why I feel sad and empty after promotion?
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ya lor.. as above.. why har??? never really happy recently...even when my colleague is throwing mi party after party... but i go there like an empty shell.. my mind is totally not there.. just go there to pay the bill nia.. sighz.. why why why?? it is possible coz increment is about 10% plus only.. or just still havent recover from my 3mth business trip in italy?.... anyone feel the same as mi b4???? or dun tell mi is mid life crisis already?? or instinct telling mi to settle down and start a family to share all this with?.. sighz.....
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I think your nick answers yours question.. You need more flings to be happier
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u need one of these...
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got 1 lover, 1 sex partner and 1 dunno how to define one....still not enough meh?Originally posted by pwnz0r:I think your nick answers yours question.. You need more flings to be happier what i am short of now?? sighz....why i am unhappy? -
maybe..u not happy of ur job..u need to get something that intrests youOriginally posted by I-like-flings(m):got 1 lover, 1 sex partner and 1 dunno how to define one....still not enough meh? what i am short of now?? sighz....why i am unhappy?
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for a more realistic feel... get this... [/b][/quote]
huh? how much?? how is the texture?? look nice
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aren't u suppose 2 b that retard which keep going arnd posting rubbish?
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because u know u bootlicked your way to ur promotion!! u dun deserve it and u feel guilty now!! hahahaOriginally posted by I-like-flings(m):ya lor.. as above.. why har??? never really happy recently...even when my colleague is throwing mi party after party... but i go there like an empty shell.. my mind is totally not there.. just go there to pay the bill nia.. sighz.. why why why?? it is possible coz increment is about 10% plus only.. or just still havent recover from my 3mth business trip in italy?.... anyone feel the same as mi b4???? or dun tell mi is mid life crisis already?? or instinct telling mi to settle down and start a family to share all this with?.. sighz..... -
i know why..
u dont have meaningful sex.. just empty bang bang nia -
huh? how much?? how is the texture?? look niceOriginally posted by I-like-flings(m):for a more realistic feel... get this... [/b][/quote]
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maybe lor. but this job is quite interesting already... never will give u a chance to settle down and got new challenge every day si bei xiong ar...Originally posted by StarPuppy:maybe..u not happy of ur job..u need to get something that intrests you
keep going? bo lah.. i been doing that for 1 yr only... u been doing it for 3 yrs already.. so who the retart here?Originally posted by Forever84:aren't u suppose 2 b that retard which keep going arnd posting rubbish?
negative... my boss like ppl that reject his idea and can support their own arguementOriginally posted by mhcampboy:because u know u bootlicked your way to ur promotion!! u dun deserve it and u feel guilty now!! hahaha
not really lah... i dun just bang bang only.. i got feeling for all my lover one..mi just too much love.. not flower heartOriginally posted by alexkusu:i know why..
u dont have meaningful sex.. just empty bang bang nia -
hmm..maybe u cant get used to life wherever u are...shud go back italy there
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but i dun read jap leh.. anyone can translate? thanksOriginally posted by GHoST_18:subscrible to this...
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cannot lah. will die of sianness there lor...super sian...Originally posted by alexkusu:hmm..maybe u cant get used to life wherever u are...shud go back italy there -
get a life la
sometimes it is better not to ask for so much comment from others when u haven search thru the ans from ur own heart... -
ya maybe so.... really got no life now.. work and personal life is mixed together already...and when i was thinking of finally take a break and find a some life.... my boss just tell mi....now i am promoted... i got less personal time and have to work harder and can forget about going home on time....KNN....Originally posted by Hocklez:get a life la
sometimes it is better not to ask for so much comment from others when u haven search thru the ans from ur own heart...
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u just need break...burn out...
