gf betrayed
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Hi,
I was feeling very troubled, my gf betrayed me when she went oversea for few months, She treat me very bad during those times even i'm making so much effort by doing a lot of things for our relationship.
we had been together for 5 yrs. and I really love her. I managed to found this out and she finally disclosed to me after i confronted her. I'm felt very hurt. She said she dunno why this happen as she is very lonely that time.
She promised me that it will never happen again and she said she really love me.
Do you think I can believe her? give her a chance again?
It is really hurt to be betrayed by somemone that i really loved and when i was alone, i never betray her eventhough i had a chance to.
Now she's back and i can see she making effort for our relationship, but now i'm really afraid being cheated again. The pain is too hard to beared. I'm trying to recover but the image sometimes still flying through my minds.
Do you guys and gals have any advice? -
betrayed as in?
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Betrayed u in what way ar ?
confirm is cheat ur @ss is it ? Once a playa.. always a playa.... until they reach 30 n know thier place then they become more settled down. But dun be a sucker to take her back... used n abused. -
Because she is lonely??? That's not a good excuse. Will she cheat on you again when she is lonely again??? Will you able to make sure that she is not lonely again???
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I suggest you let her go. Lonely wasn't a good excuse. So if you are lonely, you can go find chick too? Ask her to wake up her idea and don't give lame excuse. Why don't she just admit that she is having the urge to filrt with guys and she is feeling itch to try different guys? Human are just plain selfish, they do something wrong yet they don't wanna admit their truth intention and still find lame excuse to cover themself up. If you don't want to suffer in future, then i suggest you to leave her else you may get another shock sooner or later.
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X2Originally posted by Anti-RuleSS:I suggest you let her go. Lonely wasn't a good excuse. So if you are lonely, you can go find chick too? Ask her to wake up her idea and don't give lame excuse. Why don't she just admit that she is having the urge to filrt with guys and she is feeling itch to try different guys? Human are just plain selfish, they do something wrong yet they don't wanna admit their truth intention and still find lame excuse to cover themself up. If you don't want to suffer in future, then i suggest you to leave her else you may get another shock sooner or later. -
If u wan her back... U shouldnt look back cos things wil not be or look good for both of u.
Since she's making the effort as u mentioned then u should give her a chance...
Wat I feel is both of u should hav a gd heart to heart talk to c hw u both can make the relationship better n be honest abt ur feelings, let her know ur concern n hw deeply u hav been hurt, n u really love her n wan her to be honest n sincere with her feelings...
But if its giving u the toll then u better not go further with the relationship cos in the end both of u wil b deeply hurt...
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leave the past behind
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ask her if u could have an affair to aid the healing process
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Originally posted by alexkusu:ask her if u could have an affair to aid the healing process
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this is the story of mine,
though this is not recommended.
my gf broke with me, and reason is she want to concentrate in studies.
thn after few weeks, she with my fren.
and i really hate her and also my fren..
time goes by...
and i with another girl..
thn my ex and my fren also broke..thn i be with her again..
within 2 weeks i break wioth her..
revenge. -
sometimes, revenge makes u look childish or stupid.
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Love is not like ABC. Not everyone reacts similarly to a situation and there is no perfect solution.
My advice: Follow your heart.
If you cannot forgive her then let go, if you can forgive her then you must learn to be able to cope with a repeat. If you cannot cope with a repeat, you must either let go or decide to change her mentality.
She might take you for a ride again.
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dump her. simple as that.
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She wants a chance? CAN! As long as she let you cheat on her once, too.
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logical speaking, she said she is lonely then cheated on you. why not said the love is not strong and she cannot resist the temptation.
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GIVE UP on her. according to psychology, girl will leave u once she finds someone better than u in physical charactistic. GIRL tend to look at guys on phsyical aspect.
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Which psychology book do you take reference to? I wish to read it.Originally posted by leungchunghong:GIVE UP on her. according to psychology, girl will leave u once she finds someone better than u in physical charactistic. GIRL tend to look at guys on phsyical aspect.
