, compare to ppl who are much taller or much prettier than me.. Confidence is important. and im sure u are a great girl, u just need to boost your self esteem and dun care about what ppl say. It may be easier said than done, but at least you are doing some thing about it rather than give in and let ppl 'bully' you even more. This takes time, but just don't give up k + you are still young, got a lot of things to learn in life. (I know someone who is a total tomboy back in sec sch but became a beaituful swan now).
Beauty can be improved by products in the market, but self esteem, confidence and character/attitude need to be build by yourself, at your own will. Without that, no matter how beautiful you are, you are still 'invisible' to others.
Ps. feel free to pm me ya
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i totall agree with this....Originally posted by alexkusu:u dont need to spend heaps of money to make urself look better. U can start by drinkin heaps and heaps or water regularly. Then start working on your diet and include some exercise in your lifestyle. Do the basics first. When you feel good, you will look good
think i need to do more exercise n water parade more too.. lolx.. -
it's not everythin. probanly when u go to another environment u'll have new frds. wad do u mean ur ugly? dun make urself sound like ur disfigured if ur not ok? be confident, have a new hair style! it helps. dun have to go fancy salons yup.
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Thanks people, I read through every post here but since i'm quite sleepy, I'll cut short and try to describe my looks and how my insecurities built up because (mostly) of it.
Ok, about my teeth..it's yellow and protuding when I smile. So ya, I have quite an ugly smile which turns ppl off (I can see the look on their face).
Secondly, my legs, it's hairy and there's some black marks all over.
Thirdly, my skin, it's oily and wrinkled (because a few yrs back, I had lots of pimples now it's cured but my skin looks dull and tired)
Fourth, my hair sucks!! I keep dropping hair. my whole room and living room..my parents always scold me because of this. My hair is messy and untidy no matter how much I comb. Though I admit I do not comb religiously. (I mean i'm not like those ppl that keeps combing their hair for like..a few mins between)
Ok and lastly, my body sucks..i am flabby and have tummy >.< I still look ugly when I wear nice clothes. Also, my nose have loads of black heads.
I never feel happy or satisfied neither can I build long lasting relations. I once went out with my pretty stepmum (now already divorced wif my father). Well, we were in a bus and it was very crowded. We were both standing. Than suddenly, one guy stood up and offered his seat to her, which left me standing..my stepmum, feeling sorry for me, gave the seat to me instead.
Secondly, that time I arrived to class and I saw a group of grumpy boys seated together. I look at them and they look at me. No smiles. But come the chiobu of the class, most of them started to smile and look at her.
Thirdly, I once like this guy (ok he was the one tat called me a freak) so his friends knew it and vent their anger on me. One of his friends called me ugly. In the end, his friends made him feel good by trying to matchmake him with another pretty and more capable girl from other class. They seem to like annoucing her name whenever I walk pass them. It was obviously trying to frustrate me.
Lastly, I jokingly told my friend we could pass off as sisters and the next thing I knew, I kena snubbed by her badly, which leaves me quite scarred after the incident. To think my this friend was once a lonely girl and I found her and now she's sociable and well-liked while she just abandons me.
Hey ppl , please do not pity me or anything because a few of classmates pitied me and they tried pairing me up with this quite ugly guy. well, obvioulsy he wasn't happy and he even tried to beat me So conclusion is, they think ugly is with ugly ppl. When I talk to a handsome guy, they will become jealous and snap at me for being a flirt while others is ok. I talk to this handsome guy (not because he handsome i tok to him hor, but because he helped me when i kena bullied) they tried all means to saboh my ssch life..in the end, I am left with nothing and now, i'm retaking my o levels twice..cause im not ready to face the world..I am just too scared..
Btw in maple, I met this guy (my ex classmate) he ask me how was I doing all that. I fel that he is the only one that sincerely cares abt me unlike the others. But...it's been two years and he has his own friends so I was thinking that I shouldn't disturb him. Besides, he doesn't play maple, he just use his acc to visit me cause I /find him but he wasn't online after that.
I read through all of them, it's not that I visualize, trying to self toture myself..lolx, why would I do that? If I can, I wish I can live normally without being restricted here and there... -
This is you: knowing what's wrong, ranting what's wrong and leaving it there.
It's true..I have no motivation to become pretty..how can a loner be pretty?
Besides I don't know where to start, I have written a post above me, people, please help me what should I do with my looks and how to deal with my lingering pain (the past is over but the hurt is still there, you can't deny it). -
[quote]Originally posted by jam on a bread:
[b]Thanks people, I read through every post here but since i'm quite sleepy, I'll cut short and try to describe my looks and how my insecurities built up because (mostly) of it.
Ok, about my teeth..it's yellow and protuding when I smile. So ya, I have quite an ugly smile which turns ppl off (I can see the look on their face).
>>Yellow teeth: Buy those toothpastes that has whitening formula in them...keep it a habit to brush your teeth after every meal..(I know it's troublesome, but then, if you don't put in your efforts to improve, no one can help u). If after every meal to brush your teeth's hard to accomplish, well..at least do it twice a day then..
Secondly, my legs, it's hairy and there's some black marks all over.
>>1] Hairy legs: Shave/wax your leg hairs regularly...at least twice a week, i would sugguest...
>>2] Black marks: Buy those creams that can fade the marks (Need to apply twice a day, if i'm not wrong). Can be found in those Watsons/Guardians stores.
Thirdly, my skin, it's oily and wrinkled (because a few yrs back, I had lots of pimples now it's cured but my skin looks dull and tired)
>>Oily Skin: Again, there're such facial wash/creams that you can buy from Watsons/Guardian stores. Apply twice a day.
