Don't know who to choose
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Well I think your ex had proven her worthy of you... but I think you are a big bastard... anyway... if I am you I would choose the ex... simply the fact she had proven herself to be a great girl to have... The new girl friend might not have done anything like that but probably wun do something that your ex done too.
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It could have been your choice. But when this is your story, you may not have make that choice that easily.Originally posted by banzie:Well I think your ex had proven her worthy of you... but I think you are a big bastard... anyway... if I am you I would choose the ex... simply the fact she had proven herself to be a great girl to have... The new girl friend might not have done anything like that but probably wun do something that your ex done too.
This is not a performance contest.
Or whichever party have proven herself more than the other.
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oi, y u liddat arOriginally posted by rathcycle:NO.. he is touched that the ex is still paying the debts that he is owing...
I think his x is the most wonderful gal in the world. 
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/me shake head.Originally posted by M©+square:Exact words in my heart. Sigh.
Foolish ex girlfriend indeed...sigh...
Zi gu duo qing kong yu hen.... sigh...
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Hahahhahahahha... I could see straight away why you roll your eyes.Originally posted by M©+square:
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i did not read all the reply that was posted by other users. but i did read some in page 1.
my advice is to tell u to choose who u tink will be a good wife to u and who u wan to be with.
if u choose your ex, u will have to think of your current gf how she support u to quit smoking, gambling, etc. your current gf is the one who changes your life.
if u choose your current gf, u have to think that your ex paid the loan for u quietly and till this day as u sae she still wear that ring u bought for her last time. this shows that she loves u and rather suffer for u than u suffer it yourself financially.
one solution for u: tell your ex that you will pay her back the money and go look for a new bf.
not that i wan to insult you. u have to think at that time, u gambled and end up wanting to sell that ring but did not. instead, u did not go and find out y the ah long dun wan to look for u. u shld tell her that u are not good for her and she shld find someone that can give her happiness. even though u changed, for that wound, she will always remember that u wanted to sell the ring to settle your debts.
and if possible try to come clean with your current gf. she's the one who changes u.
if really wanted me to choose for u, i choose the current gf. cos for a girl who patiently changes you meaning she loves u. and another point is even though both girls do so much for u, i tink your current gf is the one that u have to be with.
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But how come she changed her contact number, address and workplace..?
Sad story though.. Pity the 3 of you..
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duplicated.
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Only you and me can see???Originally posted by Yunhaier:Hahahhahahahha... I could see straight away why you roll your eyes.
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Maybe the rest take a longer time to see. 
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Thx for ur advice,support and critics. ........really dunno what to do...
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Do you need to know what to do Now?Originally posted by TrU PeAce (^0*)v:Thx for ur advice,support and critics. ........really dunno what to do... -
Originally posted by M©+square:Only you and me can see???
Maybe the rest take a longer time to see.
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YOU F.UCKING STUPID CHICKENSHI.T ARSEHOLE. WHAT THE F.UCK ARE YOU DOING ASKING THIS F.UCKING DUMBASS QUESTION IN THE FORUM?
F.UCK YOU 1000 TIMES YOU MOTHERF.UCKING LOSER. YOU SHOULD BE ASKING YOUR EX HOW MUCH SHE'S PAID YOUR LOAN & PAY HER BACK WHAT SHE PAID THE LOAN SHARK.
DON'T LET ME CATCH YOU POSTING F.UCKING S.HIT IN THIS FORUM AGAIN YOU F.UCKING MISERABLE WANKER. -
whoa. one tough one i've ever seen. hm.
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ok, this case is too complicated. let me give u a simple scenario first. u might wanna use this to help u clear ur confused mind.
A young couple broke up despite staying together for 6 years. 4 years later, when they met. they realised they both still have feelings for each other and they are both still single. Should they get back together?
If they get back together:
-it has been 4 years. both definitely have changed, in terms of mindset, expectations, goals in life etc.
-will this new relationship last?
maybe. maybe not.
but of course in this case, there are not much at stakes.
by the way, i really hoped u have changed for the better. because of what u are in the past, u have wasted a girl's most precious youth. -
i don't know....Originally posted by velvel:ok, this case is too complicated. let me give u a simple scenario first. u might wanna use this to help u clear ur confused mind.
A young couple broke up despite staying together for 6 years. 4 years later, when they met. they realised they both still have feelings for each other and they are both still single. Should they get back together?
If they get back together:
-it has been 4 years. both definitely have changed, in terms of mindset, expectations, goals in life etc.
-will this new relationship last?
maybe. maybe not.
but of course in this case, there are not much at stakes.
by the way, i really hoped u have changed for the better. because of what u are in the past, u have wasted a girl's most precious youth.
I just don't see how downplaying a scenario could help him.
His situation is a different level of ball game altogether.
There are many layers of complexity in his case.
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Originally posted by T.Ryousuke:
She had seen yr true colour and get over liao, even if you want to go back to her do you think she want? Maybe you think too much.
