Originally posted by ManInBangKok:
Hi , I have a situation here.But I am not sure whether my actions are correct. Here goes
Last week , I applied for exam leave. Since mid-april i wanted to quit my current job as I realised my dad is sick and I want to spend time with him. But because I love my company and my job , so I stayed
As I doing a part time studies as well. I juggle between my work and studies. Work load start to increase and I still went on.
All the while my management keep wanting me to quit my studies and commit full time but I could not see the reason why as I am doing my studies out of working hours and only twice a week.
Until one fine day , my management want me to quit my studies the fourth time and I felt my company don't care about my future.And I quit , saying i need a break.
But a few days later , i got another offer and I took it after they are more willing to accept my time schedule. And my management said Im not honest since my quitting reasons do not tally.
Am disappointed.
To add on , I believe I am well taken care of in the new job and my responsibilities are shared. And I want this kind of arrangement so that I can do my own things in peace whenever I am on leave without worrying anything in my job since someone is taking care of.
But for my current job , I worry a lot for the company as I am the MAIN GUY in the job. But i feel I am being taken for granted. Because I worry so much for them , they think all is allrite and just hope the whole project ends without additional resources/labour spent.
I think I am just plain too loyal. But when my management said I was did-honest when my reasons for quitting differs .I just felt I need to explain but I know they will stiill say the same thing to sound like Im the one at fault.
You needed a break. That is not lying . You needed a break from them pressuring you to quit your studies.
What you will find often is some people in the workplace do not encourage further education because it threatens their position . Judging from what you have said , they are using education against your work performance and they are pulling excuses to put you down .
It would be better to find an employer who encourages further education and always remember hao ma bu chi hui tou chao - good horse never eats in the pasture it leaves. NEVER EVER RETURN TO THE EMPLOYER WHO PUTS U DOWN or the organisation you leave ( if possible)
I heard of a hokien saying “Lan Pa Woo A Jia, Chou Kang Mai Pa Pia”, don't know whether you agree with these.