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tink ur problem is u lack love... u fling too much liao la... like u said, time to settle down... now work dont matter to u liao cos ur heart is empty... so go hunt down the gal for life now...Originally posted by I-like-flings(m):ya lor.. as above.. why har??? never really happy recently...even when my colleague is throwing mi party after party... but i go there like an empty shell.. my mind is totally not there.. just go there to pay the bill nia.. sighz.. why why why?? it is possible coz increment is about 10% plus only.. or just still havent recover from my 3mth business trip in italy?.... anyone feel the same as mi b4???? or dun tell mi is mid life crisis already?? or instinct telling mi to settle down and start a family to share all this with?.. sighz..... 
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Because you only got your promotion after 30 years on the job.
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i rather not to give comments on you, but i will ask you questions, which i hope will lead to the answers you looking for.
Before this promotion takes place, did you hope for it? Do you really want a promotion/pay increase?Is this what you hoped for?
if you really wished for a promotion, is this end up what you expected? like you mentioned "10% plus only", did you expect more? And how responsibility increase? is it balnaced with your pay increase? Maybe the pay increase is very little when the job increase is a lot?
Or maybe you want more power and authority in the company, rather than pay increase, but after the promotion, you are still the same in terms of what you can do in the company? mabye you still cant boss people around yet?
In the first place, do you like your job? if you dont like your job, or you dont like your colleague, dont like your job environment, etc. You wont be very happy no matter what you achieve in job which you dont like in the first place.
You said you have "1 lover, 1 sex partner and 1 dunno how to define one", maybe it's time for you to find someone to get married? That way you will find more meaning in life, feel that you work to support a family, work for someone who's important to you(your wife and kids), not for yourself only, not giving your hard earned money to some women that wont be with you forever. But this is really up to you, perhaps you really dont want to get married yet.
Do you have real friends to share feelings with? maybe most people around you, like those colleague who arrange party for you, can you share real feelings with them? or are they just ppl that you need to social with for the sake that they work with you? In my case, if i have achieved something big, throwing a big party wont make me happier than asking few real good frens out and share the good new with them.
Hope you bother to read such long a post, and hope it helps too. -
ur heart is quietly crying out to you to sign up p-membership
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Originally posted by I-like-flings(m):why har??? never really happy recently...even when my colleague is throwing mi party after party... but i go there like an empty shell.. my mind is totally not there.. just go there to pay the bill nia.. sighz.. why why why?? it is possible coz increment is about 10% plus only.. or just still havent recover from my 3mth business trip in italy?.... anyone feel the same as mi b4???? or dun tell mi is mid life crisis already?? or instinct telling mi to settle down and start a family to share all this with?..
got 1 lover, 1 sex partner and 1 dunno how to define one....still not enough meh? what i am short of now?? sighz....why i am unhappy?
I think that is the problem.
You are empty because your relationship is as empty as void.
Having three partners doesn't equate to fulfillment. In fact, it blatantly revealed how vulnerable your emotions are to insecurity and the fear of Love/commitment. People who fear Love often attempt to gather more partners so as just 'reassure' themselves and acts as a contingency plan in case one partner 'fails' him. They do not have to face the situation of a complete lost and could actually carry on and cling their unhealthy love mindset onto the other remaining few.
All these relationship you have created are as unstable as MLM. The minute this grand 'edifice' collapse, you see how weak the structure of this model is. And an unconscious truth is that: you are constantly recreating your feared scenario - the fear and lack of faith towards love commitment:
Fear commitment - create unstable model that it wouldn't last - realise it is unstable - create MORE of such unstable models - gradually some fails - recreate more - generate greater fear of commitment - repeat cycle with greater intensity.
If you call that fulfilling, then you are likely to deceive yourself through strong delusional reinforcing.or dun tell mi is mid life crisis already?? or instinct telling mi to settle down and start a family to share all this with?.. sighz.....
You have already expressed your greatest fear here and the novelty of flings is dying for you.
I think it's time for you to mature emotionally.
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i heard it is expensive n i wonder where to keep tis if family members are under the same roof.Originally posted by GHoST_18:subscrible to this...
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u need some love commitment. i believe there will be some emptiness in ur heart when u reach this stage n achieve everything.
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Time for more meaningful stuff like contribute to society by help the unfortunate.. and not just strategizing on how to get your next fling