Fourth, my hair sucks!! I keep dropping hair. my whole room and living room..my parents always scold me because of this. My hair is messy and untidy no matter how much I comb. Though I admit I do not comb religiously. (I mean i'm not like those ppl that keeps combing their hair for like..a few mins between)
>>Hair drop: Becoz you've an oily skin, try using the right shampoo for ur oily hair/scalp. Wash your hair with luke warm water (Not too warm)...
Ok and lastly, my body sucks..i am flabby and have tummy >.< I still look ugly when I wear nice clothes. Also, my nose have loads of black heads.
>> Flabby body & Tummy: You need to tone up yourself. Either you go to the gym or you do some exercise yourself at home... Try to do crunches or sit-ups everyday.
>> Black heads on nose: U need to wash your face at least twice a day. If you want, after washing, apply some toner to close up.
All in all, i don't feel sorry for your state. You're just plain lazy to do up yourself. Be hardworking on yourself abit. -
Help and save yourself...We can't do much to make you into a pretty person....Originally posted by jam on a bread:It's true..I have no motivation to become pretty..how can a loner be pretty? Besides I don't know where to start, I have written a post above me, people, please help me what should I do with my looks and how to deal with my lingering pain (the past is over but the hurt is still there, you can't deny it).
How pretty can a loner be? >>Ask yourself this instead of "How can a loner be pretty?" -
1. Use facial wash
2. Comb your hair and use wet gel
3. Shave your legs
4. Dont smile or laugh 'openly'. If you smile or laugh, try to maintain the lips closed. If still cannot use your hand to cover
5. Dress poshly
6. Act cool. Pretend you have high confidence.
7. Wear makeup
If you do these steps Im sure you will improve your physical looks and appearance and also your impression.
I see women who just wake up, in T-shirts and bermudas, messy hair, etc. Not pretty yes. But when they go out to DnD or other formal events suddenly they turn pretty. -
okz hair wise jsut cut it short and thin it so wont be so messy.
leg hair shave or wax or whatever lor, alot of those pretty girls also got do that....
fat erm see you wanna exercise or not lah. the rest i dunno -
To add up. You might not turn pretty overnight but it would probably take time even if you decide to do so... Put in CONSTANT EFFORT for what you WISH to GAIN and ACHIEVE over night... It can HAPPEN only if you ALLOWS it to HAPPEN....Originally posted by dcx:[quote]Originally posted by jam on a bread:
[b]Thanks people, I read through every post here but since i'm quite sleepy, I'll cut short and try to describe my looks and how my insecurities built up because (mostly) of it.
Ok, about my teeth..it's yellow and protuding when I smile. So ya, I have quite an ugly smile which turns ppl off (I can see the look on their face).
>>Yellow teeth: Buy those toothpastes that has whitening formula in them...keep it a habit to brush your teeth after every meal..(I know it's troublesome, but then, if you don't put in your efforts to improve, no one can help u). If after every meal to brush your teeth's hard to accomplish, well..at least do it twice a day then..
Secondly, my legs, it's hairy and there's some black marks all over.
>>1] Hairy legs: Shave/wax your leg hairs regularly...at least twice a week, i would sugguest...
>>2] Black marks: Buy those creams that can fade the marks (Need to apply twice a day, if i'm not wrong). Can be found in those Watsons/Guardians stores.
Thirdly, my skin, it's oily and wrinkled (because a few yrs back, I had lots of pimples now it's cured but my skin looks dull and tired)
>>Oily Skin: Again, there're such facial wash/creams that you can buy from Watsons/Guardian stores. Apply twice a day.
Fourth, my hair sucks!! I keep dropping hair. my whole room and living room..my parents always scold me because of this. My hair is messy and untidy no matter how much I comb. Though I admit I do not comb religiously. (I mean i'm not like those ppl that keeps combing their hair for like..a few mins between)
>>Hair drop: Becoz you've an oily skin, try using the right shampoo for ur oily hair/scalp. Wash your hair with luke warm water (Not too warm)...
Ok and lastly, my body sucks..i am flabby and have tummy >.< I still look ugly when I wear nice clothes. Also, my nose have loads of black heads.
>> Flabby body & Tummy: You need to tone up yourself. Either you go to the gym or you do some exercise yourself at home... Try to do crunches or sit-ups everyday.
>> Black heads on nose: U need to wash your face at least twice a day. If you want, after washing, apply some toner to close up.
All in all, i don't feel sorry for your state. You're just plain lazy to do up yourself. Be hardworking on yourself abit.
Meanwhile just try to keep your COOL and CONFIDENCE? -
Uncle Devil slacking again hor..no wonder AA threads r piling up..ur passive negligence is taking its toll..havent u hailed the callings?Originally posted by Devil1976:Err... Check out the OTHER FORUMS!! 
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Who knows? Maybe after you've done all the suggested tips for your teeth, hair, legs...we'll be seeing you at the next Miss Singapore Pageant!!
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anyone know is there a profession call beauty/image consultant in singapore? i believe there is.
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To add on to what above said..
About the teeth, you may want to consider wearing bracer...
Not like everyone who is born has good sets of teeth... my ex used to have bad sets of teeth, after wearing bracer... she looks heavenly, a total beauty..
Bracer has to be wore for like 2 years (or even longer depending on how serious your teeth is)....
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looks arent everything, you're still young.
as long as you have a personality, people will still be friends with you. don't be so afraid of ur 'lack of good looks' because its all in your head. it will just reflect in how you act around people so try to help yourself.
you have friends here. i can be your friend too. cheer up. -
eh sorry double post. anyway what they say have a point too. exercise and drink lots of water! it will help with your body at the very least.
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It's not cheap and she doesn't have the money to go for it....Originally posted by digicharat:anyone know is there a profession call beauty/image consultant in singapore? i believe there is.
can always look them up.