* Bored With Life And Sex With BF *
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Hi all,
IÂ’ve been with my bf for a year plus and we love each other deeply. Problem is we have nothing in common and I am really bored in the relationship itself.
He doesnÂ’t like to go out on the streets, and if we do hang out, itÂ’d be with his group of friends and their girlfriends, sitting around talking. When I am over his home, heÂ’ll be either on the com or watching repeated shows on SCV.
I have talked to him about this, but to him, it seems like staying home with me is consider spending time together already. But itÂ’s boring me. I donÂ’t mind staying home, but quality time to me includes heart to heart talk, and not just watching some shows on TV all the time.
Sex is an issue too. He comes in less than 15 secs and I am always left unsatisfied and incomplete. I tried to suggest buying vibrator to play around but he said he doesnÂ’t like sex toys. Fingering doesnÂ’t do me muchÂ… And even if go second round, by the time he erects again, I have already lost the mood.
He is a very nice guy, and I feel bad for having so many complaints about him. But I donÂ’t know why I am feeling so bored and frustrated in our relationshipÂ… I donÂ’t want to cheat, I donÂ’t want to break offÂ…
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tell exactly what u type here to ur BF ........ see what is his response
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sorie chick.. beware of coloured wolves in this forum..
be ready to receive tons of Private Messages liao.. enjoz..
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i agree ... tell him what u feel now ... show him this ... lets hope for the better ...Originally posted by InnoHippo:tell exactly what u type here to ur BF ........ see what is his response 
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Originally posted by qy_von:
You must have some common interest with your boyfriend that draws both of you together. How do the two of you meet and fall in love if you have nothing in common? During courship, you two must have talked over some topic, do somethings that you enjoy together, be it catching a movie, strolling along Pasir Ris Park, chatting over a cup of coffee etc etc etc... Try to find the thing that created the 'spark' in your courtship days. If there is truly nothing in common with the two of you, it might not have been love you are experiencing, merely infatuation.
[b]Hi all,
IÂ’ve been with my bf for a year plus and we love each other deeply. Problem is we have nothing in common and I am really bored in the relationship itself.
He doesnÂ’t like to go out on the streets, and if we do hang out, itÂ’d be with his group of friends and their girlfriends, sitting around talking. When I am over his home, heÂ’ll be either on the com or watching repeated shows on SCV.
I have talked to him about this, but to him, it seems like staying home with me is consider spending time together already. But itÂ’s boring me. I donÂ’t mind staying home, but quality time to me includes heart to heart talk, and not just watching some shows on TV all the time.
Sex is an issue too. He comes in less than 15 secs and I am always left unsatisfied and incomplete. I tried to suggest buying vibrator to play around but he said he doesnÂ’t like sex toys. Fingering doesnÂ’t do me muchÂ… And even if go second round, by the time he erects again, I have already lost the mood.
He is a very nice guy, and I feel bad for having so many complaints about him. But I donÂ’t know why I am feeling so bored and frustrated in our relationshipÂ… I donÂ’t want to cheat, I donÂ’t want to break offÂ…
What can I do?[/b]
Sex I agree, is also a problem, though the problem I see is somewhat different to the one you mentioned. A relationship will lose all its novelty if you engage in sex too soon. Barely a year plus into a relationship, it is already burning up... In my opinion, it takes a longtime for a 'true' loving relation to develop. In the early days of the courtship, you two are drawn together and are so deeply in a romantic mood that you are blind to each other's shortcoming. It takes time to learn and accept these shortcomings, and this period may be potentially stressful to the relationship. Think of it as a test. If the relationship can survive this period, it will mature into something far more lasting...
However, if at this stage, you have already done everthing a seasoned couple has done, sex and all etc. There will no longer be any allure and mystery to the relationship. All that is left is a keen awareness of each other's shortcoming. This is the kind of thing that will bring about the downfall of a relationship.
On the physical aspect of the sexual problem, is your bf suffering from any medical conditions such as premature ejeculation? If not, you can also prolong the session by "taking initiative" (I dont want to talk about it here, but if you really want my humble opinion, I can send you a private tell)
I also agree with the previous poster. Have a candid talk with your bf. It might be that he is not aware of your needs, both physical and emotional. -
I have talked to him many times, but he doesn't like to do the things i like to do at all. I have whined, I have complained, i have talked and discussed... BUt nothing works.
I tried to accept his lifestyle to stay home, and now i let him watch TV in peace... I know there's nothing i can do, thats why feeling so sianz...
I still want him, but whenever in the middle of foreplay, i would think of the 15secs outcome and lost the mood... but still got to 'act interested' till he finishes with the task...
Anyone gone thru this b4?
Our life is so < Go out in a group- Home- Com - TV- Half finished Sex- Sleep. > -
Seems to me that your bf don't really care much about how you're feeling and spend some thoughts for you.....
He insisted on his ways although he faced some resistence from you..but he seems not bothered by it....