Make it simple, Love can die off after so many years. Learn to let go and remember the mistake you made. Don't repeat this to yr current gf.
Life is too short to go round and round.
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Originally posted by soul_rage
I disagree with you. The fact that she is still wearing the engagement ring shows how much she still treasures the relationship.
I only feel that should he deserve her love after all that he had done?
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What is 'deserving'?
Is it fairness?
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U are really a very lucky man. But whatever your decision is, please make it fast. Otherwise you will be owning them even more. It's just not fair for both your current and ex girlfriends if u can't love one whole-heartedly.Originally posted by soul_rage:if he has obviously moved on, then I don't think he will have such a headache like now.
I believe there is something called responsibility as well. You a compulsive gambler, caused a gal's youth, which cannot be turned back. Just an apology is sufficient? I don't want to start scolding you, coz I think you should know what you have done.
Ultimately, it is your choice, but like another user has added, your ex is 29yo, your current may be 25+yo. That may be one factor as well. Think carefully what you intend to do.
You are one bloody lucky idiot who nearly wasted your life away, but having 2gals who cared about you. Maybe your previous life you were a really good man. Pls be a good person from now on. -
Actually my opinion is very extreme. (My opinion, it is his life so up to him)
I only feel that should he deserve her love after all that he had done?
Put yrself in her shoe and its not difficult understand why she left him silently, thing is done cannot be undone.[/b]
My opinion is that the original poster should inform the current gf of his previous relationship, how they were so in love that his ex broke off and helped him pay for his debts. Ask to separate on the basis that he owes his ex too much.
Then he should go back to the ex, and ask for her forgiveness, and seek to reconcile to love her and take care of her forever.
If like you said, she does not want to be with him anymore (which I don't believe so, coz I think that silly (but adorable) gal took the burden of helping her loved one to pay off his debts IN SILENCE), then so be it. He loses both gals.
I think he deserves it for losing both, and being together with any one of them is more than a blessing for him.
Be responsible! Come out and be a man! You wasted a gal's youth, and had another gal and was in bliss for those few years, where there she was heartbroken and suffering in SILENCE. It was your ex that GAVE YOU the opportunity to become debt-free, then meet another gal and whom then proceeded to help you change. Whatever it is, I doubt anyone can match up to what she has done. Be responsible and seek to repay her for the rest of your life. -
by the way, I just want to say my piece about you (I hope now you are not like that)Originally posted by TrU PeAce (^0*)v:i thought it was my parents who called the police and settle the loan shark case, i didnt know........ Since no one bug me for money...still care meh that time!!!.
You are FREAKINGLY irresponsible. The above statement shows how horrible you are. You ARE the one that owed the money, as a man, you should settle it yourself.
No one bug you for money, you just don't care.
Actually, you don't deserve both gals, based on your actions that time. But love is foolish. Your ex may feel otherwise, your current may feel otherwise. Whatever it is, I hope you remember this.
YOU DON'T DESERVE any one of them. Remember this for the rest of your life. Whichever you end up with, you will forever take good care of her, coz you don't deserve her, so you must do the best and more for her. -
Take both. Convert to Islam
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Hey marry is not play, play leh ... you know? I think you still love your ex. otherwise you won't hate her in the first place. Love and hate is just two side of the coin. But you also love your current girlfriend and going to marry. Better stop the marriage and think about your feeling first. Who you love most? Don't choose the one that's because you felt you own her.
By the way, you should return your ex-girlfriend the money that she paid to the loan shark. Is your mistake for gambling too much, not her. You shouldn't get her to pay even if you don't have the money. If you don't pay her back...then my advise to you is don't ever marry. This show that you are an irresponsible man and not suitable to marry. You will only hurt both women.
By the way first love is always the most special person. I still missed my first love even thou I am attached.
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Come on people, this is so lame. He is just making up a story for us to discuss. Imagine $42,000? Do you all know whats is the interest for that kind of amount in a month? Tho i am not sure but at 10 or 20% of that amount is enough to kill someone alrdy... Imagine $4000 to $8000 in interest alone in a month. 4 yrs... 48 x $8000 = $384, 000 and this doesn't include the load amound yet... who can pay! Even LS are not that stupid to lend this kind of money to 1 guy. Unless he plan not to get his money back.
After going out with her for 6 yrs suddenly she cannot be found? changed her contact number, address and workplace..? What about her relatives... you know her for 6 yrs, about to get married, dunno any of them? Or the entire family tree move also because of this? Grand Father, Grand Mother, Uncles, Aunts, Brothers, Sisters, cousins, Man... Hard to belief this sad story.
Whatever it is, stop the bull shit bro. There are alot of nice people who believed in your story & giving you good & kind advise here but you are taking them for a ride only. And IF its real as you claim.... JUST LEAVE BOTH OF THEM , FOR THEIR OWN GOOD! Cos with the World Cup & Casino coming, you will probably bring them more troubles.
A leopard never changes it's spots & a compulsive lier never change!