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The final decision lies onto your hand,.....Seriously being together 5 years and cant resist to temptation....Bull shit lor.....If i were you i think confirm let it go becoz in the end you will be the one who suffer...as you will alway think that the time she have betrayed you......forget...move on with you life ....Its a difficult choice to made....ultimately someone have to suffer in this relationship....
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I highly recommend giving her another chance.
I believe she will be very much more mature as a person and as a partner after this experience. Highly recommended to continue, as her character value has just increased ten fold.
If you can sincerely accept her, your character and wisdom will be propelled ten fold as well.
In this life, you will meet many challenges. Even when you are married, you will meet some relationship issues with your spouse. What's important is how you and your partner learn and grow.
Everybody make mistakes in this life.
If you love her, and I believe you do, you should accept, forgive, and continue on to the higher level. -
Easy bro, just like how i treat my ex gf she also cheat exactly the same way your gf does. I make her pregnant and at her most vunerable time, ditch her after she pregnant. That's the way man.Originally posted by vivasg:Hi,
I was feeling very troubled, my gf betrayed me when she went oversea for few months, She treat me very bad during those times even i'm making so much effort by doing a lot of things for our relationship.
we had been together for 5 yrs. and I really love her. I managed to found this out and she finally disclosed to me after i confronted her. I'm felt very hurt. She said she dunno why this happen as she is very lonely that time.
She promised me that it will never happen again and she said she really love me.
Do you think I can believe her? give her a chance again?
It is really hurt to be betrayed by somemone that i really loved and when i was alone, i never betray her eventhough i had a chance to.
Now she's back and i can see she making effort for our relationship, but now i'm really afraid being cheated again. The pain is too hard to beared. I'm trying to recover but the image sometimes still flying through my minds.
Do you guys and gals have any advice? -
I know how u feel now, cos something like tat happened to me. Was with my ex gf for close to 5 years, and 1 night i wanted to give her a surprise waiting for her at her void deck to pass her something and guess wat , i saw a guy sending her hm. When i confront her, she told me everything. I was so sad and disappointed. In the end she left me for that guy. Now, close to 1 year later, i still could not forget her. My advice is , if you really love her, give her a chance . Thing may just work out. Try to spend more time with her and forget how she hurt her.Originally posted by vivasg:Hi,
I was feeling very troubled, my gf betrayed me when she went oversea for few months, She treat me very bad during those times even i'm making so much effort by doing a lot of things for our relationship.
we had been together for 5 yrs. and I really love her. I managed to found this out and she finally disclosed to me after i confronted her. I'm felt very hurt. She said she dunno why this happen as she is very lonely that time.
She promised me that it will never happen again and she said she really love me.
Do you think I can believe her? give her a chance again?
It is really hurt to be betrayed by somemone that i really loved and when i was alone, i never betray her eventhough i had a chance to.
Now she's back and i can see she making effort for our relationship, but now i'm really afraid being cheated again. The pain is too hard to beared. I'm trying to recover but the image sometimes still flying through my minds.
Do you guys and gals have any advice? -
In my perspective, I think the bonding of your relationship may not be strong enough to withstand any stormy circumstances. I understand that you guys have been together for quite some time, probabilty things will get saturated and mundane. It's usually takes 2 hands to clap and 2 of you to maintain the bonds continously.
Flash back your memories and recall the unforgetable memories you had with her as well as the occasions you might let her down. Think of the days if she's gone for good, can you live without her? At the point in time, you have to make your decision and decide whether is she still worth your affection and love.
Since she is trying to make up for you, why not give yourself some time to re-consider your relationship and decide later. Possible and hoefully you can start afresh again.
Although, it may sound easy to say than to do, but I hope you can at least give a try to patch up the crack or gaps between you and her.
Remember, we do make mistakes unconsciously at times. -
are u happier with or without her? sometime..short pain is better than long pain...