* Bored With Life And Sex With BF *
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no more sex for him..give him a handjob instead to train up his endurance
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if he's making u uncomfortable , its time u 2 need a talk
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very simple, every night my girl friend will massage my penis for 5 minutes. after that we stop, we continue massage for 3 days and the 4th day we have sex, woh it can last 15 minutes, she is also satisfied though she wants longer, so the method is train 3 days, start 4th day, so it goes on n on, just try itOriginally posted by alexkusu:no more sex for him..give him a handjob instead to train up his endurance -
Originally posted by qy_von:
[b]Hi all,
IÂ’ve been with my bf for a year plus and we love each other deeply. Problem is we have nothing in common and I am really bored in the relationship itself.
He doesnÂ’t like to go out on the streets, and if we do hang out, itÂ’d be with his group of friends and their girlfriends, sitting around talking. When I am over his home, heÂ’ll be either on the com or watching repeated shows on SCV.
I have talked to him about this, but to him, it seems like staying home with me is consider spending time together already. But itÂ’s boring me. I donÂ’t mind staying home, but quality time to me includes heart to heart talk, and not just watching some shows on TV all the time.
Sex is an issue too. He comes in less than 15 secs and I am always left unsatisfied and incomplete. I tried to suggest buying vibrator to play around but he said he doesnÂ’t like sex toys. Fingering doesnÂ’t do me muchÂ… And even if go second round, by the time he erects again, I have already lost the mood.
He is a very nice guy, and I feel bad for having so many complaints about him. But I donÂ’t know why I am feeling so bored and frustrated in our relationshipÂ… I donÂ’t want to cheat, I donÂ’t want to break offÂ…
What can I do?[/b]
There are some major compatibility glitches in your relationship - you mentioned that there wasn't anything common to share and enjoy between the two of you: it will gradually brew into some huge squall that is capable of wrecking turmoil into your relationship, for the 'cost' of maintaining this relationship cannot even cover the emotional and physical needs of yours.
When needs are not satisfied, it grows into frustration.
It also seemed to me that your boyfriend has degenerate into a mode, known to CloUdiSm as Overgrown Baby Syndrome. Your boyfriend has conveniently slipped into the role of a boyfriend and expecting the relationship to fly on auto-pilot, without sparing that extra effort to understand you, your underlying needs and this barren relationship. It also seemed to him that as long as you still love him, that's enough. There isn't a pressing need to change any status quo and he sit there like an overgrown toddler, waiting for this relationship to bring 'fruition' and 'result'.
This sort of relationship is more likely in a case when there is adverse difference in lifestyle and where the only common factor is chilling out at home. Spending quiet moments at home is great, but it shouldn't overshadow all activities in a relationship.
As for sex, your man is truly one self absorbed guy. It seemed to me that he is displaying a nonchalant attitude towards you and an abject disdain about anything outside 'his world'. We-can-make-love-but-once-I-am-done-with-mine-this-game-is-finished sort of mindset is extremely anti-seductive. If one is sexually frustrated, infidelity is likely to happen when planetary transit is unfavourable and karma strikes.
I don't think he understands the severity of this issue that could potentially undo this relationship. Love is Love, but compatibility and freewill is outside the boundary of Love. Love can accept, but love cannot deny it from affecting you. And when you are affected beyond redemption, even love cannot save your relationship from sinking into oblivion.
And it becomes 'I love you, but there is no way we could be together...'
It must strike a chord in him that if this continues, it would be the end eventually. Request empathy and understanding as you justify it tactfully, for you don't want to ignite an irrevocable argument. Speak in peace, but maintain your firmness. Remember that a relationship is a game of two; you can't be the one trying to do something, while he sleeps in the courtyard. He must know and you must make him, if not, it's truly good game mate.
Cheers -
he personally dun feel anything abt the 15sec ?Originally posted by qy_von:[b]b] -
since u dun like this kind of spending time together then tell him abt it... if cant resolve the issue then leave him cos u two wun be happy together...
since u dun wan to break off then take control and guide him... show him the way to satisfy u socially n in bedroom... -
One thing,I am very sure,he TAKES U FOR GRANTED!!!
He nvr care for yr thought,nvr listen to u. He thinks by showing his own way of love to u is enough(which is not u want)! I always believe if he reallys loves u,he will listen to u and care how u feels! The keyword is try!!! I believe what u request is not excessive but reasonable!
If he still don't change and continue his way after many coaxing and complain from u. Dump him! It will be a painful process but a neccessary one! A bf who deesn't fool around and evil in heart doesn't means he is good! He fails to show enough care and concern for yr need. I always believe in the word 'trying'! Even u fail,at least u try!! Did he ever try? Or he just sit there.. -
get him to go down on you lor. if he wont then threaten to breakup. mauahaha
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+1Originally posted by Hellraiza:get him to go down on you lor. if he wont then threaten to breakup. mauahaha
do it the way gals get their request fulfilled...mostly it works... -
a effective relationship is good communication, talk to yr lover bah~
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erm...Originally posted by qy_von:I have talked to him many times, but he doesn't like to do the things i like to do at all. I have whined, I have complained, i have talked and discussed... BUt nothing works.
I tried to accept his lifestyle to stay home, and now i let him watch TV in peace... I know there's nothing i can do, thats why feeling so sianz...
I still want him, but whenever in the middle of foreplay, i would think of the 15secs outcome and lost the mood... but still got to 'act interested' till he finishes with the task...