I don't know much about him........but one word i'll generalise this issue:-
S-E-L-F-I-S-H -
Can't blame him though, he is what he is, don't ever make him change, you will only piss him off even more. Regarding the sex issue, try to talk to him and ask him to finger you for a longer time before he put his penis into your vagina, this way you will enjoy more and get the orgasm longer that u desire for.
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Originally posted by qy_von:
Well.. For a starter... You mentioned you've got nothing common with your bf and getting bored of the relationship.. Yet you don't wish to give it up...? Hmm.. Then what do you really intend to keep him for? Take care of you....? How old are the both of you btw...? If all these persist, try to get your OWN life other than just time with him to make your life more meaningful... If you hate his SCV and 'in-house policy' so much, date him OUT next time... And STAY OUT!! Make PLANS that can LAST the both of you OUTSIDE....
[b]Hi all,
IÂ’ve been with my bf for a year plus and we love each other deeply. Problem is we have nothing in common and I am really bored in the relationship itself.
He doesnÂ’t like to go out on the streets, and if we do hang out, itÂ’d be with his group of friends and their girlfriends, sitting around talking. When I am over his home, heÂ’ll be either on the com or watching repeated shows on SCV.
I have talked to him about this, but to him, it seems like staying home with me is consider spending time together already. But itÂ’s boring me. I donÂ’t mind staying home, but quality time to me includes heart to heart talk, and not just watching some shows on TV all the time.
Sex is an issue too. He comes in less than 15 secs and I am always left unsatisfied and incomplete. I tried to suggest buying vibrator to play around but he said he doesnÂ’t like sex toys. Fingering doesnÂ’t do me muchÂ… And even if go second round, by the time he erects again, I have already lost the mood.
He is a very nice guy, and I feel bad for having so many complaints about him. But I donÂ’t know why I am feeling so bored and frustrated in our relationshipÂ… I donÂ’t want to cheat, I donÂ’t want to break offÂ…
What can I do?[/b]
Sex-wise... Learn to satisfy yourself lor... If sex really mean much to you... Else you can also help by creating the 'mood' and everything for him...? Go read up on books and magazinez to find out how you can do that..... -
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Get a pet dog.
Makes great companion. -
Originally posted by qy_von:
move on there are plenty of gents out there who will show u a good time , take care of your needs
[b]Hi all,
IÂ’ve been with my bf for a year plus and we love each other deeply. Problem is we have nothing in common and I am really bored in the relationship itself.
He doesnÂ’t like to go out on the streets, and if we do hang out, itÂ’d be with his group of friends and their girlfriends, sitting around talking. When I am over his home, heÂ’ll be either on the com or watching repeated shows on SCV.
I have talked to him about this, but to him, it seems like staying home with me is consider spending time together already. But itÂ’s boring me. I donÂ’t mind staying home, but quality time to me includes heart to heart talk, and not just watching some shows on TV all the time.
Sex is an issue too. He comes in less than 15 secs and I am always left unsatisfied and incomplete. I tried to suggest buying vibrator to play around but he said he doesnÂ’t like sex toys. Fingering doesnÂ’t do me muchÂ… And even if go second round, by the time he erects again, I have already lost the mood.
He is a very nice guy, and I feel bad for having so many complaints about him. But I donÂ’t know why I am feeling so bored and frustrated in our relationshipÂ… I donÂ’t want to cheat, I donÂ’t want to break offÂ…
What can I do?[/b] -
In your position, perhaps you have re-evaluate why you are in a relationship with your boyfriend 1st. Perhaps you would indeed be better off without him. You seem to have rather lost the plot.
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Skills can be learnt, attitudes are hard to change. IMO maybe you're both just not that compatible together
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Well.. you can always choose to look for me instead
Ok, serious. I read that premature ejaculation occurs more often in men who dont have sex on a regular basis. In order to extend your playtime, your guy has to learn to control both physically and psychologically. Maybe u came too hard on him, and he's unable to control? It's not a physical problem, but a mental one, which can be overcomed (no pun intended) easily with the help of both spouses. -
15 secs?
some claimed to last 40 minutes!! -
15 secs is way too short for any1 to feel anything...except ur bf.
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How on earth anyone can come in 15 seconds is what I want too know from this thread.
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err...try explaining wet dreams?
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Give him YOUR illustrated book "What Women Want" full of your thoughts you made just for him.
Drawing stickman and/or stickgirl with his satisfactions but your grievances and wants be it polite, sad or funny should suffice.
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tat's short....
can last long oso not such a gd thing.. sometimes u too tired to even.. erh. cum.. maybe it's mentally.. i like haf prob wif tat leh.. can satisfy other party onli..
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imagine the backache after 40 mins.Originally posted by HolySniper:tat's short....
can last long oso not such a gd thing.. sometimes u too tired to even.. erh. cum.. maybe it's mentally.. i like haf prob wif tat leh.. can satisfy onli.. -
yours arent very much better FIELD.Originally posted by field: -
not onli tat...Originally posted by dragg:imagine the backache after 40 mins.
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