Anyone gone thru this b4?
Our life is so < Go out in a group- Home- Com - TV- Half finished Sex- Sleep. >
maybe u sort out your own feelings first?
if u 2 are in love,
u should be solving this out with him together...
in my opinion,
Sex is a very big part in relationship,
its about pleasing each other and not about erecting only..
sound to him that these problems are serious
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Try cold war tactic... Talk no longer works with guy.
How do I know?
We are drivers too.
oops?
I am a guy too.
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Ya lor... 15 secs really cannot make it lah... Me much better... Me 40 seconds!!Originally posted by dragg:15 secs?
some claimed to last 40 minutes!!
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Depends on YOUR POSITION!!Originally posted by dragg:imagine the backache after 40 mins.
Oops...
"This is AA... This is AA... This is AA......" x 101 times... -
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Originally posted by qy_von:
-Consult him, tell him how you feel about this. Leave an open end for him to think about. If he treasure you, I am sure he will make some abjustment for you. As you, perhap try to understand the reason behine why he felt to be at home rather spending some quailty time. Try make some adjustment as well.
[b]Hi all,
IÂ’ve been with my bf for a year plus and we love each other deeply. Problem is we have nothing in common and I am really bored in the relationship itself.
He doesnÂ’t like to go out on the streets, and if we do hang out, itÂ’d be with his group of friends and their girlfriends, sitting around talking. When I am over his home, heÂ’ll be either on the com or watching repeated shows on SCV.
I have talked to him about this, but to him, it seems like staying home with me is consider spending time together already. But itÂ’s boring me. I donÂ’t mind staying home, but quality time to me includes heart to heart talk, and not just watching some shows on TV all the time.
Sex is an issue too. He comes in less than 15 secs and I am always left unsatisfied and incomplete. I tried to suggest buying vibrator to play around but he said he doesnÂ’t like sex toys. Fingering doesnÂ’t do me muchÂ… And even if go second round, by the time he erects again, I have already lost the mood.
He is a very nice guy, and I feel bad for having so many complaints about him. But I donÂ’t know why I am feeling so bored and frustrated in our relationshipÂ… I donÂ’t want to cheat, I donÂ’t want to break offÂ…
What can I do?[/b]
-When a relationship hit a bottleneck, this usually happen. You both need to discuss with an open mind.
-As of sex, probably he isnt high in sex drive, probably low too. Try to find some common ground, find out what interest him most, play along with what he desired. Also have open talk about your sexual desires and his too will help better sex. -
Originally posted by Devil1976:Depends on YOUR POSITION!!
Oops... "This is AA... This is AA... This is AA......" x 101 times...
Cheers -
wad u mean by massage? how to massage seh?Originally posted by t_a_s:very simple, every night my girl friend will massage my penis for 5 minutes. after that we stop, we continue massage for 3 days and the 4th day we have sex, woh it can last 15 minutes, she is also satisfied though she wants longer, so the method is train 3 days, start 4th day, so it goes on n on, just try it -
DAM YOU NEED A REAL MAN!!!! LIKE ME....DAM
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Devil has a very big point in the red highlightedOriginally posted by Devil1976:Well.. For a starter... You mentioned you've got nothing common with your bf and getting bored of the relationship.. Yet you don't wish to give it up...? Hmm.. Then what do you really intend to keep him for? Take care of you....? How old are the both of you btw...? If all these persist, try to get your OWN life other than just time with him to make your life more meaningful... If you hate his SCV and 'in-house policy' so much, date him OUT next time... And STAY OUT!! Make PLANS that can LAST the both of you OUTSIDE....
Sex-wise... Learn to satisfy yourself lor... If sex really mean much to you... Else you can also help by creating the 'mood' and everything for him...? Go read up on books and magazinez to find out how you can do that.....
Ok,i wun deny u love but when the part comes when theres no respond from both party in a whole,there is no direction
he dosent wans to cooperate my friend
now tell me and think thro b4 u come back and ask for advice
lay down and imagine ur future wif him togther
if u see hope,then let it b the hope which drives u to salvage the relationship
however,be prepare for surprise happy ending or a sad downwinding relationship -
When I am really worked up, I am ready to ejaculate the moment I penetrate. Have to do my utmost to retard ejaculate. And when the feeling subside, one, two, three thrust and I feel about to shoot. Have to exercise control again. Goes on and on like that till I feel the vaginal spasm, on that I absolutely cannot control.Originally posted by Rexdriver:How on earth anyone can come in 15 seconds is what I want too know from this thread.
Therefore if I do not exercise control I shoot out in less than five secs. -
ya...i agree too.Originally posted by InnoHippo:tell exactly what u type here to ur BF ........ see what is his response
My gf will tell me straight in the face if she wants more.... or if she is pissed oof with my actions, can immediately tell from her face le.... -
15 secs? what a lousy d*ck. lol.
OR the MOST, EXTREMELY UNLIKELY reason is you're so smokin' hot that he can't resist you.
Well..the truth is, he doesn't really give a f*ck about you.
he only cares about his tv. oh my..
and i guess he's a 'homie-boy'.
These kinds are one of the most boring sh*t..
move on, i say. -
go on a holiday trip loh.....
maybe u 2 compromise loh...
i n my dear also alway stay at home. go out with his frens...
but we go out alone more.... go shop watch movie. walk walk. -
Time to get new bf